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Post by gooddecisions on Dec 7, 2014 15:58:41 GMT -5
Humor is generational.
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Post by gooddecisions on Dec 7, 2014 15:01:57 GMT -5
I didn't read the article, but just based on the comments here, if the situation were reversed, I wouldn't have a lot of sympathy nor empathy for a woman either. If a woman let her self go and retreated to her parent's basement to live in a virtual world and then complained about not being able to find a man...yeah, 0 sympathy.
I don't see the comparison with harassment. Nobody deserves to be harassed, male or female.
Also, every time I click a thread with an interesting title but only has a link to an article, I'm like "doh, baited again!" Like with phishing emails or spam with links only, I'm too scared to click.
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Post by gooddecisions on Dec 6, 2014 22:19:23 GMT -5
It sounds like the right decision was made to me. This post reminds me of all the boys' teams that freaked out when a girl joined the team. The random girl here or there that joined a football team or wrestling, didn't ruin the sport and this won't either. If a transgender is so exceptional at sports, maybe she'd prefer to play with the boys. More than likely, it's just a girl who would be more comfortable playing sports with other girls. Maybe even a girl who has been bullied by male jocks and just wants to fit in. There is just something about a few comments that sound like bigotry. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/sad.png)
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Post by gooddecisions on Dec 5, 2014 16:39:41 GMT -5
All I see here is that the fraternity's lawyers poked enough holes in the story to cast doubt. That should be a fairly easy task given that this is a top-ranked university that graduates lawyers. Heck, anyone who graduated from the university probably immediately started their own investigation. The fraternity claims they didn't have a party on that night, don't have pledges in the fall and didn't have a member who was a lifeguard at the pool. Of course, it's in the best interest of the fraternity and the university to poke enough holes that her story is discredited.
It doesn't mean it didn't happen. Like with the Cosby accusations, we don't know if it happened and we don't know if it didn't. We just know it didn't happen exactly as stated. So, now this will be another he said/she said and will go away.
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Post by gooddecisions on Dec 4, 2014 13:35:27 GMT -5
So this guy was eating a paleo diet everyday and looks like he exercises frequently. The article says nothing about whether his fitness routine changed on those 60 days, but I suspect he did to achieve the results he did. A few years ago, I signed up for a marathon training team and trained for 6 months. Going from running very little to 30-50 miles a week made some significant changes to my physical fitness. By the time the marathon was over, I had a few injuries I couldn't ignore anymore and gave up running cold turkey to heal. I put on 10 pounds the first month and another 10 pounds the second month. My body just wasn't use to going from extreme fitness to sedentary. I had lost a total of 10 pounds from marathon training, so I worse off than if I had never trained at all. My body calibrated again to my comfortable weight, but it took awhile.
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Post by gooddecisions on Dec 4, 2014 10:47:19 GMT -5
Good call.
i'm taking Friday off work (have some use it or lose it days that expire dec 31), so i'll get the tree and hopefully decorate it so when they come home from school they'll notice it and we can do the reading/etc.
they don't watch much TV. Football on Sundays and their one show is Sherriff Callie's Wild West, which doesn't seem to have much in the way of commercials (maybe none? Does Disney Jr. have commercials?) It would probably be more fun for them to help you decorate the tree. If you don't already have some unbreakable bulbs, pick up a set, wrap it and have the elf on the shelf give it to them with a note from Santa.
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Post by gooddecisions on Dec 3, 2014 19:54:05 GMT -5
My daughter turned 3 in October. We got a real tree and decorated it Friday, decorated the whole house, put lights outside and red ribbon around all the posts. When I picked her up from pre-school today, I told her a friend from the North Pole was going to come over and stay with us until Christmas. I put the elf on the shelf on the front porch, sneaked around, rang the doorbell and ran back. She answered the door and I said "It's Nelly and he's our guest!" Yeah, like last year, she still doesn't get it. That's okay, though. I'll move the elf around each night and I think she'll start to have fun with it. We'll go caroling, take pictures with Santa, see tacky lights, make Christmas cookies and salt dough ornaments. I know Christmas morning will be fun and this way, I can take it easy on how many gifts I get. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png)
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Post by gooddecisions on Dec 3, 2014 15:40:15 GMT -5
I know he's kidding, I just recall a time when he offered more than one-liners. I suppose one-liners is better than nothing. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/wink.png)
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Post by gooddecisions on Dec 3, 2014 15:06:07 GMT -5
Oh yeah, and I forgot how much she would ask me about how much I weighed when I was pregnant, and how much had I gained, and how much I had lost afterwards. Like having a baby just isn't enough, you have to suffer the grand fucking inquisition about your fat storage. I only gained 23 pounds but only lost about half after giving birth. And it stuck for a long time, despite that I breastfed around the clock. My body did not drop that weight until after I weaned (and quite a bit after that such as it was). I still fit into my old clothes 10lbs heavy. I was not in my maternity clothes more than a month after giving birth, so I thought that was good. I did have to buy new larger tops to fit the breastfeeding girls in when I went back to work... If you were my sister in law, your mom and I would have it out by now. Just unacceptable. I gained 55 pounds (I think, I never actually looked at the scale) and nobody said a word to me, including my doctor. I must put out a vibe or shut it down fast. Of course, I don't talk about food choices or weight ever, so that probably helps. People should join fat-shaming message boards and diet communities to find like-minded people if they insist on having these conversations. And, what's up with Archie? There was once a time when he actually contributed more than mean-spirited one-liners.
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Post by gooddecisions on Dec 3, 2014 12:03:03 GMT -5
Am I the only one who calls people out on this b.s.? My sister in law and father in law are the only heavy ones on both sides of our family. My mother in law used to comment on her daughter's weight a lot. The one time she decided to talk about it with me behind her back was the last time. I told her she needed to cut it out. Her daughter is an adult, she has a mirror and she knows she is overweight. Nobody appreciates commentary from others, it's rarely helpful and frankly, it's hurtful. End of story. Of course, she was quick to excuse her comments as being worried about her health. That was 5 years ago and I've never heard her say another word about it. But, she's a reasonable person and the rest of you must deal with very unreasonable people.
It seems almost everyone obsesses about weight regardless of whether you're skinny, normal or overweight. And, I'm sick of talking about it.
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Post by gooddecisions on Dec 2, 2014 23:10:26 GMT -5
My dad drank 3 regular 12 oz cans of Pepsi a day for most of his adult life. Around 45, he started getting a pot belly, so he switched from regular to diet and never looked back. Didn't lose a single pound and didn't change anything else with his diet. The way people talk about soft drinks and "do the math 3500 calories = 1 pound," you'd think after a year he would have lost 45 lbs without exercise or at least 15 with no effort. He did lose that pot belly 10 years later when he retired and was able to exercise every day.
I had another friend in his 30's give up regular for diet and had the same results. No weight loss and he was about 40 lbs overweight.
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 30, 2014 20:44:59 GMT -5
I go to the library almost every Saturday. I could use the library's ereader app on my ipad, but I'm still checking out books for some strange reason. If there was something popular, I'd just put my name on the list and wait until it was my turn. I never read the same book twice, so buying them would be silly. I went to the library or bookmobile almost every week as a kid too, so I make it a point to take my kids. My 3 year old already has her own library card. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png)
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 30, 2014 17:16:39 GMT -5
The only problem I have with "selfies" is the word. Dumbest word ever. Self portraits have been around since people learned to paint.
It kind of makes sense that people would use a site called "facebook" to post pictures of their faces. It's almost as if people don't read status updates unless they come with a pic- like instagram. So, you post that you're outside at the playground, or baking cookies, or whatever- and of course, you need a pic to prove it.
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 30, 2014 17:10:22 GMT -5
Yeah, but that doesn't have to be twins. Anyone with more than one is probably going to be dealing with more than one daycare bill at a time. My kids are 8 years apart and I still had childcare for both for a few years. Most people tend to have them less than 3 years apart so there's a lot of overlap in daycare there. True but you pay less for a toddler than you pay for an infant, and if the gap is big for one kid you might only have to worry for after car (Pre-K, etc). It is one thing to pay (just pulled one up) an additional $450/week after getting used to the rate for baby #1 and the their rate dropping $100-200/week... It is totally another think to go from $0/week to $900/week for 2. And everyone mentions discounts, a friend had to move from NY to VA because after his wife got pregnant with twins (they already had a 2 year old) ... All the daycare was offering them was a $50/off each of the twins every week. So $100 off a $900 bill might sound good to the daycare provider but was a drop in the bucket for them. So they moved to VA where her parents that were retired could watch the kids. It's true. I'm pretty disappointed in the multiple kid discount. They offer 5% off the oldest child's tuition. It works out to about a $1000 discount on a $32,000 annual bill. My kids are 30 months apart. Two or more in daycare sucks. Regardless, twins are weird and kind of creepy. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png)
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 30, 2014 13:10:22 GMT -5
As far as things like cribs and high chairs, they can be purchased very, very cheaply second-hand. As far as car seats, children have to use them until they are at least 4 years old these days. So, unless you put off having another for 4 years, you'll have to buy a second anyway before promoting the first to a booster- and even then, there is a good chance that first car seat will be "expired."
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 30, 2014 13:05:38 GMT -5
That article makes no sense. It claims that twins are bad for the economy because parents have to spend more. Spending more is good for the economy. I suppose you could make a straw-man argument that it would be bad for the household budget, but even that's a stretch unless you were only ever planning to have one child. For what it's worth, I'm a twin and was born a very healthy 8.2 lbs vaginally at 40 weeks, my twin was 7.9. Doctors always seem to push for 37 week c-sections these days, I guess because "studies." We shared a room, toys, clothes and later a car. I don't think we cost our parents any more than any other family with multiple kids. Maybe even less- because one hospital birth is cheaper than 2.
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 27, 2014 10:56:33 GMT -5
I'm watching the thanksgiving day parade right now and all those people aren't home laying low inside with their families.
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 27, 2014 9:32:44 GMT -5
For as long as I can remember, grocery stores were open at least until noon, gas stations were open, hospitals, fire stations, police stations, food kitchens, rest stops, movie theaters, bowling alleys, public transportation, football players, reporters, news, entertainers, airports, Chinese restaurants, a few diners and a short list of other stuff were open. I don't remember a time when "NOTHING" was opened. I've never been able to shop black Fridays deals because I worked and I'm guessing there are a lot of people in the same boat. It works for every other holiday, after all.
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 26, 2014 16:57:17 GMT -5
I've always followed all the rules at my jobs and the expectation of my managers. It's not up to me to decide which rules I should follow and which rules I can ignore. I'd much rather the expectation be clear than having to guess and then get reprimanded. It's always made my life a lot easier. I've been well-liked by my managers- dozens and dozens of managers of the years, compensated accordingly and promoted. I'm well like by all my direct reports as well. There is no downside to following the rules. So, you don't follow the rules because your life would be boring because by-golly it's your god-given right to get on the internet whenever you want. And, then you complain that your boss is difficult because he wants you to follow the rules. It doesn't sound like that's working out for you. And, no, micromanaging is not a "sin." ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/huh.gif)
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 26, 2014 12:43:54 GMT -5
If he's made it clear that you shouldn't be on the internet, then don't be on the internet. It doesn't matter if it's for 2 minutes. You can look up the weather or your grades at home and find a new way to breath between tasks.
You won't feel jumpy about him coming up from behind if you're doing your work (and in a lot of cases computers are to a wall, so it's really hard not to come up from behind). I worked at a big bank processing loans for a year, and I never was on their internet at work. The applications I had up were all the applications to do my job. I never felt jumpy when people came up behind me because I had nothing to hide. If my boss needed something right away, of course they got the priority over my stack of papers. Especially in November which is generally when they are thinking about how much bonus to give out.
I would be irritated if I had employees working for me with the attitude that comes across on this post. I don't blame him for being frustrated at sloppy work and he should show his current employees the sloppy work so they do better. I remember 12 years ago somebody pulled out a drawer of loans and not one had been properly deeded or recorded. So it was basically 1000s of unsecured loans because of sloppy, incompetent employees. If he shows you sloppy work, ask what the mistakes were and assure him you're following procedures and doing the work accurately.
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 25, 2014 16:15:04 GMT -5
WWYD? Gone on the trip as planned. Landlords care more about their property than most renters. They have the keys and I would have been thrilled that they took care of something without my needing to be there. I hate waiting on people.
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 25, 2014 12:02:52 GMT -5
All fraternities and sororities at my alma mater are currently suspended. 2 of the fraternities have been suspended at the national charter level. One had 20 some pledges arrested for brawling in the street in the early morning hours and a few days later a kid was found unconscious on the floor of another fraternity. All Greek life activities were suspended after that. The kid died in the hospital a few days later. Autopsy and toxicology aren't back yet. His parents did donate his organs which went to 3 people. WVU? I don't know about all these suspending Greek activities consequences. It just seems like a slap on the wrist to suspend some activities during an investigation. I remember when the Ohio State Women's Rugby team traveled to D.C. to play American University, circa 1999. For many, it was their first trip to D.C. and they wanted to make it memorable. For the men's team, it was tradition to take their shirts off and pose in front of a monument. So, since it's not illegal to be topless in D.C., the women stood together in front of the Lincoln memorial for a group photo, pulled off their shirts and covered their breasts with their hands. There was a reporter across the street for a wiccan event, who happened to snap a discreet photo of their backs. It made it into the sports section of the Post, not article- just a small photo with a short caption. OSU administration was horrified and suspended games for the remainder of the season and the 12 in the photo were permentantly suspended from playing. They had to do community service, issue a letter of apology and stay far away from the media (everyone from David Letterman to Inside Edition wanted to talk to them) in order for this story to go away as fast as possible. Meanwhile, the public just thought it was an amusing photo, not the outrageous embarrassment OSU admin considered it to be. Was it the most appropriate thing to do, no, was it illegal, not in D.C., did it hurt anyone, no. It's just interesting to see how Universities are perfectly capable of handing out punishment if they think their reputation will suffer even a little.
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 24, 2014 17:08:49 GMT -5
If moving in with her parents was an option after CPS intervention, why wasn't it an option before?
I wondered that too, but chalked it up to her probably not wanting to uproot her four kids, potentially having to sell a house, etc. There are a lot of reasons why moving wouldn't have been her first choice. Not all of them are shady. And, maybe it wasn't before. Maybe her parents told her to figure it out. But, then she had them taken away, so they became more accommodating. Not every body's parents are going to jump at the opportunity to take back their grown daughter and her 4 children- even if her husband died of lung cancer. Who knows. All we can do is speculate. I tend to read things at face value, because we don't know it's not true.
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 24, 2014 15:06:32 GMT -5
My company actually subsidizes daycare as well if you make under 50K/year. For those who don't work for a generous company with great benefits, there are forms on the department of social services website to apply for childcare assistance.
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 24, 2014 15:02:25 GMT -5
I pay $1400/month for my infant, but I'm not subsidized. It costs me $32K/year for two in daycare in my very middle cost of living city.
There was another instance two months ago in a nearby city where yet another fire broke out at 10:00 AM in an at home daycare. I didn't learn as many details, but it was a kitchen fire and a 9 month old and a 22 month old died. Why wasn't she able to get them out? She was the responsible adult supervising after all. And, bad things don't happen to children when adults are supervising.
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 24, 2014 14:47:51 GMT -5
I agree that a 10 year old should be able to help children 5 and up out of the house.
Of course, even licensed child-care providers can be horribly irresponsible as well. About a month ago, there was a fire in an at-home daycare in my city. I was heart-broken to read that she got all the children out but "forgot" about a 1 year old. He was found alive and strapped into a over-turned car-seat by firefighters. They didn't even know to get him immediately, so he wasn't found until 25 minutes after the crew arrived. He died at the hospital from his injuries. In this case, social services is not even investigating.
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 24, 2014 14:06:33 GMT -5
Honestly, if my salary wasn't enough to comfortably cover daycare for all my children (as well as other expenses, obviously) I would have a SICK amount of life insurance on my partner. Probably seven figures. Because stuff like this does happen. Maybe by the time her husband was diagnosed with lung cancer it was too late to get life insurance. I know I definitely didn't have all my ducks in a row when I was younger. Assuming this is true, it's disgusting. My 10 year old neighbor has been begging to babysit my daughters. I haven't let her, but her parents say she is very responsible. Guess I better not even consider or else I might be reported to CPS. I was 10 when my baby brother was born. We were poor and my mom couldn't afford paid babysitters either. Our grandma watched us a lot, but I watched him a lot while we were home alone, too. Nobody ever reported us, thank goodness. I imagine this woman doesn't have the money or resources to go after CPS for the harm THEY put her children in- which was WAY worse than them being at home alone for a couple of hours.
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 24, 2014 10:23:44 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure I'm going to need a new car soon or go into witness protection because I honk my horn at dummies driving every morning for ignoring their yield sign. You know, that big red triangle sign that means yield to all incoming traffic. It's not just there for no reason.
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 23, 2014 22:38:18 GMT -5
I would have said something to her as well and my husband would have told me to "Be nice." Lol. We might the same person. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png)
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Post by gooddecisions on Nov 23, 2014 16:32:00 GMT -5
Tim Allen was a convicted drug dealer before he starred in Home Improvement. Like, Bill Cosby, he also played a really nice guy and maybe he is. Drug-dealing is not on the same level as serial-rapist (allegedly). Regardless, the show was a hit.
It's weird that people think that if you play a really nice guy on television, you're a great guy in real life. I haven't heard one person who actually knows Bill Cosby speak in defense about his character. The only folks insisting he is a great guy with impeccable morals are people who don't know him. They "know" Dr. Huxtable or perhaps heard him speak on stage. I loved The Cosby Show, but the Huxtables are not real.
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