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Post by NastyWoman on May 29, 2024 17:26:08 GMT -5
I've gone to four stores and a doctor's appointment today. I'm home now and need to figure out what I want to work on. It's a long to do list, but I could pick more fun tasks than others. Or I could pick "important" tasks.
Fun. All the way life is too short to do orherwise
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Post by NastyWoman on May 29, 2024 16:18:23 GMT -5
What really really bothers me is when SAHMs with husbands that work a lot of hours call themselves single moms. You can complain that your family doesn’t spend time together, or your husband doesn’t give you a break, or your kids don’t get enough Dad time - but you are NOT a single mom. True, most of the time. Yet, I still maintain that I was a single mom for that one specific year. Yes, xH worked long hours. And he travelled a lot for work as well. However, those years did not count IMO as me being a single mom. That one year though even if I never worried about money... I am sure there are others* in a position where they are "single moms" despite having a partner. You just never know ETA: *CG comes to mind taking care of her special needs daughter while her hubby worked overseas. They worked hard and have done well cor themselves but during those long stints while he was gone she was essentially a single parent
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Post by NastyWoman on May 29, 2024 14:03:46 GMT -5
I don't know what qualifies as being a single parent but I must tell you this story.
Two of the gals that I worked with were unmarried. One of them had raised three children on her own without help from the father. The other had one child, lived with her parents, and had joint custody.
One day when the gal who lived with her folks was attempting to call herself a single parent, the other gal pointed out that her child had four parents.
I think this gets us in to the definition of "single parent". It may be very different depending on what you are looking at: legal, financial, or support-wise. While I would definitely not have fit the single mom mold legally or financially, I felt like was a " single mom" for the last year we lived in Singapore. xH had to be in Bangkok for work. It was supposed to be for just a few months so we stayed behind in S'pore so the kids didn't have to switch schools but it turned into a full year. He flew maybe 2-3 weekends per month so all responsibility was on me. I had no job (no work visa = no job) but I was a full time student at the time. We all did fine but it was not always easy. I can't imagine having to do this always with a coup!e of little kids... Most people do the best they can, some don't but, either way, you can't expect (tax) laws to be rewritten especially for you or to have your divorce settlement adjusted by the IRS.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 29, 2024 11:12:25 GMT -5
I thought “gypsy” was a pejorative term these days?Rough evening last night, with lego club (on the fifth and final meeting there were actual legos involved!), cello lesson, and the assignment to finish a math worksheet not done in class, which wound up taking over an hour He scores in the high school range on the standardized test but then can’t focus enough to do multi-digit multiplication followed by a logic problem. In related news I woke up with a migraine. It is, which is why I used Roma in my post mentioning that my kids didn't know who I was talking about. In my threat they were gypsies though.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 28, 2024 22:37:19 GMT -5
While I did "sell my kids to the gypsies" or at least threatened to, I don't believe they even knew who gypsies were. I don't believe there were Roma in SE Asia. It was on par with "I'll stick you behind the wallpaper and rub until I no longer see any bubbles". We never lived in a home with wallpaper. They DID know however that if I said something like that it was time to knock it off as I had reached my limit.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 28, 2024 16:58:22 GMT -5
I’d bring him to city pound if no physical reason for this gross behavior that's harsh for an adult pet she's had since he was a puppy. just sayin.... You mean tour mom never threatened* to sell you to the gypsies? *threatening and doing are two very different things. The first one is solely to blow off steam
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Post by NastyWoman on May 28, 2024 11:03:13 GMT -5
Today my first born baby turned 46yo. Wow, that "kid" is getting old. Now I know giving birth is kind of evicting the baby, putting the first distance between mom and baby but he has taken this distance thing to an extreme: born in the Netherlands, his mom in sunny CA, and he with his SO celebrating in Hong Kong. Even stranger if you add in the time zones -> he was half a day old now at this ti.e in the Netherlands, and now with the clock turning midnight in HK his birthday is over. I really need my morning coffee
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Post by NastyWoman on May 27, 2024 19:41:48 GMT -5
I've seen doctors and am on a couple meds. I'm hoping they're hormonal because I hear menapause often completely wipes them out, so there's hope it won't be forever. That's what my friend was telling me last week - we were talking about the downside of getting older but looked at the good side as well. Like no more periods and she brought up her migraines, which increased and were really bad during peri-menopause and how they all of a sudden completely stopped once she got through that period. Keeping my fingers crossed that is the latest you will ever suffer from them.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 27, 2024 13:26:27 GMT -5
Sushi loves going out on the balcony to watch the squirrels fighting over peanuts. He's refusing to go out on the balcony today. We're under a tornado watch. You have tornados all the way up in Canada? Now I feel like such an uneducated dolt.... Stay safe
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Post by NastyWoman on May 26, 2024 19:52:32 GMT -5
I accidentally set my grill on fire tonight. so we need a new grill and a new fire extinguisher Oops! ETA: from the fact you posted this here I deduce that the grill and the fire extinguisher are the only casualties and no humans and/or homes are hurt or destroyed.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 26, 2024 16:52:26 GMT -5
She couldn't get insurance through her husband's employer? I think she has now...or maybe she went on an ACA plan... All I know is the plan won't backdate, which isn't a huge surprise, but at least the stuff going forward will be covered. well, the way I read this, is that not having insurance was a conscious choice they made to save a few bucks and it has come back to bite them in the butt. If they did not have the money before for insurance they would not have it now. And coming from a close knit family myself I can see how that would impact the entire family. You all do what you can to help out. There is no two ways about it even if their irresponsible behavior caused the (financial part of the) problem in the first place.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 26, 2024 14:02:59 GMT -5
Is this even legal? I know the "freedom of speech" thing but this is threatening people with harm? At the very least this is election interference IMO.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 26, 2024 13:30:05 GMT -5
My sister was released from the hospital last night, and this morning I found out she didn't have insurance. Yikes!!!
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Post by NastyWoman on May 25, 2024 19:33:12 GMT -5
I'm feeling very decadent. Lounging on my couch and popping, no not bonbons, much better than that, cherries. It is only 67° out - too cool to go to the pool at least for me. But the sun is out and makes everything look so nice. My second floor condo is like a tree house where I see no other units (except from the dining area as several trees died during that prolonged severe drought) and with the little breeze the sunlight on the leaves is like a natural ballet performance. Beautiful, soothing, relaxing... Life is good you might want to rethink your choice of words here. lol... Now you did disrupt my very serene musings with your comment and I have embarked on a philosophical inner debate.: when the bell tolls for me will I regret never having had s.e.x in a tree house? I look outside and see that serene view and now.... Not adding this to my bucket list though. Getting in and out of an actual tree house does not hold a lot of attraction for me anymore.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 25, 2024 19:02:56 GMT -5
I'm feeling very decadent. Lounging on my couch and popping, no not bonbons, much better than that, cherries. It is only 67° out - too cool to go to the pool at least for me. But the sun is out and makes everything look so nice. My second floor condo is like a tree house where I see no other units (except from the dining area as several trees died during that prolonged severe drought) and with the little breeze the sunlight on the leaves is like a natural ballet performance. Beautiful, soothing, relaxing... Life is good you might want to rethink your choice of words here. lol... LOL. At 72? Meh, take that as you like
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Post by NastyWoman on May 25, 2024 18:50:17 GMT -5
I have moved from being emotional and teary eyed, to being angry again. I’m not going to start anything with anybody, but I am not feeling like being peaceful at all, if someone starts some shit with me. One step forward, 2 steps back.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 25, 2024 18:28:17 GMT -5
I'm feeling very decadent. Lounging on my couch and popping, no not bonbons, much better than that, cherries. It is only 67° out - too cool to go to the pool at least for me. But the sun is out and makes everything look so nice. My second floor condo is like a tree house where I see no other units (except from the dining area as several trees died during that prolonged severe drought) and with the little breeze the sunlight on the leaves is like a natural ballet performance. Beautiful, soothing, relaxing...
Life is good
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Post by NastyWoman on May 25, 2024 18:13:39 GMT -5
I keep going back to the Bosch induction range on Costco’s web site. Unfortunately, I lose my frying pan storage with this stove. This stove specifically or any induction stove?
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Post by NastyWoman on May 24, 2024 17:55:05 GMT -5
I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE cherries. And they are on sale, so now I have four pounds of them in my house. I foresee no lunch for the next couple of days. Please don't make me laugh so hard that I spit cherry pits against my screen without a "cherry pit warning" ( CPW) on top of the message. Spitting coffee is just messy but easy to clean up. A cherry pit, ejected with enough force, may crack my tablet screen.
Though a lot of CPWs are good for the soul -> keep that in mind and don't hold back.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 24, 2024 14:23:16 GMT -5
I can just add that, despite the distance, I am regularly grateful that DS2 and DDIL decided they wanted to raise their kids in Europe. I know nowhere in the world is entirely safe but some are definitely far more dangerous than others.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 24, 2024 14:19:26 GMT -5
So Biden send assassins to Mar a Lago on a day it was KNOWN that the fatty orange paint addict (fopa)_was elsewhere? Yea, those Magidiots could be right. He really is too decrepit to be POS. Really how does fopa come up with that shit? He almost has as much imagination as the average 3yo making up stories
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Post by NastyWoman on May 24, 2024 14:09:15 GMT -5
Rolling Stone has a story about Trump pushing the GOP in Congress to write a special law that would prevent future presidents (including him) from ‘non federal prosecutions.’ He is apparently pressuring lawmakers, claiming it is ‘imperative’ that he signs such a bill into law, if he gets re-elected. He also plans to have his DoJ write a memo advising that the DOJ should prohibit the prosecution of presidents even after they leave office - that the only course of action against presidents should be impeachment.
If I was one of the co defendants in any of his cases, I would be pissed. Why should he get to get off when all the rest of them go to jail? Ok, now we really should start looking into unsolved 5th avenue murders prior to 2016 or after 2020 before he can put his insane plans on the table right?
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Post by NastyWoman on May 24, 2024 13:54:16 GMT -5
I had a good conversation with a lender I know. We're on the hunt for a house. They're insanely expensive here. Now to mentally prepare myself to trade in $1,300/ month in rent for a $2,500/ month mortgage. I don't want to think about it. I was hoping to stay under $2K. To make you feel a little better about home prices in your area: -homes-increasingly-out-of-reach-as-median-price-tops-2m-in-santa-clara-county/ar-BB1mvUCx?ocid=BingNewsSerp I have a condo here - but a single family hone would have been cool from a financial POV. Oops that did not come up as a link. Anyway, as of April the medium single family home price topped $2M and the average is $1.667M.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 22, 2024 20:45:00 GMT -5
I believe she moved years ago. I remember something about her no longer being able to take her (then only) DD to Disneyworld regularly Good memory. We moved out of FL about 8 years ago. It was Disney World and you no longer be able to take DD1 regularly that stuck in my mind. I loved going to Disneyland (CA girl here) and have been a bit sad that is behind me now)
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Post by NastyWoman on May 22, 2024 20:15:32 GMT -5
One last thing and I will hush for real. I really wonder what their Mom thinks and whether she has an agenda too. Even if she thinks it’s okay for her daughters to treat Mister the way that they do and cause all of this chaos, surely she can see that this is not healthy for her daughters. Mom is still receiving child support for her adult daughters. And she is not paying all that much for them based on what mister all pays for - none of them ever seem to be paying any need from "their" money. So mom may very well be looking out for herself to keep that spigot ($$$) open as long as possible. I was serious when I said yesterday that it is time to cut off the unlimited, unconditional financial support. If mister does not do that he may be the 100yo who is still supporting his "kids" on his death bed
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Post by NastyWoman on May 22, 2024 18:19:06 GMT -5
during the space race, we had common cause. we need something like the space race to bind us together. environmental issues would seem like an obvious choice. One would think Covid would have been a common cause issue. It could have been.but it lacked the common thread of beat "them damn commies" to it. No competition, no medals to win, and it is the heck with a common goal. You are not going to use MY tax money for it. Exhibit A: when vaccines became available in very limited quantities I don't remember anyone saying we need to put grocery store workers on the priority list. Medical personnel, firefighters, police were rightfully first in line. But after that the lowly paid essential workers should have had priority - yet they did not. $$$ first
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Post by NastyWoman on May 22, 2024 18:03:48 GMT -5
Nobody was more surprised these gloves didn't fit than OJ... Yea that one has always struck me as very unconvincing proof. Just try to put on your very well fitting gloves while tensing the muscles in your hand - not going to happen.
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Post by NastyWoman on May 22, 2024 16:46:15 GMT -5
I watched the camera recording from when OD got in Mister’s face. I would make a terrible witness in court or something. I guess I was so shocked that my brains didn’t really register what I was seeing when it was happening. She ran up on him punching her palm with her fist and starting bumping his chest with hers, like men do. Then she pushed him. So my brain registered that it was threatening behavior, but not the details. But the video caught it and does not lie, and no wonder I was shocked. Idk what’s up with them getting physical with him. I hope that doesn’t mean they are the kind of women that hit men, expecting the man won’t hit them back. That’s asking for it, because all men were not raised that way. I told him before we went to bed that they need to go to counseling. I’ve told him that before. . I have read this at least five times now and my brain can't process this. It is so far outside my experience that it feels like you are describing the plot of a movie. I had that same reaction when I saw the towers fall on 9/11) - this can't be real yet it is. My only comment at this point is that you better be sure all their angry interactions get on camera and are saved. Kind of like we tell each other in case of a really bad work situation: document, document, document. Or mister could end up in deep doggie doo if he ever reaches the point that he pushes back And the way these girls are escalating that is not out of the realm of possibilities
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Post by NastyWoman on May 22, 2024 16:19:29 GMT -5
same category as a former president who is a resident. The board will not let me say his name His name is the fattie orange paint addict
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Post by NastyWoman on May 22, 2024 15:35:27 GMT -5
Bonny I would only get taxed in one country but, for instance, if for some reason Germany does not tax SS and/or my pension (I don't know the exact in and outs of the treaty with Germany) the US will tax those by 40%. For any potential assets at the time of death I can only try to avoid double taxation.for my kids. As I said: this is a special treat only long term GC holders get to deal with. ETA: this is the reason I need an international tax specialist asap. If there is no way to avoid double taxation you can bet your petootie that it will be first class for me from thereon out. I am not worried about leaving my kids an inheritance but I am not a spender so chances are. However, if two tax entities think they can walk of with my hard earned money -> see NastyWoman spend, spend, spend
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