nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 8:18:58 GMT -5
I am meeting new people and every single male over the age of 35 have said they don't date and not looking for a relationship. Not that I am this is just in conversation but what the heck is that all about? Given up on love? Just want a booty call. Weird.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2014 8:20:13 GMT -5
LOL You are newly separated. The sane men are staying clear of you for a while. In about a year you will be considered safe.
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imawino
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Post by imawino on Jun 17, 2014 11:51:42 GMT -5
Why are you asking new men you meet if they are interested in being in a relationship? For like a million reasons, stop doing that.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 17, 2014 11:54:13 GMT -5
Let nutty develop a relationship with nutty for a while.
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mrnewengland
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Post by mrnewengland on Jun 17, 2014 11:59:55 GMT -5
Hmmm... I'm 36 and just broke up with my ex. I don't want to get into a relationship at the moment.
Although imawino has a good point... if you're immediately asking that upon meeting someone that's going to set off red flags like crazy.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:02:47 GMT -5
No we are in conversation and it comes up relatively quickly. At that point they know nothing about my situation.
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tloonya
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 12:03:10 GMT -5
Lets nutty get laid!
nutty, like friend to a friend-where ta heck you meeting these men and how many have you met already? And how does conversation about 'relationships' starting?
And just curious - do they just shake your hands and telling you right away that they are here not for relationships? Than you do what?
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Post by alabamagal on Jun 17, 2014 12:05:42 GMT -5
Let nutty develop a relationship with nutty for a while. That's what causes blindness!
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:06:32 GMT -5
I am sorry am I not allowed to talk to people. Maybe I give off the desperation vibe. But i am not. I enjoy hanging out with my friends.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 17, 2014 12:06:52 GMT -5
No we are in conversation and it comes up relatively quickly
Why is it even coming up unless you are in a dating situation? I can't think of any instance where I brought up having relationships with guys I just met. I didn't talk relationships unless we were actually interested in each other and dating.
If you're randomly asking guys it sends off a "creepy desperate lady" vibe and they're going to make sure the person doing the asking knows the answer is "no". They have no way of knowing for sure why you want this information.
You can talk to people just fine, but your subject matter per your OP isn't usually one that you bring up with people, especially of the opposite sex, that you just met. That could be the reason you're getting the answers you are.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:08:37 GMT -5
I don't freaking know. Maybe I am just friendly. I have no idea I really don't.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:09:30 GMT -5
I just said I don't bring it up.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2014 12:09:35 GMT -5
No we are in conversation and it comes up relatively quickly. At that point they know nothing about my situation. I have many conversations in a day and I don't remember the last time this topic came up.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:09:41 GMT -5
I just said I don't bring it up.
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tloonya
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 12:10:18 GMT -5
No we are in conversation and it comes up relatively quickly. At that point they know nothing about my situation. I am simply curious, please, help me. How is it happening? Especially when it is not one but a few strange to each other men who had no plot to tell you same thing?
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:11:28 GMT -5
Me. Nice to meet you Them. Hello. Me. Are you having a nice time this evening. Them. I sure am.....
Then bam.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:12:08 GMT -5
These are people that I am being introduced to.
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NomoreDramaQ1015
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 17, 2014 12:13:14 GMT -5
Are friends introducing you to them? The friends might be pressuring them to meet women and find dates. They don't know you're not interested so they're being honest upfront in an attempt to clear the air and not hurt your feelings.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 17, 2014 12:15:07 GMT -5
Let nutty develop a relationship with nutty for a while. That's what causes blindness! But it's sex with the one you love. So ìt's all good.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:15:24 GMT -5
Forget about it being me for a second. All of it is intriguing to me.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:15:59 GMT -5
Ahaha drama i think has the answer.
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NomoreDramaQ1015
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 17, 2014 12:17:53 GMT -5
Not wanting to date/have a relationship doesn't mean they NEVER want one, usually it's code for they aren't interested in whomever is in front of them.
I had friends think I needed to "find a man" and would throw guys they know at me. I knew what they were doing, the guys didn't. So I was upfront about it. Which probably made me sound rather weird like an ice queen, but I was not interested in being forcibly paired off and didn't want the guys getting the wrong idea based on what my buddies told them.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2014 12:18:42 GMT -5
I just said I don't bring it up. You must do something to lead the conversation that way. "I'm not interested in dating" is just not something that people blurt out after "Are you having a nice time this evening?"
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:19:43 GMT -5
I also think its a way to weed people out, very similar to what drama said. Drama you the girl. full of wisdom.
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Post by mrnewengland on Jun 17, 2014 12:20:27 GMT -5
Do you bring it up?
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:21:06 GMT -5
But they are pursuing me.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:22:00 GMT -5
Thats why it seems to be a crock of shit and there must be a reason.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:22:58 GMT -5
YES mrnewengland.
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Post by justme on Jun 17, 2014 12:25:16 GMT -5
If they're saying they don't want a relationship but are still hitting on you they just want a one night stand or something.
Though I'm not sure how it comes up that quickly right after you say hello.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:25:46 GMT -5
I have to conclude my idea of a date from 23 years ago is not the same now.
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