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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:27:00 GMT -5
Yep prob. But I don't do that. I guess it has been so long.
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 12:28:24 GMT -5
I think its called hanging out now.
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 12:30:49 GMT -5
Me. Nice to meet you Them. Hello. Me. Are you having a nice time this evening. Them. I sure am..... Then bam. how about you are not asking if they are having a good time...and acting like 'you could be more entertaining, Pinnoccio'...so they starting to wonder if YOU are having a good time. Why is having a good time tonight (in men language) meaning you gonna want to hint about marriage tomorrow? We will never know, so keep it about you, not about them. And good luck.
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 12:31:41 GMT -5
What's the setting that you are being introduced to these men? Are you out in a group? is it a one on one introduction? I'm not following the situation... Put that glass down and concentrate...
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2014 12:32:56 GMT -5
I think its called hanging out now. No, when the guy is interested you still get asked out to dinner or movie or some other activity. Hanging out is for friends or booty calls, and not too often with the booty call guys.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Jun 17, 2014 12:35:08 GMT -5
I think what they are really saying is that they don't want a relationship with you. It's quite different than just not wanting a relationship in general
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Post by Abby Normal on Jun 17, 2014 12:39:54 GMT -5
I think what they are really saying is that they don't want a relationship with you. It's quite different than just not wanting a relationship in general Or just the opposite. If this is freinds that are introducing you, he may be getting pressure from those friends. He could be saying that he isn't actively seeking a relationship and did the meeting because of the friends. Maybe next time it happens you could follow up with " Me either, I don't know why they keep insisting I meet every single guy they know." Gives you something to talk about without the pressure of expecting a relationship. And who knows, maybe it could develope.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Jun 17, 2014 12:41:45 GMT -5
Just be aware that a lot of assumptions are made about the newly separated, and my guess is that they're testing the waters to see if you would be willing to just sleep with them, or sleep around, or something around those lines.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Jun 17, 2014 12:42:08 GMT -5
I think what they are really saying is that they don't want a relationship with you. It's quite different than just not wanting a relationship in general Or just the opposite. If this is freinds that are introducing you, he may be getting pressure from those friends. He could be saying that he isn't actively seeking a relationship and did the meeting because of the friends. Maybe next time it happens you could follow up with " Me either, I don't know why they keep insisting I meet every single guy they know." Gives you something to talk about without the pressure of expecting a relationship. And who knows, maybe it could develope. Nah, if you are already meeting someone you were kind of, sort of set up with and telling them you are not into relationships - you are pretty much telling them you and I will not happen
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 12:43:39 GMT -5
I think what they are really saying is that they don't want a relationship with you. It's quite different than just not wanting a relationship in general Or just the opposite. If this is freinds that are introducing you, he may be getting pressure from those friends. He could be saying that he isn't actively seeking a relationship and did the meeting because of the friends. Maybe next time it happens you could follow up with " Me either, I don't know why they keep insisting I meet every single guy they know." Gives you something to talk about without the pressure of expecting a relationship. And who knows, maybe it could develope. I do not believe any man or woman will agree to go into trouble going on a date when they are not slightly interested in relationships. PERIOD! Will never happen.
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Post by tskeeter on Jun 17, 2014 12:43:56 GMT -5
As a socially retarded male (yes, even more socially retarded than most guys), who didn't marry until my mid 30's, I found that lots of the single women older than 25 came with quite a bit of baggage. This ranges from kids, ex husbands, and former long term boyfriends, to financial problems, alcohlism, and emotional instability. Kind of like the quote about women dating in Alaska. "The odds are good, but the goods can be a little odd." (Note that I'm sure the same applies to guys, too. Drunks, lazy bums, and children in adult bodies must be abundant.) To minimize the drama in your life, you keep new people at a distance for quite a while.
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 12:47:04 GMT -5
I think what they are really saying is that they don't want a relationship with you. It's quite different than just not wanting a relationship in general It was so coldhearted I didn't even know it was possible, Lena. But you did it.
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Post by Abby Normal on Jun 17, 2014 12:47:20 GMT -5
Or just the opposite. If this is freinds that are introducing you, he may be getting pressure from those friends. He could be saying that he isn't actively seeking a relationship and did the meeting because of the friends. Maybe next time it happens you could follow up with " Me either, I don't know why they keep insisting I meet every single guy they know." Gives you something to talk about without the pressure of expecting a relationship. And who knows, maybe it could develope. I do not believe any man or woman will agree to go into trouble going on a date when they are not slightly interested in relationships. PERIOD! Will never happen. Nutty didn't say it was a date. She said "hanging out with her friends". My impression is that she's hanging out with a group and someone introduces her to Single Guy, who then says he's not looking for anything. I can't believe none of you have ever had the " Oh you have to meet my friend..." when it's obvious they want you to hook up.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2014 12:49:44 GMT -5
I think what they are really saying is that they don't want a relationship with you. It's quite different than just not wanting a relationship in general It was so coldhearted I didn't even know it was possible, Lena. But you did it. It's wasn't a dig on Nutty.
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 12:51:26 GMT -5
As a socially retarded male (yes, even more socially retarded than most guys), who didn't marry until my mid 30's, I found that lots of the single women older than 25 came with quite a bit of baggage. This ranges from kids, ex husbands, and former long term boyfriends, to financial problems, alcohlism, and emotional instability. Kind of like the quote about women dating in Alaska. "The odds are good, but the goods can be a little odd." (Note that I'm sure the same applies to guys, too. Drunks, lazy bums, and children in adult bodies must be abundant.) To minimize the drama in your life, you keep new people at a distance for quite a while. Who will provide an info when it is 'end of a while' and she can jump out and start the same thing but with time lost due to an advice of a self-proclaimed 'socially retarded male' in one forum?
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 12:53:40 GMT -5
Put that glass down and concentrate... PUt down the glass? It's like you don't even know who I am anymore... I didn't say throw the bottle out, right?
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 12:55:46 GMT -5
It was so coldhearted I didn't even know it was possible, Lena. But you did it. It's wasn't a dig on Nutty. I am sure Lena's keybord is till working, MNP.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2014 12:58:47 GMT -5
It's wasn't a dig on Nutty. I am sure Lena's keybord is till working, MNP. You're free to put me on ignore.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 17, 2014 13:00:33 GMT -5
If they are still hitting on you while they aren't interested in a relationship they may still be interested in a one night stand. Just because they don't want to be pressured to date doesn't mean they are going to turn down sex if it might be on the table.
If they say they aren't interested in dating say "Great, me neither! I have some things going on and right now I am not interested in any kind of hook-up with men right now". Then the pressure's off him with his friends AND he knows there isn't a chance in hell of a one night stand either.
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 13:04:21 GMT -5
I am sure Lena's keybord is till working, MNP. You're free to put me on ignore. I didn't say I am not interested in a relationships but however I am reserving my rights to express my displeasure ones in a while
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 17, 2014 13:16:31 GMT -5
You need to concentrate on you. And your children. ANOTHER man will not fix you or your problems, only you can. Even a normal man is going run from your ex and that situation.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2014 13:22:07 GMT -5
Didn't you just move out last week? You aren't divorced... Tell your 'friends' to lay off...
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2014 13:23:22 GMT -5
You're free to put me on ignore. I didn't say I am not interested in a relationships but however I am reserving my rights to express my displeasure ones in a while
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Post by tskeeter on Jun 17, 2014 13:30:18 GMT -5
As a socially retarded male (yes, even more socially retarded than most guys), who didn't marry until my mid 30's, I found that lots of the single women older than 25 came with quite a bit of baggage. This ranges from kids, ex husbands, and former long term boyfriends, to financial problems, alcohlism, and emotional instability. Kind of like the quote about women dating in Alaska. "The odds are good, but the goods can be a little odd." (Note that I'm sure the same applies to guys, too. Drunks, lazy bums, and children in adult bodies must be abundant.) To minimize the drama in your life, you keep new people at a distance for quite a while. Who will provide an info when it is 'end of a while' and she can jump out and start the same thing but with time lost due to an advice of a self-proclaimed 'socially retarded male' in one forum? Loony, I'm not giving advice. Just explaining some of the behavior from my experience base.
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 13:31:29 GMT -5
You need to concentrate on you. And your children. ANOTHER man will not fix you or your problems, only you can. Even a normal man is going run from your ex and that situation. Aren't those kids all on their own? And who said another man needed to fix the problem? Unless if there is electrical or plumbing issue...? You don't want nutty to sit alone every night remembering her blex. Do you? Let her be young and date again...ahhhhh
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 13:32:36 GMT -5
Didn't you just move out last week? You aren't divorced... Tell your 'friends' to lay off... geezus! baby prudence, where did you come from?
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 13:34:59 GMT -5
Yeah I agree if the friends are setting up the introductions, they need to back off. Go out, have a good time with friends, but looking for any sort of encounter with a man should be off the table for now. ...who are all married...what a fun for newly divorced woman!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2014 13:38:48 GMT -5
Didn't you just move out last week? You aren't divorced... Tell your 'friends' to lay off... geezus! baby prudence, where did you come from? Well, I'm not a prude. If she wants to go get laid, it's allowed. I do think its better to have a handle on yourself and who you are before you seek out sexual encounters. Know a little about what you want. I'd at least wait till I was divorced I think, and had my tests back, and be reeeeeallly careful, but I'm not a prude. However, if she wanted that, I'm guessing the tone of the thread would be hallelujah ... Guys don't want relationships either... Not what I'm reading.
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Post by busymom on Jun 17, 2014 13:52:39 GMT -5
Nutty, I'm thinking they're hinting for a one night stand, but warning you they aren't looking for anything serious.
I've had several married friends who died too young, & you wouldn't believe how many single AND married folks were hitting on the widow/widower. Seriously, it was DISGUSTING!
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 13:52:54 GMT -5
Y'all come on now please give me some credit. I am not stupid and I have tons of integrity. I am out with friends and guys come over to say hi and then we are introduced, right that is the polite thing to do. So I am polite to the person I am being introduced too and make polite conversation. Obviously my polite conversation IS including things that make them bring it up. So I need to change things about my polite conversation. A few of you seem to be correct. Naz and agile in particular. I also agree with sizing up a newly single lady and trying to see the booty call situation.
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