imawino
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Post by imawino on Jun 17, 2014 13:54:29 GMT -5
Me. Nice to meet you Them. Hello. Me. Are you having a nice time this evening. Them. I sure am..... Then bam.
No. Never have those generic greetings been followed by a spontaneous "I am not interested in a relationship right now!!"
You are either steering the conversations towards relationships and not realizing you are doing it (or just don't want to own up to it right now), giving off a completely desperate and crazy vibe, or have friends telling these random men that you are desperate to be in a relationship. You should take a little time and figure out which one of those it is.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 13:54:57 GMT -5
I am meeting these people when out with friends.
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 14:01:25 GMT -5
One thing.. omg I am so not looking right now. Just before Iamwino posted I did say my polite conversation is obviously coming of as the spanish inquistion. Lol. I need to adjust my polite conversation like she said. So how about them Red Sox?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2014 14:06:10 GMT -5
Ok. Maybe we need to look at this the other way, FRIENDS are warning the guys that they need to make it clear that they aren't looking for something?
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 14:12:40 GMT -5
Very true Oped. Good point.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 14:14:11 GMT -5
But I wouldnt know why. All the friends I have had through the years say I have never looked happier. Maybe everyone is a big fat liar.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 14:15:06 GMT -5
Ack oh well. I am just an over analyzer I guess. My nature. Things I have to work on.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 14:19:32 GMT -5
Actually this is why I post here to get these different opinions and I think I get it now. It puts my hackles up because I guess I think of them sizing me up for a booty call when I am just looking to meet new friends.
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HoneyBBQ
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Jun 17, 2014 14:31:44 GMT -5
Me. Nice to meet you Them. Hello. Me. Are you having a nice time this evening. Them. I sure am..... Then bam. They are telling you they don't want to date you. Sorry.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 14:34:37 GMT -5
Don't be sorry I'm not. I do not want need or desire any man in my life. It was just an observation.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 17, 2014 14:37:39 GMT -5
I'd ask your friends if they are saying something either way about dating. If they aren't ask them to be brutally honest with you about whether or not you seem to be giving off signals that say you're sizing these guys up for a date.
Because I find it really weird that most conversations with a male you just met somehow end up with them telling you they aren't looking for a relationship or a date. Somehow, somewhere they are getting the impression that is what you want.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 17, 2014 14:53:46 GMT -5
I am meeting new people and every single male over the age of 35 have said they don't date and not looking for a relationship. Not that I am this is just in conversation but what the heck is that all about? Given up on love? Just want a booty call . Weird. That's possible they are thinking about a booty call and don't want you to get any ideas of it going further. I would respond by saying: Good. Neither am I. And then continue with pleasant conversation about something else.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 15:05:16 GMT -5
Nope I don't about myself. I think it is in my polite chat. I must be saying something that I am not fully aware of. I know that if I am chatting with someone that is in a relationship throws that out rather quickly too. But more like hey meet my girlfriend or I am out with my girl tonite. When I go out again I will get back to you all and let you know if it something I am saying or putting out there. I can't see that second part though because I couldn't flirt if my life depended on it.
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Post by mrnewengland on Jun 17, 2014 15:12:28 GMT -5
You certainly picked the right username for yourself.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 15:13:57 GMT -5
Btw it's just as exhausting to be a booty call/FWB as it is to be dating. You have to keep the vajayjay neat and, keep your legs shaved, house spotless....etc. screw that too.
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Post by Abby Normal on Jun 17, 2014 15:14:48 GMT -5
Is it always with the same friends? I would wonder if they are saying something before hand like " you should meet my friend Nutty, she just separated from her husband and she's so great you would just love her". So when you run into them it's " Hey here is my friend Nutty" and they feel pressured so they make the general statement. They would have no idea if the friend has said something to you also- so they are clearing the air on introduction. It may have nothing to do with you.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 15:15:11 GMT -5
Yeah because you mean I am tough nut to crack right?
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 15:17:29 GMT -5
I agree agilemom. That is probably a huge part of it.
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 17, 2014 15:24:04 GMT -5
Enjoy this time. No snoring to keep you awake. No gross bathroom to share. I love DF but if I outlive him, I am so done with men.
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Post by greeniis10 on Jun 17, 2014 15:43:01 GMT -5
ITA with Zib! I've already long decided that if anything happened to my DH I would happily be single. Sounds terrible, but I'm just tired of dealing with men sometimes.
Nutty, enjoy your freedom!
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 15:57:54 GMT -5
I am not getting married again I really don't think. I love love being by myself and not having to answer to anyone. Bliss.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 15:58:22 GMT -5
So when can I have sex?
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 17, 2014 16:03:19 GMT -5
LOL! Now. You can always get a friend that's plugged in. Or connected.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 16:44:58 GMT -5
Ok cool. I will take that advice.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 16:45:52 GMT -5
I wonder how much I can charge for a booty call?
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Jun 17, 2014 16:47:55 GMT -5
Don' do booty calls until you're stable. I wish you the best, but you have a way to go before you are standing on solid ground. Your emotions are still running hot, I think.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2014 17:05:55 GMT -5
Btw it's just as exhausting to be a booty call/FWB as it is to be dating. You have to keep the vajayjay neat and, keep your legs shaved, house spotless....etc. screw that too. No, you do those things because that's how you like it. At least I do. Well, I've never shaved my legs and my house usually leans more toward mostly clean than spotless, but you know what I mean.......
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 17:29:13 GMT -5
My emotions are fine.
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nutty
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 17:30:02 GMT -5
Jeez now I must tell my booty call that he is being too picky.....
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 17:30:50 GMT -5
That is what I have heard anyway Pink.
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