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Post by Deleted on Oct 10, 2014 11:31:22 GMT -5
Sperm can survive for around 5 days in a woman's body. With a week between sexual encounters and ovulation sometime in that week, either guy could be the father.
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teen persuasion
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Post by teen persuasion on Oct 10, 2014 11:40:37 GMT -5
Ultrasound and exam are only rough estimates, +/- 2weeks. Unless you can tell your last period date, and even then it is mushy.
My periods were always very irregular when I was younger, so they were useless for dating pregnancies. Once I began using BBT to chart, I could predict them much more accurately, and know when I got pregnant. With DD3, my OB insisted I was due end of July/ beginning of August, while I figured it should be mid to late August. She was born 8/20, a week after OB wanted to induce me (but couldn't because DD3 was breech - another error).
My long winded way of saying that it could be any of the three guys.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 10, 2014 12:08:00 GMT -5
Lets be fair and stop dissing female teens more than male teens for having the same amount of sex with the same amount of partners.
Your friend might have a Baby Daddy on their hands. She might be a Baby Momma. Seems kind of equal to me...
Update- She went to the dr yesterday and had ultrasound. Ultra sound shows baby is approx 6 weeks along. They had a summit meeting last night. Her mom is pushing her to keep the baby, but won't stop her from getting abortion- just won't go with her. Girl admitted that there was only 7 days between guy # 1 and friends son. Still says emphatically it's his and won't get paternity test until baby is born. And I'm not dissing the girl for having more than him for having sex. They were both stupid and irresponsible. Him probably more so because he failed to realize that he has no say in what happens next- that is naive on his part. But I don't think it's right that she fail to acknowledge that it may be someone elses. Approx 6 weeks along and there is only a week a part between guys. You have to admit that either is a possibility. What was the reason given for not being willing to do the paternity test? Does she know what that entails, cost, risk, etc? Can the son go talk to planned parenthood and get information about doing the paternity test in utero to clear up any potential misunderstanding?
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Oct 10, 2014 12:26:51 GMT -5
I agree he should keep his distance - politely - until she can/is willing to determine paternity. he can do this very nicely by stating that he can't make any decisions or take any action until this is determined and he hopes she will think about his position and understand his confusion and at some point reconsider this test. And - seriously - has anyone suggested Maury? maybe boy can contact Maury - and maury will contact girl to see if she is willing to do the test (and get her 15 minutes of fame ) Depending on her personality - this may be an incentive. Maury won't be interested, there are not enough baby daddies in the mix. I think you need to have at least 6 to throw your hat into the ring.
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Post by Firebird on Oct 10, 2014 12:28:33 GMT -5
Maury won't be interested, there are not enough baby daddies in the mix. I think you need to have at least 6 to throw your hat into the ring.
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Post by billisonboard on Oct 10, 2014 12:56:40 GMT -5
A thought: She is attempting to get male "A" to say, "I am the father and I renounce my rights." Might she be attempting to set up the situation in which if one of the other potential fathers tries to enter the picture she can declare that it is a settled issue and they need to just go away?
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Post by Angel! on Oct 10, 2014 15:32:24 GMT -5
Ultrasound and exam are only rough estimates, +/- 2weeks. Unless you can tell your last period date, and even then it is mushy. From LMP, yes that is true. But, when you are trying to figure out date of conception they can be pretty damn accurate in the first few weeks. We aren't trying to figure out LMP. So from the time of conception in the first few weeks, growth is exponential & very dramatic. Typically pregnancy assumes conception at 2 weeks, ~1/16 inch at 4 weeks, ~1/4 inch at 6 weeks. So if you know the day of pregnancy based on size, you can count back to the end of the 2nd week when conception occured. Count back another 3-5 days for how long sperm live & you have a pretty narrow range of when sex occurred. This guy needs to go with her to the doctor. Find out exactly how far along she is measuring. Find out from the doctor exactly when sex may have occurred. I bet a doc can narrow it to a 7 day range easily. Doing anything else or worrying about anything else until then is pointless. I know I have said it before, but if she is measuring 6 weeks along right now & they last had sex 6 weeks ago, then no way it is his kid. The real question is if she is truly measuring 6 weeks or if she is just making stuff up to make the timeframe work (in her mind because maybe she doesn't understand a pregnancy calendar).
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 10, 2014 15:35:31 GMT -5
Aren't you glad this isn't your problem?
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Post by Angel! on Oct 10, 2014 15:43:30 GMT -5
Aren't you glad this isn't your problem? At this point the problem is rather stupid. If I am his parent, I am demanding either a paternity test or at the very least a visit with the doctor to confirm timeline & that there is at least a possibility he is the dad. If I am her parent, I am demanding a paternity test or at the very least a visit with the doctor to confirm to everyone there is a good chance he is the dad. If there is a pregnancy, father should be figured out ASAP for ALL parties sakes. Any other speculating or stressing out or anything else just seems like a waste of time. The fact that she apparently won't do either says more than anything IMO, that she thinks she may be wrong & doesn't want it proved. But, the fact she is requesting reliquishment is super bizarre too. Why EVER tell the dad if you don't want him involved in the baby's life?
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Post by Firebird on Oct 10, 2014 15:55:36 GMT -5
Why EVER tell the dad if you don't want him involved in the baby's life? Especially, why the bitching about him not "manning up" if you want to go it alone? 18 year old logic is funny.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Oct 10, 2014 21:35:19 GMT -5
Aren't you glad this isn't your problem? At this point the problem is rather stupid. If I am his parent, I am demanding either a paternity test or at the very least a visit with the doctor to confirm timeline & that there is at least a possibility he is the dad. If I am her parent, I am demanding a paternity test or at the very least a visit with the doctor to confirm to everyone there is a good chance he is the dad. If there is a pregnancy, father should be figured out ASAP for ALL parties sakes. Any other speculating or stressing out or anything else just seems like a waste of time. The fact that she apparently won't do either says more than anything IMO, that she thinks she may be wrong & doesn't want it proved. But, the fact she is requesting reliquishment is super bizarre too. Why EVER tell the dad if you don't want him involved in the baby's life? If you were his parent, you have no rights. The doctor will not talk to you, he is not allowed to.
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Post by Angel! on Oct 10, 2014 23:14:07 GMT -5
At this point the problem is rather stupid. If I am his parent, I am demanding either a paternity test or at the very least a visit with the doctor to confirm timeline & that there is at least a possibility he is the dad. If I am her parent, I am demanding a paternity test or at the very least a visit with the doctor to confirm to everyone there is a good chance he is the dad. If there is a pregnancy, father should be figured out ASAP for ALL parties sakes. Any other speculating or stressing out or anything else just seems like a waste of time. The fact that she apparently won't do either says more than anything IMO, that she thinks she may be wrong & doesn't want it proved. But, the fact she is requesting reliquishment is super bizarre too. Why EVER tell the dad if you don't want him involved in the baby's life? If you were his parent, you have no rights. The doctor will not talk to you, he is not allowed to. The doctor is allowed if given permission. Which is why I would be demanding it from her...of course she doesn't have to allow it. But I certainly would do nothing further on my end if she isn't willing to do anything at this time to even attempt to confirm paternity.
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