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Post by zibazinski on Jan 21, 2011 8:24:51 GMT -5
Shoot, I whomped my kid on his diapered bottom all the way out of the middle of the road, up the driveway, up the stairs and into his bed. This is after MANY warnings to NOT go out into the road. I'll bet he was around 2 years old cuz it was summer time. Did it hurt him? Doubtful with all that padding. Did I care if it did? Not at the time because I was so "over" him disobeying me and putting his safety and driver's hearts in jeopardy. I had "reasoned" with him LONG ENOUGH about not going into the street. No more reasoning just action and it worked. He knew I meant business and he didn't go out into the street anymore. He's a good person and a taxpayer, no serial killer.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 21, 2011 8:29:52 GMT -5
Shoot, I whomped my kid on his diapered bottom all the way out of the middle of the road, up the driveway, up the stairs and into his bed. This is after MANY warnings to NOT go out into the road. I'll bet he was around 2 years old cuz it was summer time. Did it hurt him? Doubtful with all that padding. Did I care if it did? Not at the time because I was so "over" him disobeying me and putting his safety and driver's hearts in jeopardy. I had "reasoned" with him LONG ENOUGH about not going into the street. No more reasoning just action and it worked. He knew I meant business and he didn't go out into the street anymore. He's a good person and a taxpayer, no serial killer. Why weren't you watching him? I would never have trusted my 2 year old not to go by a road, just because I told her not to.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 21, 2011 8:37:36 GMT -5
Little booger that he was. He was supposed to be in bed, it was summer time so we had twilight and I was in the front yard planting flowers as he scooted past me down the driveway. His bedroom window was open and I was right under his window so i could have heard him if he cried before anyone jumps on me about being bad mom. Plus, those little boogers can run fast. So we should never be on a sidewalk or anywhere where there's a road? Kids need to just simply obey sometimes when it's an issue of safety. I was tired of trying to reason with someone that just simply couldn't understand about safety and actually thought it was funny to get mom upset about him being in the road. He always did have to learn the hard way. I told him not to annoy the cat, either, but he did it and finally she handled him!!! He didn't bother the cat after that, either.
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Post by joebanker on Jan 21, 2011 8:42:39 GMT -5
Spanking is a good way to discipline a child.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 21, 2011 9:07:08 GMT -5
Why weren't you watching him?
I don't know about anyone else's children, but mind did get out of sight every now & then. I found it IMPOSSIBLE to protect them from themselves 24/7 form the ages of 3 to 9. Let's fast it from 3 to 5 they are unpredictable at best & will do just about anything (why else would so many people have to repaint their walls because of pens, pencils, & crayolas) & then as they get older they do REALLY stupid stuff (like a bicycle ramp consisting of a log & a board with nothing holding them together = 4 stitches). I don't believe that because your children get out of sight every now & then your a bad parent or even that your not doing your best to watch them. Sure you could stay where you can see them all the time, you just have to be wealthy enough to pay someone to be doing all the stuff that has to get done around the house.
Snerdley, I see where we differ. I do not consider a pop on the butt to be a spanking. I would call that more an instant correction (like slapping their hand when they are reaching for a knife or trying to put something in an electric socket). I would never pop a 7 year old on the butt because they have either done something bad enough to get a spanking or they haven't. I used the pop on the butt method probably until the age of 5 or 6. After that they got a spanking. Also (& I'm guessing here) I would guess that counting both of my son's I maybe spanking them a total of 8 times in their lives. Now it could have been as few as 6 times or as many as 10 times but somewhere in that range. When it comes to spanking or not we all have our own opinion. I could make a case for slower development in life because they weren't spanked for many of the people that I have known that weren't spanked. My nephew wasn't spanked & I would bet money that he will have a hard time adjusting to life on his own because he doesn't except authority well. Of course that's not all of his problems but it's certainly one of the major ones.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 21, 2011 9:12:21 GMT -5
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 21, 2011 9:27:24 GMT -5
DS most assuredly knew why he was getting popped on his diapered butt and I am so glad because we had no more running out in the road issues after that. Plenty of warnings, talks, and time outs before that occurred. Frankly, he is a better adjusted person than his pampered non-spanked sister. But she was daddy's girl and no one could discipline her but him until he got bored with being a father but by then the damage was done to her.
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Post by tractor on Jan 21, 2011 10:36:01 GMT -5
We used this same method with our two boys. It worked well and I don't think we had to spank them more than five times. They quickly learned that if we said something we meant it and we never had very few problems after that. We actually took a parenting class that went into great detail on the appropriate way to spank a child (never in anger, for example). I know it wasn't any fun to do it, but it made parenting our young children a very rewarding experience and I wouldn't change a thing. It's easy to tell which parents don't use discipline when raising their kids, just watch the tantrums that happen on a daily basis at your local Wally World.
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