what are you doing right now?

[soupandstew]

Nov 15, 2024 16:21:17 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Well the State of NJ just denied charity approval to renovate an unused long vacant dorm at the NJ School for Deaf. We had an experienced NJ developer who gets grants . Renovate into 25 low income apartments for Deaf and DeafBlind seniors. But no the state prefers the building to continue to deteriorate

There was a huge Mental institution that was emptied more than 30 years ago. Gorgeous grounds and a big stone building. Many charities wanted to update and use but state said NO. So it sits there vacant and crumbling
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So today I’m contacting newspapers and TV stations. Maybe the publicity will get them to change decision??
Papers and tv stations not interested when we contacted them during the 4 years we been trying to work with the state. Too nebulous?
Having multiple glasses of wine

I'm sorry to hear this - I know you have worked on this project for a long time.  

[seriousthistime]

jerseygirl, did they give a specific reason, or do you know why they denied the approval?  Maybe it would be something to work with on the appeal.

I can't remember, do your state representatives know about this and can they help you out? 

[TheOtherMe]

Similar rejections have happened here in Dubuque, Iowa.  Then the city ends up ordering the buildings be torn down because they are no longer safe.  It's so sad.  

The New Jersey Sanitarium where an ancestor lived and died was torn down for a freeway.  The cemetery was moved.  An organization took on the project of properly burying the remains of the deceased people who had been buried with a number.  They now have names for each number and people can visit the cemetery.

I just filled out the paperwork to get the Social Security Earnings of my two grandfathers.  Had to include proof of relationship.  So mom and dad's Delayed birth certificate and mine have been sent off.  Dad's father signed the paperwork on his.  One was filed when mom was born but it didn't include a name so she had to do another one.  

[andi9899]

Nov 15, 2024 17:33:17 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Well now I don't have an interview. They already had a candidate in mind and offered it to them. The position is closed.

Fuck me.

Does nobody communicate anymore? The hiring process has always been dumb but since covid it's been extra stupid. For employers supposedly being so desperate for people they sure don't seem interested in fixing their hiring processes.

I'm sorry.

[lurkyloo]

Nov 15, 2024 17:33:17 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Well now I don't have an interview. They already had a candidate in mind and offered it to them. The position is closed.

Fuck me.

Does nobody communicate anymore? The hiring process has always been dumb but since covid it's been extra stupid. For employers supposedly being so desperate for people they sure don't seem interested in fixing their hiring processes.

What nards.  I’m sorry.

[finnime]

Sorry, Drama.

Sorry, Jerseygirl.

Sorry, andi.

[finnime]

Right now I'm flying home by way of Baltimore.

I'm overhearing because it's unavoidable a red voter argue with a blue one.

[jerseygirl]

Nov 15, 2024 17:52:34 GMT -5 seriousthistime said:

jerseygirl, did they give a specific reason, or do you know why they denied the approval?  Maybe it would be something to work with on the appeal.

I can't remember, do your state representatives know about this and can they help you out? 

2 state senators have been very helpful writing letters of support and meeting with government officials . But they’re republican and government is mostly democratic. We’ve called and written to many state senators, governors office etc etc. met with disinterest and in one Zoom call with what Deaf colleagues felt was disrespect
Reasons given were very vague but denial letter did mention potential other uses for the building. We certainly are going to ask what potential uses. But think this is really not happening

[seriousthistime]

I'm so sorry.  It was a good thing to pursue, and I can feel your disappointment. 

[Pink Cashmere]

Nov 15, 2024 18:43:38 GMT -5 finnime said:

Right now I'm flying home by way of Baltimore.

I'm overhearing because it's unavoidable a red voter argue with a blue one.

Ugh! I prefer for people to be quiet on flights, with the exception of babies and young children, they don’t upset me if they are crying or loud. Well, besides the fact that I’ve never liked hearing a baby cry, because it makes me just want to fix it and solve whatever is making them unhappy enough to cry. But that doesn’t get on my nerves or test my patience, it is just that a crying baby does something to me that makes me want to try to soothe them and make them happy so they don’t cry. But that doesn’t work well, when it’s a stranger’s baby crying, and I genuinely just want the baby to be comfortable and happy, and would help if I could, so the baby doesn’t have a reason to cry. 

Anyway, I think it was when I was flying to Pittsburgh this past spring, when a woman in the aisle seat on the row in front of me and across from me, and a man in the aisle seat on the row in front of her, in the same side I was sitting in, chatted during the whole flight. If I’d been seated next to either of them, I would’ve offered to exchange seats with the other, because they had to talk loudly enough to hear each other, and all of their talking was getting on my nerves even though it wasn’t about anything controversial, it was more of the kind of conversation where I wouldn’t be surprised if they exchanged contact information to chat some more after our flight landed. 

If just that got on my nerves because I couldn’t get away from it, I can’t imagine being stuck having to hear an argument about politics. 

[soupandstew]

Had a fun one at lunch today when we went to our favorite Japanese restaurant for a sushi overdose.  Today, as often happens, we were the only non-Asians in a packed restaurant.  A man brought a little girl, about 4, over and pointed at our plate of sashimi, complete with a lovely orchid flower.  He told us she was his youngest grandchild, school let out early today so he and grandmother picked her up, took her to lunch, and would keep her until her mother got off work later.  Their oldest grandchild is going to start college next year.  They moved to Houston in 1976.  When we left, both the grandparents said it was good to meet us and the little one waved goodby.  That's why I live here.   

[Pink Cashmere]

I had a pretty good day today. I worked my side gig instead of my real job. 

I got up early enough and was feeling myself enough, that I did my eyebrows, put some eyeliner on my upper eyelid and mascara on before I left home. Regular eyeliner and lipstick has become pretty much a given again, when I’m going somewhere besides work and the corner store or whatever. So I felt cute today, even though I wasn’t all dressed up, even though my clothes were business casual, clothes that I don’t have occasion to wear every day, and definitely not to work.

I have all the products to do a full face of makeup, and I have kinda learned how to use it. But it takes me forever to even try to do all of that,  since I have to really take my time because I just barely know what I am doing, that I don’t bother, and I don’t see how some women do all of that every day. That’s not a knock against women that do, or judgement, I’m just saying that just the little things I did this morning, takes some time for me to try to get it right.

Anyway, I am grateful that I had a pretty good day today and nothing or no one upset my nerves. I hope my evening is the same.

[soupandstew]

Nov 15, 2024 19:26:48 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

I had a pretty good day today. I worked my side gig instead of my real job. 

I got up early enough and was feeling myself enough, that I did my eyebrows, put some eyeliner on my upper eyelid and mascara on before I left home. Regular eyeliner and lipstick has become pretty much a given again, when I’m going somewhere besides work and the corner store or whatever. So I felt cute today, even though I wasn’t all dressed up, even though my clothes were business casual, clothes that I don’t have occasion to wear every day, and definitely not to work.

I have all the products to do a full face of makeup, and I have kinda learned how to use it. But it takes me forever to even try to do all of that,  since I have to really take my time because I just barely know what I am doing, that I don’t bother, and I don’t see how some women do all of that every day. That’s not a knock against women that do, or judgement, I’m just saying that just the little things I did this morning, takes some time for me to try to get it right.

Anyway, I am grateful that I had a pretty good day today and nothing or no one upset my nerves. I hope my evening is the same.

I hope so too

[andi9899]

When you're looking for ibuprofen and all you keep finding in the bags in the spare bedroom is alcohol.

I finally found some. I was about to door dash it.

[cooper88]

I'm beat. Basically I have been tired since October twentieth, when the flood happened. Today I finally started on some outside cleanup, and it felt really good to be out in the sun. One side of my house had two to three feet of debris piled up against it, and I at least got everything touching the house bagged and at the curb. Tomorrow I'll go back to working on that. Sunday I plan on resting, and Monday I have to go back to work. I also broke into the last box of contractor cleanup bags today. I think I actually bought these, but in the early days we would go outside and there would just be boxes of them sitting on my porch. We have no idea who brought them, but sure were grateful because there were none to be found in town.

[andi9899]

I'm about to watch Mike Tyson whip Jake Paul's ass.

[giramomma]

Nov 15, 2024 17:36:16 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Dammit! Now my washer is broken. My dad replaced the hose drain hose. So then I had soapy water on the floor in the basement. The washer is at least 15 years old, so likely not worth repairing. FML! I hate adulting! I wanna blow all my money and do hoodrat shit with my friends.

we have gone a few months without shit breaking or needing to be fixed. it has been glorious

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Nov 15, 2024 19:35:09 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

When you're looking for ibuprofen and all you keep finding in the bags in the spare bedroom is alcohol.

I finally found some. I was about to door dash it.

Alcohol is the original pain killer just saying.

[giramomma]

well now we have hate flyers being posted close
to my neck of the woods. i'm curious to get my hands on one to see if it really is

[Pink Cashmere]

I feel like this post has the potential to lead to me rambling, so that is my warning that it’s okay to just keep scrolling.

My Mom just sent me a text telling me that my Aunt (Mom’s only sibling) told her that my Aunt’s only grandchild, his Dad, big R, passed. I already knew that, because R’s sister posted about it on FB when he passed.

R and my cousin are older than me, and dated in high school, and a few years after high school, got married and had a baby. That baby is this the one that I’ve said cried his first year of life, despite his parents constantly taking him to the doctor to find out why, and me or my Mom use to go get him to give my cousin (his Mom) a break. He was born a preemie when I was a senior in high school. I wouldn’t even hold him for some months because I was afraid to, he was so tiny that he fit in the palm of my hand. He is the baby I’ve said I spent many hours walking him and trying to console him, and the baby that I’ve said kept throwing up on my clothes so much that I’d be a nasty mess when we left church, and peed on me a lot when I’d changed his diaper.

When I had my own children, my cousin and I, and my Aunt, worked together to get him and my children back and forth to school, once my children were old enough to go to school. 

He is also the cousin that after he got his Master’s degree and moved halfway across the country to work his first job, asked my son to go with him, which is how my son ended up living in Texas for some years.

So his Dad, big R that just passed, big R’s younger sister and I met somehow when we were in elementary school, I don’t remember the details. But our senior year in high school, and for a couple years after, we hung out and ran the streets together. Some things happened between R and my cousin, which me and my children’s Dad ended up getting involved in, to protect my cousin. R’s sister and I stopped dealing with each other for some years because she was mad at me. Some years after that, she contacted me and apologized, because she had learned that R, her brother, wasn’t telling the truth about all of that chaos when it was happening.

She and I share the same birthdate, except she was born a year before I was. And now we refer to each other as “twin” because of that.

She is the person I’ve said went with me to another state to get our noses pierced, when at the time, only a Doctor could do that where we lived. Our agreement was that I would pay for her, if she agreed to go first. And she did. And tears ran down my face when they did mine, just like it did with her. We went to visit my Grandmother the same day after we had that done, and my Grandmother did NOT approve lol. She said “look at y’all, sitting there looking like some bulls” lol. Which wasn’t really accurate since we didn’t have rings, we had diamond like studs. 

Anyway, big R’s death hit me kind of hard. I knew him as a child because he was dating my cousin who was like a sister to me, and I had my own relationship with his sister who was my age. When his sister and I were tight and running the streets together, I got to know their other siblings and their Mom.

One Christmas when I was leaving my Aunt’s house when that had become the last gathering place after we did our family traditions that morning and exes could come visit and get their children to spend the rest of the day with them, there was snow on the ground. Big R had come over (in my family, everybody that shows up with love, is welcome, including exes or whoever) and because he was leaving at the same time I was, he offered to follow me home with my children in my car, to make sure we got home safely, since EVERYBODY that knows me, knows how I am about driving on snow. And he did follow me until I turned into my driveway.

I am sad for my “little cousin” who in reality is way bigger than me, I just call him my little cousin because he is younger than I am, for his Dad’s death. I am also sad for my friend and her family, because beside my friend, when we were close friends, I got to know her siblings and their Mom too. 

There is a lot of ugliness that I left out of this long post, but the main thing is that I am sad about yet another loss in my real life, to death,

[daisylu]

Nov 15, 2024 20:02:14 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I'm about to watch Mike Tyson whip Jake Paul's ass.

I'm gonna try to watch, but I also have an eye appt at 930 tomorrow morning.