what are you doing right now?

[soupandstew]

I incorrectly read the freezer inventory so I need to hit up Aldi tomorrow for some chicken Italian sausage.  Today is the usual cleaning, cooking, laundry plus some IT stuff for DH's hearing aid app.  I've been diligently but not excessively working on the autobiography.  Tomorrow, I do need to call the author with a couple of clarifying questions.  In numerous instances his notes and the editor's notes conflict so I am inserting two versions with a comment that THEY need to resolve the conflict. 

Tomorrow a.m. I'm calling to schedule a phone meeting with our financial advisor to plan for next year's investments and get his advice on tax strategy. 

[wvugurl26]

I'm sorry drama. They suck!

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I can't get myself to be hopeful but I hopped onto the web page for the company I'm interviewing with tomorrow and their own web site lists the job as in Omaha.

So at least I'm not hosed right out of the gate.

ETa: DH and I revisited me quitting. I'm still not there which is shocking to me but we are in a position which I could.

His inheritance comes to a year of our gross income. We've significantly paid down debt and he carries our benefits.

We do not really want to use the money for that but DH said he doesn't like how they treat me and the toll it takes on me.

My concern is more what if I didn't find something and that it still looks really bad to be unemployed.

I'm not sure I want to put myself on the line professionally like that.

We'll see what happens with the interview and the next couple weeks and go from there.

Good thing we didn't pay the mortgage!😉 Though this was not on my why it wasn't the best idea bingo card.

[countrygirl2]

I got another package I DID NOT order today!!! Hubs was going, this has got to stop you ordering stuff. I SAID I AM NOT!  I met the delivery guy at the door, it was a safe!!!!! I told him I did not order this and what has been going on, he said he never heard of this before. I did get a computer and I have 2 more items ordered, hubs recliner, and some items from Temu, nothing else. The neighbors must think I'm spending like crazy.  So please, please stop.They took the item back as rejected, YES!!!!

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Also just applied to a job that would probably be a pay cut but matches my resume to a T.

I was waffling because of pay but I need out of where I am.

We can handle a pay cut now. Not ideal but I'm willing to trade and there may be room to negotiate salary isn't always set in stone.

[gs11rmb]

Nov 13, 2024 18:35:55 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Also just applied to a job that would probably be a pay cut but matches my resume to a T.

I was waffling because of pay but I need out of where I am.

We can handle a pay cut now. Not ideal but I'm willing to trade and there may be room to negotiate salary isn't always set in stone.

You need to get out of your current place, even if it means a pay cut.  Then you can take a breath and re-think.

Good luck.

[azucena]

Nov 13, 2024 17:31:44 GMT -5 TheOtherMe said:

Nov 13, 2024 17:24:58 GMT -5 seriousthistime said:

I was wondering the same. 

As am I.  Would dad sign for medical through you?  He knows TFW is a disaster. 

I am so sorry for all of this and for what the children are all going through.  

Teen is already ahead of me and emailing back and forth with legal aid asking if this changes anything and if her dad could now sign medical proxy. Legal is also watching to see what TFW gets charged with and what steps might happen. They also said what mpl said that TFW might get released.

Therapy was good for Teen and now she is hosting Friendsgiving for her future teachers class. 16 teens at our house got a ham in crockpot and frozen Mac and cheese in the over. Teens are bringing potluck. Music is going and she lit candles so life feels pleasant right now.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Got Gus trimmed this afternoon.  Always a relief when he's done and the farrier is still in a good mood when he leaves. The 5 weeks of mud did the trick. 

Worked on my snowblower for a bit, but I really need a gear puller.  I do not want to buy a gear puller, so going to see if anyone I know has one I can borrow.  Again, back-burnered that project.

[chiver78]

ugh, sorry drama.

I'm currently home and distracting myself with the ladies of Wisteria Lane. today was a lot, and I need to decompress.

[Pink Cashmere]

There are a few things I wanted to reply to this evening, including giramomma’s posts and NMDrama post this evening about her job. My IPad is weird now about tagging posters, and emojis, and wouldn’t let me tag NMDrama. 

But even if I don’t get to other stuff tonight, I want to reply to azucena’s posts. My stupid IPad did let me tag her.

I know I said last night how much it upsets my nerves to hear about any child being abused, and while it’s true that my nerves got really bad last night after reading about what that BITCH did to her 9yo daughter, I didn’t mean for that to come across as me trying to say that what has happened and is still happening with BT AND her siblings shouldn’t be talked about. I just wanted to make that clear.

It just really, really makes me upset and very, very very to hear or read about children suffering and being abused. But me feeling very strongly about it, does not mean it doesn’t still happen. But Azucena, that doesn’t mean that I prefer that you censor your posts or anything like that. And I say that, with full understanding that even if that was my preference, you have no obligation to defer to it.

I hope that you continue to share your story, BT’s story, and her siblings’ story as it all unfolds. 

Years ago, I was having an issue with somebody that was bothering me even though I hadn’t done anything to them. Somebody that cared about me offered to go “see” that person. Not to kill them or anything like that, just beat them up lol. I understand that my “lol” may not be funny to anyone but me. Anyway, that person was serious and even said that they trusted me to bail them out if they got in trouble for it, but I said no, I’m good and I’ll handle it. 

All of that to say, that I am not so mature even now, that I don’t think that that bitch needs a beat down herself, if she is and has been beating on her own children. I grew up in a culture where corporal punishment was acceptable, but there were rules regarding that, and while a spanking with a belt on the butt was okay as far as “punishment” for being unruly, even with that, there were rules. A belt on the butt was “okay” as a “consequence” for really bad behavior, but a belt or anything hitting anywhere else was not okay. And the belt was the last resort. Everything else was off limits, including fists or anything else that would result in anything other than a belt to the butt. Well, using a hand to spank a toddler’s hand was okay too.

I am not saying that any of that was/is okay either. I’m just saying that that was how I grew up, and when my own children were young, I started learning  to think for myself vs what I’d grown up with, and decided to try to do something different, that did not include corporal punishment.

I am just trying to say that in my world and experience, even when spanking or whatever we want to call it, is “acceptable”, and while I understand now how that can even be considered abuse, leaving marks and bruises even on the butt, let alone other parts of the body, and using fists and causing black eyes and all of that kind of shit, was never acceptable in the culture I grew up in, even when the thought was that  spanking (with rules) was acceptable.

And I have some thoughts on how even spanking got to be so acceptable in my culture, but that is a story for another day. 

Anyway, I continue to pray for you and your family, including BT, and I pray for her siblings. 

[soupandstew]

Nov 13, 2024 18:31:36 GMT -5 countrygirl2 said:

I got another package I DID NOT order today!!! Hubs was going, this has got to stop you ordering stuff. I SAID I AM NOT!  I met the delivery guy at the door, it was a safe!!!!! I told him I did not order this and what has been going on, he said he never heard of this before. I did get a computer and I have 2 more items ordered, hubs recliner, and some items from Temu, nothing else. The neighbors must think I'm spending like crazy.  So please, please stop.They took the item back as rejected, YES!!!!

You said your son explained the scam to you so why are you still all wound up about it, much less worrying about what your neighbors think? You are always wanting more $$ so keep the free stuff and sell it in your neighborhood garage sale next year or offer it up on Facebook Marketplace.  The blender, door lock, and safe would be worth something for sure.  

[azucena]

Teen just texted me to come get my husband and remind him he's not a teenage lmao. He was having too much fun talking teaching with the couple of male students. I gave him the side eye and he wrapped up and is now hanging with dd12. They are exiled to the basement while Teen has the kitchen and dining room. After the potluck, I suspect the groups will switch.

I can now overhear the seniors coaching Teen about college choices and applications. Love that for her!

I love that she gets to spend the evening amongst friends and peers after this tough day. I'll never get tired of having my house open to my kids' friends.

Pink - you and I are good. I appreciate you speaking up about corporal punishment in your past. I too have learned to parent without that as has DH.

I realized I should trigger warning some of the posts in case someone here has child abuse in their history. I wouldn't want to cause them trauma.

[giramomma]

Nov 13, 2024 18:41:21 GMT -5 gs11rmb said:

Nov 13, 2024 18:35:55 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Also just applied to a job that would probably be a pay cut but matches my resume to a T.

I was waffling because of pay but I need out of where I am.

We can handle a pay cut now. Not ideal but I'm willing to trade and there may be room to negotiate salary isn't always set in stone.

You need to get out of your current place, even if it means a pay cut.  Then you can take a breath and re-think.

Good luck.

i can't like this enough. i get the pay thing. and you aren't
mostly supporting a family of 5 on your salary like i am. and we still are in the process of making it work.

i didn't even get a PIP. in the last 3 months things have gotten so bad at my old place that they absolutely had justification to fire me, even though i was and continue to be a model employee.


i dont know how pips go in the private sector. do
they even need to keep you on the 90 days? the first thing i didd when i read your post is look to see if you'd make it to the years end.


there's also no way this point id be paying down the mortgage with you having a pip.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Nov 13, 2024 20:01:56 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Nov 13, 2024 18:41:21 GMT -5 gs11rmb said:

You need to get out of your current place, even if it means a pay cut.  Then you can take a breath and re-think.

Good luck.

i can't like this enough. i get the pay thing. and you aren't
mostly supporting a family of 5 on your salary like i am. and we still are in the process of making it work.

i didn't even get a PIP. in the last 3 months things have gotten so bad at my old place that they absolutely had justification to fire me, even though i was and continue to be a model employee.


i dont know how pips go in the private sector. do
they even need to keep you on the 90 days? the first thing i didd when i read your post is look to see if you'd make it to the years end.


there's also no way this point id be paying down the mortgage with you having a pip.

It's 90 days and apparently in the private sector it isn't shoving you half way out the door.

But it isn't good either.

I'd make it till February if I failed.

We'll see how the interview goes tomorrow and go from there. I'll be good little peon at work and go back to extreme masking.

I told DH that quitting isn't a good idea because I could end up unemployed for awhile and it will look bad to employers both that I quit and however long it takes me to get a new one.

I'm not him. I can't get fired on Tuesday and have a new job a month later.

I'm so tired of being a good person. Bring good gets you absolutely no where and I'm sick of people telling me that being a good person is it's own reward.

Tell you what I'll put you on a PIP and drive you to the point where you need medication just to feel anything and we'll see if you still think being the better person is a reward.

[Pink Cashmere]

Mister is not home from work yet, because he went in late so he could take YD to work. I’m not getting into that.

So, since I’ve been home alone, Mister’s HomePod speaker in our bathroom suddenly started blasting music. It was a song I know he likes. I know the name of the artist, but don’t know the title of the song and haven’t listened to all the lyrics, but it is about being a Black man in America. It startled me when it started playing so loud while I was in the bedroom.

I called Mister and asked if he could hear the music playing in the background. He said he couldn’t hear it, so I told him what song it was, and how it just started playing so loud, by itself. He said he’d check his phone and see if he’d somehow made that happen accidentally. We got off the phone, I walked out of the bathroom, back into the bedroom, and a few seconds later, I heard a loud noise in the bathroom. We have 2 wire baskets on our shower wall to hold our soap and other stuff. They are attached to the tile in the shower with suction cups or whatever you call them. Mine had fallen and crashed onto the floor of the shower. 

Since his parents died last year, Mister has mentioned a few things over time, that made him feel like his parents were visiting him, mostly his Mom. The thing I remember most clearly, was him saying that she swept her hand across the bottom of our bed, where our feet were, during the middle of the night, soon after she died.

We lived in this house almost 4 years before his Mom died early last year, his Dad died last September. I think his Dad was still alive (but I’m not sure) the first time I was lounging in bed and the ceiling fan in our bedroom started spinning fast even though I hadn’t turned it on. Mister was home and I called him to come to the bedroom, but by the time he got back there, the fan had slowed and stopped. It happened a couple more times that day, but each time, by the time Mister got to the bedroom after I told him to come, it had already slowed down or stopped. IIRC, the fan did the same thing at least once on another day. I know I talked about it here when it happened.

Then the lamps in our bedroom started randomly coming on some nights. They have “smart” bulbs that are connected to our wifi, so we can do stuff with them like have them turn off or on automatically at certain times or when we leave and get back home, dim them, have them automatically adjust the kind of white light they produce at different times of the day, or set “scenes” using different colors. And probably some more stuff that I don’t know about.

But even though we’d already had them a a few years, they didn’t start coming on by themselves during the night until the last year or so. 

None of this weird stuff started happening until last year.

I was okay with it when hummingbirds started visiting me last summer, thinking that it was a loved one (in my mind, probably my Grandmother) visiting me. Mister’s Mom had already died and I was very stressed out about several things at the time, including his Mom’s death and everything that led to it and also including his Dad’s decline after his wife passed, and me trying to still sort out my GI issues, plus a bunch of other stuff I’ve never talked about here.

I try not to think about spirits visiting us or making their presence known, because all spirits are not good spirits, but I was okay with the odd stuff with the hummingbirds. 

But this other stuff is too much. Mister has joked about his parents visiting us, and I have replied in a not serious, but really serious way, and said they can visit him but I prefer to be left out of it because I’m so scary about things like that.

Keep in mind, that I have also posted here over the years, about strange shit in my other house that made both of my children say we weren’t the only ones living there. Even after my Mom moved there and before I moved, she asked me out of the blue one day if my house was haunted. Before my Mom moved there, some really weird shit started happening after my Grandson was born, to the point that one day I came home from work when nobody was home but me, and I sat in my den with a Bible and prayed and said out loud that whoever and whatever was in my house, needed to leave, in the name of Jesus. 

I know that might sound crazy, but a lot of things had been happening in my house that had no logical explanation and I did not know what else to do. Things quieted down after that as far as I knew, but a few years later, after my Mom came to live with me, she got spooked enough to ask me if my house was haunted. I had not ever even told her about all the other stuff that had happened in my house, so I was caught off guard and didn’t know what to say other than “maybe”, and tell her what my children had always said.

Now weird shit is happening in the house I currently live in too. I have talked here about all the shit at my other house, as it was happening, and about the weird shit here when it started happening recently. And I swear I’ve not been making any of it up, in the distant or recent past, and not today.

Today really kind of spooked me, which is why I am bringing all of that up again. 

[giramomma]

dammit i can't type on my phone keep losing posts. glad to hear nut was arrested.

i predict she'll double down after she is out.
that's what i'd be prepared for. the escalation.
it just might get you that much closer
to nut extinguishing her behavior.

someone told nut her behavior was unacceptable. it doesn't seem like a gift but that validAtion is a gift. honestly it is a gift i would like to have had in my life. it is lonely being the only person not drinking the kool-aid

i popped ds on the hand once maybe he was two. i felt awful and the way he looked at me killed me. i suppose when a person is at
the point of sheer blind rage though they don't notice the look the child gives them in the moment.

i'm doing better. dd1 decided on a dinner and it will be easy. i can take the peanut out to buy a giift. sh has also agreed to plan a day off where he does all the mental load.

[Pink Cashmere]

Nov 13, 2024 19:26:58 GMT -5 azucena said:

Teen just texted me to come get my husband and remind him he's not a teenage lmao. He was having too much fun talking teaching with the couple of male students. I gave him the side eye and he wrapped up and is now hanging with dd12. They are exiled to the basement while Teen has the kitchen and dining room. After the potluck, I suspect the groups will switch.

I can now overhear the seniors coaching Teen about college choices and applications. Love that for her!

I love that she gets to spend the evening amongst friends and peers after this tough day. I'll never get tired of having my house open to my kids' friends.

Pink - you and I are good. I appreciate you speaking up about corporal punishment in your past. I too have learned to parent without that as has DH.

I realized I should trigger warning some of the posts in case someone here has child abuse in their history. I wouldn't want to cause them trauma.

I love reading all the good stuff about BT’s life with you and your family!

I also understand that making her a part of your family comes with a whole lot of unnecessary bullshit, and I am sorry for that. 

I can only speak for me, and say that I don’t think you have to make it a point to use trigger warnings on your posts, even though I do appreciate that you are willing make the effort to do so. As far as I’m concerned, you can just do your thing and tell your story and vent here, in a safe place, that I’m glad we both and other posters have. I’m a big girl (even when my posts make it seem like I’m a whiny crybaby lol), so do your thing and freely talk about whatever you want to talk about. 

I gotta say though, that I wouldn’t be mad if RayRay ‘n them, or somebody, layed hands on that bitch because of what she’s done to her children. Maybe tomorrow I will be a better person and not refer to her as a bitch or think like that, but today I feel like not saying anything even worse is all I have to give as far as that goes.

[soupandstew]

Nov 13, 2024 20:26:54 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Mister is not home from work yet, because he went in late so he could take YD to work. I’m not getting into that.

So, since I’ve been home alone, Mister’s HomePod speaker in our bathroom suddenly started blasting music. It was a song I know he likes. I know the name of the artist, but don’t know the title of the song and haven’t listened to all the lyrics, but it is about being a Black man in America. It startled me when it started playing so loud while I was in the bedroom.

I called Mister and asked if he could hear the music playing in the background. He said he couldn’t hear it, so I told him what song it was, and how it just started playing so loud, by itself. He said he’d check his phone and see if he’d somehow made that happen accidentally. We got off the phone, I walked out of the bathroom, back into the bedroom, and a few seconds later, I heard a loud noise in the bathroom. We have 2 wire baskets on our shower wall to hold our soap and other stuff. They are attached to the tile in the shower with suction cups or whatever you call them. Mine had fallen and crashed onto the floor of the shower. 

Since his parents died last year, Mister has mentioned a few things over time, that made him feel like his parents were visiting him, mostly his Mom. The thing I remember most clearly, was him saying that she swept her hand across the bottom of our bed, where our feet were, during the middle of the night, soon after she died.

We lived in this house almost 4 years before his Mom died early last year, his Dad died last September. I think his Dad was still alive (but I’m not sure) the first time I was lounging in bed and the ceiling fan in our bedroom started spinning fast even though I hadn’t turned it on. Mister was home and I called him to come to the bedroom, but by the time he got back there, the fan had slowed and stopped. It happened a couple more times that day, but each time, by the time Mister got to the bedroom after I told him to come, it had already slowed down or stopped. IIRC, the fan did the same thing at least once on another day. I know I talked about it here when it happened.

Then the lamps in our bedroom started randomly coming on some nights. They have “smart” bulbs that are connected to our wifi, so we can do stuff with them like have them turn off or on automatically at certain times or when we leave and get back home, dim them, have them automatically adjust the kind of white light they produce at different times of the day, or set “scenes” using different colors. And probably some more stuff that I don’t know about.

But even though we’d already had them a a few years, they didn’t start coming on by themselves during the night until the last year or so. 

None of this weird stuff started happening until last year.

I was okay with it when hummingbirds started visiting me last summer, thinking that it was a loved one (in my mind, probably my Grandmother) visiting me. Mister’s Mom had already died and I was very stressed out about several things at the time, including his Mom’s death and everything that led to it and also including his Dad’s decline after his wife passed, and me trying to still sort out my GI issues, plus a bunch of other stuff I’ve never talked about here.

I try not to think about spirits visiting us or making their presence known, because all spirits are not good spirits, but I was okay with the odd stuff with the hummingbirds. 

But this other stuff is too much. Mister has joked about his parents visiting us, and I have replied in a not serious, but really serious way, and said they can visit him but I prefer to be left out of it because I’m so scary about things like that.

Keep in mind, that I have also posted here over the years, about strange shit in my other house that made both of my children say we weren’t the only ones living there. Even after my Mom moved there and before I moved, she asked me out of the blue one day if my house was haunted. Before my Mom moved there, some really weird shit started happening after my Grandson was born, to the point that one day I came home from work when nobody was home but me, and I sat in my den with a Bible and prayed and said out loud that whoever and whatever was in my house, needed to leave, in the name of Jesus. 

I know that might sound crazy, but a lot of things had been happening in my house that had no logical explanation and I did not know what else to do. Things quieted down after that as far as I knew, but a few years later, after my Mom came to live with me, she got spooked enough to ask me if my house was haunted. I had not ever even told her about all the other stuff that had happened in my house, so I was caught off guard and didn’t know what to say other than “maybe”, and tell her what my children had always said.

Now weird shit is happening in the house I currently live in too. I have talked here about all the shit at my other house, as it was happening, and about the weird shit here when it started happening recently. And I swear I’ve not been making any of it up, in the distant or recent past, and not today.

Today really kind of spooked me, which is why I am bringing all of that up again. 

You sort of know how I feel on this. Call them ghosts, spirits, haints, they’ve always been with us and always will be. IMHO they are just seeking what we all do, acknowledgement, recognition, respect. I deal with these presences by speaking directly to them, by name if I know who they are, and asking what they need.. if I can fulfill their need I do, if not I explain that to them. So far it’s worked for me.

[Pink Cashmere]

Nov 13, 2024 21:05:50 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Nov 13, 2024 20:26:54 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Mister is not home from work yet, because he went in late so he could take YD to work. I’m not getting into that.

So, since I’ve been home alone, Mister’s HomePod speaker in our bathroom suddenly started blasting music. It was a song I know he likes. I know the name of the artist, but don’t know the title of the song and haven’t listened to all the lyrics, but it is about being a Black man in America. It startled me when it started playing so loud while I was in the bedroom.

I called Mister and asked if he could hear the music playing in the background. He said he couldn’t hear it, so I told him what song it was, and how it just started playing so loud, by itself. He said he’d check his phone and see if he’d somehow made that happen accidentally. We got off the phone, I walked out of the bathroom, back into the bedroom, and a few seconds later, I heard a loud noise in the bathroom. We have 2 wire baskets on our shower wall to hold our soap and other stuff. They are attached to the tile in the shower with suction cups or whatever you call them. Mine had fallen and crashed onto the floor of the shower. 

Since his parents died last year, Mister has mentioned a few things over time, that made him feel like his parents were visiting him, mostly his Mom. The thing I remember most clearly, was him saying that she swept her hand across the bottom of our bed, where our feet were, during the middle of the night, soon after she died.

We lived in this house almost 4 years before his Mom died early last year, his Dad died last September. I think his Dad was still alive (but I’m not sure) the first time I was lounging in bed and the ceiling fan in our bedroom started spinning fast even though I hadn’t turned it on. Mister was home and I called him to come to the bedroom, but by the time he got back there, the fan had slowed and stopped. It happened a couple more times that day, but each time, by the time Mister got to the bedroom after I told him to come, it had already slowed down or stopped. IIRC, the fan did the same thing at least once on another day. I know I talked about it here when it happened.

Then the lamps in our bedroom started randomly coming on some nights. They have “smart” bulbs that are connected to our wifi, so we can do stuff with them like have them turn off or on automatically at certain times or when we leave and get back home, dim them, have them automatically adjust the kind of white light they produce at different times of the day, or set “scenes” using different colors. And probably some more stuff that I don’t know about.

But even though we’d already had them a a few years, they didn’t start coming on by themselves during the night until the last year or so. 

None of this weird stuff started happening until last year.

I was okay with it when hummingbirds started visiting me last summer, thinking that it was a loved one (in my mind, probably my Grandmother) visiting me. Mister’s Mom had already died and I was very stressed out about several things at the time, including his Mom’s death and everything that led to it and also including his Dad’s decline after his wife passed, and me trying to still sort out my GI issues, plus a bunch of other stuff I’ve never talked about here.

I try not to think about spirits visiting us or making their presence known, because all spirits are not good spirits, but I was okay with the odd stuff with the hummingbirds. 

But this other stuff is too much. Mister has joked about his parents visiting us, and I have replied in a not serious, but really serious way, and said they can visit him but I prefer to be left out of it because I’m so scary about things like that.

Keep in mind, that I have also posted here over the years, about strange shit in my other house that made both of my children say we weren’t the only ones living there. Even after my Mom moved there and before I moved, she asked me out of the blue one day if my house was haunted. Before my Mom moved there, some really weird shit started happening after my Grandson was born, to the point that one day I came home from work when nobody was home but me, and I sat in my den with a Bible and prayed and said out loud that whoever and whatever was in my house, needed to leave, in the name of Jesus. 

I know that might sound crazy, but a lot of things had been happening in my house that had no logical explanation and I did not know what else to do. Things quieted down after that as far as I knew, but a few years later, after my Mom came to live with me, she got spooked enough to ask me if my house was haunted. I had not ever even told her about all the other stuff that had happened in my house, so I was caught off guard and didn’t know what to say other than “maybe”, and tell her what my children had always said.

Now weird shit is happening in the house I currently live in too. I have talked here about all the shit at my other house, as it was happening, and about the weird shit here when it started happening recently. And I swear I’ve not been making any of it up, in the distant or recent past, and not today.

Today really kind of spooked me, which is why I am bringing all of that up again. 

You sort of know how I feel on this. Call them ghosts, spirits, haints, they’ve always been with us and always will be. IMHO they are just seeking what we all do, acknowledgement, recognition, respect. I deal with these presences by speaking directly to them, by name if I know who they are, and asking what they need.. if I can fulfill their need I do, if not I explain that to them. So far it’s worked for me.

Nooooo. They scare me, so I don’t want anything to do with them making random stuff happen inside my home to make their presence known, even if they are “good”. Even if they are “good”, I feel like they should know that that stuff really scares me and should have enough respect for me, to not scare me, if their intentions are good.

Hummingbirds acting oddly enough to get my attention when I’m outside, I can deal with and perceive as the spirit of someone that loves me making their presence known. Weird shit happening inside my home, is very different and upsets my nerves. I don’t perceive that as a spirit that loves me making their presence known. 

I’m not saying that you are wrong, I’m just saying that I’m too scary to handle those things the way that you do. 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I've told my grandma stop messing with me I'm trying to sleep. She messed with our blinds all the time. I'd hear one shoot up and jump 8 feet out of my skin

Pretty sure mom threw a Polly Pocket at me when I made a joke about smothering dad. There was no way that thing flew that far on it's own. I was the only one here. I apologized.

I believe my paternal grandpa made lilacs bloom out of season to let me know it was okay I didn't visit. He knew I was pregnant and ready to pop.

My mom always said those little white butterflies are family members coming to check on us. A few days after she died a cloud of them surrounded Abby as we walked from.the car

I saw a yellow swallow tail the day mom died flying in her hospital room window. I now believe it was either grandma or grandpa coming to meet her.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

You can burn sage (not the spice you'll need to go to a new age store) and cleanse the house. Tell them it is time to move on or at least stop scaring the crap out of you.

[soupandstew]

The only things that really scare me and have ever tried to hurt me were living humans. Maybe that’s why I’m sort of chill with the other things. They’ve scared me but never harmed me

[soupandstew]

Nov 13, 2024 21:23:42 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

You can burn sage (not the spice you'll need to go to a new age store) and cleanse the house. Tell them it is time to move on or at least stop scaring the crap out of you.

Sage smudging is very healing.

[raeoflyte]

Nov 13, 2024 21:36:36 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Nov 13, 2024 21:23:42 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

You can burn sage (not the spice you'll need to go to a new age store) and cleanse the house. Tell them it is time to move on or at least stop scaring the crap out of you.

Sage smudging is very healing.

It smells like weed which is helpful to know going in. I didn't realize that the first time and in hindsight I'm lucky the landlord didn't kick us out before we had even moved in for going a little overboard.

[soupandstew]

Nov 13, 2024 21:50:44 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Nov 13, 2024 21:36:36 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Sage smudging is very healing.

It smells like weed which is helpful to know going in. I didn't realize that the first time and in hindsight I'm lucky the landlord didn't kick us out before we had even moved in for going a little overboard.

Yeah, it’s definitely not Grandma’s sage dressing 😂

[taz157]

Nov 13, 2024 20:01:56 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Nov 13, 2024 18:41:21 GMT -5 gs11rmb said:

You need to get out of your current place, even if it means a pay cut.  Then you can take a breath and re-think.

Good luck.

i can't like this enough. i get the pay thing. and you aren't
mostly supporting a family of 5 on your salary like i am. and we still are in the process of making it work.

i didn't even get a PIP. in the last 3 months things have gotten so bad at my old place that they absolutely had justification to fire me, even though i was and continue to be a model employee.


i dont know how pips go in the private sector. do
they even need to keep you on the 90 days? the first thing i didd when i read your post is look to see if you'd make it to the years end.


there's also no way this point id be paying down the mortgage with you having a pip.

Not to be a Debbie downer but at my job, they don’t necessarily keep you the entire 90 days. If they aren’t seeing any improvement within the timeframe at all (even shortly after getting placed on it), then they may cut you sooner.

[countrygirl2]

Hubs went ahead and painted the ceiling in the laundry room today. I washed the light fixture, he said the walls will need washed before painting in there, I agree. But I did wash the kitchen window and he
put the clean blind back up. Going to put some kind of valence, curtain or something in there. We have discussed painting the cabinets, but I don't think I want to, at least not yet, maybe later.

Went to the store this evening and shopped sales got $48 off and paid $196, I did pretty good. But I know some things are higher at Safeway so need to get the rest at Walmart. I like the buy 2 packs of soda get 2 free but no price, really?

[giramomma]

I've felt my dad a few times. Once.about a month ago I swore he was right behind me.

When I had my biopsy, I also told.dad I wasn't ready and he had to suck it up.

I also have my first boss on my fridge still. He died in 2019. He's the only dead person I regularly talk to, or yell at.

I told.my first boss I needed to get out and he needed to help. That was right before I got this job.

My boss used.to.tell me everything would.be alright. Even when it was.bleak.with ds. He was also.the one who.commented that I changed for the better when I wasn't so enmeshed with my parents... That i.didn't react as much.

I cry about his passing more than my dads. 

[Peace77]

Nov 13, 2024 20:30:08 GMT -5 giramomma said:

i'm doing better. dd1 decided on a dinner and it will be easy. i can take the peanut out to buy a giift. sh has also agreed to plan a day off where he does all the mental load.

Glad you’re feeling better.

[weltz]

Looks like I'm the only one here who aint afraid of no ghosts. Or haints. Or spirits. Little white butterflies are just little white butterflies. Sometimes there are power surges at the electric company and hinges give out. Especially in today's hi-tech world, there is interference with the electronics.
I'm an atheist and I don't believe in the supernatural.