what are you doing right now?

[daisylu]

Since I do not expect my day to day life to change very much, I too am going to channel giramomma and focus on myself and my home.


Funny aside about the chores and thank yous discussion - Before I left for my trip Wednesday morning I had 3 horrible hot flashes Tuesday night. I got up and showered about 330AM and just stayed up (was planning to leave by 7). I waited until DH got up to go hunting and stripped the bed, telling him he would have to put them in the dryer and then make the bed when he came in (usually @930am). His reply "what do I look like the housekeeper?" begat a reply of "you look like a grown ass man who is capable of putting sheets on a bed." I knew he was joking and gave him the reply he was looking for. 

[wvugurl26]

A friend sits on the board of a food pantry so we made a donation there.

Less social media and more time spent on other things will be good for me.

[greenthumb59]

I also agree with keeping the focus on home and family.  I ordered a bunch of flower seeds this morning!

I texted my kids last night, saying you guys are out in the world more than us.  Be mindful of your surroundings, remember many of the people around you voted for you know who.  This is not the country we thought it was.  You have to look out for yourselves.

[daisylu]

Bills are paid for another month. 

[azucena]

Nov 7, 2024 7:18:29 GMT -5 giramomma said:

And I am really shocked at how committed  I am to ha omg dd1 get to a state where I'm issue will receive medical care. 

FWIW, My teens are focused on IL as a blue beacon of hope. Have to be central or further north though to escape the reddest parts.

[cooper88]

A FEMA inspector is coming this afternoon. They have already been here, but it was pretty cursory. I don't think they will really help much, from what I have read about the average grant payout, but every little bit helps. Also, we don't have to clean prior to having this guest visit.

[lurkyloo]

Nov 7, 2024 3:35:40 GMT -5 Cheesy FL-Vol said:

I slept badly and cried.

Hugs.
I am contemplating whether I can get a refill on my anxiety rescue meds, because I am taking full advantage 

[toomuchreality]

I am certainly not the boss of this thread. But this is NOT the political thread.
Please stop.

[raeoflyte]

Nov 7, 2024 9:12:25 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

I am certainly not the boss of this thread. But this is NOT the political thread.
Please stop.

I get that and am trying to stay away because of it. But will say that it doesn't feel like politics to me. It's decisions about the kids school and friends. It's who do I feel comfortable having in my home - aka Thanksgiving invites. It's navigating coworkers. All the things I posted about here on Monday and before and everyone was OK with.

I know that people need an escape and I respect that. But not everyone can escape.

[TheOtherMe]

I'm still shocked and sad.  I want to cry.  I have a telehealth appointment at 9:30.  Then I have one thing I must do here in the house.  

Then I will hide my head in the sand.  

Not liking most people these days.  

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Nov 7, 2024 7:18:29 GMT -5 giramomma said:

And I am really shocked at how committed  I am to ha omg dd1 get to a state where I'm issue will receive medical care. 

We had another discussion in our house last night with Gwen about not having sex as a teen.   Usually my stance on that is if you are going to be smart about it but with all this going on I went to straight just don't have it it's not worth the risk.  You'll be stuck with that 18 year old dipshit the rest of your life.

I've also had private conversations with her that if something WERE to happen to come to me and I'll do whatever I can to get her access to the help she needs.   Nobody else needs to know including DH if that is what she wants.   I also put my foot down with DH that is not his decision because there is zero impact on him.  He can have his opinion but he can also shove it he doesn't get an actual vote. I will go against him and not care about the consequences to our marriage.

At the moment both of them have decided they aren't having kids.  Which is insane to me that a 14 year old and 10 year old are having to weigh the risks of miscarriage in a red state.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

This house has been…….interesting.  My sister has said nothing about the election, which is ok as far as I’m concerned.  Her candidate won, our’s lost.  

However, she’s been feeling the repercussions from her kids.  She uses FB and Twitter, but keeps her political opinions only on Twitter.  She posted a pic of her oldest daughter’s wedding on Twitter, claiming she was very proud of her.  Her older daughter told her to take her pic down, she did NOT want to be associated with her mother’s politics.  When she told me she did this, I knew exactly where my niece was coming from.  Now, my niece had no problems with her posting pics of her wedding on FB, but that’s devoid of my sister’s politics.  

Then last night, her youngest daughter asked her how could she vote the way she did, did her mom not have any concerns about her possible health?  That conversation got rather vocal, DH and I both heard it from bed, so I got up to see if she was ok.  She was not.  I sympathized with her, was sorry that her children were pissed at her about her political beliefs, but while she (my sister) said that she voted who she thought was best for her, I thought that she was really shortsighted in that it was not best for her 3, childbearing age daughters.  I didn’t tell her that though, as I was not about to throw fuel on the fire.  My sister’s political beliefs are going to cause a divide between her and her kids…..possibly irreparable.

This morning, TD was up when she came up for coffee.  He said she didn’t say a word.  I’ll go talk to her later, I need a couple cups of coffee before I go there this morning!

Good times.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Nov 7, 2024 9:12:25 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

I am certainly not the boss of this thread. But this is NOT the political thread.
Please stop.

Unfortunately, the effect of these politics is on friends and family……and we are having to navigate that too.  Dealing with this really is a landmine as I learned yesterday.  

[daisylu]

Cleaning out my laptop travel backpack. I noticed that it is getting a little heavy.

Traveled by car this trip, which is convenient in that I could bring some handy tools that I can not put in a carryon. 

[bean29]

Nov 6, 2024 19:39:30 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

What I am doing right now is trying to get my nerves together. I’ve been trying all day.

Mister took some ground beef out of the deep freezer before he went to work this morning and said it was for taco salad tonight. I don’t want taco salad, and will probably just order something I do want, that I might be able to eat.

I know he is following up on what he said a few days ago about us needing to cook more, well really he said “y’all need to start cooking”, meaning me and YD. And part of that is because it is too expensive to buy takeout all the time, now that YD is here too. But I am still wrestling with my stomach and I’ve been upset all day today, so today is not a good day for me to try to force myself to eat something that I already know I don’t want.

YD is not even here this evening, and idk if she’s coming back tonight. I just saw from notifications from the cameras that she left this afternoon, late enough that she obviously wasn’t going to work. 

I really just want to escape real life for a while by going to bed and hopefully to sleep. I have had that “wanting to jump out of my skin” feeling a few times today. Tonight will be a Lunesta night, in hopes my brain will STFU and let me sleep at least a little, even though that is not guaranteed even with a Lunesta.

You all make me feel really spoiled because my DH cooks for me nearly every day.  When my kids were younger, I would occasionally cook roasted chicken breast, or pan fry chicken and serve it with noodles.  Sometimes I make Spaghetti, but for the most part, my DH cooks all our meals.  If he says he does not want to cook, is not feeling well, or has eaten at his mother's - I just pull out a lean cuisine meal and I am good.  My DH is so creative in the kitchen though, that if his mom feeds him, he is usually willing to cook something for me.  I also have dietary issues, and I am so thankful that DH is willing to cook my meals b/c he is very good at keeping track of what foods I can/can't eat.  My DH and I realized a long time ago that our kids eat a lot of fast food.  I am not sure if Mister's frustration is as much with you as it probably is with his DD, but of course I am not suggesting you insert yourself into that situation.  I know occasionally here people talk about different frozen meals from places like Costco, or Aldi's so maybe "y'all need to explore those options for nights when you are in a rush.

DH and I are very frustrated with the election too.  He brought it up to me this am.  I told him that our DD is also disheartened.  I think CG's son is right that we will have to learn to keep our political opinions to ourselves, which is something my DH will have a lot of trouble accepting.  I will post a screenshot from my FB feed on the Politics/Presidential thread here in a minute from my phone.  CG Idk how going to Puerto Rico is a safe place as it is a possession of the USA but I think you were being Facetious anyways.

My mother's 86th birthday was yesterday.  We decided to just get together for cake at her assisted living facility last night.  We had 19 people including my mom.  It worked out very well.  We used their dining room after they were done serving dinner.

[minnesotapaintlady]

Nov 7, 2024 10:26:49 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

This house has been…….interesting.  My sister has said nothing about the election, which is ok as far as I’m concerned.  Her candidate won, our’s lost.  

However, she’s been feeling the repercussions from her kids.  She uses FB and Twitter, but keeps her political opinions only on Twitter.  She posted a pic of her oldest daughter’s wedding on Twitter, claiming she was very proud of her.  Her older daughter told her to take her pic down, she did NOT want to be associated with her mother’s politics.  When she told me she did this, I knew exactly where my niece was coming from.  Now, my niece had no problems with her posting pics of her wedding on FB, but that’s devoid of my sister’s politics.  

Then last night, her youngest daughter asked her how could she vote the way she did, did her mom not have any concerns about her possible health?  That conversation got rather vocal, DH and I both heard it from bed, so I got up to see if she was ok.  She was not.  I sympathized with her, was sorry that her children were pissed at her about her political beliefs, but while she (my sister) said that she voted who she thought was best for her, I thought that she was really shortsighted in that it was not best for her 3, childbearing age daughters.  I didn’t tell her that though, as I was not about to throw fuel on the fire.  My sister’s political beliefs are going to cause a divide between her and her kids…..possibly irreparable.

This morning, TD was up when she came up for coffee.  He said she didn’t say a word.  I’ll go talk to her later, I need a couple cups of coffee before I go there this morning!

Good times.

It's hard. My mom doesn't realize that my oldest son wants nothing to do with her due to her politics or why it's important to him.  He's very non-confrontational, so has never discussed politics with her, but ever since he was little he's always been listening closely and he's heard all the offhand comments. He's respectful to her and loves her, but doesn't feel comfortable being himself around her and just doesn't want to be he doesn't have to. It's just not an enjoyable, happy experience and he'd rather be with others.  I totally get it.

He's planning on coming home for Thanksgiving and my mom is quite annoyed that he's not going to our dinner but attending his paternal grandmother's instead and then making another trip up to MPLS to see my dad and his step-grandmother. She's really going to be annoyed when she finds out I'm probably going with him as well.  Again, not to spite her, but I just would rather spend time with those people.

[gs11rmb]

minnesotapaintlady do you think you'll tell her or would that make things worse?

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Nov 7, 2024 10:02:03 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Nov 7, 2024 7:18:29 GMT -5 giramomma said:

And I am really shocked at how committed  I am to ha omg dd1 get to a state where I'm issue will receive medical care. 

We had another discussion in our house last night with Gwen about not having sex as a teen.   Usually my stance on that is if you are going to be smart about it but with all this going on I went to straight just don't have it it's not worth the risk.  You'll be stuck with that 18 year old dipshit the rest of your life.

I've also had private conversations with her that if something WERE to happen to come to me and I'll do whatever I can to get her access to the help she needs.   Nobody else needs to know including DH if that is what she wants.   I also put my foot down with DH that is not his decision because there is zero impact on him.  He can have his opinion but he can also shove it he doesn't get an actual vote. I will go against him and not care about the consequences to our marriage.

At the moment both of them have decided they aren't having kids.  Which is insane to me that a 14 year old and 10 year old are having to weigh the risks of miscarriage in a red state.

I’d probably be more proactive about this and getting Gwen some sort of birth control, whether the pill or some sort of implant.  While intentions are good, accidents happen.  

Keeping lines of communication open between you and your daughters is phenomenally important, even now as you’d likely need to cross state lines.  I might consider setting up a slush fund for travel on the sly for this, especially knowing your husband’s attitude towards this.

[daisylu]

Speaking of Thanksgiving, since Covid DH and I have just been doing a small dinner with the kids. 2020 TG both my parents got sick the weekend before with Covid so our regular plans (we would alternate between ILs) got cancelled and DH's parents were being very careful because his 100 year old Grandma was staying with them. No defrosted turkeys anywhere near us, so I ended up doing a seafood feast in 2020.

After that we just continued staying home and having the kids over for dinner. I think DH was worried that his parents were going to bring it up soon, so asked if we were still on the same page with that the other day. I assured him that we were. 

His dad had been irritating him enough with all the lead up to the election and he just wants to avoid that whole situation.

Shockingly, I do not have a turkey in the freezer! But no one really likes the dark meat, so I will just pick up a couple of  turkey breasts. We like leftovers, plus as a momma it is my job to send the kids home with lots of food. 
And I gifted DD a good bit of nice storage containers that I found on sale, so I will tell them to bring their own. 

[seriousthistime]

My Kitchen Aid stand mixer is broken at the moment.  I need my son to look at it and see if it can be fixed.  I'd like to avoid spending another $300+ on  a new one.  It's about 30 years old, but they built them to last way back then.  In contrast, DS and DDIL are on their third one.

So for Thanksgiving I'm going to use Ina Garten's trick for mashed potatoes. Buy Bob Evans mashed potatoes and doctor them up with Parmesan and sour cream. This even appeared in The NY Times and people say it's delicious. 

toomuchreality, I hear you on the proper place for political posts.  But most of the posts here are about how people are feeling and dealing with the aftermath.  They are not so much talking about the merits of this candidate vs. that candidate.  I think this thread is an appropriate place to talk about feelings.  JMHO. 

[minnesotapaintlady]

Nov 7, 2024 11:19:21 GMT -5 gs11rmb said:

minnesotapaintlady do you think you'll tell her or would that make things worse?

No point in telling her.  It's not going to change her way of thinking.

[wvugurl26]

I would like to have a low key Thanksgiving and invite my brother. Tried that last year for Christmas and DH messed it up and we ended up at his parents for both Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. Holidays suck now.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Nov 7, 2024 11:37:41 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Nov 7, 2024 11:19:21 GMT -5 gs11rmb said:

minnesotapaintlady do you think you'll tell her or would that make things worse?

No point in telling her.  It's not going to change her way of thinking.

Yeah…..I’ve not had any luck here either.  A few times, I have brought up repercussions, especially on her kids.  She doesn’t care, she thinks what she thinks and nothing is going to change her mind.

[swamp]

Nov 7, 2024 10:02:03 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

Nov 7, 2024 7:18:29 GMT -5 giramomma said:

And I am really shocked at how committed  I am to ha omg dd1 get to a state where I'm issue will receive medical care. 

We had another discussion in our house last night with Gwen about not having sex as a teen.   Usually my stance on that is if you are going to be smart about it but with all this going on I went to straight just don't have it it's not worth the risk.  You'll be stuck with that 18 year old dipshit the rest of your life.

I've also had private conversations with her that if something WERE to happen to come to me and I'll do whatever I can to get her access to the help she needs.   Nobody else needs to know including DH if that is what she wants.   I also put my foot down with DH that is not his decision because there is zero impact on him.  He can have his opinion but he can also shove it he doesn't get an actual vote. I will go against him and not care about the consequences to our marriage.

At the moment both of them have decided they aren't having kids.  Which is insane to me that a 14 year old and 10 year old are having to weigh the risks of miscarriage in a red state.

your imaginary friend in NY who also has easy access to canada is always here for you.