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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 21:56:51 GMT -5
Just got done having dinner at one of my favorite restaurants for my annual changing of the number of my lived years. It’s (IMO) expensive, so we only eat there once or twice a year. I had salmon, and dh had beef tenderloin. For dessert, DH had a pear cake and I had dark chocolate crème brûlée.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Nov 3, 2024 21:56:52 GMT -5
OAN, I have even more concerns about my safety at work now, because of the election, regardless of who wins. So my concerns are not IRT to debating politics, they are because I am a federal employee.
Several years ago, some random person made bomb threats regarding the federal buildings in the downtown area, including the building I work in. Idk what happened with the other federal buildings, but we had to go outside and wait while whatever agency handles those things, went through the building with their bomb sniffing dogs. That is not the only time we had a bomb threat and had to do the same thing.
Those things make me very wary about what chaos might ensue after the election, and concerned about my safety just because I work for the federal government. Not so much about what might happen at my home or whatever just because I work for the federal government, but moreso what might happen while I’m at work.
I am not trying to make my concerns about politics, because I am concerned regardless of whoever wins the election. I have been told that my employer has had “safety” talks about the possibility of civil unrest, but those meetings and talks were done on my regularly scheduled days off work, and I don’t know what was said. I am sure they had to do with our duties if there is civil unrest, but I am not sure they included anything about efforts to protect us while we perform those duties if there is civil unrest.
My job was supposed to be just be a job when I first took it. Then came the pandemic, when I was an “essential” employee and had to put myself and my loved ones at risk because of my job, and how it was necessary to try to help make things happen for my fellow Americans, many of whom could stay safe at home and didn’t even respect me and my coworkers and the work we do. And now this. I had to take some kind of oath that I don’t even remember, when I got hired, and I had no idea that I was committing myself to this kind of shit, because the world was mostly normal back then.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 21:58:36 GMT -5
Super bummed. I was so excited to get my new phone today, it was like Christmas. Went through all the set up and got all my data transferred from my other phone, then discovered the device was locked to Xfinity Mobile. Xfinity will happily unlock phones if you're a customer but I was getting nowhere with no account with them. The item description said it was unlocked, but the guy selling it probably didn't even know as it was new and sealed. So, after wasting my evening I boxed it all up to return tomorrow.
Bye fancy new phone.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Nov 3, 2024 22:01:56 GMT -5
My laptop computer is acting up. The screen writing just starts wiggling and getting bigger and bigger,I have no idea what is wrong. I've tried all kinds of things, I'm wondering if a key is stuck somewhere on it, if so haven't found it yet. Thankfully my ancient old faithful computer is working and the new printer with it too so that is a positive. And I may get more work done around here.
I'm caught up with correspondence for a bit. I only have the shoes left to send back. I did get notification 2 of Dd's referrals came through, going to have to drive to Tacoma for her endo doc as we do hubs for now.
Hubs and my SS checks are now being deposited in the local bank. Only Dd's needs moved and hubs pension deposit still need done, then I can close the accounts down there.
The blinds and curtains are all up in the living/dining room. We didn't do anything today but go to the grocery this afternoon. Tomorrow I need to finish the baseboards in there. I slept half the day. I was so aggravated with the need to get rid of that guy and his daughter out of the rent house it kept me awake for awhile last night. I'm going to have to do the dirty work and I sure will and telling her to move out and her friend I guess or we will have to go through formal eviction with all 3. I warned hubs when he let her move in. He does not listen to me. He is a kind man, but this sh** is going to stop. I'm going to research this week and see if I can find a homeless shelter in the city he can go to. The guy is moving and I will take care of it. He very well could be ill, but he has been riding that horse ever since living there. Every job he had he claimed he was hurt, his back, his shoulder, whatever. 2 years ago was dying of cancer, now needs a heart transplant. If ts true I'm sorry but I think he is just trying to get on disability and can't. Hubs may not be done but I am.The house inside was a mess, mountains of clothes and stuff all over. A young woman living in there and a place looking like that. It was a beautiful house inside. I don't think hubs is up to going down and cleaning it out, but I will. I will hire someone to do it once its vacated. It will likely take till after the first of the year and that is ok too. It just needs done. Thank goodness this is the last one we have to get someone out of!!
As far as the RSV shot, they could find no record of it, so we ended up with another. Hope medicare pays for it.
Back to the living room, we have the fireplace on and its nice and warm in there.
Later all.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 22:03:13 GMT -5
Is any of that $692 taxes and insurance? $500+ of my monthly house payment is taxes/insurance. 🤢 $1083 for me 🙄 Stupid wildfires.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 22:10:39 GMT -5
Peacock has 5 seasons of old Perry Mason episodes airing. That's what I have been watching in the evenings to keep me away from watching stuff that will upset me. I used to watch that with my Bampa. 🩵
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 22:38:58 GMT -5
I've been playing with the idea of changing up our Thanksgiving meal. I love all the traditional foods but that makes no sense for just 2 people with a quite small fridge/freezer. Nor does hours of cooking and a long clean-up make sense either. I talked to DH about it today and he's totally onboard with something I'm calling "grazing all day" which will allow us to watch the parade and some football and enjoy good food without excess work. Some things will be bought and some made at home. This is what I have so far: Stuffed mushrooms (from Aldi, bake in oven for 20 minutes) Bacon-wrapped Brussels sprouts with maple syrup glaze (make at home) Spinach/artichoke dip from local restaurant with crostini Jumbo shrimp cocktail (make at home) Baba ghanoush and pita bread (Whole Foods) Kofta skewers (from Whole Foods, bake in oven or grill as weather allows) Tres leches cake portions (local bakery)
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We’ve decided to have prime rib this Thanksgiving!
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 22:40:44 GMT -5
I saw an ad for a Digiorno Thanksgiving pizza today. Stop it.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 22:43:14 GMT -5
We have a lot of Halloween candy from trick or treating this past weekend. I bought vanilla ice cream and we've been making our own blizzards with the candy. So far, we've had Reese's Pieces, M&M, and Twix blizzards. And now I need to buy more ice cream. 😂 Oh, that’s brilliant!
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 22:46:40 GMT -5
My chest freezer was trashed in the flood. Those who may have a need should plan around that for now. However, since my yard is still filled with debris, a weird hole will not be noticed at all. Plan accordingly.
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Post by NastyWoman on Nov 3, 2024 22:48:33 GMT -5
Just got done having dinner at one of my favorite restaurants for my annual changing of the number of my lived years. It’s (IMO) expensive, so we only eat there once or twice a year. I had salmon, and dh had beef tenderloin. For dessert, DH had a pear cake and I had dark chocolate crème brûlée.
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Post by toomuchreality on Nov 3, 2024 22:51:11 GMT -5
Just got done having dinner at one of my favorite restaurants for my annual changing of the number of my lived years. It’s (IMO) expensive, so we only eat there once or twice a year. I had salmon, and dh had beef tenderloin. For dessert, DH had a pear cake and I had dark chocolate crème brûlée. Happy birthday! I hope you enjoyed it. Dinner sounds amazing.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 22:53:00 GMT -5
My eye has been twitching for a couple days. It's driving me nuts. That means you’re going to interact with my mother. Or your mother?
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 22:55:03 GMT -5
November is going to be biting financially. First up is homeowners insurance at $3750, next up is car insurance at $3650. I'll call again tomorrow afternoon and try to nail down a new electricity plan but there's no question it will be higher. At least we are being renewed for both home and auto-not everyone is. Holy crap. That's 4 years of my homeowners and car insurance premiums. Goodness the range of policies is crazy. My auto policy is twice the amount [mention]soupandstew [/mention] listed. Our current homeowners policy is $4500ish / year.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Nov 3, 2024 22:57:02 GMT -5
I've been playing with the idea of changing up our Thanksgiving meal. I love all the traditional foods but that makes no sense for just 2 people with a quite small fridge/freezer. Nor does hours of cooking and a long clean-up make sense either. I talked to DH about it today and he's totally onboard with something I'm calling "grazing all day" which will allow us to watch the parade and some football and enjoy good food without excess work. Some things will be bought and some made at home. This is what I have so far: Stuffed mushrooms (from Aldi, bake in oven for 20 minutes) Bacon-wrapped Brussels sprouts with maple syrup glaze (make at home) Spinach/artichoke dip from local restaurant with crostini Jumbo shrimp cocktail (make at home) Baba ghanoush and pita bread (Whole Foods) Kofta skewers (from Whole Foods, bake in oven or grill as weather allows) Tres leches cake portions (local bakery)
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We’ve decided to have prime rib this Thanksgiving! We did this a few years ago……maybe again this year too.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 23:06:19 GMT -5
azucena glad you checked in as much as I hate your update Can’t believe it’s legal for nut to keep doing this. I know each state is different, but it’s flabbergasting how low the bar is for a parent’s legal responsibility “providing for minors” where I live. Sounds like it’s even lower where [mention]azucena [/mention]lives.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 23:11:43 GMT -5
I've been sick since Tuesday, and I'm over it. It started with half a sore throat and achy body, then added a half sore neck. Then extreme fatigue. Then added a plugged ear, which turned into an ear infection. I've been on antibiotics since Thursday and getting out of bed or off the couch for more than 30 minutes is exhausting. Here's to hoping the antibiotics kick in soon. I'm slightly worried that it is mono with how freaking sore and exhausted I am. And I was supposed to run a half marathon tomorrow and the weather is going to be perfect and I'm mad! Ugh! I hope you’re feeling better!
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 23:12:56 GMT -5
Carrot and I went to the zoo today and took a couple of family members along as our free guests. Tomorrow I think my aunt and I are going to try early voting. Neither one of us have ever done it before, so not certain how it all works. I thought you needed to have an absentee ballot ahead of time, but nothing she read indicated that. We'll see. We both want to just get it done with in case something happens that we can't on Tuesday. I love the zoo!
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 23:15:43 GMT -5
Welp, DS’ stomach thing is definitely contagious We’re on a weekend away…DH started throwing up in the car last night, then it hit me this morning about one a.m. The good news is that the active phase only lasts about six hours. Also the airbnb has a washer and dryer. Bad news, it meant I got basically zero sleep last night and it looks like I might’ve grabbed an empty box of migraine meds. Ginger ale and saltines all round. Ugh
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 23:18:31 GMT -5
DH cued up an Allison Krauss cd today, so tonight I poked around and found some YouTube videos of her performing. One was a cover of Seven Spanish Angels, and another was her with Robert Plant doing Please Read the Letter. It was good. weltz Music always makes me think of you - please check in when you can She has such an amazing voice.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 23:20:28 GMT -5
Last night when I was getting ready to take a shower to go to bed, I had a vulnerable moment with something I said to Mister. His reaction and what he said made me very angry and I made it clear that it made me angry and walked away. He came to the bedroom behind me, trying to explain, I told him I didn’t want to hear it, I was taking a shower and going to bed. After I took a shower I went to the kitchen to get some water and he was sitting in the den, which I walk through to get to the kitchen. When I was headed back to the bedroom, he asked if I needed anything. Which pissed me off even more. I said no. He said, if you did, would you tell me? I said “absolutely not” and kept walking. I was thinking about it on my way to work this morning, and remembered how, when I was single, I use to say that many men seem to like it when a woman is mean to them. I thought about that because the reason I got got even more pissed off when Mister asked me last night if I needed anything, was because he hasn’t asked me anything like that in a couple of years, so don’t ask me now when I am very clearly mad at you. He called me while I was at work today, something he stopped doing a long time ago, and asked if I was still mad at him. Yep. That also rubbed me the wrong way, because don’t try to be nice to me now, when I’m angry, and do things you haven’t done in a long time, while you were being an asshole, and I was trying to still be peaceful because of all the shit you had going on. When I got home from work, the kitchen was spotless (it was a wreck when I left home this morning, I haven’t been keeping it clean since my stomach started acting up) and the floors in the kitchen, laundry room and den had been cleaned. YD left yesterday and just got home a few minutes ago, so he is the one that cleaned. He even cleaned the shelves in the refrigerator, which means they were nasty enough that I noticed they’d been cleaned. No one has EVER cleaned the refrigerator here, but me, and that was on my to do list for my days off work this week. I feel like the cleaning he did today while I was at work, was another effort to try to appease me, since he’s not been cleaning anything for over a year now. I’m not going to give him a cookie for it, or even acknowledge it, because that’s what he should do anyway. He also has a beef roast prepped to put in the slow cooker tomorrow morning before he leaves for work. All of that is stuff he use to regularly do anyway, tend to me and help with stuff around the house, even though I did most of the cleaning. He has been such an asshole lately, that I am kind of surprised that it even mattered to him that he pissed me off last night. Anyway, my stomach is still rebelling, but not as much as when it first started and I am even more happy than usual that today was the last day of my work week, because going back to work before my stomach really settled down, has been horrible. I have to be at my side gig at 7am tomorrow, no later than 7:30. Which feels really early for me, even though for years, I had to be at work at my real job at 6am, until they changed my work hours last year. Now, I have no idea how I use to get up at 4 or 4:30am to go to work lol. Last week, I had a Doctor appointment at 8:15am and I was bent out of shape while I was preparing to get there in time, thinking, how the fuck does anyone think it is reasonable to have to get up and get somewhere this early in the morning. I have obviously never been a morning person lol. All the years I was reporting to work at 6am, I was just doing what I had to do. I did like getting off work early in the afternoon though. I am done rambling now. I certainly wouldn’t fawn over his actions, but I am glad he did all that. I hope your tummy is better soon.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 23:20:58 GMT -5
I'm still cleaning up from the flood. Stick a fork in me I am done. I just got out of the shower and I just about melted. There is finally some sense of order returning to the house, though. I’m exhausted just reading what you’ve dealt with!!!
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Nov 3, 2024 23:21:12 GMT -5
I watched so much tv that I think I really did rot my brain out. Three movies, several tv episodes. Good job!
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Post by countrygirl2 on Nov 4, 2024 0:33:39 GMT -5
Pink, I likely would thank Mister, but tell him this is what he was doing before and it makes life better for you and he if he continues to do it. That living in a mess and chaos gets on your last nerve, I imagine you have said that but worth repeating. Sometimes men are like puppies you have to pat them on the head and well, other places too, LOL! However, I would mention that since his daughter is basically living there, she could pick up and do some of the chores and have him assign them. Many men are clueless as hubs said if you don't tell me or ask me I don't know what you want me to do. So I started telling and asking. No I shouldn't have to but it works better.
But I would insist the daughter pick up and clean up after herself, she is getting free rent, food, and everything, if she doesn't like it, well move back with her mother. Something is wrong there or she would still be there.
That is just me. I love my grandson and DD, but they both put their dishes in the sink after scrapping. They pick up their dirty clothes out of the bathroom and put them up. I make little guy and her pick up stuff if they leave it on the floor. I'm sure his folks do too, but we reinforce those type of things. I didn't emphasize it much when son was growing up but the army took care of that. She is living in your and his house, its only fair that SHE takes care of what needs she can and not you or he. I've read this happens with many fathers as they feel guilty because of leaving them and it greatly impacts their future relationships. I've never been in that situation so its just advice you can take or leave.
Once we get DD's new flooring I'm going to buy her a stick vacuum where she can do her own room. I will mop it once a month but she is also going to dust. She is doing better keeping her space clean, she said she needs a bigger trash can and she does, so will do that too. I also don't let them eat in their rooms but very rarely, not going to have that mess all over.
Yes, I'm an old meany. I have explained as I age I will need help. Little guy took my arm yesterday and asked me if I needed help walking. I had sat for awhile and when I got up was stiff. He was so intent on helping me, I just couldn't laugh. Later I got him doing exercises, he sure needs it and I told him it is good for both of us.
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Post by finnime on Nov 4, 2024 5:37:59 GMT -5
Good morning, voting invisipeeps, readying for the week before us. Welcome to Monday. I hope your day shows you a good path to make progress, and that no violence breaks out near you. I hope no one pees in your Cheerios. THe show ended yesterday well. I'm pleased with how we did over all, but I think for the next shows I'll put bows and ribbon on a couple of pictures to give people a clue about gifting them. Everyone seemed to see them and make decisions based on their own wants. But it was good all told. Franklin the Dog and I did get to the beach yesterday and will this morning, too. Here was the sun rising yesterday:
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Post by raeoflyte on Nov 4, 2024 8:13:14 GMT -5
Just got done having dinner at one of my favorite restaurants for my annual changing of the number of my lived years. It’s (IMO) expensive, so we only eat there once or twice a year. I had salmon, and dh had beef tenderloin. For dessert, DH had a pear cake and I had dark chocolate crème brûlée. Happy birthday!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Nov 4, 2024 8:46:41 GMT -5
All these other ladies looking cute in their sweatshirts and jeans. Here I am looking like a mini Trunchbull.
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Post by daisylu on Nov 4, 2024 8:52:00 GMT -5
Looking at annual enrollment options for medical. None of which are ideal - I wish we had a marketplace type system like DH, but nope I am stuck with Anthem which no provider in this area likes to deal with.
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Post by raeoflyte on Nov 4, 2024 8:59:50 GMT -5
Last night when I was getting ready to take a shower to go to bed, I had a vulnerable moment with something I said to Mister. His reaction and what he said made me very angry and I made it clear that it made me angry and walked away. He came to the bedroom behind me, trying to explain, I told him I didn’t want to hear it, I was taking a shower and going to bed. After I took a shower I went to the kitchen to get some water and he was sitting in the den, which I walk through to get to the kitchen. When I was headed back to the bedroom, he asked if I needed anything. Which pissed me off even more. I said no. He said, if you did, would you tell me? I said “absolutely not” and kept walking. I was thinking about it on my way to work this morning, and remembered how, when I was single, I use to say that many men seem to like it when a woman is mean to them. I thought about that because the reason I got got even more pissed off when Mister asked me last night if I needed anything, was because he hasn’t asked me anything like that in a couple of years, so don’t ask me now when I am very clearly mad at you. He called me while I was at work today, something he stopped doing a long time ago, and asked if I was still mad at him. Yep. That also rubbed me the wrong way, because don’t try to be nice to me now, when I’m angry, and do things you haven’t done in a long time, while you were being an asshole, and I was trying to still be peaceful because of all the shit you had going on. When I got home from work, the kitchen was spotless (it was a wreck when I left home this morning, I haven’t been keeping it clean since my stomach started acting up) and the floors in the kitchen, laundry room and den had been cleaned. YD left yesterday and just got home a few minutes ago, so he is the one that cleaned. He even cleaned the shelves in the refrigerator, which means they were nasty enough that I noticed they’d been cleaned. No one has EVER cleaned the refrigerator here, but me, and that was on my to do list for my days off work this week. I feel like the cleaning he did today while I was at work, was another effort to try to appease me, since he’s not been cleaning anything for over a year now. I’m not going to give him a cookie for it, or even acknowledge it, because that’s what he should do anyway. He also has a beef roast prepped to put in the slow cooker tomorrow morning before he leaves for work. All of that is stuff he use to regularly do anyway, tend to me and help with stuff around the house, even though I did most of the cleaning. He has been such an asshole lately, that I am kind of surprised that it even mattered to him that he pissed me off last night. Anyway, my stomach is still rebelling, but not as much as when it first started and I am even more happy than usual that today was the last day of my work week, because going back to work before my stomach really settled down, has been horrible. I have to be at my side gig at 7am tomorrow, no later than 7:30. Which feels really early for me, even though for years, I had to be at work at my real job at 6am, until they changed my work hours last year. Now, I have no idea how I use to get up at 4 or 4:30am to go to work lol. Last week, I had a Doctor appointment at 8:15am and I was bent out of shape while I was preparing to get there in time, thinking, how the fuck does anyone think it is reasonable to have to get up and get somewhere this early in the morning. I have obviously never been a morning person lol. All the years I was reporting to work at 6am, I was just doing what I had to do. I did like getting off work early in the afternoon though. I am done rambling now. I hope this is a real wake up call for him and you can make forward progress together (if that's still what you want). If he's just panicking and trying to appease you I think that will be clear soon. As far as thanking him for doing chores for the first time in years...there's a bigger conversation to be had and it depends a lot on why he's doing them. Eta - thinking on it I can't not thank dh for doing even the bare minimum of effort because I have noticed it, if it is something that I would otherwise have to do. We're in a different spot - not a great one - but he has acknowledged that he took my efforts for granted and tries not to now. But it is so common for women to become that default housekeeper/maid/cook coupled with the expectation that women keep the peace that I feel the need to push back hard against the idea that we have to thank adults for adulting. Like we're marking behavior we want them to continue like pets. I love my pets but shouldn't a spouse be more than that? I also have no interest in required thank yous. Thank you for cooking - you know how much we like to eat is one that dh says weekly that I need to tell him to stop. Genuine thank yous and appreciation for people who make our lives easier, special, lighter, etc are beautiful and wonderful.
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Post by seriousthistime on Nov 4, 2024 10:13:04 GMT -5
OAN, I have even more concerns about my safety at work now, because of the election, regardless of who wins. So my concerns are not IRT to debating politics, they are because I am a federal employee. Several years ago, some random person made bomb threats regarding the federal buildings in the downtown area, including the building I work in. Idk what happened with the other federal buildings, but we had to go outside and wait while whatever agency handles those things, went through the building with their bomb sniffing dogs. That is not the only time we had a bomb threat and had to do the same thing. Those things make me very wary about what chaos might ensue after the election, and concerned about my safety just because I work for the federal government. Not so much about what might happen at my home or whatever just because I work for the federal government, but moreso what might happen while I’m at work. I am not trying to make my concerns about politics, because I am concerned regardless of whoever wins the election. I have been told that my employer has had “safety” talks about the possibility of civil unrest, but those meetings and talks were done on my regularly scheduled days off work, and I don’t know what was said. I am sure they had to do with our duties if there is civil unrest, but I am not sure they included anything about efforts to protect us while we perform those duties if there is civil unrest. My job was supposed to be just be a job when I first took it. Then came the pandemic, when I was an “essential” employee and had to put myself and my loved ones at risk because of my job, and how it was necessary to try to help make things happen for my fellow Americans, many of whom could stay safe at home and didn’t even respect me and my coworkers and the work we do. And now this. I had to take some kind of oath that I don’t even remember, when I got hired, and I had no idea that I was committing myself to this kind of shit, because the world was mostly normal back then. I get this. I had just started a new job at a federal courthouse when 9/11 happened. We had a mosque not more than a mile from the courthouse. Terrorist attack from a foreign country, plus mosque, plus a plane headed to Washington, D.C., the seat of government -- yeah, we were all on edge. My boss was out of town but called us and told us to go home. He had unique high-level info on terrorist activities and he was worried. I think we are all braced for some level of violence surrounding the election. The people who are most at risk are the people working directly with election matters. You work in a secured building, I think you said, so you should be okay, but stay alert and see how things shake out. Don't worry too much. The oath you took is probably the standard oath for federal employees. An individual, except the President, elected or appointed to an office of honor or profit in the civil service or uniformed services, shall take the following oath: "I, AB, do solemnly swear (or affirm) that I will support and defend the Constitution of the United States against all enemies, foreign and domestic; that I will bear true faith and allegiance to the same; that I take this obligation freely, without any mental reservation or purpose of evasion; and that I will well and faithfully discharge the duties of the office on which I am about to enter. So help me God." 5 U.S.C. 3331.
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