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Post by raeoflyte on Sept 19, 2024 14:53:59 GMT -5
How did BT wind up in foster care? Why are her siblings still there? Long story that I chronicled more in WIR parent thread. Teen reported mom abusing her and her siblings to me, I hotlined and alerted school, they hotlined, elementary school hotlined after 9 yo sister showed up at school with bruises and corroborated story, DSS made second home visit in front of mom without older siblings so younger ones recanted. DSS showed up here and did 5 min home visit said welp she's safe, case closed. DH and I were like wait, we have no legal or medical rights. DSS was like, maybe if you ask her mom nicely she'll sign something. Nut just called and yelled at me about upcoming therapy appt. I hung up so she was gracious enough to put her threats in writing via text which have now been fwd'd to social worker. I wish there were words that would lighten the load.
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Post by soupandstew on Sept 19, 2024 15:05:45 GMT -5
After breakfast I paid bills and then we went to Whole Foods for some fresh fruit and veggies. I'm trying a new-to-me variety of apple called Sweet Tango. Somehow a loaf of bread and some cheese also jumped into my cart. I love the odds-and-ends cheese bucket they have with tiny portions of different cheeses so we can try new stuff.
The horrid air quality is making my allergies act up but a pot of hot tea and a bowl of hot and sour soup at lunch took care of that problem. I'm breathing again!
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Sept 19, 2024 15:18:38 GMT -5
Yep! I went down to get a package amazon was delivering and as I was heading back up the stairs, one about the size of a quarter went flying off the gutter (ballooning), flew back up and then started flying back down towards me. It landed on the landing I was standing on (dumbstruck)and scuttled underneath! I about shit. There was different spider hanging out right at the top of stair gate latch that I nearly put my hand on! Yikes. Is this a new thing? Not really, but we hadn't heard of it before moving here. That first fall we were sitting on the porch on a warm sunny day, and we were puzzled by what looked like threads floating in the sky. A lot of threads. So off to google I went. I wish I hadn't. For your edification, look up ballooning spiders.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Sept 19, 2024 15:53:07 GMT -5
I am still very behind on the thread. Mister and I had a conversation this morning because I am getting on his nerves because I “have a hair up my butt” again about getting our house clean. He said that I go some months not caring, then all of a sudden I get a hair up my butt and start moving stuff around and shit. I told him that since he claims to know me so well, he should recognize the pattern by now, that I just do not do well with living in chaos, whether the chaos is a cluttered, dirty home and/or constant drama in my home. Yes, I do sometimes give up on trying to keep a decent home and it becomes a , which makes me be down in the dumps and go sideways. And I do eventually try to get things back on track, so that I can try to get back on track and not feel like a crazy person. It should be clear by now that I’m not just being prissy when I say that the state of my home has a direct effect on my mental state. He said he has noticed the pattern, but it is still irritating when I get on one of those binges. I said, we’ll help me maintain things so that I don’t give up and get in a bad place in the first place, then I won’t have to go on those binges. Me “moving things around” is him seeing a pile of his shit that I’ve dumped in his wannabe man cave as I collected it from the kitchen. Including piles of mail that will sit on the kitchen table for weeks if I don’t go through it and put his mail on his desk in his wanna be man cave. I know this, because it has happened. So sort your mail yourself and don’t leave it piling up on the kitchen table if you don’t want me to just it all on your desk. Or I could just throw it all away, regardless of what it is. This whole conversation is because I finally cleaned my kitchen for real this week. My bedroom is mostly clean. Literally every other room in our house is a cluttered, dirty mess. The boxes from the treadmill and home gym are still in the living room, along with other empty boxes from deliveries. There are at least 4 unopened boxes of delivered stuff in the entryway, that have been there for at least 2 months. If he doesn’t get them by Monday, I’m dumping them in his wanna be man cave. Monday when he got home, I’d done all our laundry and he was disgruntled when he saw the huge pile of his clothes that I’d payed out on our bed. I used to put his clothes away, but stopped after he kept pissing me off. He didn’t put the clothes away, he just dumped them either in his wanna be man cave or the other bedroom that he has junked up. No, I did not know he was like this before we moved here. He didn’t have the space before we moved, that he does here, to just have shit all over everywhere. It’s crap all over the house, crap all over the garage, and crap all over part of the backyard. He has said several times that he doesn’t go relax in his wanna be man cave anymore because it stresses him out because it’s so junky. How is it so hard to understand that I feel that same way about our whole house being junky and dirty?! I didn’t mean to go on a whole rant, I apologize. I know I’ve been talking about this for a long time. I just really, really don’t understand. This house isn’t something you’d see in a magazine, but it’s nicer and more expensive than anywhere either of have lived in our lives, why do I have to fight about keeping it decent. Especially since I am willing to do most of the work, and just mostly ask for help KEEPING it clean.
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Post by toomuchreality on Sept 19, 2024 15:56:03 GMT -5
Yikes. Is this a new thing? Not really, but we hadn't heard of it before moving here. That first fall we were sitting on the porch on a warm sunny day, and we were puzzled by what looked like threads floating in the sky. A lot of threads. So off to google I went. I wish I hadn't. For your edification, look up ballooning spiders. I've heard of them and seen videos on FB. No way am I going to purposely look at them again! My fear is too much! Good luck!
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Post by resolution on Sept 19, 2024 16:05:16 GMT -5
I got my new phone set up today, it wasn't nearly as intimidating to transfer everything between phones as I had feared. I won't get the case for a couple more days, so I was afraid to take it to the gym.
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Post by jerseygirl on Sept 19, 2024 16:07:51 GMT -5
Someone hit my side view mirror and it made it wonky. Still on but sort of hanging and controls wouldn’t work. Happened in grocery store parking lot. Tried to get it back in but nope. What to do? Stopped on way home into the small body shop I’ve used. Guy came out and looked at it and said I’ll need to get a new mirror. Let alone the cost, I’d need to drive on highways to get to Tesla But guy looked at it , wiggled and pushed it and it clicked. Fixed!! Yay I’ll drop in tomorrow with a thank you and $20 for a six pack for this nice guy
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Post by finnime on Sept 19, 2024 16:09:49 GMT -5
Rant away, Pink Cashmere. We all do it now and then and it sounds to me like you have good cause. That would drive me batshit, too.
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Sept 19, 2024 16:12:16 GMT -5
Feliway plug ins came today. I can’t stand the smell, but if it helps our girl, I will try to tolerate it.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Sept 19, 2024 16:13:49 GMT -5
azucena, I did see the quote at the top of the page and went back and read a little and saw that nut is being a big ass. I don’t even know what to say, because the things she is doing, I can’t even fathom a “mother” (I am using that term loosely) treating her own child/children the way you describe. If her family really is asking questions of her, that is good, but that also makes me wonder if BT is in contact with any of her other family, like grandparents, aunts, uncles, whatever. It is nothing personal against you, I think you and your family are truly a blessing to BT, but as a grandmother myself, I’d prefer my grandchildren come live with me over one of their friends’ family that I don’t even know. My nephew even lived with me for a few years when he was in elementary school and my children were in middle school, and that wasn’t even about him being abused, neglected, or even mistreated. But I say all of that without knowing anything about her family, and whether they are in a situation or have the means to be able to provide and care for her Anyway, I am sorry nut is causing so many problems. I will keep you and your family (including BT) in my prayers. I know nut has been and continues to make things difficult, and I understand that it causes a lot of stress for you, so I just want to tell you thank you SO much for trying so hard to help BT and be there for her.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Sept 19, 2024 17:05:48 GMT -5
They showed in Australia how spiders spread webs all over everything, I would just die. That is my one big fear, spiders.
Do we have some coming here now, tell me no. I hate spiders.
I want to know where those spiders are, if they are up here I might have to leave.
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Post by toomuchreality on Sept 19, 2024 17:08:47 GMT -5
At 12:22 pm today, my bldg shook for the 2nd time. Then there was a brief pause and it happened again. Six times, that I counted. But I've heard it happen up to 10 times.
A LOT of people reported that they heard loud booms, along with the shaking. I didn't hear anything.
It was felt/heard by people throughout the valley and surrounding areas.
Scary! Lots of places have been blamed for it, but no one for sure. It was crazy!
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Post by raeoflyte on Sept 19, 2024 17:09:57 GMT -5
At 12:22 pm today, my bldg shook for the 2nd time. Then there was a brief pause and it happened again. Six times, that I counted. But I've heard it happen up to 10 times. A LOT of people reported that they heard loud booms, along with the shaking. I didn't hear anything. It was felt/heard by people throughout the valley and surrounding areas. Scary! Lots of places have been blamed for it, but no one for sure. It was crazy! That is crazy!
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Post by bookkeeper on Sept 19, 2024 17:10:20 GMT -5
I am still very behind on the thread. Mister and I had a conversation this morning because I am getting on his nerves because I “have a hair up my butt” again about getting our house clean. He said that I go some months not caring, then all of a sudden I get a hair up my butt and start moving stuff around and shit. I told him that since he claims to know me so well, he should recognize the pattern by now, that I just do not do well with living in chaos, whether the chaos is a cluttered, dirty home and/or constant drama in my home. Yes, I do sometimes give up on trying to keep a decent home and it becomes a , which makes me be down in the dumps and go sideways. And I do eventually try to get things back on track, so that I can try to get back on track and not feel like a crazy person. It should be clear by now that I’m not just being prissy when I say that the state of my home has a direct effect on my mental state. He said he has noticed the pattern, but it is still irritating when I get on one of those binges. I said, we’ll help me maintain things so that I don’t give up and get in a bad place in the first place, then I won’t have to go on those binges. Me “moving things around” is him seeing a pile of his shit that I’ve dumped in his wannabe man cave as I collected it from the kitchen. Including piles of mail that will sit on the kitchen table for weeks if I don’t go through it and put his mail on his desk in his wanna be man cave. I know this, because it has happened. So sort your mail yourself and don’t leave it piling up on the kitchen table if you don’t want me to just it all on your desk. Or I could just throw it all away, regardless of what it is. This whole conversation is because I finally cleaned my kitchen for real this week. My bedroom is mostly clean. Literally every other room in our house is a cluttered, dirty mess. The boxes from the treadmill and home gym are still in the living room, along with other empty boxes from deliveries. There are at least 4 unopened boxes of delivered stuff in the entryway, that have been there for at least 2 months. If he doesn’t get them by Monday, I’m dumping them in his wanna be man cave. Monday when he got home, I’d done all our laundry and he was disgruntled when he saw the huge pile of his clothes that I’d payed out on our bed. I used to put his clothes away, but stopped after he kept pissing me off. He didn’t put the clothes away, he just dumped them either in his wanna be man cave or the other bedroom that he has junked up. No, I did not know he was like this before we moved here. He didn’t have the space before we moved, that he does here, to just have shit all over everywhere. It’s crap all over the house, crap all over the garage, and crap all over part of the backyard. He has said several times that he doesn’t go relax in his wanna be man cave anymore because it stresses him out because it’s so junky. How is it so hard to understand that I feel that same way about our whole house being junky and dirty?! I didn’t mean to go on a whole rant, I apologize. I know I’ve been talking about this for a long time. I just really, really don’t understand. This house isn’t something you’d see in a magazine, but it’s nicer and more expensive than anywhere either of have lived in our lives, why do I have to fight about keeping it decent. Especially since I am willing to do most of the work, and just mostly ask for help KEEPING it clean. I wonder if your Mister is on his way to a full blown hoarder lifestyle after the death of his parents so close together. That's when my Mom really turned up the heat on collecting crap was after her last parent died. Might be something to discuss if you visit with a therapist again. Then again, if you can afford a new Mustang payment and the insurance, you can afford to hire cleaning help. Just my opinion.
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Post by bookkeeper on Sept 19, 2024 17:14:41 GMT -5
DH and I like to go pheasant hunting in the fall and sometimes see this type of spiderweb. If the conditions are right, the spider webs will be everywhere. It's a beautiful part of nature. We often see it here after a big wind. Spiders travel on the wind and this time of year are very busy feeding.
I had a big web by the mailbox a few days ago.
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Post by finnime on Sept 19, 2024 17:33:31 GMT -5
I'm still waiting for a delivery via Amazon and getting really upset about it.
I ordered frames for some pictures of DH's that have been accepted into an exhibition at a contemporary art museum in Abilene, TX. They should have been delivered yesterday. I did not order them from Amazon but apparently a new thing is Amazon subbing out their delivery service to vendors. Anyway, they're still not here. The pictures are going to be late arriving in Abilene. I hope it all works out. Next time I'm going to ask how items I purchase are going to be delivered. Aargh.
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 19, 2024 17:40:40 GMT -5
I'm still waiting for a delivery via Amazon and getting really upset about it. I ordered frames for some pictures of DH's that have been accepted into an exhibition at a contemporary art museum in Abilene, TX. They should have been delivered yesterday. I did not order them from Amazon but apparently a new thing is Amazon subbing out their delivery service to vendors. Anyway, they're still not here. The pictures are going to be late arriving in Abilene. I hope it all works out. Next time I'm going to ask how items I purchase are going to be delivered. Aargh. I'm not sure what style you ordered, but I'm the queen of spare frames bc I go nutty during frame sales at Michael's. you're welcome to pick through my stash if yours don't arrive in time.
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Post by Opti on Sept 19, 2024 17:45:24 GMT -5
Yikes. Is this a new thing? Not really, but we hadn't heard of it before moving here. That first fall we were sitting on the porch on a warm sunny day, and we were puzzled by what looked like threads floating in the sky. A lot of threads. So off to google I went. I wish I hadn't. For your edification, look up ballooning spiders. Looked briefly, flying spiders need to stay elsewhere IMO.
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Post by finnime on Sept 19, 2024 17:49:39 GMT -5
chiver78. I may just take you up on that. Part of the issue, that led to me ordering online, is that the prints are 10 x 10", and most square frames are for smaller or a few for 12 x 12" pictures.
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Post by daisylu on Sept 19, 2024 17:55:38 GMT -5
I'm still waiting for a delivery via Amazon and getting really upset about it. I ordered frames for some pictures of DH's that have been accepted into an exhibition at a contemporary art museum in Abilene, TX. They should have been delivered yesterday. I did not order them from Amazon but apparently a new thing is Amazon subbing out their delivery service to vendors. Anyway, they're still not here. The pictures are going to be late arriving in Abilene. I hope it all works out. Next time I'm going to ask how items I purchase are going to be delivered. Aargh. The answer that I got from Amazon when I requested they no longer ship my items USPS was it is random and cannot be changed. I doubt they will be anymore forthcoming if you ask before ordering.
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Post by andi9899 on Sept 19, 2024 17:59:53 GMT -5
I am still very behind on the thread. Mister and I had a conversation this morning because I am getting on his nerves because I “have a hair up my butt” again about getting our house clean. He said that I go some months not caring, then all of a sudden I get a hair up my butt and start moving stuff around and shit. I told him that since he claims to know me so well, he should recognize the pattern by now, that I just do not do well with living in chaos, whether the chaos is a cluttered, dirty home and/or constant drama in my home. Yes, I do sometimes give up on trying to keep a decent home and it becomes a , which makes me be down in the dumps and go sideways. And I do eventually try to get things back on track, so that I can try to get back on track and not feel like a crazy person. It should be clear by now that I’m not just being prissy when I say that the state of my home has a direct effect on my mental state. He said he has noticed the pattern, but it is still irritating when I get on one of those binges. I said, we’ll help me maintain things so that I don’t give up and get in a bad place in the first place, then I won’t have to go on those binges. Me “moving things around” is him seeing a pile of his shit that I’ve dumped in his wannabe man cave as I collected it from the kitchen. Including piles of mail that will sit on the kitchen table for weeks if I don’t go through it and put his mail on his desk in his wanna be man cave. I know this, because it has happened. So sort your mail yourself and don’t leave it piling up on the kitchen table if you don’t want me to just it all on your desk. Or I could just throw it all away, regardless of what it is. This whole conversation is because I finally cleaned my kitchen for real this week. My bedroom is mostly clean. Literally every other room in our house is a cluttered, dirty mess. The boxes from the treadmill and home gym are still in the living room, along with other empty boxes from deliveries. There are at least 4 unopened boxes of delivered stuff in the entryway, that have been there for at least 2 months. If he doesn’t get them by Monday, I’m dumping them in his wanna be man cave. Monday when he got home, I’d done all our laundry and he was disgruntled when he saw the huge pile of his clothes that I’d payed out on our bed. I used to put his clothes away, but stopped after he kept pissing me off. He didn’t put the clothes away, he just dumped them either in his wanna be man cave or the other bedroom that he has junked up. No, I did not know he was like this before we moved here. He didn’t have the space before we moved, that he does here, to just have shit all over everywhere. It’s crap all over the house, crap all over the garage, and crap all over part of the backyard. He has said several times that he doesn’t go relax in his wanna be man cave anymore because it stresses him out because it’s so junky. How is it so hard to understand that I feel that same way about our whole house being junky and dirty?! I didn’t mean to go on a whole rant, I apologize. I know I’ve been talking about this for a long time. I just really, really don’t understand. This house isn’t something you’d see in a magazine, but it’s nicer and more expensive than anywhere either of have lived in our lives, why do I have to fight about keeping it decent. Especially since I am willing to do most of the work, and just mostly ask for help KEEPING it clean. I'm with you. That would drive me batty! I need my home to be clean too. A couple of things scattered about maybe, but I won't live in a junky house.
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Post by finnime on Sept 19, 2024 18:15:17 GMT -5
Now I want hot and sour soup.
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