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Post by Cookies Galore on Aug 31, 2016 15:26:31 GMT -5
People should absolutely do what works for them. What would work for me is to have a job working 30 hrs a week making 100K a year with 4 weeks of vacation (okay, I would take 80K). Is that too much to ask for, dammit All I need is two more promotions and I'm pretty much there! To the $80k, not the $100k. But I do have the 4 weeks!
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Aug 31, 2016 15:26:50 GMT -5
I think when this board was started POM said she was wealthy and living in paradise. Not sure about a previous life on the old msn board.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 31, 2016 15:28:18 GMT -5
People should absolutely do what works for them. What would work for me is to have a job working 30 hrs a week making 100K a year with 4 weeks of vacation (okay, I would take 80K). Is that too much to ask for, dammit All I need is two more promotions and I'm pretty much there! To the $80k, not the $100k. But I do have the 4 weeks! I have the 4 weeks and the high salary...but not the 30 hours
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 31, 2016 15:30:08 GMT -5
Sorry about that. Some parts of my life are really miserable right now, and I'm sure everyone would get sick of hearing how awesome my husband is. So what's there left to talk about, the weather? 😜 NOOOOOooooooooooo! That's why I came here! I'm stuck inside almost all day. Sorry you don't have an awesome husband to talk about instead. Do you have awesome pets? Job? Friends? Family? Try that. I think you misread that. I think she is saying that her husband is awesome but everyone would get sick of hearing about htat...or he is a douche and I totally misread her post. Could go either way
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Post by Cookies Galore on Aug 31, 2016 15:30:10 GMT -5
All I need is two more promotions and I'm pretty much there! To the $80k, not the $100k. But I do have the 4 weeks! I have the 4 weeks and the high salary...but not the 30 hours Well, it's 35 hours, so that's lame. But I only work over 40 hours four times a year (and get paid for it).
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 31, 2016 15:30:45 GMT -5
I have the 4 weeks and the high salary...but not the 30 hours Well, it's 35 hours, so that's lame. But I only work over 40 hours four times a year (and get paid for it). Bitch
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Post by Lizard Queen on Aug 31, 2016 15:40:55 GMT -5
Sorry about that. Some parts of my life are really miserable right now, and I'm sure everyone would get sick of hearing how awesome my husband is. So what's there left to talk about, the weather? 😜 NOOOOOooooooooooo! That's why I came here! I'm stuck inside almost all day. Sorry you don't have an awesome husband to talk about instead. Do you have awesome pets? Job? Friends? Family? Try that. No, miss T is right. My husband is awesome. No one wants to read about that, and if I were inclined to write a letter to him thanking him for it, it would be personal, not posted on an internet website, and it wouldn't include historical information about society in general.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Aug 31, 2016 15:42:33 GMT -5
I think when this board was started POM said she was wealthy and living in paradise. Not sure about a previous life on the old msn board. LOL! Nope. Not wealthy at all financially (that to me would mean multi millions) but in the important things I say I'm rich or wealthy. But I feel I do live in paradise. I even like rain and storms unless it's damaging my garden and house. I'm who I am on any board, in RL, any where and people have been to my home, out with me, etc. to vouch it's all the truth... the good and the bad and the ugly. I'd love it if Leaping has an awesome DH! I don't mind hearing about it either. I don't mind hearing that sometimes he's an ass. It's all good as far as I'm concerned.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 31, 2016 15:42:53 GMT -5
NOOOOOooooooooooo! That's why I came here! I'm stuck inside almost all day. Sorry you don't have an awesome husband to talk about instead. Do you have awesome pets? Job? Friends? Family? Try that. No, miss T is right. Well THAT's something I don't see on this board often
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Post by Lizard Queen on Aug 31, 2016 15:51:34 GMT -5
Well THAT's something I don't see on this board often I agree with some aspects of the happiness of simpler times, too. So there's that, too. And the clincher is, I am left of center politically.
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Post by movingforward on Aug 31, 2016 16:00:28 GMT -5
Well THAT's something I don't see on this board often I agree with some aspects of the happiness of simpler times, too. So there's that, too. And the clincher is, I am left of center politically. I am somewhat left of center politically and I can get it too in regards to certain things. For me it is mainly the simplicity of things before technology completely exploded. Though I absolutely love certain things about technology like booking my travel online, paying my bills electronically, Netflix, Amazon, etc. I miss the days of no social media and exposure to world news 24/7. I miss the days of not hearing about a shooting every week, of kids playing outside, of my boss not being able to contact me whenever and wherever, and the days when every tom, dick and harry wasn't getting their 15 minutes of fame on some reality TV show. Those were simpler times to me. The Leave it to Beaver days are something else altogether though. They are something I can't relate to, probably because I never lived them.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Aug 31, 2016 16:17:34 GMT -5
I agree with some aspects of the happiness of simpler times, too. So there's that, too. And the clincher is, I am left of center politically. I am somewhat left of center politically and I can get it too in regards to certain things. For me it is mainly the simplicity of things before technology completely exploded. Though I absolutely love certain things about technology like booking my travel online, paying my bills electronically, Netflix, Amazon, etc. I miss the days of no social media and exposure to world news 24/7. I miss the days of not hearing about a shooting every week, of kids playing outside, of my boss not being able to contact me whenever and wherever, and the days when every tom, dick and harry wasn't getting their 15 minutes of fame on some reality TV show. Those were simpler times to me. The Leave it to Beaver days are something else altogether though. They are something I can't relate to, probably because I never lived them. And on the flip side of that I know a lot more about what's going on with far flung family because of social media, and it's easier to keep up with them. I don't even watch the local news regularly. My Kindle holds all million books I want to read without the added weight of carrying them all around. My job isn't important enough to be needed 24/7, so I'm lucky there, but I suspect the dang phone would be dead a lot in off hours.
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Post by billisonboard on Aug 31, 2016 16:33:06 GMT -5
... The Leave it to Beaver days are something else altogether though. They are something I can't relate to, probably because I never lived them. I lived them. Well I lived in the outward appearance of them.
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Post by siralynn on Aug 31, 2016 16:49:50 GMT -5
As a bread-winning wife earning 70+% of our family's income, my open letter to my husband would be something like thank you for: - taking a leave of absence during each kid's infancy in order to make sure they didn't go to daycare until 7 mon old instead of 4 mon old (and in the process developing a wonderful competence and confidence as a father, especially the first time around)
- handling the morning routine and all the day care drop-offs/pick-ups because my commute is so much worse
- doing your own laundry
- doing ~50% of the cooking (and probably >50% of the Sunday vegetable chopping prep), including teaching yourself how to make amazing pancakes (and other items) by watching so much "America's Test Kitchen"
- doing 80+% of the dishes
- being an all-around amazing and involved dad
Our life isn't perfect, but it's pretty damn good. We both pitch in at home and both have careers that we enjoy (and schooled extensively for). DH just got tenure this year, and I couldn't be more proud. I'm glad I don't live in what for me would be the "bad old days". I think we've each got good balance in our roles. (Helps that we can afford to outsource things like cleaning the toilets and some of the yardwork.)
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Post by MJ2.0 on Aug 31, 2016 17:22:18 GMT -5
I feel like people don't talk enough anymore.... on the phone or in person.
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Post by chiver78 on Aug 31, 2016 18:43:37 GMT -5
I feel like people don't talk enough anymore.... on the phone or in person. that is the source of the majority of my stress, lately.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Sept 1, 2016 10:52:56 GMT -5
I feel like people don't talk enough anymore.... on the phone or in person. that is the source of the majority of my stress, lately. It's definitely a dying art form. :-(
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Post by kittensaver on Sept 1, 2016 12:44:19 GMT -5
Well, it's 35 hours, so that's lame. But I only work over 40 hours four times a year (and get paid for it). Bitch Hey! Watch your mouth! I work 35 hours a week (nominally - I do more than that during "busy season" but I'm exempt so I get no overtime). I also get 4 weeks vacation per year, and am now *this* close to breaking the 100k salary mark. My goal is to hit it before I stop working/retire, and I think one more raise will do it. Oh - and my employer pays for spousal/family health insurance.
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Post by steff on Sept 1, 2016 16:25:55 GMT -5
I'm late to this party, but as a stay at home wife (my kiddo doesn't need mommy anymore, so I'm no longer a SAHM, but a SAHW) I'll add a few things.
I KNOW that I'm beyond lucky to have been a SAHM/W for the last 24 years. I have always seen my "job" as taking care of my family & making my hard working hubby's life easier when possible. He's probably done no more than 5 loads of laundry on his own since we married. His meals are ready when he gets home. Whether it was coming in at 3 am or 5 pm. He has a hot meal. If it's in the house, it's my job IMO. I understand that isn't for everyone, but it works for us. Unless something comes up that I can't do or deal with, then his only responsibilities at home are the yard. Yes, I'm spoiled in that I never "have" to do yardwork. I play in the flower beds & the gardens, but if I blew it off it wouldn't be a big deal. I'm spoiled in that in the last 24 years I have NEVER put gas in a car. He's spoiled with his good dinners, clean laundry, clean house, and as little stress as possible at home. Not because he demands it, but because I know he works his ass off 50-60 hours a week & I WANT to make things easy at home. I do it for him because I realize how lucky I am to be able to stay at home. And yes, be super lazy if I so choose to. I always joke that I'm on call 24/7, I just take REALLLY long coffee breaks & no one tell hubby that I don't drink coffee.
Recently, we were up the street visiting with some neighbors. I didn't know them very well, but hubby talks to the husband all the time. The wife started talking about how she thinks all women should work. I didn't say anything in response, but hubby sure did. He said that he disagreed with her. That he enjoys knowing I'm home taking care of shit. That when he gets home after seriously long days, he doesn't have to deal with more stress. How he doesn't think things would run as smoothly at home if we were both having to rush around and work long hours. He appreciates all that I do & knows that I'm doing it for him & kiddo. He knows laundry isn't thrilling, but I don't bitch & whine about every little thing like he has to hear at work. No one is super excited to do the dishes or vacuum the stairs, but it gets done without any problems. He said I made it easy for him to put his energy into moving up the ladder at work because he knew everything else was taken care of. He mentioned how there were literally years that he saw kiddo once a week on his day off, but he knew kiddo was being well taken care of, was doing good in school, & he could spend that day off all about kiddo. And that was because of me. He ended it with how he knew he couldn't have done the shit I do without some serious bitching about how boring it was & how it sucked to do it day in and day out. But I have never bitched about it. And he was very thankful that we both worked hard in our own ways to move forward & have a good life together. He's where he is now not just from his hard work, but from the hard work I did behind the scenes to make his life easier.
I could have cried. He's not one to say all that directly to me, but he made it very clear how much he appreciates what I do & that he wouldn't have changed anything. He likes having me at home and I love it. I was never a person who was going to blow up the world with my dreams & ambitions. I never realized where I really fit in until I became a SAHM. Now that kiddo doesn't need me & we're not too far from it being just hubby & I at home, he's still very supportive. He's been extremely supportive of my little soap business. He's helped me with it when I ask (set up at fairs & farmer's market) and thinks it's great that I found something I love to do & am still taking care of him. He's especially thankful over the past couple of months since his face plant fun. I've juggled my soap business, his dr's appts, therapy appts, & cooking for his liquid diet and managed to take a 5 day trip to Houston. I KNOW he appreciates all I do and I KNOW how lucky I am to be able to be a SAHW due to all his hard work. It works for us & has for almost 25 years.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 1, 2016 18:08:50 GMT -5
OT but how is your husband doing Steff? Did he follow doctor's directions like he was supposed to?
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Post by steff on Sept 1, 2016 18:22:48 GMT -5
OT but how is your husband doing Steff? Did he follow doctor's directions like he was supposed to? He's doing better. He got his braces & grill off yesterday & is on soft food for 2 weeks. He can have meatloaf! lol I only caught him cheating with food once or twice. But nothing too bad. He did lose 35 lbs so far. He does physical therapy twice a week for his shoulder. Hopefully it will help & he won't need surgery on that. He will probably have some numbness on the right side of his face forever from it & he will always look like he has the mumps. The jaw break actually changed the shape of his face.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Sept 3, 2016 12:06:18 GMT -5
OT but how is your husband doing Steff? Did he follow doctor's directions like he was supposed to? He's doing better. He got his braces & grill off yesterday & is on soft food for 2 weeks. He can have meatloaf! lol I only caught him cheating with food once or twice. But nothing too bad. He did lose 35 lbs so far. He does physical therapy twice a week for his shoulder. Hopefully it will help & he won't need surgery on that. He will probably have some numbness on the right side of his face forever from it & he will always look like he has the mumps. The jaw break actually changed the shape of his face. Wow, I have completely missed what happened, but I hope he is healing well
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Sept 3, 2016 13:58:19 GMT -5
He's doing better. He got his braces & grill off yesterday & is on soft food for 2 weeks. He can have meatloaf! lol I only caught him cheating with food once or twice. But nothing too bad. He did lose 35 lbs so far. He does physical therapy twice a week for his shoulder. Hopefully it will help & he won't need surgery on that. He will probably have some numbness on the right side of his face forever from it & he will always look like he has the mumps. The jaw break actually changed the shape of his face. Wow, I have completely missed what happened, but I hope he is healing well It's a thread on EE. Steff lives a far more interesting and exciting life than all of us combined, and she's sincerely not even trying to, LOL!!! She's going to need to write a best-selling memoir soon at the rate she's going!!
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Sept 3, 2016 15:10:59 GMT -5
Wow, I have completely missed what happened, but I hope he is healing well It's a thread on EE. Steff lives a far more interesting and exciting life than all of us combined, and she's sincerely not even trying to, LOL!!! She's going to need to write a best-selling memoir soon at the rate she's going!! Cliff notes version, please
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2016 15:35:35 GMT -5
Lots and lots of alcohol....
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Post by steff on Sept 3, 2016 17:08:54 GMT -5
It's a thread on EE. Steff lives a far more interesting and exciting life than all of us combined, and she's sincerely not even trying to, LOL!!! She's going to need to write a best-selling memoir soon at the rate she's going!! Cliff notes version, please 4th of July + Patron tequila and LOTS of beer = face plant in the street. Broken jaw (described as "catastrophic break" by his dr) and a dislocated shoulder.
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Post by steff on Sept 3, 2016 17:10:23 GMT -5
Wow, I have completely missed what happened, but I hope he is healing well It's a thread on EE. Steff lives a far more interesting and exciting life than all of us combined, and she's sincerely not even trying to, LOL!!! She's going to need to write a best-selling memoir soon at the rate she's going!! I'm just cruising thru life laughing at all the shit that goes on. One friends says we're a sitcom just waiting to happen. lol
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Post by steff on Sept 3, 2016 19:04:53 GMT -5
Wow, I have completely missed what happened, but I hope he is healing well It's a thread on EE. Steff lives a far more interesting and exciting life than all of us combined, and she's sincerely not even trying to, LOL!!! She's going to need to write a best-selling memoir soon at the rate she's going!! I was thinking about this and I think I was about 17 when I realized that my life is just not normal. It's not bad, but it's not normal. It's all sorts of weird, strange, and hysterical at times all while being fairly boring, nothing exciting, nothing special. But it was when I was 17 that my parents had an affair...with each other. lol My dad was married, my mom was divorced from the step monster. It was the first time I had been around my dad since I was 5. He was only around 6 months before he vanished again. But in that 6 months, my parents had an affair with each other. Like dated and shit. And it wasn't weird to me. lol I mean it was weird, but not freak me out weird. It was kinda funny in a really warped way. We were only a couple of years out of the step monster situation & after all that, my parents affair wasn't much to deal with. It didn't even make the top 10 most shocking moments of my life at that time. lol But it's probably the point that I just started rolling with it when it comes to the freaky shit that I've seen/gone thru.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 3, 2016 19:08:20 GMT -5
I was a SAHP for about five years. It came about because I lost my job for being pregnant. That was legal back in 1976 although I did qualify for unemployment. No one else wanted to hire a pregnant teacher either. I started graduate school to renew my teaching certificate when my younger child was three. I worked on-campus just enough to pay for child care. I worked part-time after that for the next seven years. Some of that time I had fellowships that didn't require I work at all. And some of that time I dropped out of graduate school at my husband's request to teach full-time. I would never have written him a thank-you note for "letting" me be a SAHP. We had our roles. He was the breadwinner. I was the housekeeper, childcare provider, etc. His clothes never went to the cleaners; I ironed them. When I tried to work full-time at his behest, I still had to do everything I did before. I didn't get my PhD for a variety of reasons, but one of them was the conflict we had about it. I'm guessing the last thirty years or so has improved those roles. Your husbands are now providing half he child-care, cleaning, etc. That doesn't happen at my adult kids' houses. My daughter works part-time. My son's wife is another SAHP. If it hasn't improved, you've gotten the wrong end of the stick. It wasn't that the 50s and 60s were so great. But women weren't expected to do it all. A commercial in the 1970s, I think, mentioned bringing home the bacon and frying it in the pan. Why should we be excited about doing it all? That just sounds exhausting to me. I do believe that women should be able to support themselves. That is why my daughter works part-time even though she has five kids. She keeps her credentials as a working pharmacist. The money is worth it. Just my two cents. Don't flame me too much.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Sept 3, 2016 22:07:07 GMT -5
It's a thread on EE. Steff lives a far more interesting and exciting life than all of us combined, and she's sincerely not even trying to, LOL!!! She's going to need to write a best-selling memoir soon at the rate she's going!! I was thinking about this and I think I was about 17 when I realized that my life is just not normal. It's not bad, but it's not normal. It's all sorts of weird, strange, and hysterical at times all while being fairly boring, nothing exciting, nothing special. But it was when I was 17 that my parents had an affair...with each other. lol My dad was married, my mom was divorced from the step monster. It was the first time I had been around my dad since I was 5. He was only around 6 months before he vanished again. But in that 6 months, my parents had an affair with each other. Like dated and shit. And it wasn't weird to me. lol I mean it was weird, but not freak me out weird. It was kinda funny in a really warped way. We were only a couple of years out of the step monster situation & after all that, my parents affair wasn't much to deal with. It didn't even make the top 10 most shocking moments of my life at that time. lol But it's probably the point that I just started rolling with it when it comes to the freaky shit that I've seen/gone thru. See, you seem so normal and well-adjusted to me. It's just this crazy cast surrounding you and all the crazy stuff that happens around you -- without YOU causing any of it -- that keeps us all on the edge of our seats waiting for the next episode, LOL. :-)
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