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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2016 15:18:14 GMT -5
The "boys" are 18 and 20. Why don't they just move out?
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Post by chen35 on Jul 26, 2016 15:23:45 GMT -5
Or back in with mom, if that's such an obvious better situation. Sounds like there is a lot more to the story.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2016 15:31:07 GMT -5
Or back in with mom, if that's such an obvious better situation. Sounds like there is a lot more to the story. Right. They can go wherever they want now. They're not bound by any court parenting time orders and it's not like they have nowhere to go if Mom is pulling her hair out wanting her kids out of there.
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Post by tloonya on Jul 26, 2016 15:50:59 GMT -5
The "boys" are 18 and 20. Why don't they just move out? Oldest going back to college. The youngest gives money to dad so he can't move.
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Post by lexxy703 on Jul 26, 2016 15:56:32 GMT -5
The "boys" are 18 and 20. Why don't they just move out? Oldest going back to college. The youngest gives money to dad so he can't move. That makes no sense. If he moves out he doesn't have to give his money to dad.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2016 15:57:25 GMT -5
The "boys" are 18 and 20. Why don't they just move out? Oldest going back to college. The youngest gives money to dad so he can't move. Are you seeing how this doesn't make sense? They are petrified and living in fear, but won't move in with Mom?
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Post by tloonya on Jul 26, 2016 18:17:52 GMT -5
Oldest going back to college. The youngest gives money to dad so he can't move. That makes no sense. If he moves out he doesn't have to give his money to dad. Do you know the difference between Youngest And Oldest?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2016 18:52:56 GMT -5
That makes no sense. If he moves out he doesn't have to give his money to dad. Do you know the difference between Youngest And Oldest? I'm pretty sure she does.. If YOUNGEST moves out and in with his mother instead of his Dad who is apparently taking all his money, then his Dad will no longer be able to take all his money. Younger son doesn't need money to move out. It's not like his Mom is going to charge him first and last months rent to move in. She's trying to save the kids right?
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Jul 27, 2016 10:17:22 GMT -5
It's not child abuse to not have their electronic toys. End of story. How about not taking her to any activities while under his care? No sports, no church...nothing!
Do you understand the word "abuse" ?
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Jul 27, 2016 10:22:16 GMT -5
As an actual victim of child abuse, I find your assertion that it's child abuse to not have a TV very insulting and demeaning. Maybe you could think about this a little more.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 27, 2016 11:16:32 GMT -5
As an actual victim of child abuse, I find your assertion that it's child abuse to not have a TV very insulting and demeaning. Maybe you could think about this a little more. You have high hopes.
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Post by justme on Jul 27, 2016 11:30:27 GMT -5
High apple pie in the sky hopes!
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Post by lexxy703 on Jul 27, 2016 11:48:46 GMT -5
That makes no sense. If he moves out he doesn't have to give his money to dad. Do you know the difference between Youngest And Oldest? I do but what does that have to do with moving out?
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Post by TheHaitian on Jul 27, 2016 11:55:27 GMT -5
So the older kids are miserable at dad?
You know what happened when I turned 18 and I was miserable at my dad's?
I told my mom I was moving in with her permanently and it has been 13 years since I set foot or have seen my biological dad.
So I doubt they would stay in a such shitty situation if they have a willing mom to take them in.
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Post by TheHaitian on Jul 27, 2016 11:56:53 GMT -5
And that is coming from someone that his mother has been trying to be the peacemaker for 13 years and forcing me to talk to him and begging me to go visit him.
Imagine if my mom was like that mother in the OP? I wouldn't even have any contact with my dad!
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Post by tloonya on Jul 27, 2016 12:46:58 GMT -5
How about not taking her to any activities while under his care? No sports, no church...nothing!
Do you understand the word "abuse" ? When you born in luxury of having everything and at 10 your world turned upside down by the person you believed loved you it is an abuse! Hurting your child to hurt her mother is an abuse! Poking with a knife without drawing blood same abusive as drawing blood. I am sure definition of abuse is wider than just how you see it.
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Post by tloonya on Jul 27, 2016 12:53:11 GMT -5
Do you know the difference between Youngest And Oldest? I do but what does that have to do with moving out? First of all it has nothing to do with boys but you got there somehow and second of all It has nothing to do with boys moving and third of all it had to do with girl. Under aged girl!!! No boys. No moving. Can we do that? Thank you.
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Post by tloonya on Jul 27, 2016 12:59:31 GMT -5
As an actual victim of child abuse, I find your assertion that it's child abuse to not have a TV very insulting and demeaning. Maybe you could think about this a little more. Insulting? Having child not to call her mother for a week! Sorry if I had insulted you. I think I need to look up definition of 'insult' 3 adult men picking on a child, she is showing neurotic behavior by inability to eat...is it Insulting to you?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2016 13:03:20 GMT -5
I do but what does that have to do with moving out? First of all it has nothing to do with boys but you got there somehow and second of all It has nothing to do with boys moving and third of all it had to do with girl. Under aged girl!!! No boys. No moving. Can we do that? Thank you. You're the one that brought up that the boys are terrified of their father and he takes all their money. If the girl is really being abused, the Mom should be talking to a lawyer. She can get an emergency custody order almost immediately (at least in our state) until it's sorted out.
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Post by tloonya on Jul 27, 2016 13:05:09 GMT -5
First of all it has nothing to do with boys but you got there somehow and second of all It has nothing to do with boys moving and third of all it had to do with girl. Under aged girl!!! No boys. No moving. Can we do that? Thank you. You're the one that brought up that the boys are terrified of their father and he takes all their money. If the girl is really being abused, the Mom should be talking to a lawyer. She can get an emergency custody order almost immediately (at least in our state) until it's sorted out. I was not the one who started mentioning boys. Someone dos and all attention went on boys.
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Post by hoops902 on Jul 27, 2016 13:07:30 GMT -5
You're the one that brought up that the boys are terrified of their father and he takes all their money. If the girl is really being abused, the Mom should be talking to a lawyer. She can get an emergency custody order almost immediately (at least in our state) until it's sorted out. I was not the one who started mentioning boys. Someone dos and all attention went on boys. That's because boys rule and girls drool!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2016 13:08:16 GMT -5
You're the one that brought up that the boys are terrified of their father and he takes all their money. If the girl is really being abused, the Mom should be talking to a lawyer. She can get an emergency custody order almost immediately (at least in our state) until it's sorted out. I was not the one who started mentioning boys. Someone dos and all attention went on boys. This is your post #149. The first mention of the boys.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2016 13:11:50 GMT -5
As an actual victim of child abuse, I find your assertion that it's child abuse to not have a TV very insulting and demeaning. Maybe you could think about this a little more. Insulting? Having child not to call her mother for a week! Sorry if I had insulted you. I think I need to look up definition of 'insult' 3 adult men picking on a child, she is showing neurotic behavior by inability to eat...is it Insulting to you? Again, is she doing anything besides getting you riled up about it? Has she hired an attorney, filed for temporary custody? Anything?
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Post by tloonya on Jul 27, 2016 13:18:49 GMT -5
I was not the one who started mentioning boys. Someone dos and all attention went on boys. This is your post #149. The first mention of the boys. You should have a mule instead of horse as an avatar! Mentioning boys didn't mean changing OP! I had mentioned them at post 1. But the post was about THE GIRL!!!
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Post by tloonya on Jul 27, 2016 13:22:01 GMT -5
Insulting? Having child not to call her mother for a week! Sorry if I had insulted you. I think I need to look up definition of 'insult' 3 adult men picking on a child, she is showing neurotic behavior by inability to eat...is it Insulting to you? Again, is she doing anything besides getting you riled up about it? Has she hired an attorney, filed for temporary custody? Anything? They have 50/50 custody and haven't got out of the court for 3 years! He is sabotaging every time he can. Like if they going somewhere he will bring her late or wouldn't wake her up. So to make trips or sport event missed.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2016 13:22:49 GMT -5
This is your post #149. The first mention of the boys. You should have a mule instead of horse as an avatar! Mentioning boys didn't mean changing OP! I had mentioned them at post 1. But the post was about THE GIRL!!! It's a conversation. And pulling info from you is impossible because YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW ANY! This is what some woman is telling you that her daughter is telling her. What kind of freaking advice do you want? Tell her to get a lawyer.
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Post by tloonya on Jul 27, 2016 13:26:05 GMT -5
You should have a mule instead of horse as an avatar! Mentioning boys didn't mean changing OP! I had mentioned them at post 1. But the post was about THE GIRL!!! It's a conversation. And pulling info from you is impossible because YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW ANY! This is what some woman is telling you that her daughter is telling her. What kind of freaking advice do you want? Tell her to get a lawyer. Thanks for assuming that highly intelligent woman needs to be told to get a lawyer! Bravo!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2016 13:27:24 GMT -5
It's a conversation. And pulling info from you is impossible because YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW ANY! This is what some woman is telling you that her daughter is telling her. What kind of freaking advice do you want? Tell her to get a lawyer. Thanks for assuming that highly intelligent woman needs to be told to get a lawyer! Bravo! So what is this "highly intelligent" woman asking you for advice for? You've never been divorced or dealt with custody issues.
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Post by justme on Jul 27, 2016 13:29:05 GMT -5
I question the intelligence of someone who cries abuse at lack of electronic entertainment.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jul 27, 2016 13:30:44 GMT -5
I question the intelligence of someone who cries abuse at lack of electronic entertainment. I don't need to question it - I already know the answer.
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