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Post by Deleted on Mar 27, 2016 21:13:47 GMT -5
Other than insecurity about one's appearance, I don't know why anyone would put themselves out there asking strangers if they are ugly. I further don't understand why any stranger would respond in a negative manner. Are these tweens and teens asking this question and responding? I would move onto a different internet site. I find character more attractive/appealing than superficial good looks. Looks fade. Character doesn't. I am pretty sure insecurity about one's appearance is the whole point of the subreddit. Strangers might respond in a negative way because the sub-reddit's value is based on the fact that some will give an honest answer to a question that is hard to get an honest answer to. That character is more appealing then looks does not negate the fact that many people care about and are insecure about their looks. When you worked in human resources did you ever have to tell someone a hard truth? Sometimes it helps to fix a problem just knowing for sure you have that problem. Or am I wrong? Telling someone that a different hairstyle would probably be more flattering or that grooming their eyebrows would improve their appearance is more helpful than just telling them they're ugly. That's the kind of honest opinions I would give if I were asked a question like that, because those things are easily changed.
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Post by Tennesseer on Mar 27, 2016 21:20:50 GMT -5
Other than insecurity about one's appearance, I don't know why anyone would put themselves out there asking strangers if they are ugly. I further don't understand why any stranger would respond in a negative manner. Are these tweens and teens asking this question and responding? I would move onto a different internet site. I find character more attractive/appealing than superficial good looks. Looks fade. Character doesn't. I am pretty sure insecurity about one's appearance is the whole point of the subreddit. Strangers might respond in a negative way because the sub-reddit's value is based on the fact that some will give an honest answer to a question that is hard to get an honest answer to. That character is more appealing then looks does not negate the fact that many people care about and are insecure about their looks. When you worked in human resources did you ever have to tell someone a hard truth? Sometimes it helps to fix a problem just knowing for sure you have that problem. Or am I wrong? I worked for a rather large company in the HR division. I occassionally spoke with employees and told them hard truths when it was work related. But the truths were something most employees already knew. I just reinforced it. If some manager's employee had an odor problem (for example), it was not up to me to tell the employee. It was up to the employee's manager or senior manager to tell the employee. I did not normally get involved in employee's lives. That was there manager's job.
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Post by giramomma on Mar 27, 2016 21:22:47 GMT -5
That character is more appealing then looks does not negate the fact that many people care about and are insecure about their looks. When you worked in human resources did you ever have to tell someone a hard truth? Sometimes it helps to fix a problem just knowing for sure you have that problem. Or am I wrong?If you know for sure you have a problem, then you don't need to post. I mean, shit, I'm morbidly obese. I know better than to ask my husband if I look fat. Or if any part of me looks fat in any particular outfit. If you are insecure about your looks, the issue is likely the insecurity, not the looks. And trying to make yourself a 10 doesn't mean you are suddenly going to feel secure with who you are. And truthfully, I don't want my kids to wrap up their self-esteem with their looks. I want them to feel good about themselves because they are good people hopefully doing something productive with their lives. Have you looked at the age of some of them...kids still in HS? Why are those kids being taught that they have a physical problem because they aren't dating someone? Last I checked, it was 2016, not 1950. And around here, my clients that are going to be movers and shakers in this world....They don't date in HS. Most of the people I know that have wildly successful careers don't date until they think "oh shit, I'd better start finding someone if I want to have a bio kid."
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Post by sesfw on Mar 27, 2016 21:50:57 GMT -5
But I'm still not asking anyone if I'm ugly, I have a mirror.
About the only time I look in a mirror is when I comb my hair. I've had enough people to tell me I'm unattractive so I don't need to ask. I keep myself clean and neat .......... that's about the best I can do. I hide behind my glasses, it's the people in front of me that get the shock ........... LOL
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Post by MJ2.0 on Mar 27, 2016 22:43:13 GMT -5
Same, except it took me until I hit 30 to really embrace my looks. Ma'am, I've seen your picture, far from ugly. What took you so long to actually see yourself? Sidenote to hickie.... if I thought mj was actually unattractive, I would have just liked her post and kept it moving because I try not to lie either. See how that works? lol I don't know.... maybe because I grew up in a very white area and was comparing myself to that standard of beauty: long hair, pale(r) clear skin, no glasses, thin. I was none of those things during my K-12 years, but I did thin out during high school (I never felt thin enough though). None of the guys seemed to really like me and I only had 1 boyfriend during that time in my life. Meeting X and being with him didn't particularly make me find myself attractive. I think by 30 I started really enjoying staying active and finding healthy snack and meal options. I also realized that while I could control my stomach area flab, my basic shape wouldn't change so I should just embrace it. It's weird - I'm Facebook friends with a good amount of grade school classmates and I'd say I've aged a lot better than a decent chunk of them... and I haven't gained more than 10 lbs over my HS weight. I've also had a few partners since I've been on my own, and none of them seem to notice any parts of me that I hate.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Mar 27, 2016 22:51:05 GMT -5
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Mar 28, 2016 0:17:17 GMT -5
No, I would never tell somebody they were ugly if asked. But I wouldn't lie and say they were beautiful or anything either. I'd point out there positive/attractive points though. OMG I was pretty ugly during certain phases of my life. Or so ugly I was kind of cute in a goofy/sad way. When we were going through some pictures after mom died (we made a video of her life) we came across one of my best moments and DH was like that's you?! I think I was about 6 years old and mom had my bangs cut way too short and crooked, I was missing a tooth, she had this hideous bow in my hair... and she had it blown up to this ridiculous huge size to show my lovely toothless/bow in hair look. I had forgotten about that picture so I took it out of the frame and tore it up and threw it away. He said "Yeah, you don't need to keep that one." LMAO! He said "Who'd have ever thought that would turn into you when you grew up." Anything would have been an improvement so it wasn't really a compliment. When I was about 9/10 years old my mom came to school to take me to the doctor and all my friends/classmates were like "Wow! Your mom is so beautiful!" and one kid pipes up and said "Yeah, what happened to you? How come you don't look like that?" I would have been smart enough to never have asked that question back then.
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Post by cronewitch on Mar 28, 2016 4:52:41 GMT -5
I wouldn't ever call anyone ugly if they are on the internet fishing for complement I would ignore them.
In real life I knew a girl who was 15 and I was 35 but we were friends at the apartment complex I we lived at and played pool every night. She asked my honest opinion of if she was beautiful, her mother said she was but she didn't believe it. She wasn't beautiful I carefully looked at her and as nicely as I could told her she wasn't want I would call beautiful. To me beautiful is tall with a face with a feature like high cheekbones that was striking. I told her she was a normal pretty girl the kind of looks that gets better every year and she would be a pretty woman with the good looks that will last. I think she appreciated my honest feedback since mothers tell every girl they are beautiful even those who are cute, or pretty or ugly not beautiful. When I was 18 I met a older woman who remarked in surprise meeting me "She is so plain" I wasn't offended she didn't call me ugly.
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Post by Regis on Mar 28, 2016 7:14:02 GMT -5
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Post by Miss Tequila on Mar 28, 2016 7:18:46 GMT -5
I haven't seen the site but I'm guessing the women on there (and probably mainly teenage girls) don't think they are ugly but have low self-esteem. They are posting their pictures to have people tell them how pretty they are.
I am a very nice person and would never tell someone that they were ugly because I would feel awful. however, those "look at me, tell me I'm pretty" attention whores annoy the shit out of me. I had to hide a few people on my FB because of the constant selfies looking for validation from me (and these were women in their 40s!). Someone like that I might actually tell them they aren't attractive...just for being annoying!lol
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Post by NoNamePerson on Mar 28, 2016 7:34:38 GMT -5
I can say in 73 years on this earth I have never had anyone ask me if they were ugly. Now they can just go to a web site and ask it. My how the times they are a changin'
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Post by Cookies Galore on Mar 28, 2016 8:21:15 GMT -5
I haven't seen the site but I'm guessing the women on there (and probably mainly teenage girls) don't think they are ugly but have low self-esteem. They are posting their pictures to have people tell them how pretty they are.
I am a very nice person and would never tell someone that they were ugly because I would feel awful. however, those "look at me, tell me I'm pretty" attention whores annoy the shit out of me. I had to hide a few people on my FB because of the constant selfies looking for validation from me (and these were women in their 40s!). Someone like that I might actually tell them they aren't attractive...just for being annoying!lol Just the first page is mostly young men, teenagers to early 20s. They're all unoffensive looking people, so I do agree it is a self-esteem issue. It actually made me really sad last night looking at the subreddit. I remember those late teen/early 20s years and having all these stupid insecurities about myself. I think (only from my experience!) that a lot of young women feel comfortable talking about their looks and bodies with friends, but it's not exactly something young men do when they get together. In a way, I guess asking strangers is a safe way to face those insecurities.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Mar 28, 2016 8:24:38 GMT -5
When I was a kid my mom would always tell me how beautiful I was. My grandma told her on more than one occasion to stop lying to the child.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Mar 28, 2016 8:30:28 GMT -5
I haven't seen the site but I'm guessing the women on there (and probably mainly teenage girls) don't think they are ugly but have low self-esteem. They are posting their pictures to have people tell them how pretty they are.
I am a very nice person and would never tell someone that they were ugly because I would feel awful. however, those "look at me, tell me I'm pretty" attention whores annoy the shit out of me. I had to hide a few people on my FB because of the constant selfies looking for validation from me (and these were women in their 40s!). Someone like that I might actually tell them they aren't attractive...just for being annoying!lol Just the first page is mostly young men, teenagers to early 20s. They're all unoffensive looking people, so I do agree it is a self-esteem issue. It actually made me really sad last night looking at the subreddit. I remember those late teen/early 20s years and having all these stupid insecurities about myself. I think (only from my experience!) that a lot of young women feel comfortable talking about their looks and bodies with friends, but it's not exactly something young men do when they get together. In a way, I guess asking strangers is a safe way to face those insecurities. Wow...I would not have expected it to be men. My experience is that it is the women who are insecure in their looks or the ones seeing validation from the opposite sex (I don't have a lot of men posting constant selfies on my FB but I do have several women (or did, I hid them because their blatant need for attention gets old quickly). Regardless of male/female, it is so sad that anyone would need validation from anyone.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Mar 28, 2016 8:36:59 GMT -5
When I was a kid my mom would always tell me how beautiful I was. My grandma told her on more than one occasion to stop lying to the child. OMG, please tell me your grandma didn't actually say that! Ack, that is awful!
I think most mothers really do think their daughters are beautiful. I look at my daughters and I think they are both beautiful. I can't imagine thinking otherwise no matter what. My oldest is now 17 but even during her "awkward phase" I thought she was beautiful. My youngest is still going through that awkward phase but yep, still beautiful.
My best friend from high school had a mom who was just awful. She constantly picked her apart. She wasn't skinny enough, if she would just wear her hair like so-and-so, if she would just lose weight, if she would just wear different clothes, etc. The mom never complimented her and just bashed her. She was an average looking girl...not gorgeous but certainly not ugly. The constant attacks by her mom really screwed with her self-esteem. After high school she ballooned up to an ungodly weight and as far as I know she never lost it. She had one loser boyfriend after another. And even though she was very smart she took a dead end job and never amounted to much. She hated her mom and it really did cloud everything in her life. As her bf at the time it broke my heart to see what her mom did to her. Now as a mom, I would love to travel back in time and bitch slap her mom.
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Post by Pants on Mar 28, 2016 8:55:45 GMT -5
When I was a kid my mom would always tell me how beautiful I was. My grandma told her on more than one occasion to stop lying to the child. OMG, please tell me your grandma didn't actually say that! Ack, that is awful!
I think most mothers really do think their daughters are beautiful. I look at my daughters and I think they are both beautiful. I can't imagine thinking otherwise no matter what. My oldest is now 17 but even during her "awkward phase" I thought she was beautiful. My youngest is still going through that awkward phase but yep, still beautiful.
My best friend from high school had a mom who was just awful. She constantly picked her apart. She wasn't skinny enough, if she would just wear her hair like so-and-so, if she would just lose weight, if she would just wear different clothes, etc. The mom never complimented her and just bashed her. She was an average looking girl...not gorgeous but certainly not ugly. The constant attacks by her mom really screwed with her self-esteem. After high school she ballooned up to an ungodly weight and as far as I know she never lost it. She had one loser boyfriend after another. And even though she was very smart she took a dead end job and never amounted to much. She hated her mom and it really did cloud everything in her life. As her bf at the time it broke my heart to see what her mom did to her. Now as a mom, I would love to travel back in time and bitch slap her mom.
See, I think my daughters are pretty average. Like, objectively. I love them millions and they are adorable, but they are not going to grow up to be models. And that is just fine! I often wonder if I'm the only one, though. My facebook feed is filled with unfortunate-looking children whose parents post photos with captions like "My little beauty!" Am possibly freak of nature, though. I found one cousin who was willing to admit the same about his kid.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Mar 28, 2016 8:59:10 GMT -5
No, hickle. I would not respond one way or the other. It takes more than a picture for me to determine someone's attractiveness. The most outwardly handsome man in the world can be ugly when his insides don't match his outsides. I couldn't tell from a picture. I'm guessing I just wouldn't respond to a request like that, but I'm sure I would never tell someone they were ugly.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Mar 28, 2016 9:00:22 GMT -5
OMG, please tell me your grandma didn't actually say that! Ack, that is awful!
I think most mothers really do think their daughters are beautiful. I look at my daughters and I think they are both beautiful. I can't imagine thinking otherwise no matter what. My oldest is now 17 but even during her "awkward phase" I thought she was beautiful. My youngest is still going through that awkward phase but yep, still beautiful.
My best friend from high school had a mom who was just awful. She constantly picked her apart. She wasn't skinny enough, if she would just wear her hair like so-and-so, if she would just lose weight, if she would just wear different clothes, etc. The mom never complimented her and just bashed her. She was an average looking girl...not gorgeous but certainly not ugly. The constant attacks by her mom really screwed with her self-esteem. After high school she ballooned up to an ungodly weight and as far as I know she never lost it. She had one loser boyfriend after another. And even though she was very smart she took a dead end job and never amounted to much. She hated her mom and it really did cloud everything in her life. As her bf at the time it broke my heart to see what her mom did to her. Now as a mom, I would love to travel back in time and bitch slap her mom.
See, I think my daughters are pretty average. Like, objectively. I love them millions and they are adorable, but they are not going to grow up to be models. And that is just fine! I often wonder if I'm the only one, though. My facebook feed is filled with unfortunate-looking children whose parents post photos with captions like "My little beauty!" Am possibly freak of nature, though. I found one cousin who was willing to admit the same about his kid. Well, maybe my kids just really are beautiful
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Post by Miss Tequila on Mar 28, 2016 9:04:47 GMT -5
No, hickle. I would not respond one way or the other. It takes more than a picture for me to determine someone's attractiveness. The most outwardly handsome man in the world can be ugly when his insides don't match his outsides. I couldn't tell from a picture. I'm guessing I just wouldn't respond to a request like that, but I'm sure I would never tell someone they were ugly. I think this is something that you learn as you mature. My ex is 46 years old and is obsessed with staying in shape (like OBSESSED) and is a good looking guy. Sadly his insides are ugly.
Dating at 44 is so much different than dating at 16 (which is how old I was the last time I dated someone besides my ex...up until this last year). There needs to be a physical attraction obviously, but I care much more about how the guy treats me than if I can see his abs when he takes his shirt off...because when someone is on their death bed, I'm pretty sure they are going to think "if only I spent more time exercising"....
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Mar 28, 2016 9:07:53 GMT -5
No, hickle. I would not respond one way or the other. It takes more than a picture for me to determine someone's attractiveness. The most outwardly handsome man in the world can be ugly when his insides don't match his outsides. I couldn't tell from a picture. I'm guessing I just wouldn't respond to a request like that, but I'm sure I would never tell someone they were ugly. I think this is something that you learn as you mature. My ex is 46 years old and is obsessed with staying in shape (like OBSESSED) and is a good looking guy. Sadly his insides are ugly.
Dating at 44 is so much different than dating at 16 (which is how old I was the last time I dated someone besides my ex...up until this last year). There needs to be a physical attraction obviously, but I care much more about how the guy treats me than if I can see his abs when he takes his shirt off...because when someone is on their death bed, I'm pretty sure they are going to think "if only I spent more time exercising"....
I absolutely agree. I think we learn to look more deeply as we get older and realize a great butt is not the key to good relationship. Obviously, if they have great outsides and great insides, that's a plus! I'll take great insides any day if I have to choose one or the other.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Mar 28, 2016 9:09:14 GMT -5
I think this is something that you learn as you mature. My ex is 46 years old and is obsessed with staying in shape (like OBSESSED) and is a good looking guy. Sadly his insides are ugly.
Dating at 44 is so much different than dating at 16 (which is how old I was the last time I dated someone besides my ex...up until this last year). There needs to be a physical attraction obviously, but I care much more about how the guy treats me than if I can see his abs when he takes his shirt off...because when someone is on their death bed, I'm pretty sure they are going to think "if only I spent more time exercising"....
I absolutely agree. I think we learn to look more deeply as we get older and realize a great butt is not the key to good relationship. Obviously, if they have great outsides and great insides, that's a plus! I'll take great insides any day if I have to choose one or the other. lol! I agree to a point...but I'm so afraid of shallow assholes (spent 26 years with one) so I don't want someone with that great of outsides...lol
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Mar 28, 2016 9:12:56 GMT -5
I absolutely agree. I think we learn to look more deeply as we get older and realize a great butt is not the key to good relationship. Obviously, if they have great outsides and great insides, that's a plus! I'll take great insides any day if I have to choose one or the other. lol! I agree to a point...but I'm so afraid of shallow assholes (spent 26 years with one) so I don't want someone with that great of outsides...lol I'm with you on that. My ex was outstandingly handsome on the outside. His insides were ugly. Thing is, I knew it. Nobody to blame but myself. I can promise I'll never make that mistake again. Give me an Average Joe any day (well...someday).
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Post by giramomma on Mar 28, 2016 9:13:55 GMT -5
See, I think my daughters are pretty average. Like, objectively. I love them millions and they are adorable, but they are not going to grow up to be models. And that is just fine! I often wonder if I'm the only one, though. My facebook feed is filled with unfortunate-looking children whose parents post photos with captions like "My little beauty!" Am possibly freak of nature, though. I found one cousin who was willing to admit the same about his kid. No. Not a freak of nature. I'm very proud that I have average kids. They are of average intelligence, average looks..and have average athletic skills. I think it really takes the pressure off of me as a parent, actually. No worries about making sure they have the "best" of everything. They don't need it. None of my kids are Bill Gates, The Model De Jour, or Prince Fielder (hitting home runs out of a major league stadium at age 13). I think too many parents sip the Lake Wobegon Kool-aide, honestly. From wikipedia "The Lake Wobegon effect, a natural human tendency to overestimate one's capabilities, was coined by Professor David G Myers in honour of the town.[8] The characterization of the fictional location, where "all the women are strong, all the men are good looking, and all the children are above average," has been used to describe a real and pervasive human tendency to overestimate one's achievements and capabilities in relation to others. " en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lake_Wobegon
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Post by MJ2.0 on Mar 28, 2016 9:37:32 GMT -5
My son is gorgeous... Well certain pictures of him aren't super flattering, but he is way cuter than average. Especially was as a baby. And I've had other people tell me that as well, so it's not just Mommy Goggles!
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Mar 28, 2016 9:38:35 GMT -5
When I was a kid my mom would always tell me how beautiful I was. My grandma told her on more than one occasion to stop lying to the child. OMG, please tell me your grandma didn't actually say that! Ack, that is awful!
I think most mothers really do think their daughters are beautiful. I look at my daughters and I think they are both beautiful. I can't imagine thinking otherwise no matter what. My oldest is now 17 but even during her "awkward phase" I thought she was beautiful. My youngest is still going through that awkward phase but yep, still beautiful.
My best friend from high school had a mom who was just awful. She constantly picked her apart. She wasn't skinny enough, if she would just wear her hair like so-and-so, if she would just lose weight, if she would just wear different clothes, etc. The mom never complimented her and just bashed her. She was an average looking girl...not gorgeous but certainly not ugly. The constant attacks by her mom really screwed with her self-esteem. After high school she ballooned up to an ungodly weight and as far as I know she never lost it. She had one loser boyfriend after another. And even though she was very smart she took a dead end job and never amounted to much. She hated her mom and it really did cloud everything in her life. As her bf at the time it broke my heart to see what her mom did to her. Now as a mom, I would love to travel back in time and bitch slap her mom.
Oh yeah she did. But it never bothered me, I thought it was funny. Clearly, lack of self esteem has never been an issue for me. And she was an amazing woman who I loved very much. She was just as blunt as can be.
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Post by swamp on Mar 28, 2016 9:41:17 GMT -5
OMG, please tell me your grandma didn't actually say that! Ack, that is awful!
I think most mothers really do think their daughters are beautiful. I look at my daughters and I think they are both beautiful. I can't imagine thinking otherwise no matter what. My oldest is now 17 but even during her "awkward phase" I thought she was beautiful. My youngest is still going through that awkward phase but yep, still beautiful.
My best friend from high school had a mom who was just awful. She constantly picked her apart. She wasn't skinny enough, if she would just wear her hair like so-and-so, if she would just lose weight, if she would just wear different clothes, etc. The mom never complimented her and just bashed her. She was an average looking girl...not gorgeous but certainly not ugly. The constant attacks by her mom really screwed with her self-esteem. After high school she ballooned up to an ungodly weight and as far as I know she never lost it. She had one loser boyfriend after another. And even though she was very smart she took a dead end job and never amounted to much. She hated her mom and it really did cloud everything in her life. As her bf at the time it broke my heart to see what her mom did to her. Now as a mom, I would love to travel back in time and bitch slap her mom.
See, I think my daughters are pretty average. Like, objectively. I love them millions and they are adorable, but they are not going to grow up to be models. And that is just fine! I often wonder if I'm the only one, though. My facebook feed is filled with unfortunate-looking children whose parents post photos with captions like "My little beauty!" Am possibly freak of nature, though. I found one cousin who was willing to admit the same about his kid.
There is one person on my FB feeds who has posted pics of her teen daughter multiple times and noting how beautiful she is. All I can think is, "um, no, she's got your squinty eyes and her dad's big nose."
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Post by Miss Tequila on Mar 28, 2016 9:41:19 GMT -5
My son is gorgeous... Well certain pictures of him aren't super flattering, but he is way cuter than average. Especially was as a baby. And I've had other people tell me that as well, so it's not just Mommy Goggles! He is totally adorable!
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swamp
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THEY’RE EATING THE DOGS!!!!!!!
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Post by swamp on Mar 28, 2016 9:42:30 GMT -5
My son is gorgeous... Well certain pictures of him aren't super flattering, but he is way cuter than average. Especially was as a baby. And I've had other people tell me that as well, so it's not just Mommy Goggles! Yes, your son is beautiful. Like model good looking.
I think my kids are cute, but realize they will not win beauty contests.
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MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Mar 28, 2016 9:46:46 GMT -5
My son is gorgeous... Well certain pictures of him aren't super flattering, but he is way cuter than average. Especially was as a baby. And I've had other people tell me that as well, so it's not just Mommy Goggles! Yes, your son is beautiful. Like model good looking.
I think my kids are cute, but realize they will not win beauty contests.
Your kids are cute and always look so happy. That's what I really notice about your kids. And idk how the heck my kiddo got so cute - neither of us are even remotely close to being model material, lol!
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Miss Tequila
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Post by Miss Tequila on Mar 28, 2016 9:47:37 GMT -5
See, I think my daughters are pretty average. Like, objectively. I love them millions and they are adorable, but they are not going to grow up to be models. And that is just fine! I often wonder if I'm the only one, though. My facebook feed is filled with unfortunate-looking children whose parents post photos with captions like "My little beauty!" Am possibly freak of nature, though. I found one cousin who was willing to admit the same about his kid.
There is one person on my FB feeds who has posted pics of her teen daughter multiple times and noting how beautiful she is. All I can think is, "um, no, she's got your squinty eyes and her dad's big nose."
Aww, but to her mom she is beautiful!
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