zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 16, 2016 9:17:40 GMT -5
True. I know DH would want me to be happy. Rat fink ought to still be here if he wanted my happiness so much.
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Plain Old Petunia
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Post by Plain Old Petunia on Jan 16, 2016 14:05:26 GMT -5
Well, this took an interesting turn.
We married because we'd had a child six months after graduating from high school. My mother convinced me that no one else would ever be interested in me. Since I was already embarrassing her, I should get married to make it at least a little better. My father knew I would not be happy. I still don't have much self-esteem.
I knew I shouldn't have married him on our wedding day. I liked him, but I never loved him. I have told him and others that the actual wedding and divorce were my fault. The state of the marriage were both of our faults. He didn't want a wife; he wanted a mother/housekeeper/manager. He also didn't/doesn't want to work very much. I wasn't used to living in poverty, and I didn't like it. The was juxtaposed with my intense desire to stay home with my children. He lived and continues to live in a constant state of selfishness. He's nice but everything must be about him and what he wants. He is not interested in our children other than having them fawn over him; they grew weary of that role. At some point, I really grew to dislike him and hate myself. At that point, I was incredibly rude to him all the time. It was an impossible situation. Chloe, that is very sad. You are fabulous. You must learn to love yourself.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 16, 2016 17:27:35 GMT -5
I'm off of work, done with errands, a volunteer half hour, and am waiting for DD#2 to finish up dance class. I finally have a moment to add that I was quite defensive about what I interpreted as an interrogation from Greg. Last night I had included a paragraph about that, but I deleted it before I posted what I did post. I'm fairly tired this week, and I decided I must be extra over sensitive to feel so belittled. I'm glad I wasn't so off base and I appreciate those of you who stuck up for me. LOL we were all sticking up for ourselves. You aren't the only divorced person on the board. I love greg to death but deep down he really does think he made all the right choices and did all the right things to make his marriage a success and the rest of us could do the same if we really wanted to. There's a reason his wife has a rolling pin and sometimes we need to borrow it. OMG. laterbloomer, that is so Southern that I had to laugh. It's the equivalent of "Bless his heart." Opti, take notes. This is how you use it.
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