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Post by moon/Laura on May 14, 2015 5:21:34 GMT -5
I really need to turn in my woman card. This thread is making me realize I have about 1000th of the interest in clothing as y'all. Seriously. I'm astounded at the debates. This is me, totally. Hence, my having to ask if i could possibly get away with something other than a dress/skirt for my son's wedding. add hose and something other than a flat and you have a miserable moonbeam. i have bad feet and don't wear anything over about an inch as far as a heel goes. That just makes it that much more of a challenge because i'm sure that those would be so frumpy to most here..lol.
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Post by yogiii on May 14, 2015 5:57:11 GMT -5
I really need to turn in my woman card. This thread is making me realize I have about 1000th of the interest in clothing as y'all. Seriously. I'm astounded at the debates. I'm sure there are a lot of people here who don't care much about clothes, they just aren't creating posts asking if wearing the same 5 outfits to work every week (guilty!) is ok
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Post by zibazinski on May 14, 2015 6:24:43 GMT -5
As a guest, wearing something very nice is fine. As mom of bride or groom, need to step it up. Due to the concern with DH's health, I'm probably stuck attending the wedding from hell. Trying to find out the colors of bride and groom's mothers dresses is like pulling teeth bcuz they don't want me there. Me neither frankly.
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Post by milee on May 14, 2015 6:50:10 GMT -5
Trying to find out the colors of bride and groom's mothers dresses is like pulling teeth I didn't know the colors of the bride and groom's mothers dresses needed to be coordinated? (Not at all arguing, just had never heard that one.)
But I'm never going to be accused of being a fashionista, either, so there's a lot I don't know about clothes.
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Post by Deleted on May 14, 2015 6:54:43 GMT -5
Trying to find out the colors of bride and groom's mothers dresses is like pulling teeth I didn't know the colors of the bride and groom's mothers dresses needed to be coordinated? (Not at all arguing, just had never heard that one.)
But I'm never going to be accused of being a fashionista, either, so there's a lot I don't know about clothes.
Yes, bride's mom gets first choice.
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Post by yogiii on May 14, 2015 6:55:17 GMT -5
Trying to find out the colors of bride and groom's mothers dresses is like pulling teeth I didn't know the colors of the bride and groom's mothers dresses needed to be coordinated? (Not at all arguing, just had never heard that one.)
But I'm never going to be accused of being a fashionista, either, so there's a lot I don't know about clothes.
It's so everyone blends in nice for the pictures
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Post by milee on May 14, 2015 7:01:04 GMT -5
OK, gotcha. Makes sense. So if the other parties aren't disclosing what they're wearing and the purpose is to make sure everybody blends in well, you could just be safe and stick with a neutral type color like navy (white's a no-no and I know people do it but I don't like to wear black to weddings) and be OK, then?
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Post by yogiii on May 14, 2015 7:03:30 GMT -5
Or go with a Hawaiian shirt print and say "well no one would answer me about colors "
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Post by milee on May 14, 2015 7:19:59 GMT -5
Or go with a Hawaiian shirt print and say "well no one would answer me about colors " A wee bit passive aggressive, but at least you'll look good in the pictures. I forgot what the explanation was, but an artist once explained to me why clothes with a large print (not small, busy print) on a dark background photographed well.
Then again, seems like a lot of this would be moot in Zib's case since she's a brand new step mom to the bride. Regardless of how close/distant they are, it's not really appropriate to insert her into a lot of the formal pictures anyway. Of course she'll be in some of the big family ones and will be in the pictures of the general wedding, though, so electric neon zebra print wouldn't be a good idea...
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Post by yogiii on May 14, 2015 7:24:33 GMT -5
It's not what I'd do, I don't need everyone staring at me wondering why the crazy lady wore a loud print, but that's just me. Your navy blue suggestion is the way to go ... and you think you aren't fashionable!
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Post by Deleted on May 14, 2015 7:36:46 GMT -5
I did wear a navy blue dress to my son's wedding. I think my daughter-in-law told me to wear whatever I thought went well with a cranberry color. That was the color of the bridesmaid's dresses and her mom's outfit. No, her mom didn't look like a bridesmaid. "I" got to pick first for my daughter's wedding. What that meant was my daughter got to pick.
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Post by zibazinski on May 14, 2015 8:14:30 GMT -5
I'm sure they'll manage to keep me out of pictures, which is fine, it's not my day, but the last thing I need is to wear the same color as the EX. Oh, boy.
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Post by Virgil Showlion on May 14, 2015 8:27:18 GMT -5
Am I the only one who keeps reading the thread title as "I DID wear my birthday suit to a wedding. Deal with it."? 'Deal with it' indeed.
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Post by zibazinski on May 14, 2015 8:32:03 GMT -5
Good plan, thank you.
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Post by Deleted on May 14, 2015 8:34:48 GMT -5
I really need to turn in my woman card. This thread is making me realize I have about 1000th of the interest in clothing as y'all. Seriously. I'm astounded at the debates. I'll be there with you! I just can't get excited about what's new, especially when many of the things they're pushing look crappy on older women. And don't get me started on some of the colors that are "in" that would make me look jaundiced. I think that's why I buy things that are flattering and keep them forever instead of trying to go through the stores every season and find things that are current and flattering. I'd rather spend the money on travel.
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Post by Cookies Galore on May 14, 2015 8:35:50 GMT -5
My stepmom ended up buying her dress first because she didn't want to wait (and we're similar in that we don't like wasting time waiting for others). Fine, but she claimed navy to the death. Like, I will cut a bitch if you wear navy. I don't think anyone cared as much as she did so i just did a mental quietly backing out of the room. Dress color/who buys first wasn't worth a fight to the death when there were do many other things to fight about. My mom found an eggplant-colored dress and my MIL wore a white on top black on bottom dress. There were no huge multi-family photos so I didn't care who wore what color. Though I secretly think my mom looked frumpy because she didn't get her dress altered (bought a size up).
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Post by Lizard Queen on May 14, 2015 8:44:16 GMT -5
I really didn't care if my mom, MIL and sMIL all wore the same color or not, and if that color matched the bridal party. But my MIL chose a dress with a spotted print design and shaped like a sack. This woman is tall and thin and would probably look great in almost anything, but not in that. Not one of them asked for my input besides sMIL checking with me if it were okay if she wore a black dress. I guess so (not my favorite for a spring wedding, but whatever).
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Post by MJ2.0 on May 14, 2015 8:47:09 GMT -5
I really need to turn in my woman card. This thread is making me realize I have about 1000th of the interest in clothing as y'all. Seriously. I'm astounded at the debates. I'll be there with you! I just can't get excited about what's new, especially when many of the things they're pushing look crappy on older women. And don't get me started on some of the colors that are "in" that would make me look jaundiced. I think that's why I buy things that are flattering and keep them forever instead of trying to go through the stores every season and find things that are current and flattering. I'd rather spend the money on travel. there have got to be current things that would make you look fab in colors that are flattering to your skin tone. I don't buy all the trendy things either because what seems to be in style right now is to look like a rich hobo from the 80s. IMO that style only looks really good on rail thin teens and 20-something girls, and I am NOT rail thin. It has gotten a teensy bit harder to find trendy and flattering clothing for my shape/age, but it's definitely out there. I'm not saying spend more $ on that than travel, but at least put in a good faith effort.
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Post by The Captain on May 14, 2015 9:10:40 GMT -5
(Looks down at black pants, cream colored top, and black and white swing jacket and slinks off to corner) ?? linkIt's not a print, the fabric is textured and looks much sharper (at least IMHO ) in person. I have received several compliments on it, really I have! Except for the top being pleated and cream colored, yea - the outfit the model has on was pretty much me yesterday. The reviewer called it flimsy, but to me it's more breathable and since I'm hot blooded anyway... I do have a jacket that's kinda close to the one you pictured above. It's a few years old though, so I can't find a picture.
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Post by zibazinski on May 14, 2015 9:12:01 GMT -5
I saw even better dresses. I'm not a fan of black to a wedding. What a great website, thank you!
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Post by moon/Laura on May 14, 2015 9:30:30 GMT -5
As a guest, wearing something very nice is fine. As mom of bride or groom, need to step it up. Due to the concern with DH's health, I'm probably stuck attending the wedding from hell. Trying to find out the colors of bride and groom's mothers dresses is like pulling teeth bcuz they don't want me there. Me neither frankly. see, I don't really consider myself to be the "mother of the groom". I am, through biology. But his mom is the one who adopted and raised him. So, to my way of thinking, I'm more a regular guest. Their colors are coral and gray. I'll find something that doesn't look horrible alongside it, and that coordinates with his mom, because I *may* be in pictures. But probably not.
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Post by zibazinski on May 14, 2015 9:34:39 GMT -5
This is one for an etiquette guru. I seriously have no clue. I'm the evil stepmother. Bio just about fainted when she realized she actually has a stepbrother and stepsister! Like my kids care anymore than I do but it was funny to see that thought never occurred to her. DH is actually a stepfather again as well.
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Post by chiver78 on May 14, 2015 9:46:37 GMT -5
I got it on clearance for less than $20 at JCPenney. LOVE JCP for dresses! I stopped in a couple weeks ago to pick up something for next weekend's rehearsal dinner. I found three I really liked, and couldn't decide so I bought them all. I'm going to take all three with me and decide that day, then return the other two. I have a feeling it's going to end up being this one with these shoes: Attachments:
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Post by Cookies Galore on May 14, 2015 9:55:57 GMT -5
As a guest, wearing something very nice is fine. As mom of bride or groom, need to step it up. Due to the concern with DH's health, I'm probably stuck attending the wedding from hell. Trying to find out the colors of bride and groom's mothers dresses is like pulling teeth bcuz they don't want me there. Me neither frankly. see, I don't really consider myself to be the "mother of the groom". I am, through biology. But his mom is the one who adopted and raised him. So, to my way of thinking, I'm more a regular guest. Their colors are coral and gray. I'll find something that doesn't look horrible alongside it, and that coordinates with his mom, because I *may* be in pictures. But probably not. I think nice, dressy pants and a better blouse is fine. I can think of many weddings where guests have worn pants and a sparkly blouse. There are nice two-piece outfits that look good.
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Post by Lizard Queen on May 14, 2015 10:04:23 GMT -5
When I was a smaller size, I got all kinds of great deals on Clearance dresses at JCP.
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Post by Ryan on May 14, 2015 10:05:37 GMT -5
Wearing a business suit to a wedding is a little odd. It's kinda like a guy wearing anything less than a suit or, at least, a shirt/tie.
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Post by Deleted on May 14, 2015 10:09:30 GMT -5
My stepmom ended up buying her dress first because she didn't want to wait (and we're similar in that we don't like wasting time waiting for others). Fine, but she claimed navy to the death. Like, I will cut a bitch if you wear navy. Wow. Some people need to get a life.
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Post by MJ2.0 on May 14, 2015 10:09:43 GMT -5
and that's coming from a straight man!
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Post by Cookies Galore on May 14, 2015 10:20:46 GMT -5
My stepmom ended up buying her dress first because she didn't want to wait (and we're similar in that we don't like wasting time waiting for others). Fine, but she claimed navy to the death. Like, I will cut a bitch if you wear navy. Wow. Some people need to get a life. No. Just no. I like my stepmom, she just had her own ideas her dress color.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 14, 2015 10:22:41 GMT -5
Their colors are coral and gray. I'll find something that doesn't look horrible alongside it, and that coordinates with his mom, because I *may* be in pictures. But probably not.
I wouldn't worry too much about coordinating with the mom, as long as you don't look like twins or horribly clash you'll be fine.
My MIL drove me crazy b/c she kept wanting to know what my mom was wearing so she could coordinate. My mom was having a horrible time finding something that didn't scream "frump" or "dynasty" when it came to MOB dress selections.
I finally told MIL wear whatever you want to wear! I didn't have "colors" for my wedding I could have cared less and my mom sure didn't care about whether or not she and MIL matched.
That being said don't do what my paternal grandma did at my parents wedding. She wore a white dress that almost exactly matched my mom's wedding dress.
She didn't do it on purpose, she was totally unaware that it was a fashion faux paus. My parents took it in stride and just rearranged the receiving line so my mom and grandma weren't standing side by side.
My maternal grandmother was fuming over it, my mom had to take her aside and tell her to shut up, you don't go after my husband's mother for her dress choice.
Someone must have clued her in b/c she wore black to my wedding.
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