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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 30, 2015 14:44:26 GMT -5
I will admit I had a moment where I thought it would be fun to watch him squirm by placing a call to the plumbing company for an estimate (hey I really am looking at upgrading the bathroom) and requesting that he be the tech to come out. He went on and on about how much he hated doing estimates because there were no billable hours in them for him so he only got paid his hourly base rate. I giggled in my head for a couple minutes then moved on because I am an adult and recognize that it wouldn't be good behavior. Good lord...don't do that! If you really wanted to irritate him I would have people I knew call and ask him to provide estimates just to waste his time (I HAVE said I was spiteful!lol)..but to have him come to your house would either make him think you were a stalker or that you were pining away for him...one thing I refuse to give any man is an even BIGGER ego!
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Post by t-dog on Jan 30, 2015 14:55:48 GMT -5
And that is why I moved on from the thought Miss. T. Its just not in me to be downright mean. I outgrew my spiteful teenage girl years ago, but every now and then she pops up momentarily.
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Post by swamp on Jan 30, 2015 15:02:09 GMT -5
It's fun to humor the spiteful teenage psycho, but you can't let her out.
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Post by Angel! on Jan 30, 2015 15:11:35 GMT -5
I'm sorry, but I thinking dating for a year before introducing your kids is ridiculous.... Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, you don't have to agree with mine. I don't think it is fair to have several different people paraded through a kid's life for them to potentially bond with, and then lose when it doesn't work out. I also think this protects the other party, as they aren't put in a situation where they are staying with you because they care for the kids. I think if a relationship is going to work or not, you'll be able to tell within a year. I also think it is possible to ascertain what kind of parent a person is/what kind of kids they have without directly meeting them. I don't have to meet someone's kids to know if they put their children first in their lives, which is the way it is supposed to be. It takes you a year? Maybe I'm odd, but all of my relationships have either lasted less than 4 months or more than 5 years.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2015 15:14:23 GMT -5
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, you don't have to agree with mine. I don't think it is fair to have several different people paraded through a kid's life for them to potentially bond with, and then lose when it doesn't work out. I also think this protects the other party, as they aren't put in a situation where they are staying with you because they care for the kids. I think if a relationship is going to work or not, you'll be able to tell within a year. I also think it is possible to ascertain what kind of parent a person is/what kind of kids they have without directly meeting them. I don't have to meet someone's kids to know if they put their children first in their lives, which is the way it is supposed to be. It takes you a year? Maybe I'm odd, but all of my relationships have either lasted less than 4 months or more than 5 years. I can tell within 15 minutes if I want a second date....and within a few dates if it has the possibility to go anywhere
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jan 30, 2015 15:17:01 GMT -5
I will admit I had a moment where I thought it would be fun to watch him squirm by placing a call to the plumbing company for an estimate (hey I really am looking at upgrading the bathroom) and requesting that he be the tech to come out. He went on and on about how much he hated doing estimates because there were no billable hours in them for him so he only got paid his hourly base rate. I giggled in my head for a couple minutes then moved on because I am an adult and recognize that it wouldn't be good behavior. Good lord...don't do that! If you really wanted to irritate him I would have people I knew call and ask him to provide estimates just to waste his time (I HAVE said I was spiteful!lol)..but to have him come to your house would either make him think you were a stalker or that you were pining away for him...one thing I refuse to give any man is an even BIGGER ego! Start recommending him to everyone, HIM specifically. Oh, Joe was just soooo helpful, make sure you ask for him!
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Post by t-dog on Jan 30, 2015 15:31:15 GMT -5
LOL Chocolate Lover - OK maybe the spiteful teenager in me will giggle a bit longer on the subject. I know I won't do it, but it would sure be fun.
Angel!! - interesting you used 4 months as the low end - this fizzled at just about 4 months.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Jan 30, 2015 15:36:26 GMT -5
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, you don't have to agree with mine. I don't think it is fair to have several different people paraded through a kid's life for them to potentially bond with, and then lose when it doesn't work out. I also think this protects the other party, as they aren't put in a situation where they are staying with you because they care for the kids. I think if a relationship is going to work or not, you'll be able to tell within a year. I also think it is possible to ascertain what kind of parent a person is/what kind of kids they have without directly meeting them. I don't have to meet someone's kids to know if they put their children first in their lives, which is the way it is supposed to be. It takes you a year? Maybe I'm odd, but all of my relationships have either lasted less than 4 months or more than 5 years. Yeah, I knew within 6 weeks with DH. With my only other real serious relationship, I let it drag on a lot longer, but i knew after 2 months it wasn't going anywhere. Actually we broke up after 3 months and then got back together because uh ..... well, you know. Not that I've really dated extensively.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jan 30, 2015 15:45:15 GMT -5
LOL Chocolate Lover - OK maybe the spiteful teenager in me will giggle a bit longer on the subject. I know I won't do it, but it would sure be fun.
Angel!! - interesting you used 4 months as the low end - this fizzled at just about 4 months. I've entertained all sorts of spiteful thoughts and have yet to act on any. Ok, maybe not in the last 20 years? IDK, but it's been a while. Sure is fun to come up with stuff to do sometimes though.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 30, 2015 15:47:29 GMT -5
And that is why I moved on from the thought Miss. T. Its just not in me to be downright mean. I outgrew my spiteful teenage girl years ago, but every now and then she pops up momentarily. Err...I was just kidding...right...totally kidding
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Post by t-dog on Jan 30, 2015 17:37:38 GMT -5
Amen!!!!
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Post by beergut on Jan 31, 2015 4:23:28 GMT -5
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, you don't have to agree with mine. I don't think it is fair to have several different people paraded through a kid's life for them to potentially bond with, and then lose when it doesn't work out. I also think this protects the other party, as they aren't put in a situation where they are staying with you because they care for the kids. I think if a relationship is going to work or not, you'll be able to tell within a year. I also think it is possible to ascertain what kind of parent a person is/what kind of kids they have without directly meeting them. I don't have to meet someone's kids to know if they put their children first in their lives, which is the way it is supposed to be. It takes you a year? Maybe I'm odd, but all of my relationships have either lasted less than 4 months or more than 5 years. If I'm serious about someone, I think they have to see me at both my best and my worst, so they see the whole package. Basically, they have to make it through a whole college football season (and off-season) with me, because that is the easiest way to cover the gamut of emotions.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 31, 2015 9:21:32 GMT -5
Well, for some people it does. I was juggling two kids and their activities, a job, a house, part time night school and then a part time job. I basically maybe saw him once a week, twice if the stars aligned. After we decided we were going to simply date only each other, we saw each other more often. But after what we both went through, neither of us were ready to get serious too fast. I dumped a few guys that moved too fast. Even when you tell guys you want to take it slow and even why you do, they can still not take you seriously. I was already tired of not being heard so that was a huge red flag to me.
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Post by beergut on Feb 2, 2015 0:18:24 GMT -5
It's fun to humor the spiteful teenage psycho, but you can't let her out. This made me because it reminded me of a dear friend. She found out her boyfriend was cheating on here, and was waiting for him at his apartment when he returned from dinner out with the 'other' woman. She was there to scream at him and break up with him. She told me, "I think it's important sometimes to let them know it's not okay, that you're a little off-kilter, that you just might bring the violence one day. He needed to fear me a little bit." She'd say it is okay to unleash the teenage psycho on those who deserve it.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Feb 2, 2015 7:05:07 GMT -5
It's fun to humor the spiteful teenage psycho, but you can't let her out. This made me because it reminded me of a dear friend. She found out her boyfriend was cheating on here, and was waiting for him at his apartment when he returned from dinner out with the 'other' woman. She was there to scream at him and break up with him. She told me, "I think it's important sometimes to let them know it's not okay, that you're a little off-kilter, that you just might bring the violence one day. He needed to fear me a little bit." She'd say it is okay to unleash the teenage psycho on those who deserve it. Lol!
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 2, 2015 8:26:40 GMT -5
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Post by Opti on Feb 2, 2015 10:22:53 GMT -5
It's fun to humor the spiteful teenage psycho, but you can't let her out. This made me because it reminded me of a dear friend. She found out her boyfriend was cheating on here, and was waiting for him at his apartment when he returned from dinner out with the 'other' woman. She was there to scream at him and break up with him. She told me, "I think it's important sometimes to let them know it's not okay, that you're a little off-kilter, that you just might bring the violence one day. He needed to fear me a little bit." She'd say it is okay to unleash the teenage psycho on those who deserve it. I'm sure the friend enjoyed it, but my takeaway if it had been done to me is that I made the right choice. If anything, I should have left sooner.
Cheating isn't OK, however acting like a crazy person is going to make any sane individual feel they did the right thing. Not as fun, but showing up and quietly saying how disappointed you were he was a cheater and jerk and just walking away ... that would be powerful. Then he would feel bad and like a heel. The other way he feels he escaped crazy just in time and made the right choice to cheat. MHO.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 2, 2015 10:51:31 GMT -5
I would have thought Carrie Underwoods song about what happens to cheaters would have stopped some guys!!
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Post by tloonya on Feb 2, 2015 11:05:49 GMT -5
I would have thought Carrie Underwoods song about what happens to cheaters would have stopped some guys!! Which one is that?
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 2, 2015 13:17:56 GMT -5
The one where She beats the shit out of his car. "Before He Cheats."
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Post by beergut on Feb 3, 2015 5:18:01 GMT -5
This made me because it reminded me of a dear friend. She found out her boyfriend was cheating on here, and was waiting for him at his apartment when he returned from dinner out with the 'other' woman. She was there to scream at him and break up with him. She told me, "I think it's important sometimes to let them know it's not okay, that you're a little off-kilter, that you just might bring the violence one day. He needed to fear me a little bit." She'd say it is okay to unleash the teenage psycho on those who deserve it. I'm sure the friend enjoyed it, but my takeaway if it had been done to me is that I made the right choice. If anything, I should have left sooner.
Cheating isn't OK, however acting like a crazy person is going to make any sane individual feel they did the right thing. Not as fun, but showing up and quietly saying how disappointed you were he was a cheater and jerk and just walking away ... that would be powerful. Then he would feel bad and like a heel. The other way he feels he escaped crazy just in time and made the right choice to cheat. MHO.
I think if he was capable of feeling bad and like a heel, he wouldn't cheat.
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