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Post by Jaguar on Sept 25, 2014 12:33:10 GMT -5
I skipped school on 9/11 before I knew it was going to be 9/11. Got busted by my mom (who came home from work to watch the news) but she was so upset I don't think it even occurred to her that I should have been at school...
More than likely she was relieved that you were home and safe.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Sept 25, 2014 12:56:46 GMT -5
I missed 22 days in the first semester of my freshman year before my parents found out I was ditching. I had a few friends that were seniors and we would head to the lake a lot. My two friends and I declared Wednesday a National Holiday
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Post by Deleted on Sept 25, 2014 13:19:53 GMT -5
By the way, great discussion everyone. It really does make you think about why you do what you do. Agreed. I had very little control over anything in my life. So I exerted what little I could over what was harder for them to claim ownership over... My body. What I put in it, what I did with it... Took me a long time to reach a health relationship with myself. I'd rather my kids exert their own control from a different place and for different reasons, hopefully their own desires and interests. I agree different kids can be different and require different things. But in general I think giving kids as much control as safely possible helps a lot... I'm sure that view is colored by my experiences.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 25, 2014 13:23:07 GMT -5
Agreed. I think it is easy to say your kids are responsible because you allow them to make their own decisions. But I think it would be more accurate to say that you can allow them to make their own decisions because they are responsible. Having one kid that is angel and one that is a terror has absolutely led me to believe all kids are different. And much of how a kid behaves is just due to their nature, not super awesome parenting. I agree with this. I tend to think that nature is usually much more at play than nurture. BUT I do think that nurture can help or hinder nature and can't be ignored. When you're dealing with biological kids, then you probably have a pretty good insight into the nature they were handed and base your parenting on what you think helped you the most as a child or how you would have liked to have been parented. Oh, you don't give up nurture by any means, but with some kids it's a long uphill battle on the smallest of things. I'm terrified of what my youngest's teen years are going to be like.
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Post by Formerly SK on Sept 25, 2014 16:37:02 GMT -5
My kids can skip school if they give me a good reason... Stuff needs to get done eventually if they want certain outcomes, but I like a day off as much as anyone... My kids can take a day off from school if desired, but I would want to approve it first. Spontaneously skipping a class with a group of friends would not be OK. I guess in my mind the latter is irresponsible and a bit dishonest. The former is more thoughtful and honest. But again, I don't want to make a "rule" regarding this because even as I type the sentence I can see situations where I wouldn't be that upset if DS skipped class. It's why I don't make rules.
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Post by Firebird on Sept 25, 2014 16:48:31 GMT -5
I finally watched that video What a beautiful boy and wonderful family.
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Post by raeoflyte on Sept 25, 2014 17:51:28 GMT -5
One thing I haven't seen addressed here is legal ramificaitons. I'm more in the sleepovers are ok occassionally for a longer-term boyfriend/girlfriend, generally. But, many states have laws about the age of consent that might impact that. Here in IL there is no "Romeo and Juliet" law - essentially a law that allows teenagers to consentually sleep together while avoiding statutory rape charges as long as they are withing X# years of each other. For parents that let kids have sleepovers here, you better damn well make sure the other parents are cool with it or your kid could end up being charged as a sex offender. And I don't know what the ramifications would be for us, as the parents who allowed it to happen? Would that be facilitation? Accessory? Just some thoughts to consider. This scares the ever loving bejeezus out of me, and is one the biggest reasons I worry that we did choose to delay kindergarten a year for ds. I will be discussing this issue at length with both kids, and then I guess hoping it never becomes an issue.
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Post by Formerly SK on Sept 25, 2014 23:06:39 GMT -5
Sooooooooooooooo...my 9yo who had memorized the above book? He was re-reading it tonight while eating dinner when all of a sudden he exclaimed really loudly, "OH, SO THAT'S WHY MOM'S UNDERWEAR DOESN'T GET SOAKED IN BLOOD EVERY MONTH." I thought about asking what he had just read (tampons?) but decided to just keep cleaning the kitchen. Then at bedtime when I was saying goodnight to DS2, DS1 exclaims from his bedroom, "OH WOW, MOM! COME LOOK! I CAN FEEL MY VAS DEFERENS!" This is what autism + sex ed looks like.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 26, 2014 6:41:57 GMT -5
We've had Its Perfectly Normal on the shelf for years!
So we had a reading day yesterday. We were all reading about our current research topic, and after about the twentieth 'interesting point comment' from son I was like, so have you changed your topic from gender tropes to focus exclusively on Japenese pornography?
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Post by swamp on Sept 26, 2014 11:15:49 GMT -5
Sooooooooooooooo...my 9yo who had memorized the above book? He was re-reading it tonight while eating dinner when all of a sudden he exclaimed really loudly, "OH, SO THAT'S WHY MOM'S UNDERWEAR DOESN'T GET SOAKED IN BLOOD EVERY MONTH." I thought about asking what he had just read (tampons?) but decided to just keep cleaning the kitchen. Then at bedtime when I was saying goodnight to DS2, DS1 exclaims from his bedroom, "OH WOW, MOM! COME LOOK! I CAN FEEL MY VAS DEFERENS!" This is what autism + sex ed looks like. Sorry to laugh but one of my friends has a 12 year old autistic son and she regularly has conversatio nd like that with him.
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