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Post by tloonya on Aug 30, 2014 10:53:21 GMT -5
Than he is really not that needy. Once in 3 years is not such 'constant' reaffirmation. He's bored, she's not doing it for him anymore, he's moving on to the next piece. ...and he is texting her again! I am just trying to believe he loved her. I liked him kind of (as story went) but you all making me hate him now.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2014 10:54:11 GMT -5
No. But you talk about her suffering and wanting to know why. Who cares. Let her suffer. She's married messing around with someone else is who is married, neither apparently has morals in the relationship department, so what does she expect? A devoted life partner? ROFL If all of us were like you, mpl - what would we read? There would be NO fictional love stories. Daniel Steel would be a...waitress. Life would be boring. I would never cheat on my spouse. If that makes me unromantic, then so be it.
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Post by tloonya on Aug 30, 2014 10:59:04 GMT -5
If all of us were like you, mpl - what would we read? There would be NO fictional love stories. Daniel Steel would be a...waitress. Life would be boring. I would never cheat on my spouse. If that makes me unromantic, then so be it. mpn, have you ever been in a such situation?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2014 10:59:33 GMT -5
He's bored, she's not doing it for him anymore, he's moving on to the next piece. ...and he is texting her again! I am just trying to believe he loved her. I liked him kind of (as story went) but you all making me hate him now. If they are so madly in love, then they should divorce their current spouses and ride off into the sunset together so they can be together all the time. But guess what? It isn't going to happen, because what they love is the excitement of someone on the side. They don't want to be together all the time (or at least he doesn't), because then they'd just have a new dull marriage and have to find someone else for the spark.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 30, 2014 11:00:33 GMT -5
I have been and I've been on the other side. I was only going to cheat to get even. Who would that have hurt? Me and only me.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2014 11:01:43 GMT -5
I would never cheat on my spouse. If that makes me unromantic, then so be it. mpn, have you ever been in a such situation? In what situation? Where I found another guy to be attractive when I was married. Sure. Did I choose to act on it? No. Lust is natural. Happens to all of us. Love is a choice. But, I have been on the other side where my spouse cheated on me, and it was absolutely devastating. I would have much preferred he ended the marriage ahead of time then be put through that indignity. Either fix the marriage or end it. Don't try to find happiness in other people.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 30, 2014 11:02:59 GMT -5
She's put up with it for 3 years. She probably had a meltdown in front of him when he dumped her so he knows she's more invested in him than he, her. She needs to tell him to stop texting her unless he is texting her the name of his divorce attorney.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2014 11:03:17 GMT -5
Tloonya...I find it hard to have sympathy for your friend, when you state that she had an affair with a married man. If she was so unhappy with her marriage, she should have divorced her husband and found an unattached lover to be with. Now that she is "in pieces" just tells me that there is indeed Karma. However, you sound like a good friend to give her a shoulder to cry on. See, it is kind of more complicated. People do not want to just get divorce and be alone. It is easier to live as you live I guess than all of a sudden just 'let's divorce' and...now what? I read a funny joke: Look for a new partner while having an old one. No one goes to a shoe store barefoot after all... I understand what you're saying. Cute. But to hook up with a man knowing he has a wife, thinking he will leave that wife, just seems like a prescription for heartache.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2014 11:04:44 GMT -5
See, it is kind of more complicated. People do not want to just get divorce and be alone. It is easier to live as you live I guess than all of a sudden just 'let's divorce' and...now what? I read a funny joke: Look for a new partner while having an old one. No one goes to a shoe store barefoot after all... I understand what you're saying. Cute. But to hook up with a man knowing he has a wife, thinking he will leave that wife, just seems like a prescription for heartache. And thinking a man that is screwing around on his wife would be good husband material for you is just bizarre.
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Post by achelois on Aug 30, 2014 11:07:29 GMT -5
Because that wife is his partner is life, mother of his children and owns half his stuff. Owns half THEIR stuff Agree with MPL: if he will do it with you, he will do it to you.
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Post by whoami on Aug 30, 2014 11:11:07 GMT -5
The fact that she's blabbing this whole story to someone she barely knows speaks volumes.
He ain't leavin.....but if she doesn't mind being his POA on the side, she's going to have to learn to zip her lips and be more discrete.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 30, 2014 11:13:26 GMT -5
Yes, you could be his wife's best friend friend.
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Post by ZaireinHD on Aug 30, 2014 11:18:52 GMT -5
Sorry I was just looking for someone to bite and there's no one to infect! if this is the question? I think because of comfort zone. also people in general don't like change. the new younger PYT is too much to keep up with. guy has already been there and done that with previous relationship(s) and it really wasn't as great then at a younger age, so it's definitely not do great now.
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Post by tloonya on Aug 30, 2014 11:31:10 GMT -5
Yes, you could be his wife's best friend friend. True. But we are far away. She visited to leek her wounds and we talked. I was hoping I can talk to you and give her hope of some sort. But no, you wouldn't just let me!
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Post by tloonya on Aug 30, 2014 11:32:25 GMT -5
Sorry I was just looking for someone to bite and there's no one to infect! if this is the question? I think because of comfort zone. also people in general don't like change. the new younger PYT is too much to keep up with. guy has already been there and done that with previous relationship(s) and it really wasn't as great then at a younger age, so it's definitely not do great now. So far everyone here is infected. I want to ask WTF is Infected means? And no, I do not think it is a comfort zone when you have to do all this ...ing on outside.
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Post by Opti on Aug 30, 2014 11:34:25 GMT -5
This is a very interesting thread. I wonder if the only romance Tloonya reads about involves cheating?
I have no idea what the guy is thinking. If she hasn't met the wife, she really has no idea whether he is telling the truth or not. And I don't really believe her being younger is such a big plus it would out weigh everything given she seems to have picked an older man.
I wonder how romantic to Tloonya it would seem, if it turned out the other man was her husband?
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Post by Opti on Aug 30, 2014 11:39:14 GMT -5
Yes, you could be his wife's best friend friend. True. But we are far away. She visited to leek her wounds and we talked. I was hoping I can talk to you and give her hope of some sort. But no, you wouldn't just let me! Why do you want to give her false hope? If he's texting her again, he's likely just looking for a side relationship at best.
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Post by tloonya on Aug 30, 2014 11:44:46 GMT -5
This is a very interesting thread. I wonder if the only romance Tloonya reads about involves cheating?
I have no idea what the guy is thinking. If she hasn't met the wife, she really has no idea whether he is telling the truth or not. And I don't really believe her being younger is such a big plus it would out weigh everything given she seems to have picked an older man.
I wonder how romantic to Tloonya it would seem, if it turned out the other man was her husband? That would be in LAW and ORDER section. Not romance.
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Post by nutty on Aug 30, 2014 11:45:57 GMT -5
Most of what they say is BS, not sure if H would have left me if I had not have left him. I could not imagine thinking a married man is the one person that you are both going to ride of into the sunset. Mostly what I have read is that it is the verification that HE still has it, why he couldn't work on that with his wife I will never know, and mostly at some point they realize how they screwed up royally. Now there are "those" stories but they are few and far between. It is so classic douchbaggery that I wonder why any woman falls for it.
Oh as far as the texting is concerned, he has either been dumped by the current new chick, or is bored and looking to get his thrills on by seeing if he can make her run to him again, I guarantee it.
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Post by ZaireinHD on Aug 30, 2014 11:46:30 GMT -5
So far everyone here is infected. I want to ask WTF is Infected means? For all of you who enjoyed the zombie game before but bemoaned the fact that the game ended too soon because it was so easy to die, there is a new beta version of the game for us to try. In this version, the dead can re-spawn, so the game should go on longer.
As it IS a beta version, we expect bugs. Please report any of them you find here, and they'll get passed on to the developer.
ABOUT THE GAME
For those who are new to the board, this is how it works. When a game starts, I assign several people to be zombies, a few others to be scientists, and still others to be soldiers. If you aren't one of those, you must wait until a zombie bites you before you can play.
ZOMBIES: Zombies bite others. Bites can: * infect another (turn them into a zombie as well) * kill the victim * give the victim immunity
SCIENTISTS: Scientists can cure zombies. The "cure" action can: * cure the zombie * kill the zombie
SOLDIERS: Soldiers can shoot others (zombie or not). Shooting can: * kill the victim * infect the victim
ARE YOU DEAD? If so, someone can "re-spawn" you. This means you: * could be cured * could be zombiefied again
How often the actions listed above can be carried out varies. If we have a lot of zombies, I may change things to where they can infect fewer people, less often, while increasing how often and how many actions soldiers and scientists can take. It's never really the same game twice!
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Post by tloonya on Aug 30, 2014 11:46:58 GMT -5
True. But we are far away. She visited to leek her wounds and we talked. I was hoping I can talk to you and give her hope of some sort. But no, you wouldn't just let me! Why do you want to give her false hope? If he's texting her again, he's likely just looking for a side relationship at best.
I do not want to give her anything. It was just so sad. It is still so sad. And on the top he is texting again. I was thinking maybe he had decided he can't leave without her.
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Post by Opti on Aug 30, 2014 11:50:38 GMT -5
More likely the wife is either less suspicious or his new on the side relationship has fizzled or is in process.
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Post by ZaireinHD on Aug 30, 2014 11:53:34 GMT -5
if this is the question? I think because of comfort zone. also people in general don't like change. the new younger PYT is too much to keep up with. guy has already been there and done that with previous relationship(s) and it really wasn't as great then at a younger age, so it's definitely not do great now. And no, I do not think it is a comfort zone when you have to do all this ...ing on outside. the comfort of no hassle with older, less attractive, non-sexual wife. compared to PYT having to keep up with her. ok - i'll read through 2 pages to see what I'm missing / catch up.
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Post by tloonya on Aug 30, 2014 12:02:11 GMT -5
Most of what they say is BS, not sure if H would have left me if I had not have left him. I could not imagine thinking a married man is the one person that you are both going to ride of into the sunset. Mostly what I have read is that it is the verification that HE still has it, why he couldn't work on that with his wife I will never know, and mostly at some point they realize how they screwed up royally. Now there are "those" stories but they are few and far between. It is so classic douchbaggery that I wonder why any woman falls for it. Oh as far as the texting is concerned, he has either been dumped by the current new chick, or is bored and looking to get his thrills on by seeing if he can make her run to him again, I guarantee it. That is, nutty HE still has it, why he couldn't work on that with his wife?
is THE question!!! That is what I am saying. If he doesn't want to work it with his wife - it means he doesn't want his wife anymore. If he does want his wife - why running around AND THEN going back to 'unwanted' her? I am trying to find logic in this all. BTW I am still remembering your story and this story and some I read here. And it is all coming to me like WTF!!!
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Post by tloonya on Aug 30, 2014 12:03:59 GMT -5
Yeah, ZaireinHD, we can use man outlook on this issue here. Read faster. I am almost done at work here
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Post by whoami on Aug 30, 2014 12:07:20 GMT -5
And no, I do not think it is a comfort zone when you have to do all this ...ing on outside. the comfort of no hassle with older, less attractive, non-sexual wife. compared to PYT having to keep up with her. ok - i'll read through 2 pages to see what I'm missing / catch up. Im reminded of the statement...behind every beautiful woman is a man sick of listening to her s***. I have a cousin who is gorgeous. Her husband dumped her and their one year old when my cousin was about 6 months pregnant. He is not even remotely in cousins league looks wise. Looks might be an initial attracter, but its not going to carry a person long term if there is nothing else that links you to a person.
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Post by Opti on Aug 30, 2014 12:08:32 GMT -5
Its not about logic, its about emotion. Look at all the celebrities that have been cheated on that we hear about. Sandra Bullock, Jennifer Anniston, etc. Sometimes they just want to have sex with lots of partners. I just watched the film 'Wolf of Wall Street' last night. Its a true life story and the guy still cheated even though he had a gorgeous wife.
dailyentertainmentnews.com/movies/nadine-caridi-belfort-the-duchess-jordan-belforts-ex-wife/
Still in the end, no matter what we say, only he has a chance of knowing for sure why he did it or not.
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Post by tloonya on Aug 30, 2014 12:11:33 GMT -5
Its not about logic, its about emotion. Look at all the celebrities that have been cheated on that we hear about. Sandra Bullock, Jennifer Anniston, etc. Sometimes they just want to have sex with lots of partners. I just watched the film 'Wolf of Wall Street' last night. Its a true life story and the guy still cheated even though he had a gorgeous wife.
dailyentertainmentnews.com/movies/nadine-caridi-belfort-the-duchess-jordan-belforts-ex-wife/
Still in the end, no matter what we say, only he has a chance of knowing for sure why he did it or not. The thing is - do they know?
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Post by ZaireinHD on Aug 30, 2014 12:12:03 GMT -5
I think at certain age husbands are becoming too comfortable and just settling for peace and quiet vs other things. I am not sure whats his deal and don't care. I think if you are driving your wife into arms of another man - you deserve too be cheated on! She is not knocking his wife. All she knows that she is older by mile. And I suspect she is not too hot due to him cheating. here sounds like you agree on a comfort level to go back.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2014 12:21:56 GMT -5
I wonder how romantic to Tloonya it would seem, if it turned out the other man was her husband? What say you Loony? Would you still be hoping he shows up to sweep her off her feet and ride off into the sunset if you found out it was Mr. Loony?
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