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Post by Firebird on Jul 15, 2014 18:20:26 GMT -5
But she opted to take the 3 & 5 year old to an amusement park for like 5 hours with no down time & then feed them dinner when they are normally going to bed.
I don't know if I should laugh that she thinks my kids are horrible & pities me or to be embarrassed by that fact.
Sounds like she's not as used to kids as she thinks she is. Respecting the limits of small children is superdeeduper important for everyone's mental health.
We recently took Babybird to the county fair - it was fun and we had a great time. Because we were having such a great time, it was hard to leave even after her bedtime passed. I kept warning DH that her meltdown/tantrum was right around the corner and it would not be one bit her fault. We were REALLY pushing it. Thankfully she managed to keep it together but I wouldn't have blamed her a bit if it had gone the other way.
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Post by Firebird on Jul 15, 2014 18:21:29 GMT -5
My friend babysat my kids this weekend and afterword she expressed that she & her hubby have decided against having 3 kids from the experience. I get the feeling that she feels very sorry for me & thinks my kids are horrible.
Also, maybe there was context or whatever but this sounds like a horribly rude remark to me. I hope she didn't hurt your feelings by saying that.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 15, 2014 20:21:42 GMT -5
Someone took my kids for hours and gave me a break? They can say whatever they want about me and my kids!!!
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Post by Angel! on Jul 15, 2014 21:12:23 GMT -5
My friend babysat my kids this weekend and afterword she expressed that she & her hubby have decided against having 3 kids from the experience. I get the feeling that she feels very sorry for me & thinks my kids are horrible.
Also, maybe there was context or whatever but this sounds like a horribly rude remark to me. I hope she didn't hurt your feelings by saying that. It is a rude remark, buy she has a tendency to say things like this so I just let it go. Plus she just got pregnant with her first, so I'm sure this is something they have been discussing. In a way I feel really bad. I never would have asked if I had known it would go that way. And I hope she doesn't truly make a decision of that magnitude after 1 day with my kids. On the flip side I sort of feel like supermom. My kids ran the two of them ragged in one afternoon. I take care of them alone every single day.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Jul 15, 2014 21:33:49 GMT -5
My friend babysat my kids this weekend and afterword she expressed that she & her hubby have decided against having 3 kids from the experience. I get the feeling that she feels very sorry for me & thinks my kids are horrible.
Also, maybe there was context or whatever but this sounds like a horribly rude remark to me. I hope she didn't hurt your feelings by saying that. Maybe she was speaking more to her lack of ability to keep up and handle three kids than to the behavior of your children. Sent from my Nexus 4 using proboards
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Post by Firebird on Jul 15, 2014 21:40:55 GMT -5
You ARE Supermom for taking care of three kids alone. And if she makes a family decision like that based on one day (when she was going past the kids' limits anyway), she's dumb.
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Post by Firebird on Jul 15, 2014 21:43:53 GMT -5
I say that as a person who was seriously considering shoving Babybird back to where she came from after a weekend with a hellion toddler when I was pregnant
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2014 9:48:24 GMT -5
You ARE Supermom for taking care of three kids alone. And if she makes a family decision like that based on one day (when she was going past the kids' limits anyway), she's dumb. ooohhh I'm going to use that title too! :-)
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Post by Ryan on Jul 16, 2014 10:00:16 GMT -5
My wife and I watched our friends kids (4 boys) for a weekend before we had kids. I remembered going over there on Friday night and being so wiped out from just spending a couple hours playing with them. Then the next day, Saturday, was like the longest day of my life. They woke up super early and entertaining them the entire day was exhausting. I remembered little things like absolutely loving taking them to church because we could drop them off in the daycare there. haha.
But we still ended up having kids ourselves and you still have feelings like that some days, but overall having kids is awesome.
But I do get if people wouldn't want kids. My brother, for example, just has a lot of medical issues that cause him a lot of day to day problems. For him, he doesn't want to have to deal with the agony of watching his kids suffer like he does. So he decided not to have kids and now he just enjoys the time he spends with mine. Works for him.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 16, 2014 10:07:28 GMT -5
I used to swear up and down I'd never have kids after being a server for years. Very effective birth control. I still had my own. I love/like my own kid just fine. .. I still hate other people's children.
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Post by yogiii on Jul 16, 2014 10:07:34 GMT -5
My friend babysat my kids this weekend and afterword she expressed that she & her hubby have decided against having 3 kids from the experience. I get the feeling that she feels very sorry for me & thinks my kids are horrible.
Also, maybe there was context or whatever but this sounds like a horribly rude remark to me. I hope she didn't hurt your feelings by saying that. Maybe she was speaking more to her lack of ability to keep up and handle three kids than to the behavior of your children. Sent from my Nexus 4 using proboards Yes, I was thinking that too. I have two and I'm always, always in awe of people with 3 or more. To be clear, I DON'T WANT MORE KIDS!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 16, 2014 10:11:02 GMT -5
My friend babysat my kids this weekend and afterword she expressed that she & her hubby have decided against having 3 kids from the experience. I get the feeling that she feels very sorry for me & thinks my kids are horrible.
Also, maybe there was context or whatever but this sounds like a horribly rude remark to me. I hope she didn't hurt your feelings by saying that. It is a rude remark, buy she has a tendency to say things like this so I just let it go. Plus she just got pregnant with her first, so I'm sure this is something they have been discussing. In a way I feel really bad. I never would have asked if I had known it would go that way. And I hope she doesn't truly make a decision of that magnitude after 1 day with my kids. On the flip side I sort of feel like supermom. My kids ran the two of them ragged in one afternoon. I take care of them alone every single day. To be fair to your friend, you have been eased into it over the years, starting with one then adding on. She got plunked down right in the middle of it with no knowledge of the kids personalities or your routines.
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Post by sheilaincali on Jul 16, 2014 10:25:44 GMT -5
Maybe she was speaking more to her lack of ability to keep up and handle three kids than to the behavior of your children.
I think similar thoughts every time I babysit other people's kids. One of my closest friends has three kids under the age of 6. I love those kids to pieces but every time I leave there after babysitting I tell DH "I could not handle that full time!" I wouldn't say it to my friend's face in a rude manner but I will tell them I'm impressed by their stamina and ability to keep up with those three. They are awesome kids but they have such distinct personalities and all want to do something different given the opportunity.
DS will come home from babysitting them and promptly take a nap.
It's not that they are bad kids or ill-behaved. It's just that I'm so out of practice and not used to that much chaos and energy that it takes me out of my comfort zone.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Jul 16, 2014 11:03:57 GMT -5
I think it's very different when you watch other people's kids and when you take care of your own.
Besides many obvious reasons, when people babysit it's like they feel the need/obligation to entertain and be very actively involved with the kids the entire time they are with them.
I would shoot myself in the head if I had to do that.
Obviously, I do things with the boys, but there is no way in hell I spend hours and hours and hours with them non-stop
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jul 16, 2014 19:48:23 GMT -5
If she just got pg then maybe she wasn't feeling very good, you know morning sickness or such. I felt like crap for two months but after that I could have jumped over tall building and turned cartwheels down the street. I lie but I had boundless energy after the first two months.
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Post by Angel! on Jul 17, 2014 15:30:55 GMT -5
It is a rude remark, buy she has a tendency to say things like this so I just let it go. Plus she just got pregnant with her first, so I'm sure this is something they have been discussing. In a way I feel really bad. I never would have asked if I had known it would go that way. And I hope she doesn't truly make a decision of that magnitude after 1 day with my kids. On the flip side I sort of feel like supermom. My kids ran the two of them ragged in one afternoon. I take care of them alone every single day. To be fair to your friend, you have been eased into it over the years, starting with one then adding on. She got plunked down right in the middle of it with no knowledge of the kids personalities or your routines. Totally! When she said they decided not to have three kids, I actually told her it is a lot different when they are your kids so you know what they like/don't like & how to handle them.
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