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Post by sarcasticgirl on Jul 13, 2014 13:31:00 GMT -5
It doesn't make sense to feel sorry for people who don't want kids because they happen to be your world. Clearly people who don't want kids, don't feel like you do. Wouldn't it sound ridiculous if I said "life with kids seems depressing and nerve-wracking and miserable!" If I had kids... that is likely how i'd feel. But the key is that is how I WOULD FEEL in MY LIFE... clearly that is not how others feel in their lives. It is a matter of being able to remove ones own personal biases and view life from someone else's perspective. If you are unable to do that... well then of course, everyone that has a life that isn't exactly what you want is going to be unpleasant in some way. It makes more sense to say "I would be sad and lonely if I didn't have kids" because clearly those who choose not to have kids, aren't sad and lonely. as a person without kids, it really gets EFFING annoying to listen to this crap over and over from people with kids. It is like, someone has a kid and they can't conceive of life any other way and because it works for them they suddenly have a bias towards those that have no kids. I have spent years being called selfish, listening to "you have no idea what you are missing" speeches etc. etc. Even if it isn't meant as such, it is condescending to feel sorry or judge other's lives as "depressing" or "lonely" simply because they chose a different path than you did. And yes, it does go both ways! And that is your opinion. I can feel sorry for or judge anyone I want...and much like I told to SL, if this is such a sore subject for you I have no idea why you would read the thread. The question was asked and we all answered. The fact that you don't like my answer doesn't mean I don't get to answer the question So when you say "I don't understand why..." You really mean... "I don't give a f*ck" If you don't want an explanation of why people are reacting a certain way, don't pretend to not understand why. Sent from my Nexus 4 using proboards
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 13, 2014 13:43:17 GMT -5
And that is your opinion. I can feel sorry for or judge anyone I want...and much like I told to SL, if this is such a sore subject for you I have no idea why you would read the thread. The question was asked and we all answered. The fact that you don't like my answer doesn't mean I don't get to answer the question So when you say "I don't understand why..." You really mean... "I don't give a f*ck" If you don't want an explanation of why people are reacting a certain way, don't pretend to not understand why. Sent from my Nexus 4 using proboards I don't understand...but I also don't give a fuck if random people get bent out of shape because someone answered a question in a way that they don't like.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Jul 13, 2014 13:56:37 GMT -5
So when you say "I don't understand why..." You really mean... "I don't give a f*ck" If you don't want an explanation of why people are reacting a certain way, don't pretend to not understand why. Sent from my Nexus 4 using proboards I don't understand...but I also don't give a fuck if random people get bent out of shape because someone answered a question in a way that they don't like. It is hilarious that someone that disagrees is bent out of shape. Trust me... No one on this board is bending me out of shape at all. I don't believe that you don't understand. You are reasonably intelligent and it isn't a difficult concept. Just because you don't agree or think in that way doesn't mean you don't comprehend. Sent from my Nexus 4 using proboards
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 13, 2014 14:07:58 GMT -5
I don't understand...but I also don't give a fuck if random people get bent out of shape because someone answered a question in a way that they don't like. It is hilarious that someone that disagrees is bent out of shape. Trust me... No one on this board is bending me out of shape at all. I don't believe that you don't understand. You are reasonably intelligent and it isn't a difficult concept. Just because you don't agree or think in that way doesn't mean you don't comprehend. Sent from my Nexus 4 using proboards Comprehend what? That you get to decide how others feel? You are right, I don't comprehend....
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Post by tallguy on Jul 13, 2014 14:16:55 GMT -5
Pot, meet kettle.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 13, 2014 14:30:11 GMT -5
Hmm...I don't remember ever telling someone how they should feel. I mainly gave my opinion on how I feel about a person who doesn't have a child in their life.
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Post by Angel! on Jul 13, 2014 17:20:08 GMT -5
Still not following how this is the fault of the administration. It isn't like they had insurance before Obamacare. So your post still doesn't make sense IMO. And not that it really matters, but if they fall into the gap, that is the fault of the state & if they opted to move to another state, they could get coverage. Or opting to improve their lives & find a better paying job (or working 2 jobs) is also an option. And if you are under 133% of poverty, can you really afford to be having children? Even if insurance pays for the birth, who is paying for the food, diapers, daycare, etc? Yes it never will matter. Again I am not pointing out whose fault it is nor have I made any statement regarding who had insurance where or when. I simply said no on one here on the internets would or could help. No matter how you respond that will remain true. None of you will ever help these folks. You blamed the administration, so you are clearly putting someone at fault. And no, I wouldn't go far to help them because we all make choices in life that lead us down different paths. I chose to get an education and a good job. The path there may have been harder for these folks, but they still opted not to take it. They can get student loans and go after a career.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Jul 13, 2014 21:17:24 GMT -5
It is hilarious that someone that disagrees is bent out of shape. Trust me... No one on this board is bending me out of shape at all. I don't believe that you don't understand. You are reasonably intelligent and it isn't a difficult concept. Just because you don't agree or think in that way doesn't mean you don't comprehend. Sent from my Nexus 4 using proboards Comprehend what? That you get to decide how others feel? You are right, I don't comprehend.... I don't even have a clue what you are talking about. I'm not into arguing just for the sake of arguing. I'm out. Sent from my Nexus 10
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Post by truthbound on Jul 14, 2014 4:57:51 GMT -5
Yes it never will matter. Again I am not pointing out whose fault it is nor have I made any statement regarding who had insurance where or when. I simply said no on one here on the internets would or could help. No matter how you respond that will remain true. None of you will ever help these folks. You blamed the administration, so you are clearly putting someone at fault. And no, I wouldn't go far to help them because we all make choices in life that lead us down different paths. I chose to get an education and a good job. The path there may have been harder for these folks, but they still opted not to take it. They can get student loans and go after a career. No someone not getting what they are is fairly owed and paid for is not a decision. In any case umm ok. I am glad to hear everything worked out for you.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 14, 2014 8:27:48 GMT -5
I don't get all of the shooby hate on here. The question was asked and she gave her opinion much like the rest of us gave our opinion. I am successful both professional and personally. I have a lot of friends, have traveled quite a bit, built up some significant assets, etc. But at the end of the day, all of that would mean nothing if I didn't have my children. If I had to become penniless tomorrow to save one of my children I would.
So to me, there is nothing more important in this world than my children. To me, no one else's accomplishments mean as much to me as my children. to me, being extremely accomplished professionally but not having children sounds very lonely and sad because that isn't the kind of life I want.
I don't understand why everyone gets so bent out of shape over shooby's opinions. She values having children much like I do. that doesn't make her pathetic or that she has no life. She just has different values than others. I am sure she doesn't walk around in real life telling her childless friends that she feel sorry for them...but that WAS the question asked here.
It doesn't make sense to feel sorry for people who don't want kids because they happen to be your world. Clearly people who don't want kids, don't feel like you do. Wouldn't it sound ridiculous if I said "life with kids seems depressing and nerve-wracking and miserable!" If I had kids... that is likely how i'd feel. But the key is that is how I WOULD FEEL in MY LIFE... clearly that is not how others feel in their lives. It is a matter of being able to remove ones own personal biases and view life from someone else's perspective. If you are unable to do that... well then of course, everyone that has a life that isn't exactly what you want is going to be unpleasant in some way. It makes more sense to say "I would be sad and lonely if I didn't have kids" because clearly those who choose not to have kids, aren't sad and lonely. as a person without kids, it really gets EFFING annoying to listen to this crap over and over from people with kids. It is like, someone has a kid and they can't conceive of life any other way and because it works for them they suddenly have a bias towards those that have no kids. I have spent years being called selfish, listening to "you have no idea what you are missing" speeches etc. etc. Even if it isn't meant as such, it is condescending to feel sorry or judge other's lives as "depressing" or "lonely" simply because they chose a different path than you did. And yes, it does go both ways! And yet you haven't been able to remove your bias (of years of being called selfish and that you don't know what your missing) when reading these replies of our own opinions. Again, no one is saying they give these opinions randomly or when not asked because everyone else should listen to us. I've been where you are and the questions get old. I've also gotten plenty of judgment and moral superiority from my child free friends now that I've crossed over and that gets old too. Sent from my ADR6410LVW using proboards
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Post by sheilaincali on Jul 14, 2014 8:42:36 GMT -5
I've also gotten plenty of judgment and moral superiority from my child free friends now that I've crossed over and that gets old too.
If this is the case than you all need better friends. (I say the "You" in the general sense- not directed specifically to you raeoflyte). It seemed to be fairly common on here with people being harassed about having kids, not having kids, having too many, not having enough, etc.
I don't remember anyone giving me shit or acting superior to me because they didn't have kids. I have never harass someone that didn't have kids and told them they were missing out on life.
I handful of people over the years (when DS was younger) would ask if we were having a second. I'd respond "No we aren't medically able to have more kids". It wasn't a lie- we weren't medically able because DH willingly had a vasectomy when DS was 3. Maybe I'm just loud and opinionated enough in real life that when I said I only wanted one kid they believed me.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jul 14, 2014 8:48:08 GMT -5
lol...I was going to say the same thing, sheila. If people have friends who are this intrusive and insensitive, I'd be thinking about a new set of friends. However, you can't just go out and get a new set of family, and often, family is the worst.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2014 8:55:16 GMT -5
lol...I was going to say the same thing, sheila. If people have friends who are this intrusive and insensitive, I'd be thinking about a new set of friends. However, you can't just go out and get a new set of family, and often, family is the worst. Yep. I was just going to say, it was my BIL and his wife that were the worst for being the child free superior ones. Holidays were so much fun!
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 14, 2014 9:04:47 GMT -5
I've also gotten plenty of judgment and moral superiority from my child free friends now that I've crossed over and that gets old too.
If this is the case than you all need better friends. (I say the "You" in the general sense- not directed specifically to you raeoflyte). It seemed to be fairly common on here with people being harassed about having kids, not having kids, having too many, not having enough, etc.
I don't remember anyone giving me shit or acting superior to me because they didn't have kids. I have never harass someone that didn't have kids and told them they were missing out on life.
I handful of people over the years (when DS was younger) would ask if we were having a second. I'd respond "No we aren't medically able to have more kids". It wasn't a lie- we weren't medically able because DH willingly had a vasectomy when DS was 3. Maybe I'm just loud and opinionated enough in real life that when I said I only wanted one kid they believed me.
I don't see any of my friends on a regular basis these days, and the ones who are irritating are at the bottom of the list to get together with. Most of them aren't trying to be mean, but their personal bias comes through loud and clear. I'm at an age where many friends are in between childless and child free. They always planned on kids someday but haven't met the right person to have them with, or are (rightfully) scared of accelerating the wrong relationship just to have kids. And queer friends who are saving money in order to start trying. But we're not young and just because some people can get pregnant at 40, doesn't mean that everyone can. Those are tough boats to be in that I have a lot of empathy for. Sent from my ADR6410LVW using proboards
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 14, 2014 9:06:04 GMT -5
It doesn't make sense to feel sorry for people who don't want kids because they happen to be your world. Clearly people who don't want kids, don't feel like you do. Wouldn't it sound ridiculous if I said "life with kids seems depressing and nerve-wracking and miserable!" If I had kids... that is likely how i'd feel. But the key is that is how I WOULD FEEL in MY LIFE... clearly that is not how others feel in their lives. It is a matter of being able to remove ones own personal biases and view life from someone else's perspective. If you are unable to do that... well then of course, everyone that has a life that isn't exactly what you want is going to be unpleasant in some way. It makes more sense to say "I would be sad and lonely if I didn't have kids" because clearly those who choose not to have kids, aren't sad and lonely. as a person without kids, it really gets EFFING annoying to listen to this crap over and over from people with kids. It is like, someone has a kid and they can't conceive of life any other way and because it works for them they suddenly have a bias towards those that have no kids. I have spent years being called selfish, listening to "you have no idea what you are missing" speeches etc. etc. Even if it isn't meant as such, it is condescending to feel sorry or judge other's lives as "depressing" or "lonely" simply because they chose a different path than you did. And yes, it does go both ways! And yet you haven't been able to remove your bias (of years of being called selfish and that you don't know what your missing) when reading these replies of our own opinions. Again, no one is saying they give these opinions randomly or when not asked because everyone else should listen to us. I've been where you are and the questions get old. I've also gotten plenty of judgment and moral superiority from my child free friends now that I've crossed over and that gets old too. Sent from my ADR6410LVW using proboards Exactly. I don't walk around in real life giving my opinion to anyone that hasn't for it...and even then I would probably filter what I say if the situation called for it. But ffs, a question was asked and we all answered it.
And I so agree...anyone who has family or friends who make rude comments about your choice to have or not to have children need to be cut off...I'm a judgmental bitch but even I know not to publicly judge someone's choices....I say publicly because we ALL judge people
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 14, 2014 9:32:09 GMT -5
We can't all live in a world of bff's. coworkers and family make up my life at this point.
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Post by sheilaincali on Jul 14, 2014 9:33:13 GMT -5
I'm at an age where many friends are in between childless and child free. They always planned on kids someday but haven't met the right person to have them with, or are (rightfully) scared of accelerating the wrong relationship just to have kids. And queer friends who are saving money in order to start trying. But we're not young and just because some people can get pregnant at 40, doesn't mean that everyone can. Those are tough boats to be in that I have a lot of empathy for.
I have one friend that I do feel sorry for. She had this master plan. Get pregnant in September, graduate from her Master's program in May and have the Baby in June. Another friend and I tried to gently tell her that it can take months to get pregnant and to give herself some time. But Nope she wasn't budging from that plan. Her husband (a friend of my DH's) told my DH "If she doesn't get pregnant soon I don't think our marriage will survive. She has her entire self worth tied up in wanting to be a mother". That was last September. She isn't pregnant yet.
Since she has been trying to get pregnant 3 other ladies (all her basic age- late 20's, early 30's) in our social circle have all gotten pregnant. So she is being continually reminded that these other three are pregnant and she's not.
I genuinely feel bad for her because she wants to have a baby and so have has not been successful in her attempts.
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Post by sheilaincali on Jul 14, 2014 9:34:22 GMT -5
We can't all live in a world of bff's. coworkers and family make up my life at this point.
I hear you there- friends we have some say in but Co-workers and Family we don't really have any control over. People can be real insensitive jerks sometimes.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 14, 2014 9:52:18 GMT -5
We can't all live in a world of bff's. coworkers and family make up my life at this point.
I hear you there- friends we have some say in but Co-workers and Family we don't really have any control over. People can be real insensitive jerks sometimes. A few are, and then we get sensitive about it and then any question someone asks is interpreted as rude or awful or judgmental which reindorces the jerks attitude. It's a tough cycle to break. I think people piling on Shooby were reacting to what they were reading into her posts instead of reacting to the actual post. Sent from my ADR6410LVW using proboards
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 14, 2014 9:55:28 GMT -5
My SIL lacks tact, she's completely clueless as to when she has crossed the line.
My MIL tore her a new one for lecturing me on how I needed to get started on trying for a second as soon as the doctor medically cleared me for sex. I had just given birth to Gwen 48 hours ago.
SIL loves being pregnant, she loves babies. She'd have more than two kids if she hadn't started out so late and can't fathom why on earth DH and I don't feel the same way.
Since I only have to see her mainly on holidays/birthdays I just pasted a smile on my face when she's raised the topic while mentally punching her in the face.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2014 10:05:00 GMT -5
My SIL lacks tact, she's completely clueless as to when she has crossed the line. My MIL tore her a new one for lecturing me on how I needed to get started on trying for a second as soon as the doctor medically cleared me for sex. I had just given birth to Gwen 48 hours ago. SIL loves being pregnant, she loves babies. She'd have more than two kids if she hadn't started out so late and can't fathom why on earth DH and I don't feel the same way. Since I only have to see her mainly on holidays/birthdays I just pasted a smile on my face when she's raised the topic while mentally punching her in the face. See, I'm the opposite. I'd start detailing the attempts with positions and viscosity details while asking for her advice, until she Ran away...
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 14, 2014 10:12:40 GMT -5
There are a few insensitive questions that dh and I get fairly often. I try to make a joke out of the question that is light hearted enough not to offend the asker, but also affirm that the question is innapropriate and wont be answered. It works on 99% of people.
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Post by Pants on Jul 14, 2014 10:14:46 GMT -5
My only thought on the whole of this argument is that anyone who "can't fathom" or "can't imagine" how someone else may choose to live their life is severely lacking in intellect, imagination, or both.
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Post by Firebird on Jul 14, 2014 10:17:58 GMT -5
I try to cut people slack on the "when are you having another?" question because most of the time, I can tell it's being asked with absolutely zero malicious intent. It's usually a follow up to "OMG YOU HAVE THE CUTEST BABY EVER" so how can I get mad at that? They don't realize it's something I struggle with daily, and how could they? Why would I WANT them to know that? But I do wish people would realize that it's just not a great question to ask people, especially if you don't know them that well. It's very personal and can be very painful. I sometimes ask if friends are "interested in having kids" if the conversation goes in that direction. But now I'm thinking maybe I shouldn't even be asking that.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jul 14, 2014 10:18:51 GMT -5
That's not true at all. I can guarantee you that I don't lack intellect and/or imagination and I "can't fathom" a lot of things. I'm sure you "can't fathom" lots of things. For instance, I can't fathom abusing a child. Does that make me stupid?
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Post by Firebird on Jul 14, 2014 10:19:18 GMT -5
There are a few insensitive questions that dh and I get fairly often. I try to make a joke out of the question that is light hearted enough not to offend the asker, but also affirm that the question is innapropriate and wont be answered. It works on 99% of people. I'm always curious about people's comebacks for insensitive questions, especially ones that have the desired effect of making people bugger off without alienating them. Would you mind sharing some of yours?
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 14, 2014 10:21:45 GMT -5
I try to cut people slack on the "when are you having another?" question because most of the time, I can tell it's being asked with absolutely zero malicious intent. It's usually a follow up to "OMG YOU HAVE THE CUTEST BABY EVER" so how can I get mad at that? They don't realize it's something I struggle with daily, and how could they? Why would I WANT them to know that? But I do wish people would realize that it's just not a great question to ask people, especially if you don't know them that well. It's very personal and can be very painful. I sometimes ask if friends are "interested in having kids" if the conversation goes in that direction. But now I'm thinking maybe I shouldn't even be asking that. This is how I feel. But every single question can be painful. If we never ask any of them at best we are perceived as self centered or at worst we never get to truly know anyone. Wwbg said he hated people asking them when the wedding date was. I get that had a lot of emotion behind it for them, but its also a perfectly reasonable question. Sent from my ADR6410LVW using proboards
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jul 14, 2014 10:28:05 GMT -5
Absolutely true, raeoflyte. I agree that I don't think most of those questions are malicious (some are, of course), but rather asked without thinking. There are some genuinely mean and nasty people in this world. No question about that. But I don't think most people are like that.
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Post by Pants on Jul 14, 2014 10:36:49 GMT -5
That's not true at all. I can guarantee you that I don't lack intellect and/or imagination and I "can't fathom" a lot of things. I'm sure you "can't fathom" lots of things. For instance, I can't fathom abusing a child. Does that make me stupid? You can't fathom YOU abusing a child. I'm sure you understand the idea of child abuse though. I also think that if you think about it, you could identify some of the (obviously horrific and misguided) thoughts and emotions that lead to it - rage, frustration, being out of control and wanting to regain control, wanting to cause someone else pain. That's the level of "fathoming" I'm talking about - understanding why someone else may make choices that are different than yours, whether or not you agree with those choices or the reasoning behind them. If you can't understand those at a level that allows you to identify that in someone else's life (rather than your own), then yes, I think you would be stupid or lacking imagination. I also don't think that's the case here. I think in this case, you can't imagine YOU making that choice, so you pronounce it "unfathomable." For the record, I am against child abuse, pedophila, and any other horror you would like to throw up here. But that doesn't mean that I am unable to think about why someone else may do these things in an effort to understand why these things happen.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jul 14, 2014 10:43:19 GMT -5
There are a few insensitive questions that dh and I get fairly often. I try to make a joke out of the question that is light hearted enough not to offend the asker, but also affirm that the question is innapropriate and wont be answered. It works on 99% of people. I'm always curious about people's comebacks for insensitive questions, especially ones that have the desired effect of making people bugger off without alienating them. Would you mind sharing some of yours? The ones I have perfected (from frequent use!) Aren't about kids. For having kids/ subsequent kid questions, I complain about amazon messing up my order. I am offended by the "perfect family" comments we get with having a boy/girl in that order so I talk about how disappointed we were that we couldn't stay in our 2 bedroom home forever. (Can't use that one now that the kids are old enough to.understand). I havent used it yet, but for misbehaving kids comments I plan to "blame" that on the donor-I'm stealing that from thyme who posted that her friend used it. I also complain that the hospital didn't give me the child raising manual and its been a birch to make it up as I go. Sent from my ADR6410LVW using proboards
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