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Post by billisonboard on Jul 7, 2014 9:41:59 GMT -5
Look for local services under displaced homemaker.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2014 9:48:29 GMT -5
Have you guys even filed for divorce? Or legal separation?
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Jul 7, 2014 9:55:29 GMT -5
I DON't HAVE MONEY for a lawyer at the moment. Not going to lie I have spent the morning crying and feeling helpless and out of control. Okay, this is where you need to get it together. Spending the morning feeling helpless and out of control instead of reading ALL of the pages of this offer, which will affect you for the next 23 years, is not a good use of your time. You can call an attorney or two, and find out if they can ask the spouse to pay your legal fees as part of the settlement. I'm sorry you're in this fix, but you can get through this. The sooner you take command of your situation, the sooner you'll feel better.
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Post by whoami on Jul 7, 2014 10:22:29 GMT -5
I DON't HAVE MONEY for a lawyer at the moment. Not going to lie I have spent the morning crying and feeling helpless and out of control. Your very first comment on this thread says "obviously I have a lawyer". If you have a lawyer and there is supposedly all this money he is willing to hand over to you without any problems, why isn't this lawyer you obviously have getting money from him? You are eating I assume? You cant squirrel a few bucks away from that? He paid for you to move out didn't he? How are all the bills from this new place of yours getting paid? Did you even move out or is that a lie too?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2014 10:32:05 GMT -5
You really need to have a lawyer read his offer especially if you're not understanding it fully. If it sounds good, get it signed off and court ordered ASAP.
I really drug my feet getting divorced the first time, we're talking a couple years. I fought hard to keep the marriage, BUT, I did have all the papers drawn up within a week of him moving out. I'm not kidding. He was feeling guilty and generous and I had him agree to a large child support amount and me getting the house and had it all signed right away. Then my attorney just kept them until I was ready to file.
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Post by nutty on Jul 7, 2014 11:33:40 GMT -5
That was a mistake. I have a lawyer I WANT but she wants 1750 for retainer. I have about 750 and hoping I can hold him of until i get the rest.
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Post by nutty on Jul 7, 2014 11:35:03 GMT -5
I do believe I can have a few bad hours. I am not going to sweat over that. I can buck myself up shortly. Always have. I moved out June 3rd.
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Post by emma1420 on Jul 7, 2014 11:37:22 GMT -5
That was a mistake. I have a lawyer I WANT but she wants 1750 for retainer. I have about 750 and hoping I can hold him of until i get the rest. Can you talk to her and let her know that you only have $750 now and see if she will work with you? How long before you can get the other $1000 together? A few weeks? A few months? Longer? If it's more than a few weeks, then i would start looking for someone else.
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Post by nutty on Jul 7, 2014 11:38:42 GMT -5
Good idea. I seem to only be able handle a few things at a time. I just can't think today. My illness is acting up and taking a bite out of my motivation.
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Post by nutty on Jul 7, 2014 11:42:05 GMT -5
He came over yesterday to fix my PC, probably explains my funk today. He was talking about filing ourselves, so I don't think he has a lawyer.
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Post by whoami on Jul 7, 2014 11:47:57 GMT -5
Again, if there is so much money floating around, why didn't you just take the $2k when you moved out? Did you seriously move out with absolutely no cash or credit to your name? You really expect your ex to pay your bills when you voluntarily moved out? How do you pay for food...or incidentals? Does he come over and hand you a $20 when you need tampons?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2014 12:07:33 GMT -5
Do attorneys take credit cards? Not the greatest solution, but if it gets the retainer paid...
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2014 12:13:25 GMT -5
Do attorneys take credit cards? Not the greatest solution, but if it gets the retainer paid... Cash advance???
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Post by nutty on Jul 7, 2014 12:14:49 GMT -5
Ok just talked to another lawyer who sounds awesome but she wants 4500 but she sounds very good and told me a few things that i was not aware of which made me go hmmm. Who wants to loan me some money...lol
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Post by nutty on Jul 7, 2014 12:15:55 GMT -5
We are in chap 13 no credit cards. My mother gave me me the money ti move out. All in all it was 756 to move out.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2014 12:17:25 GMT -5
We are in chap 13 no credit cards. My mother gave me me the money ti move out. All in all it was 756 to move out. You guys are still married, don't you have access to joint checking/savings account? Cash under the pillow? Something??? Anything??? How did you have access to money when you guys still live together??!
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Post by nutty on Jul 7, 2014 12:18:35 GMT -5
Yes and the lenght of the marriage entitles me to life time alimony. Sorry for all you haters on here, and please go away if you don't want to hear my shit.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2014 12:18:38 GMT -5
So the bankruptcy covers both of you? I'm not real familiar how that works.
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Post by nutty on Jul 7, 2014 12:18:47 GMT -5
Nope he took it out.
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Post by nutty on Jul 7, 2014 12:19:16 GMT -5
He gives me money every pay, its enough to live on.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2014 12:19:51 GMT -5
Yes and the lenght of the marriage entitles me to life time alimony. Sorry for all you haters on here, and please go away if you don't want to hear my shit. It depends on the state though. Our state almost never does lifetime unless there is something that makes it impossible for the spouse to get a job.
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Post by nutty on Jul 7, 2014 12:20:29 GMT -5
Yes the chap 13 is a joint chap 13.
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Post by nutty on Jul 7, 2014 12:21:12 GMT -5
Obviously I was talking to a FL lawyer who knows this stuff, she said absolutely so lets not talk about that again.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2014 12:21:34 GMT -5
So, couldn't you still get credit? You'd have to use his income for household income, but your SS number shouldn't be flagged with the bankruptcy.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2014 12:21:46 GMT -5
Yes and the lenght of the marriage entitles me to life time alimony. Sorry for all you haters on here, and please go away if you don't want to hear my shit. No judge in this day and age is still giving our life time alimony unless they are still stuck in the dark ages. And your judge might end up being a woman who had to work and may not feel bad for your story of being stuck at home raising the kids so again less likely to get lifetime alimony. Don't want to hear/listen to us... Ok! Good luck. Sorry we are giving you actual real life advice vs just what you want to hear.
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Post by nutty on Jul 7, 2014 12:22:07 GMT -5
I am not going to argue on here with all you that wants to give me shit, I am going to get the attorney, she knows her stuff.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2014 12:22:38 GMT -5
He gives me money every pay, its enough to live on. well clearly not since right now you need an attorney and don't have the money....
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2014 12:23:08 GMT -5
I am not going to argue on here with all you that wants to give me shit, I am going to get the attorney, she knows her stuff. Yeah with the money you don't have from the account you don't have access to. Good luck!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2014 12:23:58 GMT -5
Seriously, your story has more holes than Swiss cheese.
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Post by nutty on Jul 7, 2014 12:24:59 GMT -5
Nope, didn't get that impression of her at all. You all live in different states. Different situations, and Cawai you haven't even been divorced and we all now at least I do that things are not always as presented. I am listening to everyone, y'all said get a lawyer talk to some lawyers, I did and y'all are now saying that she is lying, seriously people.
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