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Post by Deleted on Feb 11, 2014 12:30:51 GMT -5
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Post by whoami on Feb 11, 2014 12:32:07 GMT -5
Principal was silent most of the time. I think she knew
OR she was doing the responsible/legal thing and not discussing the subject with a random stranger who has no legal standing concerning the child and has no proof she even knows the kid involved. School wont tell her anything. My son was indirectly involved in an incident years ago involving a couple kids in a gym locker and a knife. My son was the one who reported it. I was contacted by the SRO and principal and other than the fact that the incident happened and the kid with the knife had been removed from the school, I was told nothing. I got more info out of my son than I did the school and it was a criminal matter. Schools tell you very little about your own kid never mind someone you aren't legally tethered to.
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 11, 2014 12:32:33 GMT -5
I'm calling BS on the whole new story. School will NOT discuss a child with someone not the parent, period, and if this mom was so chicken shit that she hid in the car, I'm betting her child never told the teacher she needed to use the restroom to begin with. I don't check out anyone's clothes so if the kid isn't obviously wet, I'm never going to know that he or she ever wet their pants. Sorry, breaking promise. School didn't discussed it with Loony. Principal was silent most of the time. I think she knew. ...going back in hiding. What the principal knew was: It's not your child. You have no legal rights with regard to this child and no need to know anything about this child. That's why the principal was silent.
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Post by Rocky Mtn Saver on Feb 11, 2014 12:32:39 GMT -5
What we sometimes overlook when it comes to kids is our impact on that kid. The kid is much less likely to go into meltdown if the parent doesn't treat the emergent situation as a disaster in the making. When things are handled calmly by adults, kids are less likely to make a big deal out of it. Most of the time, a calm talking-through of the incident is all that's needed to put the child's mind at ease. They just want to know they're okay, and they're loved. When they've got that, they tend to roll with the punches a lot better. Very true! They take their cues from us, oftentimes. I notice this when a toddler falls or bumps something while toddling around. They fall, stop, look at the adults around them, and then seem to decide their reaction based on what they find in our reactions. Unless it actually looks/sounds serious, I sometimes will give them a high-five for their awesome fall, and they just totally move on.
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 11, 2014 12:34:19 GMT -5
What we sometimes overlook when it comes to kids is our impact on that kid. The kid is much less likely to go into meltdown if the parent doesn't treat the emergent situation as a disaster in the making. When things are handled calmly by adults, kids are less likely to make a big deal out of it. Most of the time, a calm talking-through of the incident is all that's needed to put the child's mind at ease. They just want to know they're okay, and they're loved. When they've got that, they tend to roll with the punches a lot better. Very true! They take their cues from us, oftentimes. I notice this when a toddler falls or bumps something while toddling around. They fall, stop, look at the adults around them, and then seem to decide their reaction based on what they find in our reactions. Unless it actually looks/sounds serious, I sometimes will give them a high-five for their awesome fall, and they just totally move on. LOL! We used to grade our kids' splats. A good splat could get you a solid 10!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 11, 2014 12:40:49 GMT -5
I have visions of that principal silently nodding to Loony while pushing a panic button under her desk...
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Post by Rocky Mtn Saver on Feb 11, 2014 12:41:41 GMT -5
Principal was silent most of the time. I think she knew
OR she was doing the responsible/legal thing and not discussing the subject with a random stranger who has no legal standing concerning the child and has no proof she even knows the kid involved. School wont tell her anything. My son was indirectly involved in an incident years ago involving a couple kids in a gym locker and a knife. My son was the one who reported it. I was contacted by the SRO and principal and other than the fact that the incident happened and the kid with the knife had been removed from the school, I was told nothing. I got more info out of my son than I did the school and it was a criminal matter. Schools tell you very little about your own kid never mind someone you aren't legally tethered to. I work at a college with HS kids (minors) and adults. You won't be told anything that doesn't directly pertain to you or your minor child, unless it's fully necessary per the situation. And Looney should reverse the reasoning: Would Mr and Mrs Looney want their child's school to go around talking about their child to random, angry, aggressive, unrelated adults?
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Feb 11, 2014 12:44:58 GMT -5
An investigation... lol. If anything comes of this it will be a 30 second conversation between the principal and the teacher. Little kids have accidents. A kid wasn't hurt, a kid isn't being mistreated, there was no physical violence. The principal and teacher will share a laugh over the crazy Russian lady threatening to go the medias, the teacher might make a mental note to talk to the girls mom again, and that will be it. Investigation done, problem handled, case closed.
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Post by milee on Feb 11, 2014 12:47:01 GMT -5
What we sometimes overlook when it comes to kids is our impact on that kid. The kid is much less likely to go into meltdown if the parent doesn't treat the emergent situation as a disaster in the making. When things are handled calmly by adults, kids are less likely to make a big deal out of it. Most of the time, a calm talking-through of the incident is all that's needed to put the child's mind at ease. They just want to know they're okay, and they're loved. When they've got that, they tend to roll with the punches a lot better. Very true! They take their cues from us, oftentimes. I notice this when a toddler falls or bumps something while toddling around. They fall, stop, look at the adults around them, and then seem to decide their reaction based on what they find in our reactions. Unless it actually looks/sounds serious, I sometimes will give them a high-five for their awesome fall, and they just totally move on. Not just true with toddlers, but even more true as kids get older in my experience. As they get to be pre-teens and early teens, one of their big (often hidden and unexpressed) fears is that that are not "normal" or that things that they're going through are not "normal." Once we realized that, it was magical how much comfort we could give our boys by not reacting to things, calmly telling them that it's OK and normal, but if needed making fixes or adjustments behind the scenes without a big fuss. A lot of the time, if they are convinced that even if the situation isn't good, that it's "normal," they'll be calm and good with it.
Recent example:
Kid: Mom, all of a sudden my face is covered with pimples. I'm a freak. I'm so ugly nobody can see me ever again. Me: Sweetie, this is totally normal and happens to everybody. No biggie. We'll just start using some cream and a few other things and get it under control. But it's happening to everybody your age who's starting to get hormones. How cool is it that you'll be shaving and driving soon?
(See, I'm saying that calmly on the outside, but on the inside, I'm like HOLY SHIT!!! Did you see that kid's face?!? We need to get him to the dermatologist STAT if we ever want grandkids! I remember having pimples and feeling like a freak - this is bringing up all those awful memories of middle school. And speaking of grandkids, I'm totally hating the fact that he might actually drive one day. That sounds horrifying!)
Then the kid isn't exactly happy about having pimples, but seems more at peace with things. Calms down, starts noticing that other kids have them, too. Is open to using some cream and not stressing about it. Focuses on how he's looking forward to shaving and driving.
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Post by greeniis10 on Feb 11, 2014 12:48:37 GMT -5
Sorry, breaking promise. School didn't discussed it with Loony. Principal was silent most of the time. I think she knew. ...going back in hiding. What the principal knew was: It's not your child. You have no legal rights with regard to this child and no need to know anything about this child. That's why the principal was silent. Maybe, maybe not. I think there are a lot of differenty dynamics in Loony's community that we don't understand and that don't translate well on a message board when English is not her first language. If this is a school with a high population of immigrants or foreigners (or whatever the proper term is, sorry) then I may suspect that the parents advocate for each other regularly, particularly those that have been here longer and know more English and more about the customs. Just a guess. I certainly don't know one way or the other.
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Post by Rocky Mtn Saver on Feb 11, 2014 12:52:47 GMT -5
No matter the culture, though, I presume that US schools are subject to FERPA laws that define what you can and can't tell non-guardians.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Feb 11, 2014 13:04:04 GMT -5
Let's say you even go so far as to call the child's mom/dad and let them know what your child told you. The parents tell you - for whatever reason - they are afraid to get involved. Then, let's say you decide anyway that doing nothing is not the route to take and you go to the school to let them know what your child said about mistreatment of another child, if for no other reason than it could be your child next time. I would, because I'd rather be safe than sorry.
In that scenario I'm a parent whose child also goes to the school. The adminstration knows me. I'm not a random person off the street barging into the princpals office and making accusations.
Loony is for all intensive purposes a random stranger to the principal. She has no clue if Loony even knows this child or is a schizophrenic off her meds. Why is there any reason to take Loony seriously?
The prinicpal, I am betting, will be waiting for the mother after school. At any rate the school would want the mother to know some random person was in the office asking about her child.
If the mother never speaks up more than likely nothing will be done. If it was another parent or anybody who had legal standing it'd be different. Loony is a random person off the street. There you go! It will be looked into even if, as you said, the principal waits for the mother after school to speak with her about it. Action is taken. And that, IMO, was the whole point. Mission accomplished.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Feb 11, 2014 13:06:13 GMT -5
Maybe, maybe not. I think there are a lot of differenty dynamics in Loony's community that we don't understand and that don't translate well on a message board when English is not her first language. If this is a school with a high population of immigrants or foreigners (or whatever the proper term is, sorry) then I may suspect that the parents advocate for each other regularly, particularly those that have been here longer and know more English and more about the customs. Just a guess. I certainly don't know one way or the other.
Regardless, there is no way that the principal would say anything to Loony without the parent being there. If Loony was with a parent, it implies that the parent has consented so the principal can discuss things with Loony (as a translator). But the parent stayed in the car.
The community still has to comply with federal regulations with regards to discussing children with non-parents.
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 11, 2014 13:07:33 GMT -5
What the principal knew was: It's not your child. You have no legal rights with regard to this child and no need to know anything about this child. That's why the principal was silent. Maybe, maybe not. I think there are a lot of differenty dynamics in Loony's community that we don't understand and that don't translate well on a message board when English is not her first language. If this is a school with a high population of immigrants or foreigners (or whatever the proper term is, sorry) then I may suspect that the parents advocate for each other regularly, particularly those that have been here longer and know more English and more about the customs. Just a guess. I certainly don't know one way or the other. Because of individual privacy issues, for the principal to discuss any child with an individual not related to that child, and not an employee of the school with a need to know, would be unethical. Had the mother been with tloonya, the situation would be different.
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 11, 2014 13:08:33 GMT -5
Let's say you even go so far as to call the child's mom/dad and let them know what your child told you. The parents tell you - for whatever reason - they are afraid to get involved. Then, let's say you decide anyway that doing nothing is not the route to take and you go to the school to let them know what your child said about mistreatment of another child, if for no other reason than it could be your child next time. I would, because I'd rather be safe than sorry.
In that scenario I'm a parent whose child also goes to the school. The adminstration knows me. I'm not a random person off the street barging into the princpals office and making accusations.
Loony is for all intensive purposes a random stranger to the principal. She has no clue if Loony even knows this child or is a schizophrenic off her meds. Why is there any reason to take Loony seriously?
The prinicpal, I am betting, will be waiting for the mother after school. At any rate the school would want the mother to know some random person was in the office asking about her child.
If the mother never speaks up more than likely nothing will be done. If it was another parent or anybody who had legal standing it'd be different. Loony is a random person off the street. There you go! It will be looked into even if, as you said, the principal waits for the mother after school to speak with her about it. Action is taken. And that, IMO, was the whole point. Mission accomplished. The same mission could have been accomplished with a telephone call to the principal - albeit, with a lot less drama.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 11, 2014 13:10:06 GMT -5
Hence the BS on my part. Principal, teacher, and school employee, serious doo doo for talking about another student in any way with someone not connected to said student.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Feb 11, 2014 13:11:55 GMT -5
I don't really stress on the method when it comes to protecting a child. I've done and said a lot of things that, in restrospect, could have been done differently. Sometimes the heat of the moment makes me imperfect. Again, it's probably best I don't have any kids. I'd be one of those nightmares I referred to earlier! It's hard enough taking care of my dog.
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 11, 2014 13:14:56 GMT -5
I don't really stress on the method when it comes to protecting a child. I've done and said a lot of things that, in restrospect, could have been done differently. Sometimes the heat of the moment makes me imperfect. Again, it's probably best I don't have any kids. I'd be one of those nightmares I referred to earlier! It's hard enough taking care of my dog. I can understand that, GEL. These things are things learned when raising kids. You learn, before the child ever enters school, not to make a scene out of anything unless it's absolutely imperative to do so. Major drama scenes are harmful to children, even if they're only about the child and don't directly involve the child. Children thrive in a calm, relatively logical atmosphere. Drama scares them and leaves them vulnerable. I find it does the same thing to my cats, come to think of it!
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Post by Rocky Mtn Saver on Feb 11, 2014 13:18:48 GMT -5
Hence the BS on my part. Principal, teacher, and school employee, serious doo doo for talking about another student in any way with someone not connected to said student. I don't think that the principal actually said anything, though. Looney demanded a meeting, blasted the guy about calling the newspaper on them, and she said that the principal 'listened but hardly said a word'. I could see the principal taking the 'meeting' in an effort to make the random stranger pacified, but not saying anything that would violate his/her responsbilities. Letting Looney say what she came to say doesn't mean the principal participated in any real way.
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Post by milee on Feb 11, 2014 13:21:06 GMT -5
Not only do kids not do well with drama, but it doesn't help your or the kids' long term relationship with the school, either.
Unless they move, that parent and kid will be dealing with this school's administration and teachers - and trust me, teachers talk amongst themselves - for years. If you come across as insane - creating drama about something where you don't even have the facts yet is a good example - then you poison the waters for future interactions. There are many, many times when things are up to the discretion of the admins and teachers, you do not want them to view you and your child as crazy or it will bite you in the butt for years.
That's why you save the big guns for the rare time when that's the only way to get something necessary done. With something like this, where you could probably have solved it with just a friendly talk with the teacher, you're not just wasting your time, you're creating future issues for that kid and parent. Lose/lose.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 11, 2014 13:37:36 GMT -5
I don't really stress on the method when it comes to protecting a child.
As a parent if I fly into mother lion mode every single time there might be a problem I'm going to have a stroke. You need to learn when to step back and get the full picture. Children don't have the same concept of timelines that we do and also have very active imaginations. I can get three different stories in an hour from my kid.
So I need to talk to adults. The reaction I get will dictate how far I choose to elevate the situation.
Going in and threatening to go to the media unless they give me answers is a great way to not get any answers and have them lawyer up faster than I can say boo. And if I do this every time there is an "incident" that's a great way to get me labeled as a problem. So if something serious does happen it's going to be a lot harder to resolve because nobody is going to take my crazy ass seriously.
In this scenario I would have told the teacher that DD was wet, this is her story I'd like to hear yours. Then I'd discuss what we might do to avoid it happening again. If she was uncoopertiave then I'd need to decide if I want to bring in the principal.
If I was non-confrontational I'd call or send an email. Or I'd have DH address it.
I would not send a stranger to my child's school to address the matter. It solves nothing because the mother is now not only going to need to address the pants wetting but explain WTF Loony was doing there asking questions.
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Post by hoops902 on Feb 11, 2014 13:41:24 GMT -5
Hence the BS on my part. Principal, teacher, and school employee, serious doo doo for talking about another student in any way with someone not connected to said student. Loony said she didn't mention anyone's name and that the principal didn't give any info. That sounds consistent with rules in place.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Feb 11, 2014 14:01:02 GMT -5
Except she had to have mentioned names. How can the principal look into it if she didn't tell him/her which teacher to look into? How many kids could that one teacher have who had an accident the day before? One. So Loony did go in and mention, at least indirectly, the name of the teacher and the name of the student. That little girls is now marked as having one of those people in her life.
Teachers and administrators talk. That's why they have a lounge at the school building.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Feb 11, 2014 14:11:21 GMT -5
This is a totally serious and non-judgmental question. As mentioned, I don't have kids and there is a whole lot I don't know when it comes to stuff like this. So here it is:
Do you guys really worry that much about what the teachers and administrators talk about in regards to you and your parenting styles? Does what they may say amongst themselves factor into your decisions on what you choose to bring to the table? Do you eally worry so much about what they think of you?
In my case, one trip in would remove all doubt as to my sanity! But I absolutely understand if you are saying that teachers and administrators would take something you did out on your kid. Are there a lot of those out there? If so, that's scary. I don't give a flying you-know-what what people think of me...but that would probably change if what I did got taken out on my child.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Feb 11, 2014 14:12:40 GMT -5
Principal was silent most of the time. I think she knew
OR she was doing the responsible/legal thing and not discussing the subject with a random stranger who has no legal standing concerning the child and has no proof she even knows the kid involved. I'm beginning to wonder if she actually did go to the school & confront the principal. This story changes so often.
If in fact she did, I wouldn't be surprised if they immediately escorted her right back out the door the minute she started inquiring about what did or didn't happen regarding someone else's child.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 11, 2014 14:27:51 GMT -5
I don't worry about what they think of me personally. I DO want to have them be cooperative with me and work with me.
NOBODY is going to work with me in regards to anything if I pull out the big guns over every single problem, real or percieved. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
It's about being diplomatic and a rational adult. I would not be thrilled if my child came home with wet pants but I would not jump to the conclusion the teacher is an insane control freak who refused to let my daughter use the bathroom therefore I must go the prinicpal and demand an investigation otherwise I'll call 7 Can Help.
I would hang back after school and request a moment of the teacher's time. If we must I'd set up an appointment. Then I'd address the issue with her.
If I'm not satisfied I'll escalate in a gradual manner up the ladder until I get results. I have no problems being a squeaky wheel when I need to be.
It's like the boy who cried wolf. If I barge into the office guns blazing every time something happens nobody is going to take me seriously when a big thing happens because as far as they can tell I'm behaving like I do all the time.
I save my big reactions for when they are needed. Not everything involving my kid is something that needs to be formally investigated and have multiple meetings over. I'd have a stroke if I conducted myself like Loony every time there was an "incident". You can't live the next 18 years blowing your stack over everything because there are going to be A LOT of "wet pants" type incidents.
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Post by milee on Feb 11, 2014 14:31:46 GMT -5
This is a totally serious and non-judgmental question. As mentioned, I don't have kids and there is a whole lot I don't know when it comes to stuff like this. So here it is: Do you guys really worry that much about what the teachers and administrators talk about in regards to you and your parenting styles? Does what they may say amongst themselves factor into your decisions on what you choose to bring to the table? Do you eally worry so much about what they think of you? Absofreakinglutely.
Teachers and administrators are people, too. Most are professionals but all are people and form judgments based on their interactions with the parents. If you demonstrate that you are a parent that is rational and seeks to solve problems then over time, you and your child receive much better treatment and action than if you give off crazy or overreactive signals.
Not just in problem solving, but there are dozens of things in which the personal feeling of teachers and admins either makes your child's school experience more or less enjoyable. Classroom assignments, teacher assignments, subjective grades, presenting opportunities, mentoring, solving disputes between students are just a few of the examples of things in which the personal judgment of teachers and administrators come into play.
Be professional and reasonable and your child's experience - and, most importantly - your effectiveness is greatly improved. Act crazy and it's not only much harder for you to get things done but every single future judgment call is likely to go against you rather than for you.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Feb 11, 2014 14:40:25 GMT -5
Both of you make perfect sense. Thanks.
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Post by tloonya on Feb 11, 2014 14:49:25 GMT -5
This is a totally serious and non-judgmental question. As mentioned, I don't have kids and there is a whole lot I don't know when it comes to stuff like this. So here it is: Do you guys really worry that much about what the teachers and administrators talk about in regards to you and your parenting styles? Does what they may say amongst themselves factor into your decisions on what you choose to bring to the table? Do you eally worry so much about what they think of you? Absofreakinglutely.
Teachers and administrators are people, too. Most are professionals but all are people and form judgments based on their interactions with the parents. If you demonstrate that you are a parent that is rational and seeks to solve problems then over time, you and your child receive much better treatment and action than if you give off crazy or overreactive signals.
Not just in problem solving, but there are dozens of things in which the personal feeling of teachers and admins either makes your child's school experience more or less enjoyable. Classroom assignments, teacher assignments, subjective grades, presenting opportunities, mentoring, solving disputes between students are just a few of the examples of things in which the personal judgment of teachers and administrators come into play.
Be professional and reasonable and your child's experience - and, most importantly - your effectiveness is greatly improved. Act crazy and it's not only much harder for you to get things done but every single future judgment call is likely to go against you rather than for you.
So not true. Otherwise you suggesting that education of a child is based on personality of the parent. You are not saying that unfortunate kids who have crazy parents will be not thought as well as kids of TPO clique? Because it is sound exactly what you are saying. And how about those kids who's parents I had not seen in my DDs school years...ever? Are they supposed to be thought...not surely how? So not true!!!
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Post by muttleynfelix on Feb 11, 2014 14:49:30 GMT -5
Teachers and administrators are partners in my kids education. They have a tremendous influence over my kids lives. I want to partner with them in their education, not be adversarial against them. Listen, I'm only 6 months into my oldest even being in preschool, but how the preschool has handled themselves is important to me. They've helped us through making decisions with DS, have been a huge help in finishing up potty training. My kid loves school and I would like it to stay that way for as long as possible. I'm not sure I worry so much about what they think about me, but I want them to know that I respect their opinions and we work with their concerns about DS at home (reinforce keeping our hands to ourselves, etc).
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