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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 14:01:59 GMT -5
Over three years now and my daycare lady has only "called in" maybe 3 times. If her kids get sick she sends them to her Mom's. She even had a baby last year and lined up alternative care to take her daycare kids while she was on leave. I struck gold with her. Are you taking advantage of her and abusing her? No. But others do. She had lots of problems with non-payers. People that would show up on Friday and say they were short that week, but would get it to her next week kind of stuff. She confides in me with all her daycare woes' and it pisses me off. Probably why my rates haven't changed for years. Not sure what others are paying. I give her a gift card every Christmas and last year I wrote her a letter in her card about how much I appreciate her and how good it was to know that DS was with someone that he cared about all day and thought of as a second Mom. I don't even remember all I wrote, but when I went to pick up DS that night she had just read it and was bawling her head off. I'm like "really, people don't tell you this stuff all the time?". I also paid her sons way though YMCA camp last summer because she's a single mom making due running a daycare and owning her own home and she was hemming and hawing about spending the money on it.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 14:03:40 GMT -5
Are you taking advantage of her and abusing her? Probably why my rates haven't changed for years. Even minimum wage workers get a raise every couple of years. Sounds like you are taking advantage.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 14:07:09 GMT -5
Probably why my rates haven't changed for years. Even minimum wage workers get a raise every couple of years. Sounds like you are taking advantage. She writes the contracts. I just sign. And I don't think our company got the memo about mandatory raises.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 14:15:01 GMT -5
Even minimum wage workers get a raise every couple of years. Sounds like you are taking advantage. She writes the contracts. I just sign. And I don't think our company got the memo about mandatory raises. You should be a better boss.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 14:36:26 GMT -5
This is why I will never let my kids be taken care of by a stay-at-home mom. Just because you are a parent doesn't mean that you are good with kids. I even know parents who actually dislike children in general, but of course, love their children. And stay-at-home moms who babysit often take care of their own children as priority. Which I suppose is human nature, but I rather have a professional taking care of the kids equally, and who won't get flustered. Someone who spends all day taking care of children versus trying to get laundry done, house cleaned and dinner started. My licensed "professional" daycare lady is also a SAHM. I mean, she's a mom and stays home... She's also the most awesome daycare provider ever and only charges me $100/week, which makes her rock all the more. right but she's a daycare professional who I assume has a contract with you, not just a SAHM who decided to watch someone for some extra cash
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 30, 2014 14:43:30 GMT -5
We have a friend watching our kids for 2 half days a week. This thread reminded me to email her and thank her for everything and ask her to talk to us about any issues/concerns/changes she needs.
She says everything is great thankfully, although she'll be going out of the country for a few weeks soon that we will need to find back up coverage for.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 16:11:13 GMT -5
MPL, that was SO sweet of you, paying for her boys' YMCA camp!
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Jan 30, 2014 16:16:02 GMT -5
Wish me luck, she's on her way here. I'm so nervous
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Jan 30, 2014 16:17:48 GMT -5
Mkitty I wouldn't give her any reasons, just say you can't do it anymore. If you need to, practice in front of a mirror saying "It isn't working out"... Her: "WTF?" You: "It's not working out." Her: "What do you mean?" You: "It just isn't working out for me" Her: "I don't get it" You: "It simply isn't working out. Sorry". (You get the idea)
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 16:26:25 GMT -5
MPL, that was SO sweet of you, paying for her boys' YMCA camp! My kid goes to so many camps that he doesn't even appreciate them. It was cool seeing a kid excited about camp. I need to deprive my son more...
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 16:27:08 GMT -5
Wish me luck, she's on her way here. I'm so nervous You can do it!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 16:33:50 GMT -5
Go for it MK! And GG is right, don't explain! It'll be hard for 5-10 min and then you'll be done!!!!!
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jan 30, 2014 16:35:46 GMT -5
for you MK. Hope it goes well. Report back so we will know you are OK!!!!
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Jan 30, 2014 17:12:06 GMT -5
Ok, had to grab a glass of wine because I am shaking like a leaf. It went very well She was understanding and I didn't have to explain much. I am feeling dizzy and sweaty but happy. I hate giving bad news! She wanted two weeks and that was perfect for me. Thank you guys for being so supportive and damn I can't believe my thread ended up with so many pages I've never had anything that interesting to post! Thank you again all
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Post by Sunnyday on Jan 30, 2014 17:17:16 GMT -5
Yeah!!! I love it when posters actually take advice when they asked for it!!!
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Post by resolution on Jan 30, 2014 17:20:19 GMT -5
I'm glad the conversation went well and you have the burden off your shoulders.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jan 30, 2014 17:21:56 GMT -5
Ok, had to grab a glass of wine because I am shaking like a leaf. It went very well She was understanding and I didn't have to explain much. I am feeling dizzy and sweaty but happy. I hate giving bad news! She wanted two weeks and that was perfect for me. Thank you guys for being so supportive and damn I can't believe my thread ended up with so many pages I've never had anything that interesting to post! Thank you again all Well, you know we just love telling folks what they should do
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Jan 30, 2014 17:30:56 GMT -5
And now that this is finally off my chest I am over on the parenting fail thread laughing my ass off! I will be posting some of mine in a bit
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Jan 30, 2014 17:46:36 GMT -5
I'm glad the conversation went well and you have the burden off your shoulders. so much this.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 17:52:03 GMT -5
Whoo hoo!!! That is FANTASTIC news MK!
By the way, the same thing happened to me in those situations ... I fretted and stressed and worried, and both times, it went MUCH better than I expected. In retrospect, I think these people KNOW full well they are taking advantage, and they are waiting / expecting to be eventually told their sweet gig is over.
Even if she changes her mind later, and acts pissed off, YOU NEED TO STAND FIRM!!! The hard part is done, all you need to do now is stick to your guns, should the need arise!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 18:11:28 GMT -5
And, like somebody else mentioned (Drama?) I hope that YM will now stop trotting out "oh just start an unlicensed daycare out of your home!" to every SAHM with a small child. Of course nobody ever says "unlicensed", but that's the subtext. Let this be a cautionary tale LOL. In any case, MK, tighten your belt if you need to, and take this time to just enjoy your family and your baby, and your peace of mind! Some situations (and people) are just toxic, and I'm glad this is all very nearly behind you. Kudos to you for biting the bullet and doing it sooner rather than later! I'm sure you're just giddy with excitement right now LOL. Also, I would REALLY encourage you to make A TON of plans for two weeks from now ... that way if Potmom asks you to work for a week or two longer (how long is a piece of string?!) it will be easier for you, you can honestly say, I'm no longer available. You could even go out of town for a few days at that time, if that's feasible / something you'd like to do. Or else schedule some nice treats for you and your child, play dates, lunch dates, visiting family, etc. All the things you haven't been able to do for all these months. But I really think it would be good if you were VERY VERY busy that week, and even the following week. It would pre-empt your wanting to do this woman "a favor, just this once", if she is "stuck" and begs you too, and help to "cut the cord", so to speak. And it will feel great to get out of the house and "do your own thing" after all this time! ETA: Do you NEED to do this? Of course not, you are free to hang out at home 24/7! But I just think it would be easier for you to be busy for the two following weeks after you stop watching the baby, to pre-empt Potmom from trying to take advantage of you / guilt you into continuing to watch her kid.
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Post by taz157 on Jan 30, 2014 21:55:56 GMT -5
Great job MK!
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Post by NastyWoman on Jan 30, 2014 22:13:42 GMT -5
Great job MK! and now start practicing for two weeks from now: I wish you all the best! Whenever you feel the tendency to say " it was great" or "if you ever have an emergency" pinch yourself. You are a very nice person MK and chances are you'll be tempted to say something that might get you sucked back in if you are not careful. And now for you tonight.
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