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Post by Shooby on Jan 29, 2014 19:48:31 GMT -5
What does medical MJ have to do with this? Nothing.
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Post by Shooby on Jan 29, 2014 19:49:18 GMT -5
MK - That is kind of my point. She put you in a bad position. So, why let it happen again?
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 29, 2014 19:50:59 GMT -5
I wouldn't. My boss has the attitude that what an employee does in their own time is their business as long as it doesn't affect the workplace. For me anyway. I'm a special snowflake. Could practically get away with murder and keep my job. He's a bit tougher on everyone else.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 29, 2014 19:52:05 GMT -5
She doesn't know whether her friend has a prescription for the pot or not. Maybe she has a 'bad back' or whatever excuse people use these days, and the pot is a legal medication.
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Post by Shooby on Jan 29, 2014 20:17:23 GMT -5
So if she has medical MJ she can legally drive around smoking it?
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Post by Shooby on Jan 29, 2014 20:18:30 GMT -5
I wouldn't. My boss has the attitude that what an employee does in their own time is their business as long as it doesn't affect the workplace. For me anyway. I'm a special snowflake. Could practically get away with murder and keep my job. He's a bit tougher on everyone else. Well it doesn't sound as if that woman is a company exec. Sheesh.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jan 29, 2014 20:40:15 GMT -5
hours agoNoNamePerson said:
2 hours agoShaun of the Toys said: There's really no difference, other than legally, between smoking pot once in a while and having a few drinks. I know plenty of parents that have a few drinks on occasion.
I don't drive my kids around after having a few, but I don't think I'm a horrible parent for having a couple drinks on a Friday evening.
But I think somewhere buried in earlier posts that she picked the baby up and was stoned. She had to drive the baby home while stoned then. Big difference. (my reply to Shaun)
Couldn't get the whole thing to quote, but I wasn't making a comment on MK and her being ok with anything. My comment was made to Shaun about drinking and/or smoking pot.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jan 29, 2014 20:41:07 GMT -5
She doesn't know whether her friend has a prescription for the pot or not. Maybe she has a 'bad back' or whatever excuse people use these days, and the pot is a legal medication. It doesn't matter if you have a prescription or not, she was still driving while impaired and put her child at risk.
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Post by Shooby on Jan 29, 2014 21:12:27 GMT -5
Mks optionss: 1. End this today. Tell her why including the pot use. 2. Give notice but also tell her why because she may be doing her a favor.
Or 3. 4. Same as above and not tell her.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Jan 30, 2014 2:37:49 GMT -5
Hope you follow my suggestion on post #151 on page 6, MK.
Seems every else now is getting into an off-topic heated discussion about pot-use.
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Post by Shooby on Jan 30, 2014 6:49:50 GMT -5
Hope you follow my suggestion on post #151 on page 6, MK.
Seems every else now is getting into an off-topic heated discussion about pot-use. Um, I gave her LOTS of very good advice and suggestions. Actually much earlier than #151.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 30, 2014 6:55:15 GMT -5
I don't care if you use pot. I certainly did and would again if made legal. But I never ever was impaired around my kids. I may have gotten a little tipsy at home wi friends when my kids were old enough to be functional but as babies/toddlers-never! Drive with them in a car in that state? NEVER EVER!!! No matter if she has a bought and paid for doctor excuse, driving while impaired isn't legal. For any reason.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 10:49:46 GMT -5
Was she really noticeably messed up when she picked up the baby? I mean, MK said she just found out later she had gone to get high. Maybe mutual friend mentioned that's what they were doing. I know people that smoke and you would never even know it to be around them.
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Jan 30, 2014 11:06:55 GMT -5
Nope, she told me when she got there. I have a hard time telling when people are stoned unless they are really stoned and acting weird.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jan 30, 2014 11:15:52 GMT -5
Was she really noticeably messed up when she picked up the baby? I mean, MK said she just found out later she had gone to get high. Maybe mutual friend mentioned that's what they were doing. I know people that smoke and you would never even know it to be around them. Not long after WA passed legalization of pot, one of the local TV stations did a study (along with the help of the state police) looking at how much pot impaired driving. It did not take much to impair driving. Some did better ham others, but they all still drove into the orange cones (after driving the course cleanly, pre-pot) after a rather small amount. The purpose of the study was to look at how state police are going to have to determine if someone is driving impaired, as pot is not as easy to test for as alcohol and the classic tests for it have it sticking around the body, long after its effects are gone.
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Post by Shooby on Jan 30, 2014 12:11:03 GMT -5
Look. If the States want to legalize pot, I don't necessarily have a problem with it. If it is legal and you want to smoke it, puff away. The problem is using it in a State where it is illegal and putting the babysitter in a bad position and driving. So, medical MJ is has nothing to do with anything other than trying to muddy the waters. And for MK, she can either tell her, so that maybe she won't make the same mistake again, or not. People make mistakes. Nobody is saying to give her the death penalty. And, it would be a kindness to point it out to her if MK is so inclined, but she doesn't HAVE too. Completely her choice.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 12:40:00 GMT -5
Nope, she told me when she got there. I have a hard time telling when people are stoned unless they are really stoned and acting weird. ROFL. "I am so friggen stoned. Ok, can I have my baby now?"
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Post by Sunnyday on Jan 30, 2014 13:01:46 GMT -5
I have a kid at home too and can't even give him the attention he needs because this. My kid I could put down for a bit and get things done, this is not the case with this child. And the people at a daycare can rotate, I can't Yes being a SAHM should make me a good candidate for sitting, but ten hours a day on average is taking it's toll. This is why I will never let my kids be taken care of by a stay-at-home mom. Just because you are a parent doesn't mean that you are good with kids. I even know parents who actually dislike children in general, but of course, love their children. And stay-at-home moms who babysit often take care of their own children as priority. Which I suppose is human nature, but I rather have a professional taking care of the kids equally, and who won't get flustered. Someone who spends all day taking care of children versus trying to get laundry done, house cleaned and dinner started.
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Post by Sunnyday on Jan 30, 2014 13:05:48 GMT -5
oh god, i just spit out my lunch from laughing! [goes off to find rag to wipe computer screen]
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 13:06:16 GMT -5
You're welcome!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 13:33:01 GMT -5
I have a kid at home too and can't even give him the attention he needs because this. My kid I could put down for a bit and get things done, this is not the case with this child. And the people at a daycare can rotate, I can't Yes being a SAHM should make me a good candidate for sitting, but ten hours a day on average is taking it's toll. This is why I will never let my kids be taken care of by a stay-at-home mom. Just because you are a parent doesn't mean that you are good with kids. I even know parents who actually dislike children in general, but of course, love their children. And stay-at-home moms who babysit often take care of their own children as priority. Which I suppose is human nature, but I rather have a professional taking care of the kids equally, and who won't get flustered. Someone who spends all day taking care of children versus trying to get laundry done, house cleaned and dinner started. My licensed "professional" daycare lady is also a SAHM. I mean, she's a mom and stays home... She's also the most awesome daycare provider ever and only charges me $100/week, which makes her rock all the more.
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Post by Shooby on Jan 30, 2014 13:36:46 GMT -5
Personally I always preferred a daycare to a private sitter. You never really know what is going on in someone's home. At least with daycare there are multiple adults around.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 13:41:31 GMT -5
I preferred the daycare because I didn't have to worry about not having someone to watch them on workdays. As long as I paid they would take the kids any days that I wanted.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 13:50:24 GMT -5
Over three years now and my daycare lady has only "called in" maybe 3 times. If her kids get sick she sends them to her Mom's. She even had a baby last year and lined up alternative care to take her daycare kids while she was on leave.
I struck gold with her.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 13:52:54 GMT -5
Over three years now and my daycare lady has only "called in" maybe 3 times. If her kids get sick she sends them to her Mom's. She even had a baby last year and lined up alternative care to take her daycare kids while she was on leave. I struck gold with her. Are you taking advantage of her and abusing her?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2014 13:55:26 GMT -5
My MIL offered to watch them....except for on her golf days in the summer....and when they go to FL for two months....and her monthly girlfriend get-together.
And she was mad when I didn't accept her generous offer. Even after I explained why it wouldn't work.
Her solution was to have us sign them up for daycare and then pull them out once she got back from FL.
Besides keeping family out of it, I preferred having the days set in stone. One less thing for me to deal with.
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Jan 30, 2014 13:56:11 GMT -5
<<Snort!!!>> Beer!!! That's hilarious Anyway, I am working up the courage to tell her today. I had a horrible nights sleep last night and when I did finally fall asleep I dreamt of carrying heavy babies around all night in the snow
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 30, 2014 13:57:25 GMT -5
This thread highlights why I roll my eyes everytime a YM-er says "Take in neighborhood kids!" "Start a daycare!" anytime a female poster or someone's wife is unemployed.
Not everyone is cut out to watch other people's kids. I admitted to my daycare director I'd rather stick an icepick thru my eye than do what she does.
Mkitty I wouldn't give her any reasons, just say you can't do it anymore. Most people consider it a chance to negociate/object if you start justifying your position. You don't want to risk getting convinced to give her a second chance.
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Jan 30, 2014 14:01:06 GMT -5
Yep, next time I want to earn extra money I'm getting a job outside of the house and nothing with kids
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