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Post by Peace Of Mind on Dec 4, 2013 1:56:14 GMT -5
It's a busy time of year to be having a lot of company over. Do you ask your family or guests to remove their shoes when they come to your home? Why or why not? What kind of floors do you have? We both have allergies and usually take our shoes off here at the house but allow the guest to decide if they want to wear their shoes or not. When they ask I tell them it's up to them. We have tile floors with area rugs. I do sometimes joke "As long as you haven't stepped in dog shit or paint I have no problem with you wearing shoes in my house." How about you all? What is your preference regardless of what you allow? Here are some responses the writer of the article shared. 1. Not For Guests "I take my shoes off at the front door. The rest of my family does also. But we would never dream of asking a guest to remove their shoes." — Julie M. 2. Asking Homeowner "I shouldn't have to ask guests to remove their shoes. If they have common sense or proper etiquette, they would automatically take their shoes off or ask me what my preference is." — Amy B.R. 3. Home is Not a Museum "No way! We 'live' in our house. It's not a museum and we have doormats and a vacuum. I think it's very rude to be asked to remove my shoes, especially if I am not wearing socks. I don't want to walk barefoot on their filthy floor." — Leslie M. 4. Living With Allergies "We always take our shoes off. I have severe allergies and I don't want you dragging in pollen, mold, pesticides and who knows what you stepped in at the gas station." — Schelly M. 5. Wear Booties "Everybody who comes into my house removes their shoes. For people coming to work on the house, I have 'booties,' which I buy at Home Depot and can be discarded after being used." — Patricia D. 6. Vacuum Up "No. My house is a home and meant to be lived in. Dirty feet are the reason there are vacuum cleaners." — Lauren 7. Home is a Retreat "My home is my intimate retreat from the chaos of everyday life. It is an embrace as I walk through the door, a hug at the end of a busy day, and as welcoming as flannel jammies on a cold winter night. No way to do that wearing shoes." — Pat T. 8. Floor Cleaner "Yes, we leave the shoes at the door and ask our guests to do the same. My Japanese mother never allowed shoes to be worn in the house. It's amazing how much cleaner the floors stay." — Jennifer K.S. 9. Clean After Guests "No. I live on the beach in Florida, and it's always really bothered me when someone made me take my shoes off. They're my shoes, and if I didn't want to wear them I'd leave them at home. If you appreciate your carpet more than my company, then I don't want to come to your home anyway. To keep from having this issue we put ceramic tile on the first floor of our home. If I have a mess it can easily be cleaned up – after my guests have gone home." — Kristi W. 10. Consider Kids "It's good manners and common courtesy to remove your shoes before entering someone's home. Especially when they have young children at crawling age." — Alexandra K. link
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Post by cronewitch on Dec 4, 2013 2:13:33 GMT -5
My house we wear shoes. His house so far we wear shoes but I suggested he not have shoes in his house. His floors are bare wood and we tracked in a lot of mud moving stuff in and have mopped a few times. He has started leaving his shoes outside when they are wet and muddy. He has really tall wet grass with moles so mounts of mud. I think he shouldn't have shoes on in his house to keep the floors cleaner but wouldn't really ask others to remove shoes and so far I haven't removed mine. He did buy us each a pair of slippers so if we keep them on the front porch maybe we will but still not ask guests. Many guests would remove theirs if we do, I do if I see the owners remove theirs or if asked.
My house we use the back door and so have a mat then up a couple of stairs to the kitchen with vinyl floors so pretty easy to mop up messes and no good place to leave shoes outside or just inside.
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Post by ❤ mollymouser ❤ on Dec 4, 2013 2:30:35 GMT -5
I don't think I've ever asked someone to take off their shoes in my home.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Dec 4, 2013 2:46:48 GMT -5
I've never asked someone outright to remove their shoes.
We had wall-to-wall light beige carpet in our last home - somehow people just automatically did it - which I appreciated - but I didn't ask them to.
Where I am now, I have hardwood laminate with area rugs & throw rugs so it's not really a big deal if I have to clean the floors afterward - and the rugs are washable/cleanable.
With the light carpet previously throughout a two-story house, it was a PITA (and expensive) to clean once they got dirty.
The Vacu-Flo managed normal cleaning but any ground-in grime or muck usually meant heavy-duty shampooing. Now I can just whip out my Swiffer to clean them.
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Post by msventoux on Dec 4, 2013 3:09:36 GMT -5
I don't ask people to remove their shoes, but I do warn them in the winter that the floors can be slick if they have any snow on the soles of their shoes. I have Pergo type flooring in the main living area so cleanup is quick and easy, but it can be a bit slippery for certain shoe types and water/snow.
I have light colored carpet in the bedrooms, which is a complete pain. It's on the upgrades wishlist to change out all of the carpet for the same flooring as in the living areas.
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Post by marvholly on Dec 4, 2013 6:37:00 GMT -5
No I NEVER hae asked family, friends or workmen to remove their shoes. It is a lived in home; NOT a casle or museum.
My kids DO push this and it drives me NUTS!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 6:48:20 GMT -5
I wear shoes in my house. I don't ask anyone to remove their shoes and I find it rude if someone asks me to remove my shoes in their house. If that happened, it would probably be the last time I ever went to their house.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 4, 2013 7:23:56 GMT -5
DF works around machines sometimes and it gets on his shoes. He always takes them off, even at other people's homes. I hate feeling obligated to take my shoes off but see that in Michigan unlike Florida, people do. Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't up here. In Florida, never unless I've stopped in something or would track something in. I sort of understand up here in the winter because of all the crap like snow and salt. I don't entertain when the weather is bad because parking is a bitch here and I don't want people walking a long ways in bad weather. So no guests take their shoes off.
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Post by thyme4change on Dec 4, 2013 7:37:19 GMT -5
I've only known one person in Arizona that had a "no shoes" rule - and she was from Canada. It isn't something you have to do in dry climates. It would be f'n ridiculous to do it here. People would think I was a total asshole.
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Dec 4, 2013 7:42:18 GMT -5
Yes I do, although my FIL never takes his shoes off at our house and has even track mud and snow in and I had to chase him around with a towel Even when my MIL told him he should take off his shoes he didn't We have a four year old and if he drops food on the floor there's a good chance he's going to eat it anyway, so take the damn shoes off!!! My sis and bro inlaw are nazis about the no shoes, they put up signs!
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Post by thyme4change on Dec 4, 2013 7:56:06 GMT -5
Meh - a kid eating a little dirt isn't going to hurt him. In fact, there are lots of studies that say that kids that grow up in homes that are too clean and sterile are actually sicker than kids who grow up in a home that is dirtier.
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Dec 4, 2013 8:12:15 GMT -5
I have a kid with severe allergies, we even had to get rid of the grass in the back yard(pea stone now) because he brakes out on body rashes and his nose runs and runs
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Post by skubikky on Dec 4, 2013 8:28:03 GMT -5
We live in the country and especially when we first moved to the house, there was a lot of mud and unfinished driveway dirt. We take our shoes off in the house. Anyone who comes into the house sees the shoes at the entry way and does the same.. Same in both my BIL's and SIL's homes.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 8:34:39 GMT -5
If it's muddy or snowy out, I make sure that any kids we have over take their shoes off. I've never asked an adult to take their shoes off. People have asked me if they need to take them off and I say it doesn't matter. We don't have allergies and my floors are Pergo and clean up really easy. I take my shoes off when I go over to other people's homes. Same here! ETA: This too. We don't specifically ask people to take their shoes off, but most do.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Dec 4, 2013 8:38:48 GMT -5
All my friends and I have learned to walk on our hands so this isn't a problem when we enter each other's homes....
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 8:48:45 GMT -5
I can't stand it when people come to my house and take their shoes off by my front door....nothing worse than having a pile of shoes by the door....plus I don't want to see anyone's bare feet or socks with holes.....
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 8:55:14 GMT -5
We've had this discussion before, I don't have to ask people to take their shoes off. Everyone does. Well they take off their outside shoes. Some people bring slippers or inside shoes to go with their outfits if it's a party. We have 4 seasons. 3 of them are messy and mucky and the other one everyone wants to be barefoot anyway.
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Post by chiver78 on Dec 4, 2013 9:01:42 GMT -5
I live alone, and am trying to not really "live" in my new renovation so that it's still "new" when I do sell. my first floor is hardwood throughout. prior to the reno, the carpets were a light beige. I've always taken my shoes off when I walk in, and my family is trained to do the same. I don't ask anyone else to do so unless it's snowy/muddy out. that said, many people will just do so when they see that I am barefoot. I will say this - I am totally out of sorts in my kitchen with shoes on, especially heels. everything's at the wrong height that way!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 9:03:06 GMT -5
We've had this discussion before, I don't have to ask people to take their shoes off. Everyone does. Well they take off their outside shoes. Some people bring slippers or inside shoes to go with their outfits if it's a party. We have 4 seasons. 3 of them are messy and mucky and the other one everyone wants to be barefoot anyway. what are inside shoes for a party? heels that I would wear to work every day so would be worn outside?
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Post by vonna on Dec 4, 2013 9:06:20 GMT -5
Hmm... I don't really think it is rude for someone to ask guests to take their shoes off, I just usually think they are a bit uptight
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Dec 4, 2013 9:07:59 GMT -5
We have hard wood floors and tile everywhere except family room so when kids were crawling, yes, I would ask to take shoes off in the family room. I didn't want their faces to touch the same surface as you just did with your shoes that you had on in McDonalds bathroom.
Now we don't anymore. I would prefer people taking shoes off if it's raining, etc. But otherwise, it's not a big deal.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 9:17:35 GMT -5
We've had this discussion before, I don't have to ask people to take their shoes off. Everyone does. Well they take off their outside shoes. Some people bring slippers or inside shoes to go with their outfits if it's a party. We have 4 seasons. 3 of them are messy and mucky and the other one everyone wants to be barefoot anyway. what are inside shoes for a party? heels that I would wear to work every day so would be worn outside? Yes. The problem isn't that they are worn outside. It is all the dirt that gets dragged in because they have just come through muck, snow, rain, whatever. Dry shoes are no problem.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 9:18:34 GMT -5
We live in the country and especially when we first moved to the house, there was a lot of mud and unfinished driveway dirt. We take our shoes off in the house. Anyone who comes into the house sees the shoes at the entry way and does the same.. Same in both my BIL's and SIL's homes. We have a big entryway and mud room where we take off our shoes or boots. I don't ever ask people to, but for the most part, they always do. Judging by what I scrub off the stone entry every week, I can't imagine what our carpet would look like if everyone wore their shoes in the house all the time.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 9:26:14 GMT -5
A friend of mine remodeled her house years ago and had white carpeting put in her living room, which is the room you entered through the front door. She'd always wanted white carpeting. Rules changed after that. No one was allowed to come in through the front door- they had to use the side door through the garage, which entered into the kitchen. And of course there were no shoes in the living room. I decided then and there that I'd never be that fanatic about my house.
We bought a house 10 years ago that has the same standard beige carpeting the developer used all over the county. If there were one thing I could change with a magic wand, that would be it. The edge of the family room that gets all the traffic has really grungy carpet. I feel like cleaning it is a futile effort because it will just get dirty again and we'll either replace it or offer a credit towards replacement when we put it on the market.
DH and I walk barefoot at home anyway, but dirt still gets tracked around.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 9:28:51 GMT -5
what are inside shoes for a party? heels that I would wear to work every day so would be worn outside? Yes. The problem isn't that they are worn outside. It is all the dirt that gets dragged in because they have just come through muck, snow, rain, whatever. Dry shoes are no problem. so if I'm coming to a party at your house and the weather if fine outside and I wear my heels, am I expected to take them off when I come in? I host a holiday open house every year where I have up to 50+ people in my home at one time.....am I supposed to have that many pairs of shoes piled up at my front door and people walking around in their stocking feet?
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Dec 4, 2013 9:37:51 GMT -5
We remove our shoes and wear house slippers (I grew up in Japan and was raised that way).
I never ask guests to remove their shoes: some simply do because they do at home. Other ask and I tell them it is up to them. When I go to someone's house, I generally remove my shoes - unless the host is wearing shoes and it is clear that no one removes them. If not sure, I take them off.
When my kids were growing up, however, I did tell them that their friends were expected to remove their shoes.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 9:38:12 GMT -5
Yes. The problem isn't that they are worn outside. It is all the dirt that gets dragged in because they have just come through muck, snow, rain, whatever. Dry shoes are no problem. so if I'm coming to a party at your house and the weather if fine outside and I wear my heels, am I expected to take them off when I come in? I host a holiday open house every year where I have up to 50+ people in my home at one time.....am I supposed to have that many pairs of shoes piled up at my front door and people walking around in their stocking feet? Our weather is never fine in December. No one would be wearing just their heels. But yes, you have 50 pairs of boots piled by the door and folks walk around in their stocking feet if they didn't bring a change of footwear. It's a way of life here. We know this and plan for it. When I have a party I put floor mats down my hallway to make room for all the footwear. It's not much different than throwing the coats on spare room bed.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 9:39:41 GMT -5
Some people keep a boxful of slippers for guests. Especially if they know their floors tend to be cold.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 9:41:04 GMT -5
Yes. The problem isn't that they are worn outside. It is all the dirt that gets dragged in because they have just come through muck, snow, rain, whatever. Dry shoes are no problem. so if I'm coming to a party at your house and the weather if fine outside and I wear my heels, am I expected to take them off when I come in? I host a holiday open house every year where I have up to 50+ people in my home at one time.....am I supposed to have that many pairs of shoes piled up at my front door and people walking around in their stocking feet? I don't think anyone ever said what you should do in your own house. And anyone coming to a party at my house wouldn't be wearing heels.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 9:44:45 GMT -5
My wife and I tend to walk around barefoot so by the entrance you will see our shoes (we have a show rack for that). But it is a habit: they are the first thing to come off when we get home and the last we put on when we are going out.
So when we have guests they automatically assume they should because they see the other shoes by the front door and we tell them NO ; also if we are entertaining we have our shoes on too (only barefoot and naked without guests).
So we spend more time telling them to keep their shoes on vs asking them to remove them.
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