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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 9:45:25 GMT -5
I do not consider my home a museum, but we do take our shoes off because we live in a very sandy area and the sand destroys our floors. I don't ask guests to remove their shoes. However, after seeing our shoes at the door, they simply take it upon themselves to do it.
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Post by The Home 6 on Dec 4, 2013 9:45:43 GMT -5
It's expected that you take shoes off here, but everyone wears snow boots 7 months out of the year, so what do you expect? We have a good sized entryway with enough space for shoes. When repairmen have to come, they come prepared with booties already in hand to put over their shoes.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 9:46:24 GMT -5
Some people keep a boxful of slippers for guests. Especially if they know their floors tend to be cold. so I spend time putting together an outfit, including shoes, and then I have to wear a boxful of slippers that have been worn by other people? think I'll skip coming to that person's house
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 9:48:33 GMT -5
The answer, of course, is to spend less time putting together an outfit for a house party!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 9:50:43 GMT -5
Some people keep a boxful of slippers for guests. Especially if they know their floors tend to be cold. so I spend time putting together an outfit, including shoes, and then I have to wear a boxful of slippers that have been worn by other people? think I'll skip coming to that person's house LOL that works. If you insist on wearing the shoes that go with your outfit through the snow and then want to track that snow and muck through my house I'd prefer you don't come over.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 9:59:48 GMT -5
Some people keep a boxful of slippers for guests. Especially if they know their floors tend to be cold. so I spend time putting together an outfit, including shoes, and then I have to wear a boxful of slippers that have been worn by other people? think I'll skip coming to that person's house I will bring my own slippers if I know I'm going to be in a no shoes house.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 10:02:09 GMT -5
I am so thankful that I grew up where I did and that I live where I live....I don't know anyone who expects guests to take off their shoes in their house.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 10:06:10 GMT -5
Do I ask them to? No.
Do they take off their shoes anyway? Yes
Where I live, many people keep a pair or two of shoes at work (or carry them back and forth from home) and change out of their boots when they get there. Most people, like me, also keep a pair of slippers in our cars so that we can put them on if we visit someone's house.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Dec 4, 2013 10:06:51 GMT -5
I am so thankful that I grew up where I did and that I live where I live....I don't know anyone who expects guests to take off their shoes in their house. You mean in the entire state of MD no one asks guests to take their shoes off?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 10:07:39 GMT -5
I don't go to a house expecting to show off my shoes or outfit. I go to enjoy the company, so if the hostess feels more comfortable in my wearing slippers, I will wear slippers.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 10:11:07 GMT -5
I am so thankful that I grew up where I did and that I live where I live....I don't know anyone who expects guests to take off their shoes in their house. You mean in the entire state of MD no one asks guests to take their shoes off? not any of the people I know....and I grew up in NJ, we didn't take our shoes off there either.... and yes, when you show up somewhere in snow boots, you take those off and change into shoes...but those times are few and far between
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 10:12:52 GMT -5
I don't go to a house expecting to show off my shoes or outfit. I go to enjoy the company, so if the hostess feels more comfortable in my wearing slippers, I will wear slippers.
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Post by chiver78 on Dec 4, 2013 10:13:18 GMT -5
so you'd be changing into shoes that haven't been in the snow and mud? isn't that what later and the rest of us have said? I'm confused where you've been offended, then.
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Post by milee on Dec 4, 2013 10:13:40 GMT -5
Like many of the issues on the board, this one appears to have regional differences. What makes sense and is widely accepted one place isn't universally true in others.
Down here, so many people wear flip flops or go barefoot most of the year that people's feet can be really disgusting. It's funny for me to try to conceive of the idea that in some areas people's bare feet are considered cleaner than shoes; around here, people's bare feet are just as gross as shoes. Combine equally disgusting and way too casual and personal to boot, and most of us down here would like to ask guests to please keep their shoes on their grubby feet.
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Post by alabamagal on Dec 4, 2013 10:14:58 GMT -5
I grew up in Florida and live in South Georgia. I have never taken off shoes when entering a house. And never had anyone take theirs off when entering mine
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 10:15:08 GMT -5
You mean in the entire state of MD no one asks guests to take their shoes off? not any of the people I know....and I grew up in NJ, we didn't take our shoes off there either.... and yes, when you show up somewhere in snow boots, you take those off and change into shoes...but those times are few and far between Then let me totally blow your mind...In the winter we have to remove our outside footwear at our Doctor's and Dentist's offices too.
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Post by milee on Dec 4, 2013 10:17:03 GMT -5
I grew up in Florida and live in South Georgia. I have never taken off shoes when entering a house. And never had anyone take theirs off when entering mine See, you understand what I'm saying when I note that people's bare feet are likely to be just as disgusting as their shoes, right?
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Dec 4, 2013 10:23:38 GMT -5
I never ask people to take their shoes off. I don't care one way or another. But I do get push back and shocked faces when I ask them to take all of their clothes off and leave their wallets in the basket.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 10:26:48 GMT -5
I grew up in Florida and live in South Georgia. I have never taken off shoes when entering a house. And never had anyone take theirs off when entering mine See, you understand what I'm saying when I note that people's bare feet are likely to be just as disgusting as their shoes, right? "Bare" feet are rare here except maybe a couple months of the year and during that time house parties are normally outside grill outs. Usually people are wearing shoes with socks...and hopefully their socks are reasonably clean.
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Post by quince on Dec 4, 2013 10:27:08 GMT -5
I'm of Japanese descent, and raised in Hawaii. I do expect people to take their shoes off in the house- I avoid having people over, though, so it doesn't come up.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 10:31:57 GMT -5
so you'd be changing into shoes that haven't been in the snow and mud? isn't that what later and the rest of us have said? I'm confused where you've been offended, then. but if there isn't any snow and mud I'm not changing my shoes....unless there is snow on the ground, walking from the car to someone's house wouldn't entail any mud.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Dec 4, 2013 10:38:02 GMT -5
I don't ask you to remove your shoes when you come to my house, but my 11 month old will make you wish your shoes were off when you arrive. She has an obsession with shoes. Shoe laces get chewed on, my slippers routinely go in her mouth. Your precious heels will get chewed on. But really if you are wearing heels to my house, you have issues.
My company Christmas party is at my boss's house on Saturday. There is a pretty good chance that snow will be on the ground. We'll take our shoes off when we come in. At my office, if you have muddy boots, you better take then off before you even come up the stairs. My boss and office manager (who also cleans for us) get PISSED when mud is tracked everywhere.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 10:38:59 GMT -5
so you'd be changing into shoes that haven't been in the snow and mud? isn't that what later and the rest of us have said? I'm confused where you've been offended, then. but if there isn't any snow and mud I'm not changing my shoes....unless there is snow on the ground, walking from the car to someone's house wouldn't entail any mud. Ya, there is a bit of a differance there between Maryland and Northern Ontario that way. It is so entrenched here that people will insist on taking off their shoes even if I have told them no to bother because we are only going to be a minute and aren't going to carpeted parts of the house. You can do what you want single, but most people I know would feel very disrespected if you don't take off your shoes up here. It is like telling someone you think their house is dirty and you don't want your bare feet on their floor. Seriously, that is the only time I leave my shoes on in someone's house.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Dec 4, 2013 10:39:38 GMT -5
Normally shoes stay on when in someone's but I have a few close friends where I take shoes off almost immediately without thinking. But these are very close curl on the couch with some wine friends. I even keep jammie pants at one friend's house.
In our home, shoes are the first thing to come off. How can you feel at home with shoes on your feet? I don't put shoes on when friends come over so feel free to take yours off! I also don't care if you keep them on. I've never thought much about the subject until now.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Dec 4, 2013 10:40:34 GMT -5
BIL and SIL were vigilant about this at their house when the kids were first home, but that's because they had micro preemies and everyone basically had to scrub in after walking in the door. At home our floors are all hardwood/tile with a few area rugs. I could care less if people take off their shoes or not. Then again, we have people over maybe 4 times per year so it's not a big deal.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Dec 4, 2013 10:44:18 GMT -5
I don't ask guests to take their shoes off, but I'm not offended when I'm asked to at other people's homes. It also depends on the type of occasion. If I'm dressed up, I'd rather wear my dress shoes than walk around barefoot or ruin my pantyhose.
However, if your shoes are wet and/or dirty I would be mad if you didn't take them off. My floors may not be spotless, but I don't need them to get filthy either.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 10:44:33 GMT -5
so you'd be changing into shoes that haven't been in the snow and mud? isn't that what later and the rest of us have said? I'm confused where you've been offended, then. but if there isn't any snow and mud I'm not changing my shoes....unless there is snow on the ground, walking from the car to someone's house wouldn't entail any mud. Yeah, ...well...but...what about the dog shit and spit?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2013 10:50:07 GMT -5
I almost started a thread on this very subject a few months ago when I found out my allergies were more numerous and much more severe than I'd thought. I mentioned it to DD, who was living with me at the time, and she thought it was crazy.
I thought about having disposable socks to offer guests that don't want to just be barefoot. I wouldn't want to wear slippers that have been worn by unknown people, so I wouldn't ask my guests to do that either. I was confused about what to do about people that come in the house to do some work, but I see here that I can get booties for them. I didn't think of that. lol
I want my guests to be comfortable, but I'm the one that has to live here.
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Post by The Home 6 on Dec 4, 2013 10:52:29 GMT -5
My MIL was (probably still is) insistent that people take off their shoes upon entering the house. So is my loony aunt, an OCD clean freak. If that's your thing, fine. But if you want people, your GUESTS, to take their shoes off, you really ought to be gracious about it and not a dick. Not saying anyone in this thread has been. Maybe saying my MIL or my loony aunt are.
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Post by xia on Dec 4, 2013 10:52:48 GMT -5
I’m always surprised whenever this subject comes up how some people get offended about other people’s house rules. It’s their home, they can make whatever rules they want. If someone tells me they only walk sideways inside their home I’ll either comply or I wont visit but I wont try to tell them how to live inside their own home.
I grew up in a 4-season, rainy spring/fall and heavy snow winter area, taking off shoes upon entering was the norm. It was considered respectful and good mannered not to track filth in to anyone’s home.
As I moved around (husband is retired Navy) I learned that it’s a regional thing. At some parts its a norm at other places unheard off, so I just went with the flow and adjusted to the area without passing judgments. If I see the host has on slippers or no shoes I automatically start taking mine off unless told otherwise. If it’s plain they wear outdoor shoes inside their houses I leave mine on.
Now I live in a warm south and don’t ask guests to take their shoes off, there is no walking/public transportation in my area and people drive everywhere = shoes don’t get as dirty. But I still take mine off automatically when I get home, it’s just more comfortable so a lot of time visitors take their shoes off too when they see me wearing slippers. One more thing, my husband has severe allergies issues so I never let any visitors upstairs with shoes on, but downstairs visitors can go with shoes on or off. If that makes me germofobe in some people’s eyes I really don’t care. My house, my rules.
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