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Post by mmhmm on Oct 14, 2013 21:22:01 GMT -5
If you really don't want to purchase a new dress, I'd go with the LBD. Always a good bet with the right accessories, IMO.
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Post by Tiny on Oct 14, 2013 22:08:39 GMT -5
I would wear the navy suit if you can sex it up like they do on those TV shows dealing with crime... everyone one of those ladies wears high heels and something that calls attention to their boobs while in the field or in the lab or where ever they are. Make use you show a lot of cleavage with that navy suit --- basically daring the guys around you to drop their eyes below your neck line. Or, maybe a snakeskin or leopard print low cut blouse with it... aren't those both in style.. Or maybe something red.... FWIW: I'd really go with the LBD OR a new dress along the lines of a LBD but in a color that flatters your skin tone...
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Post by kittensaver on Oct 14, 2013 22:19:06 GMT -5
Suites are for funerals (which work is just another form of BTW). Go for a new dress.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 14, 2013 22:37:51 GMT -5
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Post by NoNamePerson on Oct 14, 2013 22:54:43 GMT -5
Buy yourself a nice new dress for the occasion. Your posts indicate you can afford it, and it sounds like your wardrobe needs some, hmmm....investments.... You're right that I can afford it- but I can afford a lot of stuff I don't want to buy. A flashy dress made by slave labor in a country where basic human rights such as freedom of religion, aren't respected, isn't one of them. Who made the LBD and/or the blue suit?
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Post by cronewitch on Oct 14, 2013 22:55:47 GMT -5
I vote new dress or dressing the LBD to be festive somehow like a scarf it bright pink or something so it doesn't look funeral.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Oct 15, 2013 0:24:20 GMT -5
Wear the LBD - if it's dressy, like a cocktail dress, you can accessorize with silver or gold jewelry/shoes/clutch bag to make it more "formal" for an evening wedding/Country Club reception.
The attention is going to be on the bride - not on what you're wearing - but definitely nix the thought of wearing a boring navy suit - you don't want to look like you came straight from the office.
LBD's are very acceptable for weddings now - just remember to 'dress it up' a bit for evening with the proper accessories.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Oct 15, 2013 2:03:41 GMT -5
Buy yourself a nice new dress for the occasion. Your posts indicate you can afford it, and it sounds like your wardrobe needs some, hmmm....investments.... You're right that I can afford it- but I can afford a lot of stuff I don't want to buy. A flashy dress made by slave labor in a country where basic human rights such as freedom of religion, aren't respected, isn't one of them. How do you know that you own nothing made by slave labor in a country where basic human rights such as freedom if religion, aren't respected?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2013 6:12:21 GMT -5
It sounds like they are going for a fairly formal event based on bt optional and historic church where they won't open doors after starting.
I would wear the pinstripe suit if you are set against shopping for something new.
Otherwise I'd look for a vintage style formal dress in tea length (or a real dress from the 50s would be fun).
Not sure where you are shopping that the clothes are coming from China? That's the one thing that I can find made in lots of other countries. You can find made in USA, but you would pay a whole lot more than $200 for it if that is really what you want.
I like modcloth for shopping dresses because you can pick style & size to filter down the list to a manageable set of choices (they are mostly vintage styles, and mostly imported dresses, but you can see that in the prices)
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2013 6:19:01 GMT -5
OK, I appreciate your input. I'm going to look for a St. John Knits dress- they make plenty for evening wear and they're made in the US. I had one of their dresses years ago and loved it. Brooks Brothers once had a woman's tuxedo in their catalogue. I thought it was wonderful, but I'm sure it's made in China. All their clothes are now. But if I can't find anything, I'm gonna wear a suit! To me, the LBD is too predictable.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Oct 15, 2013 6:22:24 GMT -5
Splash clorox all over the LBD and then everyone will be sure to pay attention to you and not the bride It will then be very unorthodox like you want to be!!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2013 6:49:01 GMT -5
Agree on the LBD!! Since wedding is in March, if you are heading to a colder climate area, you can also dress up the suits with a fabulous Pashmina & long strand pearls (although I think there are superstitions about wearing pearls to weddings). Not sure that you really need to dress up a tailor made suit in truth! If you decide on something from St John line, you'll have to post a picture. They have fantastic suits, but more expensive than I will spend on an off the rack suit
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Post by NoNamePerson on Oct 15, 2013 6:59:03 GMT -5
Is this the St. John you are referring to? I can't tell if clothes are made in America or they just say they are overseeing clothes made by "others" for them? I thought made in American meant made in the United States - maybe I am wrong www.sjk.com/en-us/corporateresponsibility/As such, St. John expects the same commitment from all of our business partners. We recognize we have the opportunity to promote human rights and fair labor practices with our business partners and require all of our partners comply with local labor and environmental laws, as well as St. John’s Code of Conduct and Ethics which sets forth our internal accountability standards. In addition, St. John voluntarily participates in the United States Department of Homeland Security, Customs and Border Protection’s Customs-Trade Partnership Against Terrorism (C-TPAT) program, designed to strengthen and improve international supply chain and border security. As part of the C-TPAT program, our suppliers certify that materials incorporated into our products comply with the local laws regarding slavery and human trafficking. Furthermore, St. John will be instituting a training initiative for employees involved in supply chain management, training them about mitigating the risks of human trafficking and slavery. To assist us, St. John has engaged a third party auditor to routinely assess our partners’ performance and compliance with St. John’s Code of Conduct, C-TPAT, and internationally established guidelines for lawful, humane and ethical business practices, including the Worldwide Responsible Accredited Production (WRAP) standards. Our auditors evaluate and address any potential risks of human trafficking, forced labor or child labor within our supply chain. Upon receipt of our auditors’ reports, we work with our partners to establish means of remediation for any non-compliance.
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Post by skubikky on Oct 15, 2013 7:05:07 GMT -5
OK, I appreciate your input. I'm going to look for a St. John Knits dress- they make plenty for evening wear and they're made in the US. I had one of their dresses years ago and loved it. Brooks Brothers once had a woman's tuxedo in their catalogue. I thought it was wonderful, but I'm sure it's made in China. All their clothes are now. But if I can't find anything, I'm gonna wear a suit! To me, the LBD is too predictable. Think of the LBD as the canvas to showcase some of your pretty jewelry that you've often mentioned here. I come from the land of fancy Saturday night weddings. The suit isn't appropriate. You said that you have some cute shoes. Then pick some of your most outstanding jewelry, get your hair done and go in with a more feminine look. If you really want to wear the suit...whatever. For the most part no one is going to notice you. But, I suspect that for dancing and generally feeling pretty, I'd wear the LBD with the bling.
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Post by swamp on Oct 15, 2013 7:09:08 GMT -5
They'll notice her. They will wonder why the facility auditor is at the wedding.
I think we need a Stacy and Clinton intervention
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2013 7:31:20 GMT -5
even though you think the LBD may be too predictable, it's leaps and bounds more appropriate than a suit. I can't imagine wearing a suit I'd wear to work to a formal evening wedding, unless you are going for the matronly look.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2013 7:33:09 GMT -5
I can find nothing out there saying it would be inappropriate to wear your suit to an evening wedding. So if you want to wear your suit, go for it!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2013 7:36:37 GMT -5
no name, there are lots of products that are 'assembled in america' or 'made in america of imported materials'. There is a certain amount of labor content that must be added in the US to make that claim.
"Made in USA" is an FTC controlled statement; but if you are making a dress and using $2 of foreign fabric + $50 US Labor, it is going to be able to be called Made in USA even if there is foreign material involved.
Most of the companies I have worked for in the last 15 years procure raw materials from Asia & Europe and assemble and control quality in the US.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Oct 15, 2013 7:58:30 GMT -5
We need a picture of this navy suit. Is it kd lang or janelle monae? Mighty big difference.
I still say a navy pants suit is not proper wedding attire. If you want a suit, get a skirt suit that screams classy evening event and not power lunch.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2013 7:59:14 GMT -5
Is this the St. John you are referring to? I can't tell if clothes are made in America or they just say they are overseeing clothes made by "others" for them? I thought made in American meant made in the United States - maybe I am wrong . I noticed one of the items I was looking at was made in Mexico, so it's not 100% US anymore, but at least it's not China or Bangladesh. The statement looks good, but I bet all the companies that had their stuff made at Rana Plaza said the same. That's why I look at the labels, although I've read that "Made in USA" can include sweatshops in the Northern Marianas Islands.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2013 8:26:11 GMT -5
I think it is only the jacket, not the skirt/dress also, so although beautiful I'd want a complete set. I don't wear black to weddings, so personally would not wear it for that, but it is gorgeous! Of course, I'm one of the ones that thinks a custom suit is fine for a wedding . . . so not sure you can take my advice :-)
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2013 8:29:44 GMT -5
LOL! I assumed it was a suit with a skirt, not a pantsuit. My bad!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2013 8:53:26 GMT -5
I think it is only the jacket, not the skirt/dress also, so although beautiful I'd want a complete set. Oops- I hadn't noticed that! And blacks are hard to match, too, so finding a skirt or pants that went with it might have been a challenge. I'm not sure if it would have fit me- I need a tape measure and I'm in the office- but at least I may be on the right track.
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Post by imawino on Oct 15, 2013 9:08:28 GMT -5
No, do not wear the suit. You know you shouldn't wear the suit, which is why you are here asking.
Just like it would be disrespectful to show up to an adults only event with kids it is disrespectful to show up to a black tie event in a business outfit. Dress appropriately for the occassion. If you are uncomfortable in your black dress then get a new dress.
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Post by imawino on Oct 15, 2013 9:10:39 GMT -5
Buy yourself a nice new dress for the occasion. Your posts indicate you can afford it, and it sounds like your wardrobe needs some, hmmm....investments.... You're right that I can afford it- but I can afford a lot of stuff I don't want to buy. A flashy dress made by slave labor in a country where basic human rights such as freedom of religion, aren't respected, isn't one of them. Are the only two options really the work suit you know you shouldn't wear or some shoddily contructed, slave made, flashy hooker dress?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2013 9:17:08 GMT -5
Found this out on the web regarding "Black Tie Optional": Does Black Tie Optional require wearing a long dress?
No, Black Tie Optional does not require you to wear a long dress; however, you might want to wear a flirty cocktail dress or an elegant dinner suit, depending upon your age. Don't forget a pretty evening bag and dressy shoes.
Black tie optional means that the host would like you to wear evening clothes, but that the man does not necessarily have to wear a tuxedo and the woman does not have to wear a ballgown. The man can, say, wear black on black or a velvet jacket without a tie and the woman can wear a flirty cocktail dress or dinner suit. The host wants you to be creative and wear the festive evening attire of your choice.So, does "dinner suit = business suit"?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2013 9:17:50 GMT -5
"Hooker Dress"! Now you're speaking my language!!
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Post by imawino on Oct 15, 2013 9:18:24 GMT -5
Found this out on the web regarding "Black Tie Optional": Does Black Tie Optional require wearing a long dress?
No, Black Tie Optional does not require you to wear a long dress; however, you might want to wear a flirty cocktail dress or an elegant dinner suit, depending upon your age. Don't forget a pretty evening bag and dressy shoes.
Black tie optional means that the host would like you to wear evening clothes, but that the man does not necessarily have to wear a tuxedo and the woman does not have to wear a ballgown. The man can, say, wear black on black or a velvet jacket without a tie and the woman can wear a flirty cocktail dress or dinner suit. The host wants you to be creative and wear the festive evening attire of your choice.So, does "dinner suit = business suit"? No.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2013 9:23:44 GMT -5
Are the only two options really the work suit you know you shouldn't wear or some shoddily contructed, slave made, flashy hooker dress? No- that's why I'm looking at St. John Knits. There's a store within walking distance of my office but it would kill me to pay retail! I'm guessing $500-$1,000 depending on whether I buy a simple dress or a suit. I'd rather have an iPad. I'd get more use out of it.
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