kittensaver
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Post by kittensaver on Oct 2, 2013 14:51:29 GMT -5
Ok, this I just don't get. If kids being kids is going to ruin your day, then why on earth would you make children part of the ceremony? Well FWIW, I've been to any number of weddings where children were trotted out in the ceremony as flower girls and ring bearers, but went home with a nanny or babysitter afterwards and were not a part of the evening, adult reception. "Regional difference"? Appeasing family members? A desire for the "classic" wedding party? Who knows?
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 2, 2013 16:22:10 GMT -5
My kids were in so many weddings growing up. I suppose because they were cute and no one had any children so needed flower girls and ring bearers for some reason. Yuck to that anyway. So they were in the wedding and posed for the pictures and then were happily picked up by babysitter, taken to McDonalds to eat FF for a treat for being so good, and then went home to do whatever in peace without a bunch of adult drinkers eating chicken cordon blue!
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muttleynfelix
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Post by muttleynfelix on Oct 2, 2013 16:41:53 GMT -5
Awesome, just have random cute kids in your wedding? That is weird to me. My sister and her husband weren't close to any little kids, so they did not have a flower girl or ring bearer. Then again half of her wedding party was either in high school or junior high (our brother was 18, I was 13, and her SIL was 16).
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kittensaver
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Post by kittensaver on Oct 2, 2013 16:58:52 GMT -5
Awesome, just have random cute kids in your wedding? That is weird to me. My sister and her husband weren't close to any little kids, so they did not have a flower girl or ring bearer. Then again half of her wedding party was either in high school or junior high (our brother was 18, I was 13, and her SIL was 16). To be fair, nobody said anything about "random." Quite on the flip side, most of the couples I talked about in my earlier post who had young children in their wedding party were doing it to try to find a way to include family - they were young nieces, nephews, young children of cherished friends, etc. But that didn't mean they (the children) were going to get dragged into an adult party long after they should have been in bed. And I guess I don't put teenagers in the "kid" category at weddings. Once you hit the teen years unless you were raised in a barn you pretty much know how to behave at a wedding. My objections are and have always been to the uninvited (aka the invitation says "adults only") young children "forced" on the bride and groom by family/MIL's/social pressure, etc and whose parents are just positive their little darlings are absolutely not disruptive and universally adorable (running around like screaming banchees, poking holes in the cake, having crying fits, throwing food, having assorted meltdowns (like when they get hurt running around), knocking over glassware, falling asleep across chairs or under tables). Don't get me wrong-I love (most) young children. I just don't think they belong at ADULT weddings. It is patently unfair to them .
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 2, 2013 17:28:24 GMT -5
Plus, drinking unguarded drinks and then throwing up. Yes, we were at a wedding where that happened. The a-hole parents got mad at the people who left their drinks on the table and picked a fight with the wrong couple who hollered right back that decent people WATCHED their children and didn't let them drink other people's drinks! That was a lovely reception. Funny enough, my kids were in two weddings that I would consider rather random. As in we knew the parents of the bride but she wanted kids in her wedding and the other was an employees wife who wanted kids in a wedding. That was a fun one. She'd been married before and neither the bride or the grooms family showed up in protest. Poor thing.
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Peace Of Mind
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Oct 2, 2013 19:14:52 GMT -5
Our afternoon was in the afternoon and the kids had a blast. A couple of my favorite pictures of DH and I dancing with a couple of DH's nieces at separate occasions. OMG!!!! So is OURS almost every day! Must be a Florida thing.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 2, 2013 19:23:14 GMT -5
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Post by taz157 on Oct 2, 2013 19:36:29 GMT -5
Our afternoon was in the afternoon and the kids had a blast. A couple of my favorite pictures of DH and I dancing with a couple of DH's nieces at separate occasions. OMG!!!! So is OURS almost every day! Must be a Florida thing. Except we lived in another state when we got married. I've since changed my post.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 3, 2013 5:41:09 GMT -5
POM!
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