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Post by formerroomate99 on Sept 30, 2013 13:37:23 GMT -5
My niece is getting married in less than 2 weeks and has communicated to her friends/family that small children are not to attend. You'd think she had committed murder. It's an evening event with a cocktail hour, dinner and dancing. Her wedding/reception are at a Botanical garden with a pond and fire feature. In addition to cake, she's serving s'mores and ice cream sundaes. She's always wanted an adult event and given the hazards of the water and fire, decided that no kids would be invited. I think it will be a great time, but we'll see how many don't show. There is absolutely no way in hell I'd drag my 1,3 and 5 year old to a wedding, especially one out of town. Kids were welcome at my wedding. I had given up on the idea of having any control of that event about a week into wedding planning, and there wasn't any obvious danger there.
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 30, 2013 13:45:52 GMT -5
I remember going to the wedding of a Russian co-worker. I was at a table of English-speaking American colleagues of this guy and his fiancee. I remember our table pretty much forfeited the bottle of vodka from the "bar" on our table - we weren't drinking it fast enough, and other tables needed it! A few years back I went to a pretty rockin' Armenian wedding. 6 full bottles of different spirits on a table for 10 . . . and separate glasses/barware for each liquor. Fun times the only Armenian wedding I've been to was an afternoon one, whose reception was over at 6 to accommodate the bride's side of the family being able to catch the LSU football game that night. the Russian wedding though - damn. I remember that colleague having a hard time finding a venue that would allow him to supply his own (bulk-purchased) booze for the tables and decline bartenders. our table of 10 had a centerpiece of a tall skinny vase with 3 or 4 gladiolus stems, and all remaining space other than the place settings was booze. it was kind of scary/interesting to see exactly how much the Russian guests drank and were still more sober than our table. guess we were clearly rookies. this past weekend, I was at the "Big Fat Greek and Jewish Wedding" of some dear friends of mine. the rehearsal dinner included any out-of-town guests that were already in town by then (including me) and had beer/wine included. the reception was open bar, and it was all top-shelf stuff. we had a great time, and then the fun kids closed the hotel bar after the reception was over. I'm pretty sure I was still drunk when I woke up yesterday morning. but I know I wasn't the only one!
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Post by kittensaver on Sept 30, 2013 13:46:34 GMT -5
My niece is getting married in less than 2 weeks and has communicated to her friends/family that small children are not to attend. You'd think she had committed murder. It's an evening event with a cocktail hour, dinner and dancing. Her wedding/reception are at a Botanical garden with a pond and fire feature. In addition to cake, she's serving s'mores and ice cream sundaes. She's always wanted an adult event and given the hazards of the water and fire, decided that no kids would be invited. I think it will be a great time, but we'll see how many don't show. There is absolutely no way in hell I'd drag my 1,3 and 5 year old to a wedding, especially one out of town. Kids were welcome at my wedding. I had given up on the idea of having any control of that event about a week into wedding planning, and there wasn't any obvious danger there. Agreed. I just don't "get" parents who get offended and pissy about not being able to bring (drag) their young children to an evening event that is clearly structured as an adult party - when their kids are supposed to be in bed. Can't find or hire a babysitter? Stay home. And when your kids get married, it's your option to plan a "child-friendly" wedding . . . just don't go off imposing your desires on others planning their parties. You're the guest, not the host.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 30, 2013 13:49:52 GMT -5
You say that as if there's something wrong with it
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Post by NoNamePerson on Sept 30, 2013 13:57:53 GMT -5
Not sure what NNP believes, but I've always been a bit annoyed that women have to reveal their marital status by their title and men never do. I didn't know if you don't change your name that your preferred address remains the same married or divorced. I use Ms. when forced to choose a title, but had no idea Mrs. was a title a woman essentially keeps for life once she marries. Thank you Opti. I couldn't have said it better!!! I guess I am old school and think of MRS. as a married woman which I am not. Maybe the correct salutation should be Divorced NNP My EX is on his third divorce, so I hear, so maybe he should be addressed as Divorced3 (insert name) I don't get invites from 8th cousins 10 times removed so everyone who knows me, loves me and wishes me nothing by flowers and rainbows knows to address me as Ms on invites. Hell, I would be happy with just NNP on the invite and forget the other stuff. I have also wondered why on some apps they ask for "status" Does being married get you a better interest rate than divorced, single? I do know on my IRA I had to mark divorced, I guess so they would know I wasn't cheating a husband out of being the beneficiary
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Post by kittensaver on Sept 30, 2013 13:59:02 GMT -5
You say that as if there's something wrong with it LOL! We looked at the UCLA football and basketball schedules, and then opted for an August wedding date - so I get it
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 30, 2013 14:00:26 GMT -5
I guess it is another regional difference. I've never been to a wedding with a cash bar. I would be pissed!lol What's even worse are the dry weddings. I know! I was only at one and it was my cousin's. I'm not sure if it is because she is a Bible Banger or becuase her dad is an alcoholic (he along with several of my other uncles...and some cousins!). He wasn't a recovering alcoholic, though, so he also spent a lot of time going up to the the restaurant to buy some drinks!
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 30, 2013 14:03:52 GMT -5
You say that as if there's something wrong with it that was the first dose of Southern that many of us had experienced at that point. I totally get it now.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Sept 30, 2013 14:04:18 GMT -5
You say that as if there's something wrong with it I know someone who set their wedding date on Auburn/Bama game day. They caught it just in time and picked the next weekend.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 30, 2013 14:05:34 GMT -5
You say that as if there's something wrong with it LOL! We looked at the UCLA football and basketball schedules, and then opted for an August wedding date - so I get it I'd never be crazy enough to schedule during football season, half the family wouldn't show or would be watching/listening on their phones. Who am I kidding, I would be too.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 30, 2013 14:07:18 GMT -5
You say that as if there's something wrong with it that was the first dose of Southern that many of us had experienced at that point. I totally get it now. We're a college football loving bunch, what can I say?
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Sept 30, 2013 14:08:19 GMT -5
You say that as if there's something wrong with it I know someone who set their wedding date on Auburn/Bama game day. They caught it just in time and picked the next weekend. The only way to have gotten anyone to show would have been to send a 2nd set of invites stating the wedding would be over in time and there would be a TV at the reception.
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Post by imawino on Sept 30, 2013 14:12:59 GMT -5
I'm just different. I would rather invite my close friends with a plus one than invite people I haven't seen in ten years. That is what I did for my wedding. That was my choice. Every bride decides what she wants to do for her own wedding. I can say as a member of a very large, extended family, I'm ok with cousins I have t seen in years not inviting me I'm not advocating inviting never seen cousins either, just thought it was funny when the reasoning was "you never see them" or "probably won't remember them years from now" when you never see/remember plus ones again either. Case in point - my plus one to my bro's wedding was a bf and my family never saw him again, and my plus one this year to a friends wedding was someone I haven't seen since a month after the wedding so my friend sure isn't seeing him again! I think that is completely missing the point. It's not about "inviting strangers" that you may or may not see again, it is about ensuring that the people you care enough to invite are comfortable and have a good time. So if you have a couple of single friends and they might be uncomfortable or bored or not have anyone to dance with, I think the right thing to do is include plus ones. I would never invite someone and not allow them to bring a date if that's what made them happy. And if it didn't matter to them, I assume they would not bring a date, so you'd end up with a single anyway. I don't think there is one single correct answer. In scenarios where the bride and groom are in their early 20s and might be inviting a big group of single party-people types, I can see how it would work out to not include a plus one. Or if you had a small, family only wedding. But that in between place where most of your guests are couples and family members and you have a handful of single frineds who are going to end up bored and uncomfortable, not giving a plus one might be a big deal. But there is a correct answer to a cash bar, and it is HELL NO.
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Post by justme on Sept 30, 2013 14:20:39 GMT -5
I'm not advocating inviting never seen cousins either, just thought it was funny when the reasoning was "you never see them" or "probably won't remember them years from now" when you never see/remember plus ones again either. Case in point - my plus one to my bro's wedding was a bf and my family never saw him again, and my plus one this year to a friends wedding was someone I haven't seen since a month after the wedding so my friend sure isn't seeing him again! I think that is completely missing the point. It's not about "inviting strangers" that you may or may not see again, it is about ensuring that the people you care enough to invite are comfortable and have a good time. So if you have a couple of single friends and they might be uncomfortable or bored or not have anyone to dance with, I think the right thing to do is include plus ones. I would never invite someone and not allow them to bring a date if that's what made them happy. And if it didn't matter to them, I assume they would not bring a date, so you'd end up with a single anyway. I don't think there is one single correct answer. In scenarios where the bride and groom are in their early 20s and might be inviting a big group of single party-people types, I can see how it would work out to not include a plus one. Or if you had a small, family only wedding. But that in between place where most of your guests are couples and family members and you have a handful of single frineds who are going to end up bored and uncomfortable, not giving a plus one might be a big deal. But there is a correct answer to a cash bar, and it is HELL NO. I spent just as much, if not more time, dancing and visiting with other people than my dates at the weddings I've gone to. The only weddings I've been to where I was bored, I'd be bored whether I had a date or not...the wedding was just boring. Oh, and my point was to someone who stated exactly that - why invite neighbors you'll forget in 10 years or cousins you haven't seen in 5 when you could invite a perfect stranger you'll never see again as the date of someone you know.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Sept 30, 2013 14:22:30 GMT -5
There is absolutely no way in hell I'd drag my 1,3 and 5 year old to a wedding, especially one out of town. Kids were welcome at my wedding. I had given up on the idea of having any control of that event about a week into wedding planning, and there wasn't any obvious danger there. Agreed. I just don't "get" parents who get offended and pissy about not being able to bring (drag) their young children to an evening event that is clearly structured as an adult party - when their kids are supposed to be in bed. Can't find or hire a babysitter? Stay home. And when your kids get married, it's your option to plan a "child-friendly" wedding . . . just don't go off imposing your desires on others planning their parties. You're the guest, not the host. So, I never bitched to my cousin, but yes it upset me that her wedding and reception was no kids. We use to be close. So, I desperately wanted to go to her wedding. My DH and I with our then 10 month old drove for 3 days (ok it could have been done in 2, but our car wasn't really up to going that far, so we detoured to my parent's house and borrowed my Grandma's car and caravanned with my parents, Grandma, and Great Aunt and Uncle). Then we were asked not to stay at the hotel where the wedding was going to be at because they didn't have "enough rooms" and the grooms family needed more of the rooms (our entourage took up 3). So, we stayed at a hotel 15 miles away. The night of the wedding, my DH and I brought DS's pack-n-play to my aunt and uncle's room (which was suppose to be a suite, but wasn't really). DH was going to stay with DS during the ceremony and my mom was going to relieve him at some point so we could party a little... yeah, we never made it that long. DS screamed the whole time. Just after dinner, DH came to me and said he was headed back to our hotel with DS and stormed out. So, I ran after him and the 3 of us went back to our hotel. To my cousin's credit, she did have babysitting available since this place was a ways from everything. But DS had never stayed with anyone else and I wasn't about to leave him with strangers. We wouldn't have brought him to the ceremony if he had been invited, but it would have been nice to have him at the reception and felt more like a family. We were invited to 5 weddings between DS being 10 months old and 27 months old. We went to 4. All of them out of state for us. DS was only not invited to one of them....we did not make him sit through the ceremony of any of them. The wedding that I was in, DH and DS stayed at the hotel until the reception. DH's cousin's wedding we were staying at the hotel on site and DS fell asleep about 20 minutes before the ceremony was about to begin. The last one was in my hometown, we left him with my parent's who were already babysitting my brother's girls that weekend. The wedding I was in sort of stunk because DH and I only danced once and it was with DS between us since we had no one to watch him while we danced. I did have a blast after DH and DS left and got a ride back to the hotel with the bride's parents. The last one was the most fun because DH and I could relax and have fun just the 2 of us.
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Post by kittensaver on Sept 30, 2013 14:38:20 GMT -5
Agreed. I just don't "get" parents who get offended and pissy about not being able to bring (drag) their young children to an evening event that is clearly structured as an adult party - when their kids are supposed to be in bed. Can't find or hire a babysitter? Stay home. And when your kids get married, it's your option to plan a "child-friendly" wedding . . . just don't go off imposing your desires on others planning their parties. You're the guest, not the host. So, I never bitched to my cousin, but yes it upset me that her wedding and reception was no kids. We use to be close. So, I desperately wanted to go to her wedding. My DH and I with our then 10 month old drove for 3 days (ok it could have been done in 2, but our car wasn't really up to going that far, so we detoured to my parent's house and borrowed my Grandma's car and caravanned with my parents, Grandma, and Great Aunt and Uncle). Then we were asked not to stay at the hotel where the wedding was going to be at because they didn't have "enough rooms" and the grooms family needed more of the rooms (our entourage took up 3). So, we stayed at a hotel 15 miles away. The night of the wedding, my DH and I brought DS's pack-n-play to my aunt and uncle's room (which was suppose to be a suite, but wasn't really). DH was going to stay with DS during the ceremony and my mom was going to relieve him at some point so we could party a little... yeah, we never made it that long. DS screamed the whole time. Just after dinner, DH came to me and said he was headed back to our hotel with DS and stormed out. So, I ran after him and the 3 of us went back to our hotel. To my cousin's credit, she did have babysitting available since this place was a ways from everything. But DS had never stayed with anyone else and I wasn't about to leave him with strangers. We wouldn't have brought him to the ceremony if he had been invited, but it would have been nice to have him at the reception and felt more like a family. We were invited to 5 weddings between DS being 10 months old and 27 months old. We went to 4. All of them out of state for us. DS was only not invited to one of them....we did not make him sit through the ceremony of any of them. The wedding that I was in, DH and DS stayed at the hotel until the reception. DH's cousin's wedding we were staying at the hotel on site and DS fell asleep about 20 minutes before the ceremony was about to begin. The last one was in my hometown, we left him with my parent's who were already babysitting my brother's girls that weekend. The wedding I was in sort of stunk because DH and I only danced once and it was with DS between us since we had no one to watch him while we danced. I did have a blast after DH and DS left and got a ride back to the hotel with the bride's parents. The last one was the most fun because DH and I could relax and have fun just the 2 of us. Yes, these sound like very typical choices and juggling that parents need to do/make. Ah the joys of parenthood Good for you for not bitching to your cousin.
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Post by imawino on Sept 30, 2013 14:41:15 GMT -5
I think that is completely missing the point. It's not about "inviting strangers" that you may or may not see again, it is about ensuring that the people you care enough to invite are comfortable and have a good time. So if you have a couple of single friends and they might be uncomfortable or bored or not have anyone to dance with, I think the right thing to do is include plus ones. I would never invite someone and not allow them to bring a date if that's what made them happy. And if it didn't matter to them, I assume they would not bring a date, so you'd end up with a single anyway. I don't think there is one single correct answer. In scenarios where the bride and groom are in their early 20s and might be inviting a big group of single party-people types, I can see how it would work out to not include a plus one. Or if you had a small, family only wedding. But that in between place where most of your guests are couples and family members and you have a handful of single frineds who are going to end up bored and uncomfortable, not giving a plus one might be a big deal. But there is a correct answer to a cash bar, and it is HELL NO. I spent just as much, if not more time, dancing and visiting with other people than my dates at the weddings I've gone to. The only weddings I've been to where I was bored, I'd be bored whether I had a date or not...the wedding was just boring. Oh, and my point was to someone who stated exactly that - why invite neighbors you'll forget in 10 years or cousins you haven't seen in 5 when you could invite a perfect stranger you'll never see again as the date of someone you know.To make the someone you do know and care enough to invite happy and comfortable at your wedding. I thought that's what I said above? There is a logical reason to include a plus one, assuming you do care whether your guests are comfortable and happy.
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Post by justme on Sept 30, 2013 14:43:41 GMT -5
I spent just as much, if not more time, dancing and visiting with other people than my dates at the weddings I've gone to. The only weddings I've been to where I was bored, I'd be bored whether I had a date or not...the wedding was just boring. Oh, and my point was to someone who stated exactly that - why invite neighbors you'll forget in 10 years or cousins you haven't seen in 5 when you could invite a perfect stranger you'll never see again as the date of someone you know.To make the someone you do know and care enough to invite happy and comfortable at your wedding. I thought that's what I said above? There is a logical reason to include a plus one, assuming you do care whether your guests are comfortable and happy. But the bride and groom DO currently know their neighbor and DO know their cousins. They don't know "and guest".
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Post by Deleted on Sept 30, 2013 14:44:39 GMT -5
It's not a wedding, but every time our high school reunion rolls around there are people up in arms over why it can't be a family event without alcohol so everyone can bring their kids...
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Post by zibazinski on Sept 30, 2013 14:50:37 GMT -5
The last wedding I attended there ended up being two poor kids stuck there. The guests got off the plane just in time to make the reception. They missed the wedding. Plane was late and it was a Friday night wedding. According to the mother of the groom, you need to know a few years in advance that you're getting married to get a Saturday night!
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Post by zibazinski on Sept 30, 2013 14:51:35 GMT -5
When we had our reunions, when we were all younger and had kids, we had them at kid friendly places like parks. Now that we are all old, it's back to booze joints! Hooray!
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Post by imawino on Sept 30, 2013 15:03:34 GMT -5
To make the someone you do know and care enough to invite happy and comfortable at your wedding. I thought that's what I said above? There is a logical reason to include a plus one, assuming you do care whether your guests are comfortable and happy. But the bride and groom DO currently know their neighbor and DO know their cousins. They don't know "and guest". Are you seriously not understanding what I am saying?
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Post by justme on Sept 30, 2013 15:07:59 GMT -5
But the bride and groom DO currently know their neighbor and DO know their cousins. They don't know "and guest". Are you seriously not understanding what I am saying? Are you not understanding what I am saying? The argument another poster made was to give "and guest" to people and NOT invite your neighbors or family you don't see that often because hey you won't see them/remember them in 10 years. Well you won't see/remember the "and guest" in 10 years either. So if it's a choice between a neighbor you KNOW and a "and guest" you don't - I don't see how the argument you might not remember the neighbor in 10 years doesn't logically fall on, and therefore X out, the "and guest" too.
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Post by imawino on Sept 30, 2013 15:12:15 GMT -5
Are you seriously not understanding what I am saying? Are you not understanding what I am saying? The argument another poster made was to give "and guest" to people and NOT invite your neighbors or family you don't see that often because hey you won't see them/remember them in 10 years. Well you won't see/remember the "and guest" in 10 years either. So if it's a choice between a neighbor you KNOW and a "and guest" you don't - I don't see how the argument you might not remember the neighbor in 10 years doesn't logically fall on, and therefore X out, the "and guest" too. You are not INVITING "guest you don't know". You are inviting your good friends Sarah and Jennifer and Joe, who you have known forever and care deeply about despite the dreaded fact they happen to be single. And then you are affording your dear friends with the courtesy to decide for themselves whether they would be more comfortable with a date.
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Post by kittensaver on Sept 30, 2013 15:14:37 GMT -5
Are you not understanding what I am saying? The argument another poster made was to give "and guest" to people and NOT invite your neighbors or family you don't see that often because hey you won't see them/remember them in 10 years. Well you won't see/remember the "and guest" in 10 years either. So if it's a choice between a neighbor you KNOW and a "and guest" you don't - I don't see how the argument you might not remember the neighbor in 10 years doesn't logically fall on, and therefore X out, the "and guest" too. You are not INVITING "guest you don't know". You are inviting your good friends Sarah and Jennifer and Joe, who you have known forever and care deeply about despite the dreaded fact they happen to be single. And then you are affording your dear friends with the courtesy to decide for themselves whether they would be more comfortable with a date. Unless you have space or financial limitations, so then your only choice is to snub "your good friends Sarah and Jennifer and Joe" and not send them an invite because they might be "uncomfortable" coming alone?
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Post by justme on Sept 30, 2013 15:23:18 GMT -5
Are you not understanding what I am saying? The argument another poster made was to give "and guest" to people and NOT invite your neighbors or family you don't see that often because hey you won't see them/remember them in 10 years. Well you won't see/remember the "and guest" in 10 years either. So if it's a choice between a neighbor you KNOW and a "and guest" you don't - I don't see how the argument you might not remember the neighbor in 10 years doesn't logically fall on, and therefore X out, the "and guest" too. You are not INVITING "guest you don't know". You are inviting your good friends Sarah and Jennifer and Joe, who you have known forever and care deeply about despite the dreaded fact they happen to be single. And then you are affording your dear friends with the courtesy to decide for themselves whether they would be more comfortable with a date. The stated argument, to which I was replying to in the original response you quoted, was if your guest list is so full that you cannot invite plus ones (and you are INVITING them, because they can only come if you invite them. Even if you ignore the etiquette no-no that is not putting all guests name on a formal invitation) than you shouldn't invite your neighbors (that you won't remember in 10 years) and cousins that you haven't seen in years. My entire argument is if the litmus test of who is invited to a wedding is that you must still a) remember them in 10 years and b) have seen them sometime in the last 12 months or so - that same litmus test crosses off all the plus ones, as well as the neighbors and distant cousins, they were arguing to invite in place of neighbors and cousins as they fail both a and b.
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Post by imawino on Sept 30, 2013 15:29:55 GMT -5
You are not INVITING "guest you don't know". You are inviting your good friends Sarah and Jennifer and Joe, who you have known forever and care deeply about despite the dreaded fact they happen to be single. And then you are affording your dear friends with the courtesy to decide for themselves whether they would be more comfortable with a date. Unless you have space or financial limitations, so then your only choice is to snub your good friends Sarah and Jennifer and Joe and not send them an invite because they might be "uncomfortable"? Of course not. You have all sorts of options. You can choose to not invite a plus one if that's your thing (I was really disagreeing with the notion that a plus one was the same thing as just ramdomly sending invites to neighbors and cousins you don't talk to). You could scale back a few bucks a head. Or you could suck it up and spend a bit more. Personally, I would never not include plus ones. In terms of financial impact, how many would there even be? Everyone here has agreed that anyone in a known relationship is invited as a couple. So think of everyone you are close enough to invite to your wedding who is not in any sort of known relationship, how many is it? And of those, would every one of them bring a plus one? We have people here arguing that going to a wedding solo is awesome, so presumably of your list of completely unattached people you'd have some people who declined to bring a date. To have stretched myself to the point that a couple of plus ones is a financial diaster, ruin-the-wedding situation is unimaginable to me.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Sept 30, 2013 15:33:02 GMT -5
I'm not advocating inviting never seen cousins either, just thought it was funny when the reasoning was "you never see them" or "probably won't remember them years from now" when you never see/remember plus ones again either. Case in point - my plus one to my bro's wedding was a bf and my family never saw him again, and my plus one this year to a friends wedding was someone I haven't seen since a month after the wedding so my friend sure isn't seeing him again! I think that is completely missing the point. It's not about "inviting strangers" that you may or may not see again, it is about ensuring that the people you care enough to invite are comfortable and have a good time. So if you have a couple of single friends and they might be uncomfortable or bored or not have anyone to dance with, I think the right thing to do is include plus ones. I would never invite someone and not allow them to bring a date if that's what made them happy. And if it didn't matter to them, I assume they would not bring a date, so you'd end up with a single anyway. I don't think there is one single correct answer. In scenarios where the bride and groom are in their early 20s and might be inviting a big group of single party-people types, I can see how it would work out to not include a plus one. Or if you had a small, family only wedding. But that in between place where most of your guests are couples and family members and you have a handful of single frineds who are going to end up bored and uncomfortable, not giving a plus one might be a big deal. But there is a correct answer to a cash bar, and it is HELL NO. Exactly. I am one that would not be comfortable attending a wedding as a single . Someone else might see it as a way to snag a husband! But I can't imagine making my single friends come alone
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muttleynfelix
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Post by muttleynfelix on Sept 30, 2013 15:33:02 GMT -5
So, I never bitched to my cousin, but yes it upset me that her wedding and reception was no kids. We use to be close. So, I desperately wanted to go to her wedding. My DH and I with our then 10 month old drove for 3 days (ok it could have been done in 2, but our car wasn't really up to going that far, so we detoured to my parent's house and borrowed my Grandma's car and caravanned with my parents, Grandma, and Great Aunt and Uncle). Then we were asked not to stay at the hotel where the wedding was going to be at because they didn't have "enough rooms" and the grooms family needed more of the rooms (our entourage took up 3). So, we stayed at a hotel 15 miles away. The night of the wedding, my DH and I brought DS's pack-n-play to my aunt and uncle's room (which was suppose to be a suite, but wasn't really). DH was going to stay with DS during the ceremony and my mom was going to relieve him at some point so we could party a little... yeah, we never made it that long. DS screamed the whole time. Just after dinner, DH came to me and said he was headed back to our hotel with DS and stormed out. So, I ran after him and the 3 of us went back to our hotel. To my cousin's credit, she did have babysitting available since this place was a ways from everything. But DS had never stayed with anyone else and I wasn't about to leave him with strangers. We wouldn't have brought him to the ceremony if he had been invited, but it would have been nice to have him at the reception and felt more like a family. We were invited to 5 weddings between DS being 10 months old and 27 months old. We went to 4. All of them out of state for us. DS was only not invited to one of them....we did not make him sit through the ceremony of any of them. The wedding that I was in, DH and DS stayed at the hotel until the reception. DH's cousin's wedding we were staying at the hotel on site and DS fell asleep about 20 minutes before the ceremony was about to begin. The last one was in my hometown, we left him with my parent's who were already babysitting my brother's girls that weekend. The wedding I was in sort of stunk because DH and I only danced once and it was with DS between us since we had no one to watch him while we danced. I did have a blast after DH and DS left and got a ride back to the hotel with the bride's parents. The last one was the most fun because DH and I could relax and have fun just the 2 of us. Yes, these sound like very typical choices and juggling that parents need to do/make. Ah the joys of parenthood Good for you for not bitching to your cousin. I was more mad about us not getting to stay at the hotel the wedding was at. That would have made life so much easier and just added a ton of stress to the whole thing.
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Post by 973beachbum on Sept 30, 2013 15:33:29 GMT -5
So the only thing everyone on YM can agree on, is there should be booze at a wedding, lots and lots of booze.
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