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Post by zibazinski on Jul 20, 2013 6:49:49 GMT -5
The downside of her weight issue is the same things that plague her fathers side of the family. Health issues. Someone 24 should not have high blood pressure. It's just the beginning. Her adult doctor, too old for pediatrician, told her she was going to always have to be careful even if she kept weight off because its obvious she is taking after his side of the family. That scares the hell out f me and I hope it does her. Diet and exercise may not be enough even.
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Jul 20, 2013 8:56:05 GMT -5
...:::"Lol...why do you think I was talking about you?":::...
Probably the same reason that you thought the person to whom you initially responded was talking about you.
...:::"Someone 24 should not have high blood pressure.":::...
I scared myself by trying one of those blood pressure testers in the supermarket. I'd been carrying a heavy basket, and I had moved around quite a bit by the time I sat down. Not sure what I thought would happen.
I remember someone else here saying that the earlier you take care of extra weight, the better. Freaking out over 3lbs seems silly -- but 3, quickly becomes 5, 10, 20, and beyond.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 21, 2013 9:11:46 GMT -5
That's what my mom said. It crept up on her. 5 pounds a year doesn't seem like much until its twenty years of it. I'm never going to be what I was but I can tell that I am too high for my stature no matter what my BMI says. My lower back and knees hurt if I hit the middle of my BMI. So I try to stay below it. Mom died from complications of a simple knee surgery that she wouldn't have needed if she hadn't been so overweight.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 21, 2013 11:16:58 GMT -5
...:::"Lol...why do you think I was talking about you?":::... Probably the same reason that you thought the person to whom you initially responded was talking about you. ...:::"Someone 24 should not have high blood pressure.":::... I scared myself by trying one of those blood pressure testers in the supermarket. I'd been carrying a heavy basket, and I had moved around quite a bit by the time I sat down. Not sure what I thought would happen. I remember someone else here saying that the earlier you take care of extra weight, the better. Freaking out over 3lbs seems silly -- but 3, quickly becomes 5, 10, 20, and beyond. I didn't think she was talking about me....
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Post by thyme4change on Jul 21, 2013 21:31:15 GMT -5
Oh, Christ, go get a drink. I think I will.
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Post by Mardi Gras Audrey on Jul 22, 2013 0:02:39 GMT -5
While Zib's approach may seem a little harsh when we hear about it here, it sounds like it was needed and she did get her daughter appropriate medical support and healthy living education. I can tell you what happens when a parent chooses to do nothing. My ex-BFF's mom and dad chose to do nothing when she was overweight at age 7. She was overweight because she overate all the time. She got taken to a bunch of doctors who were all supposed to "find the cause of the weight gain" (umm... 4k calories a day? ). They couldn't find any medical issues so she finally ended up at a psychiatrist. The psych told her mom that she eats to soothe her bad feelings and that her mother was a big part of the problem (She would give her cookies/treats whenever she "felt bad". Her parents brushed the doctor off ("he is crazy") and she continued to balloon. She hit 210 lbs in 5th grade (was 5'3") and 460 lbs our senior year (She is ~6'). She had very few friends because of the weight (kids are mean...I will admit I was a b%^&* to her when we met in fourth grade. I ended up getting to know her better and we became friends). Her attitude towards her weight bled into everything else in her life (nothing is ever her fault, she can't be bothered to get out of bed, she is a special snowflake who should get $$ for just being alive). She is now a 33 year old who has worked for 3 months in her whole life (Summer camp arts & crafts counselor). She dropped out of high school, ballooned to 600 lbs and got gastric bypass once she got on Medicaid in her 20s. She has been on SSI for ~12 years and does nothing all day (I think she finally got her GED and drivers license at age 26). She went down to around 350 lbs after the bypass but has gained a lot of it back. She is still convinced all the weight is "genetic" and "can't exercise because she has asthma (which she got when she started smoking as a teenager)". She is now focusing on getting pregnant..... Obviously, this is an extreme example but it does happen. Not addressing health issues when one is younger can just lead to more problems later.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 22, 2013 8:15:50 GMT -5
Yay! I'm glad she went back and had fun Swamp. Sounds like a good ending. What is she doing this week?
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Post by Malarky on Jul 22, 2013 9:02:40 GMT -5
While Zib's approach may seem a little harsh when we hear about it here, it sounds like it was needed and she did get her daughter appropriate medical support and healthy living education. I can tell you what happens when a parent chooses to do nothing. My ex-BFF's mom and dad chose to do nothing when she was overweight at age 7. She was overweight because she overate all the time. She got taken to a bunch of doctors who were all supposed to "find the cause of the weight gain" (umm... 4k calories a day? ). They couldn't find any medical issues so she finally ended up at a psychiatrist. The psych told her mom that she eats to soothe her bad feelings and that her mother was a big part of the problem (She would give her cookies/treats whenever she "felt bad". Her parents brushed the doctor off ("he is crazy") and she continued to balloon. She hit 210 lbs in 5th grade (was 5'3") and 460 lbs our senior year (She is ~6'). She had very few friends because of the weight (kids are mean...I will admit I was a b%^&* to her when we met in fourth grade. I ended up getting to know her better and we became friends). Her attitude towards her weight bled into everything else in her life (nothing is ever her fault, she can't be bothered to get out of bed, she is a special snowflake who should get $$ for just being alive). She is now a 33 year old who has worked for 3 months in her whole life (Summer camp arts & crafts counselor). She dropped out of high school, ballooned to 600 lbs and got gastric bypass once she got on Medicaid in her 20s. She has been on SSI for ~12 years and does nothing all day (I think she finally got her GED and drivers license at age 26). She went down to around 350 lbs after the bypass but has gained a lot of it back. She is still convinced all the weight is "genetic" and "can't exercise because she has asthma (which she got when she started smoking as a teenager)". She is now focusing on getting pregnant..... Obviously, this is an extreme example but it does happen. Not addressing health issues when one is younger can just lead to more problems later. It appears that you know my niece. She's 22 and weighs north of 350#. She's been obese since she was two. She started handing down clothes to me when she was six. She has a myriad of avoidable health problems. Over the years, my SIL took her to doctors and had all the tests. She just eats too damn much of the wrong things. Under the direct supervision of a nutritionist, she would sneak food. If she'd been my kid, I would have shopped every day and only kept a one day supply of food available. I hope I'm wrong, but I don't forsee her really taking care of herself. It's just too "hard" to work. Or work out. Or eat right. Or roll out of bed to attend a noon class at college. I wish her mother had done for her what Zib did for her daughter. As mean as you may think it was, I think it's a lot worse to throw up your hands and give up. Zib gave her daughter a place where she could learn to eat well in a supportive environment. My niece never truly got that.
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Post by Malarky on Jul 22, 2013 9:12:19 GMT -5
And just in case there's any confusion, I am a mean girl. DD is an elite varsity cheerleader. She's been doing it since second grade. I coach the 5 and 6 year old cheerleaders, of all shapes and sizes. Everyone gets to cheer no matter what, until high school. That's when tryouts begin. And I have yet to see a girl refused on the JV squad, but varsity is based on skill. And any of our cheerleaders are no more or less bitchy than the ones who play soccer, or basketball or field hockey etc. Swamp, if your daughter likes cheer, it's a very athletic endeavor, and strong people are an important component. Not every one can be the flyer.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 22, 2013 9:13:23 GMT -5
Thank you. I was totally clueless as to handle a weight issue. My family, except for me and my mom it seems, are full of large women but they were tall and big boned. Think DUTCH looking women. Blonde and capable! DH had no weight issues at the time and DS never did. I couldn't even imagine it. I did buy healthy and we didn't eat FF so where did it come from? Turns out EX now has weight issues which I attribute to drugs and alcohol but maybe not. His mom and dad are fat but they eat crap and drink like fishes and their idea of working out consists of beach walks. Which is fine but not enough. DD is doing Paleo and last night SAID she ate turkey stuffed peppers. But I'm always going to worry about her health and now it seems there's another "pity party " reason going on in her head as to why DS can eat anything and everything and not gain weight and she can't. I have no clue but its one more complaint in her repertoire of why life isn't fair to her.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 22, 2013 9:14:33 GMT -5
I HATED being the flyer. Yes, I was pretty much guaranteed a spot on the squad but at the risk of my life!
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Post by swamp on Jul 22, 2013 9:49:35 GMT -5
Yay! I'm glad she went back and had fun Swamp. Sounds like a good ending. What is she doing this week? swim in the morning, gymnastics in the afternoon.
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Post by swamp on Jul 22, 2013 9:52:05 GMT -5
Life isn't fair. My sister can eat everything, and does eat everything, and is still slim. It doesn't mean that I should give up, though.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2013 10:20:29 GMT -5
My boss has triplet boys. Up until maybe age 5 or so, they were all pretty much the same size-wise. They're now 14 and have three radically different body types. One looks like he quit growing 4 years ago. He's maybe 75 pounds soaking wet, one is pretty husky, not necessarily what I would consider "fat", but definitely a big kid and no doubt double his brother's weight. The third triplet is right in between the two.
My 11 year old son chunked up a lot starting at age 6 or 7 and he's very uncoordinated and not great at team sports so hard to get him involved there. He's also suffered being called fat by his peers a lot and it really sucks as a mom to know that's going on and not be able to do much but tell him to ignore it. He's not a good eater. If he had his way he would eat chips, cheese and pasta all the time and he goes through a half a gallon of milk a day. I do my best by not keeping junk food in the house and reminding him to take water occasionally when he's thirsty instead of milk. Lately, he's been biking a lot working on his merit badge for scouts and has pretty much maintained the same weight for the past year while getting taller, so I'm hoping we can keep up this trend. He was 135 pounds at 4'9", but now he's almost 5'1".
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Post by sunshinegal1981 on Jul 22, 2013 17:15:39 GMT -5
My boss has triplet boys. Up until maybe age 5 or so, they were all pretty much the same size-wise. They're now 14 and have three radically different body types. One looks like he quit growing 4 years ago. He's maybe 75 pounds soaking wet, one is pretty husky, not necessarily what I would consider "fat", but definitely a big kid and no doubt double his brother's weight. The third triplet is right in between the two. This is interesting. Do you happen to know the zygosity of the triplets? Are they all genetically identical? (Monozygotic?) This would be extremely rare, but if this was the case it would have fascinating implications for the nature/nurture debate in obesity research. Maybe your boss can sell them to science. :-)
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Post by thyme4change on Jul 22, 2013 17:33:27 GMT -5
We have friends who have triplets. They are most definitely not a single split egg. Even the pictures of them as babies you can see they aren't identical. But, like your boss, they have three vastly different sizes and shapes. One is very short - very, very short. I suspect she will grow up to be quite heavy, but she is proportional now. One has broad shoulders and is very strong looking. She is lean now, but was quite a bit heavier than the other two when I met them a few years ago. She may struggle with her weight throughout her life. She also has asthma, so exercise will be tough for her. The third gal is thin. I'll be interested to see what happens during puberty, because I think those three gals who shared a womb will grow in such drastically different ways during that time.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2013 19:39:39 GMT -5
My boss has triplet boys. Up until maybe age 5 or so, they were all pretty much the same size-wise. They're now 14 and have three radically different body types. One looks like he quit growing 4 years ago. He's maybe 75 pounds soaking wet, one is pretty husky, not necessarily what I would consider "fat", but definitely a big kid and no doubt double his brother's weight. The third triplet is right in between the two. This is interesting. Do you happen to know the zygosity of the triplets? Are they all genetically identical? (Monozygotic?) This would be extremely rare, but if this was the case it would have fascinating implications for the nature/nurture debate in obesity research. Maybe your boss can sell them to science. :-) Definitely not identical twins. They all look very different, above and beyond the size part. I used to tease my boss that I thought they had different fathers.
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Jul 23, 2013 13:11:21 GMT -5
...:::"I didn't think she was talking about me...":::...
Maybe not you specifically, but perhaps a group you are a part of?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2013 13:17:27 GMT -5
MILFs?
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