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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Aug 17, 2015 11:00:44 GMT -5
I'm happy for all the updates Kara (I'd missed the ones from May the first time around)
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Aug 17, 2015 11:42:01 GMT -5
It is utterly amazing how much havoc one person can inflict on a household. I'm glad to hear that things have calmed down for you. Now that you know this, you can be prepared for if Rowdy ever decides that the grass is greener in your house.
About the car, she is 19.....she's going to need to figure this out herself. Even if mamamoneybags cosigns, it doesn't mean that she'll get a car. I suspect she's in for a rude awakening.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Aug 17, 2015 11:46:44 GMT -5
Great news all around Kara! Lala will be unpleasantly surprised at what she can get.
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Post by tcu2003 on Aug 17, 2015 11:56:38 GMT -5
Great news, Kara! Glad things are going well in your household!
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Post by mmhmm on Aug 17, 2015 12:03:10 GMT -5
So glad to hear things are going well for your little family, Kara. You've all been through a rough time but it sounds like the sun has broken through! Good news!
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Aug 17, 2015 12:06:12 GMT -5
Do ya think a used car lot might still have a Yugo?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 19, 2015 1:13:05 GMT -5
Rowdy's like me. He's stubborn. I'm betting it'll take a little longer than weeks. My bet will be between 6 months and a year before he starts trying to talk to us about moving back in. If that happens, I'll be putting the brakes on and hopefully the first answer will be a no. I'm all for helping him out, but I'm not going to have him bouncing back and forth without a darn good reason why. The only reason it would be shorter is because Jetsams boyfriend kicks him out (which is an unknown factor at the moment). We have to say no at least once or twice
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 2, 2015 13:21:17 GMT -5
KaraBoo, any updates? And do I see Mr. Karaboo joining in?
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Post by KaraBoo on Oct 3, 2015 14:09:54 GMT -5
Hi Guys! Yes, that was Mr. Karaboo - not sure if he'll be back. He doesn't find the community quite as entertaining as I do! Course, it may have something to do with some of the harsher comments directed towards him earlier in the thread. I told him not to take them to heart - and he hasn't - but he's not big on sites like this anyway. There's really nothing new to report. I'm still working at the no-stress job. I'm currently training someone to fill in for me while I take vacation in a few weeks. She already knows most of the job...just needs details filled in for the clinic. So, training has been easy as well (usually it's stressful for me). I'm not sure what to think about my life without any stress at all. While it's really nice - it also feels somewhat empty. The first 6 weeks of school ended kind of stressfully. We weren't 100% sure Monkey was going to pass one of her classes. Which would mean all of the hard work she's been through with color guard would be for nothing. They've practiced their @sses off the last 4 months - now it's time for the competitions and trips. If she had failed, she wouldn't be able to participate in anything. She passed with the skin of her teeth (I think the teacher gave her a couple of pity points because she was trying - just not like she could have if she had worked a little harder earlier in the term....she kept thinking she had time to make the grade up and ran out of time).
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Post by KaraBoo on Oct 3, 2015 14:17:02 GMT -5
LaLa did get her new(er) car. It's a 2012 Nissan Sentra (I think....). Anyway - I think her mom co-signed. However, LaLa took care of everything insurance related. So, she's now off of our insurance completely.
Which really helps because Buddy now has his license!! EEEKK!!
Been driving on his own for a week now. I'm so proud and stressed about him driving. He drives like a little old man. Not in any hurry, takes forever to turn and doesn't get on the gas to merge with traffic. If he's ever in an accident, it'll be because he's driving too slowly, not because he's being a speed demon!
We're still trying to get him used to driving the car he has - it's a standard. He's even slower in it because of shifting. He doesn't listen to the radio while driving as he says it distracts him. Also - he thinks it's weird that no one is in the car with him, telling him what he's doing right and wrong while driving.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Oct 3, 2015 14:21:06 GMT -5
Boo, good to see you back. Aw, tell Mr. Boo that we're all nice people.
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Post by Robert not Bobby on Oct 3, 2015 14:28:47 GMT -5
Okay - I've alluded to this in the Annonymous thread, but I need some help in getting my priorities straight on bills and budgeting. While I do have a thick skin - I just don't want to post this on YM at the moment. Since most of you are on both, I know you can still help. The problem - at least it seems like to me right now - is that the higher the priority item, the harder it is to make sure it's paid because of timing of the bill. It may have a priority of 3 or 4, but come at the end of the month, after due dates for the priority 8's. We're definitely at the point that some of our bills aren't being paid because we've over-extended ourselves (our own damn fault for not paying attention and not making changes before it got to this point). Now that we're at this point, I'm overwhelmed with where to start. DH is trying to help, but isn't helping as much as I need him to be. I truly believe it's not because he doesn't want to help - he's just not able to stay focused on the details. Okay - I'm going to post my budget in the next post, but for now, here is our priority list (DH and I did discuss this and we both agree these are in the order that is most important to us): 1. Committed to each other. 2. Committed to our kids (4 total - 1 mine, 3 his, they all live with us full time) 3. House 4. Utilities - electric, water and gas at our house 5. Food 6. Gas for work (this is an important distinction in our house) 7. Vehicle insurance 7a. Vehicle maintenance 8. Phone(s) 9. Internet 10. Line of credit (on house) 11. Personal loan 12. Fishing boat 12a. boat insurance 12b. boat maintenance 13. Credit cards (there are 8 right now with balances) 14. Medical bills
You might have noticed one of the budget areas missing is clothing (especially with 4 kids!). DH and I discussed this - we have no extra money - one of our CC bills is Kohl's. Until we are to the point of actually making headway, that's one of the bills we're keeping current so that if the kids (or us) DO need something, we can still get it for them. Not the best decision - but it is where we're at right now.
You are over thinking everything. Don't spend more than you earn. Have a savings plan...save at least one fifth of what you make, no matter what. No, you don't need those shoes and that handbag. Kids are expensive (I know): teach them how to be frugal. Simple things can be the most rewarding.
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Post by KaraBoo on Oct 3, 2015 14:29:26 GMT -5
And now for the BIG news! I'm still in shock over it. Buddy came to me the other night, stating, "Oh yeah mom, I forgot to tell you! I found out yesterday that I was nominated for Homecoming King." WHAT?!? "Ummm....what does that mean?" Buddy - "I don't know." ARGH!!!! BOYS!!! Every question I asked him was met with "I don't know". Does this mean you're automatically on the Homecoming Court? Is there another vote? When will you find out who's on the court? How many nominees are there? And then the other thoughts going through my head: - Crap, does this mean he needs a garter? He's in the band, they don't allow the band students to have garters. I wasn't planning on making a garter!! - Will he be allowed to wear his band uniform - or will he be wearing his suit? Does his suit need to be cleaned?!? Better go check - of course it does!!! - Hair cut - this kid needs a hair cut, and not the buzz cut that I typically give him! They have professional photographers at the game taking pictures for the year book - he needs to look good. - DOUBLE CRAP!!! Parents walk the kids across the field to present for the crowning of King and Queen! I DON'T HAVE ANYTHING TO WEAR FOR SOMETHING LIKE THIS!!!! - Oh....shit.....they also announce each kid's bio as they are presented.... I can just hear Buddy's bio now.... Buddy, being presented by his mom, Karaboo. Buddy has lettered in band and plays the trombone. He has also taken 3 years of ASL (American Sign Language). After high school, Buddy plans on skipping college to become a professional video game blogger. I gotta make sure, if he's selected that I can help him write his bio - I will NOT be happy if that is what he turns in to be announced at the game. Did I mention Homecoming is this coming Friday? No...I'm not stressed!
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Post by KaraBoo on Oct 3, 2015 14:32:34 GMT -5
You are over thinking everything. Don't spend more than you earn. Have a savings plan...save at least one fifth of what you make, no matter what. No, you don't need those shoes and that handbag. Kids are expensive (I know): teach them how to be frugal. Simple things can be the most rewarding. No offense - but that was posted 2 years ago! My life's kind of moved on since then. I do appreciate the reply though!
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Oct 3, 2015 14:41:21 GMT -5
Well, he would certainly be the most memorable homecoming king ever. -rofl-FWIW, if he is proficient in ASL, that could open some employment opportunities for him. ASL interpreters are in significant demand in the medical and legal system, as translators for hospital patients and court defendants. Blogging can be good money (Donna Freeman of our Smart Spending board does it and so does her daughter, and make a fair living from it; it does require getting advertisers for your blog, though). If his musical talent is good, there's always the opportunity to use it as a freelance studio musician. Hey, he may not be your average kid, but not all kids take the usual roads to success. Neither of my brothers finished high school and both are successful in business. You may not have raised a straight arrow, but he will find his target in his own way, I think.
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Post by KaraBoo on Oct 3, 2015 14:54:27 GMT -5
You're right. He will definitely be successful at whatever he finally decides to do.
He's not your average kid at all. He doesn't have anything close to a straight arrow to work with. The big thing is - I've taught him to work with what he has and he always does eventually find the mark. It takes him longer than your typical kid, but once he finds his niche, he excels beyond everyone's expectations.
I'm trying to get him to expand on the ASL - I work in medical and know the need is high. He's pretty good at it and would be a really good translator.
I'm really thankful that they've changed the criteria for how Homecoming King and Queen are selected. In my day, it was nothing but a huge popularity contest.
Now - the teachers nominate the students (for his school 10 boys and 10 girls) and then the students vote from those choices. The selected students are much more well rounded as well as being known around the school.
It's really funny talking with Buddy about it. He keeps telling me, "Mom, I've only been nominated, I don't know what you're concerned about. I haven't been chosen yet!"
Ummm....okay....there are 600+ seniors in his class right now. That means he's in the....what?....top 3%? (my math is rusty...that might be wrong).
So the odds of him being selected to begin with were next to 0. Now that he's been selected, the odds of him being chosen to be in the "Court" (top 5), just went up to 50%!
I have a LOT to be concerned with at the moment!!!
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 3, 2015 15:41:14 GMT -5
Enjoy this kind of "stress"
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Oct 5, 2015 11:24:10 GMT -5
Congrats on being so stress free! Enjoy it!!! Something will come along soon enough to fill the gap. Homecoming doesn't count. Congrats to Buddy for the nomination though!
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Post by Apple on Jan 14, 2016 18:45:10 GMT -5
I was just thinking about you... hope all is going well!
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 14, 2016 19:03:28 GMT -5
Enjoy this kind of "stress" Looking at the date of my post. So happy then. Little did I know two days later my life would be turned upside down. What a memory.
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Wisconsin Beth
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jan 26, 2016 12:24:53 GMT -5
Her blog has an update.
And zib, huge hugs for you.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 26, 2016 12:41:37 GMT -5
I didn't know she had a blog.
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Post by Works4me on Jan 26, 2016 23:36:50 GMT -5
Zig - listed at the bottom of her posts as part of her sig line.
Karaboo - thinking of you and sending love, hugs and prayers for you and your family.
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Post by KaraBoo on Jan 27, 2016 20:05:38 GMT -5
Enjoy this kind of "stress" Looking at the date of my post. So happy then. Little did I know two days later my life would be turned upside down. What a memory. Zib - I have been off of the boards for a while now and only log in occasionally. I saw where your love passed. I'm not sure if I expressed my condolences then, but I am very sorry for your loss.
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Post by KaraBoo on Jan 27, 2016 20:16:21 GMT -5
Thanks guys! I really appreciate you guys so much - I've just been busy recentering myself and this site seems to have been pushed to the back burner - as has my blog apparently based on the last time I posted!
It's only lately that we've been having issues again. Not 100% sure why it's popped up now, but it has.
One of my strengths is being able to read between the lines. Typically, whenever Jetsam starts to cause us problems, there is usually a problem in her own life. I suspect, but have no proof, that things are not rosy between her and her "boyfriend/fiancee". They've been together for between 2-3 years now and they still aren't married.....so I think something's up.
The one and only time I asked about why they were waiting to get married, Monkey stated they were waiting on money for a wedding....but I think it's more than that personally.
At this point, Rowdy has lived with them for about 7 months (outlasted my Christmas prediction). When Jetsam first got with her boyfriend, Rowdy was singing his praises and talking about what a better father he was over Hun. BUT, just a few months before Hun moved Rowdy in with Jetsam, Rowdy was saying some very not nice things about the boyfriend. Nothing serious, but things that he used to gripe about me - like boyfriend expects the kids to get their chores and homework done.....OH THE HORROR!!!
Anyway - we'll get through this.
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Post by swasat on Jan 27, 2016 20:31:22 GMT -5
Good to hear from you KaraBoo! I was wondering about you during the holidays. We met someone after a long gap and he is now married and they have a blended family. He mentioned parenting issues with children of blended families and I was reminded of you Hope Rowdy is behaving himself and not causing you any more grief.
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