happyscooter
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Post by happyscooter on Nov 28, 2013 7:15:03 GMT -5
les63, you are correct. None of us on here have been in that situation and we are all being a Monday morning quarterback. Good luck and keep coming here to vent. And know that even if we have never met, we still care about you. Please take care of yourself and your 2 sons.
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taz157
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Post by taz157 on Nov 28, 2013 8:58:48 GMT -5
les63, you are correct. None of us on here have been in that situation and we are all being a Monday morning quarterback. Good luck and keep coming here to vent. And know that even if we have never met, we still care about you. Please take care of yourself and your 2 sons. Ditto!! (((hugs)))
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Post by busymom on Nov 28, 2013 10:23:31 GMT -5
Les, Happy Thanksgiving & hugs <HUGS> to you & your kids! Vent anytime here!
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Post by les63 on Dec 2, 2013 22:15:14 GMT -5
Thank you to everyone and beyond that replied to my last posts. I hope you all had a great Thanksgiving. I made an awesome turkey. I buy this creole butter injector every year and inject the turkey. It turns out so tender. My homemade stuffing turned out great too. I pretty much froze some turkey and stuffing, so I have some ready meals in the freezer to go. So, DH took a shower on Saturday(shaved his head, neck, and cheeks) after 23 days. Said he would never go so long again. Um, yeah. We went up the road and got a Christmas tree. I have been the decorator in the family for years. My dad is the same and I inherited it from him. I love Christmas. So many great memories. Soooooo, DH has his next appointment tomorrow with the doc. I'm tired of this. He needs therapy on top of his medications. That is my last straw tomorrow. Come back with an appointment or I will do something legal. File for divorce; do something to kick him out of the house. This could continue for months. Drag on and on and on. My life sucks but it still continues. So, I will leave you with A Day To Remember. If nothing else please wish my 16 year old on his guitar adventure. Things are picking up for him; next stop acoustic at a Binghamton cafe with his band mates.
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Post by Jaguar on Dec 2, 2013 22:19:52 GMT -5
[[[HUGS]]] [[[HUGS]]] [[[HUGS]]]
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Post by taz157 on Dec 2, 2013 22:30:29 GMT -5
No advice to give; however, I'm glad you had a good Thanksgiving dinner. Sending you tons of (((((hugs)))))).
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Post by NastyWoman on Dec 3, 2013 2:12:53 GMT -5
Keep strong Les. And good luck to your son, he makes some cool music
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Post by cronewitch on Dec 3, 2013 13:41:06 GMT -5
I would file after the ten year anniversary if he isn't getting better. You might need to get a job so you can start to build a life apart. Noah may need to be taken care of by others when not in school, I know it is scary. Since he can let you know when he is happy if abused you would be able to tell like him showing fear or being sad. A part time job while he is in school might be a good transition and get you away from your husband. How are you living now if you aren't working and he isn't working? Can you keep some of that income?
Think about what you are getting from the marriage. Is he any help with the children, housework, homework, or income? Does he make anyone happy? Would you be happier if you moved out and left him there? Would he be willing to move out? Can you get him removed from the home? Is he a danger to you or the children so you could get a restraining order? Did you have a career before the children were born you can go back to?
I never had children and had a good job but divorce is always hard, do what you think is best for your family.
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Post by Blonde Granny on Dec 3, 2013 16:55:02 GMT -5
Crone is right about waiting until after the 10 year mark passes. I don't remember exactly, and I'm sure someone here knows for sure, but there are some Social Security benefits (I think) that eventually kick in but you have to be married for 10 years. If you talk to an attorney, be sure to double check. No sense making a mistake that could haunt you later.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Dec 3, 2013 17:25:07 GMT -5
www.ssa.gov/retire2/divspouse.htmThis is the link I believe may help Les - it's from the Social Security Administration's section about benefits and divorce, and it does deal with the 10-year marriage issue.
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