Mother's Day . . . How wrong am I?

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I told my parents once they ruined my life.  Dad responded "Then our job is done, you're welcome".

No comeback for that one.   

I try to remind myself when Gwen screams in my face it means I'm doing my job.  If she's screaming in my face it means she didn't get her way this time.

[taz157]

May 13, 2013 12:58:49 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I told my parents once they ruined my life.  Dad responded "Then our job is done, you're welcome".

No comeback for that one.   

[sheilaincali]

We had to swing by Wally world on Saturday night and DH remember that he forgot to get me a card.  He brings it up while I'm checking out and adds in to our little pile of things to be purchased.  DH was teasing the cashier because he thinks he is way funnier than he is.
I told her "don't get married, because in 18 years this is what you'll be having to put up with"
She said "oh I don't even have a boyfriend now so having to deal with a husband is years from now"
I said "don't be too quick to say that- we met in April and eloped in August"
She said "wow, that was fast "
DH chimes in with "Yeah and she wasn't even pregnant or anything!"

Thanks dear.

It was a good day- went to brunch at our friends house and play board games, went to Iron Man 3 without DS because he "never gets to play xbox with his friends", stopped by the nursing home  and caught up with both my grandma and my mom who happened to be visiting with her.  Came home and ate dinner with the boys.  That was my day. 

[8 Bit WWBG]

Certain days of the year are also terrible for going to a restaurant.  Mothers Day is one where people can wait two hours for a table.  Even if you have a reservation, you are being served by a bunch of people who couldn't get the holiday off, and the restaurant is packed.

[zibazinski]

We ate at a greasy spoon that his aunt likes. No line at all. Cracker Barrel was packed, though.

[8 Bit WWBG]

Cracker Barrel always is, isn't it.  Its good fun once in a while.  I don't think we've been there in years.

We won't go anywhere near our favorite brunch spot on major holidays.

[zibazinski]

I love Cracker Barrel.

[doxieluvr]

May 11, 2013 18:33:56 GMT -5 @southernsusana said:

Update: My daughter emailed and asked if I was working today.  If not, would I like to go out to lunch?  I did have some final stuff that needs doing (seniors need to know if they can exempt by Monday), but I appreciated the effort.  Then she called this morning to say her brother (my son) and his family could come if we made it 12:30.  So we did Mother's Day today, which was perfect.  We still went to a restaurant, and it was sad, however,  that we can't sit at one table.  There are 12 of us.  Next year there will be fourteen of us.  

It was the perfect Mother's Day.  The presents were nice, too.  They are absolutely optional; I just want to spend time with them, and they know that.  My daughter gave me a book she had finished reading that she thought I would really like.  My daughter-in-law gave me updated pictures (a family one plus the kids' school pictures) and even remembered to give me copies for my aunt. 

Thanks for letting me vent.  All's well that ends well . . .

Why do you not spend more time with them? It sounds as though you rarely see them and living only 45 minutes away is not an excuse. 

I talk to both of my parents at least once a day. See them most days and we eat as a family together at least once a week. That includes my parents, my moms brother and his wife, three kids, my family and my brothers family. Our entire extended family. My grandparents have been dead a long time.  We don't have a set day, but we often just happen to say lets meet at a restaurant, my dh calls my brother, who calls my uncle and we all show up. We have young children and my uncle has teenagers. The logistics are not difficult. 

[Deleted]

Are your parents divorced, Doxie, meaning you have two sets of parents to visit of your own?  Do you visit your DH's parents this often?  Do you add a grandmother who lost her husband/son within six months of each other and is basically alone?  Do you spend most of Sunday at church?

My kids honestly do the best they can do to please multiple family groups.  I truly believe they do.  None of us are really telephone people, but we talk every week or two.

Your young children aren't as young as the young children involved here.  There are six grandchildren to date . . . a 9, two 7s, an almost 5, a 2, and a 1.  My SIL is a lawyer with those 60+ weeks you hear about.  My son is a CPA with a similar requirement.  My daughter is a part-time pharmacist who tries to work when she doesn't need child care since she has three kids (one of the 7s, the almost 5, and the 2).  Both my daughter and daughter-in-law are pregnant and due in late August/early Sept.

While I miss spending time with my kids and wish I didn't always come last, I really resent your comment.  The logistics are indeed difficult, and I understand that.

My daughter isn't you, Doxie.  She is a working professional who also tries to be a SAHM.  I wouldn't trade her for the world.

[gooddecisions]

^^ not to mention you work full time and everyone in your family works full time. Doxie stays at home all day, her parents are fully retired and they live a few miles down the street. Not the same circumstances at all and there are only so many hours in a weekend filled with competing priorities.

My in laws are "only" 45 minutes away, but they work all the time and travel almost every weekend for their small business. We work full time M-F and would be happy to see them every weekend, but that only works out every other month or so (because of their schedule). They would love to see us during the middle of the day, during the week when they are out running errands, but we have real jobs. Dinner on week nights is awkward because our toddler's bedtime is early and they would rather us drive to their house.

SS, I'm glad you were able to work it out and able to take a step back and consider that your daughter deserves a special day centered around enjoying her own motherhood.

[Deleted]

Thanks for your support, Gooddecisions.  I guess MamaBear came out when Doxie started criticizing. 

My kids do the best they can.  Is it perfect?  Is anything ever perfect?

[whoisjohngalt]

May 13, 2013 19:08:09 GMT -5 doxieluvr said:

May 11, 2013 18:33:56 GMT -5 @southernsusana said:

Update: My daughter emailed and asked if I was working today.  If not, would I like to go out to lunch?  I did have some final stuff that needs doing (seniors need to know if they can exempt by Monday), but I appreciated the effort.  Then she called this morning to say her brother (my son) and his family could come if we made it 12:30.  So we did Mother's Day today, which was perfect.  We still went to a restaurant, and it was sad, however,  that we can't sit at one table.  There are 12 of us.  Next year there will be fourteen of us.  

It was the perfect Mother's Day.  The presents were nice, too.  They are absolutely optional; I just want to spend time with them, and they know that.  My daughter gave me a book she had finished reading that she thought I would really like.  My daughter-in-law gave me updated pictures (a family one plus the kids' school pictures) and even remembered to give me copies for my aunt. 

Thanks for letting me vent.  All's well that ends well . . .

Why do you not spend more time with them? It sounds as though you rarely see them and living only 45 minutes away is not an excuse. 

I talk to both of my parents at least once a day. See them most days and we eat as a family together at least once a week. That includes my parents, my moms brother and his wife, three kids, my family and my brothers family. Our entire extended family. My grandparents have been dead a long time.  We don't have a set day, but we often just happen to say lets meet at a restaurant, my dh calls my brother, who calls my uncle and we all show up. We have young children and my uncle has teenagers. The logistics are not difficult. 

Wow, who would have thought that you have TWO things going for you 1 - wild teenage years and 2 - eating dinners  with your parents all the time.

Too bad that your marriage is crappy, your career is non-existent, you can't figure out simple economics of personal finance and on top of it all have some kind of strange obsession with your car - if it wasn't for those little things you would be a shining  example to us all.

[doxieluvr]

May 13, 2013 19:43:40 GMT -5 @southernsusana said:

Are your parents divorced, Doxie, meaning you have two sets of parents to visit of your own?  Do you visit your DH's parents this often?  Do you add a grandmother who lost her husband/son within six months of each other and is basically alone?  Do you spend most of Sunday at church?

My kids honestly do the best they can do to please multiple family groups.  I truly believe they do.  None of us are really telephone people, but we talk every week or two.

Your young children aren't as young as the young children involved here.  There are six grandchildren to date . . . a 9, two 7s, an almost 5, a 2, and a 1.  My SIL is a lawyer with those 60+ weeks you hear about.  My son is a CPA with a similar requirement.  My daughter is a part-time pharmacist who tries to work when she doesn't need child care since she has three kids (one of the 7s, the almost 5, and the 2).  Both my daughter and daughter-in-law are pregnant and due in late August/early Sept.

While I miss spending time with my kids and wish I didn't always come last, I really resent your comment.  The logistics are indeed difficult, and I understand that.

My daughter isn't you, Doxie.  She is a working professional who also tries to be a SAHM.  I wouldn't trade her for the world.

Don't resent my post, be pissed off at your children.

No my parents are not divorced, but my ex husbands were and we saw his family in the same manner as I see mine. My dh's father lives 600 miles away, his bio mother last showed upon his life the day he graduated from school. Over ten years ago. 

susan, the kids in question are in the same age bracket of your family. I have a 9 and 2 year old, my brother has an 8 year old. The baby has an early bedtime and the older kids have multiple activities.my uncles kids work, go to school, belong to activities, etc.  We still make time. You find my parents at the kids activities. We eat together most often on week nights. My brother lives 30-40 minutes away. My uncle lives a good 45 minutes away. 

My dh has worked 60 hours already this week and still has two more days in his work week. He will end the week close to 85 hours. Yet he still managed to go out to dinner and a 6 hour road trip with my brother and family and our family on sat. We still see my family often whether I work or not. Really the logistics are not hard if you want to make time for your family. 

You need to make yourself a priority. Schedule a regular family dinner. 

[Deleted]

Thanks for the family counseling, Doxie.  Please stop now. 

[taz157]

May 14, 2013 7:21:43 GMT -5 @southernsusana said:

Thanks for the family counseling, Doxie.  Please stop now. 

I have Doxie hidden from my view, but I can imagine what type of "family couseling" she provided. This from a woman who has a cow when her "DH" takes the kids to his parent's house, but her parent's house is okay.

[swamp]

I'm having a few bad days, and this is just what hte doctor ordered, a doxie thread.  thank you!

[swamp]

May 13, 2013 19:08:09 GMT -5 doxieluvr said:

May 11, 2013 18:33:56 GMT -5 @southernsusana said:

Update: My daughter emailed and asked if I was working today.  If not, would I like to go out to lunch?  I did have some final stuff that needs doing (seniors need to know if they can exempt by Monday), but I appreciated the effort.  Then she called this morning to say her brother (my son) and his family could come if we made it 12:30.  So we did Mother's Day today, which was perfect.  We still went to a restaurant, and it was sad, however,  that we can't sit at one table.  There are 12 of us.  Next year there will be fourteen of us.  

It was the perfect Mother's Day.  The presents were nice, too.  They are absolutely optional; I just want to spend time with them, and they know that.  My daughter gave me a book she had finished reading that she thought I would really like.  My daughter-in-law gave me updated pictures (a family one plus the kids' school pictures) and even remembered to give me copies for my aunt. 

Thanks for letting me vent.  All's well that ends well . . .

Why do you not spend more time with them? It sounds as though you rarely see them and living only 45 minutes away is not an excuse. 

I talk to both of my parents at least once a day. See them most days and we eat as a family together at least once a week. That includes my parents, my moms brother and his wife, three kids, my family and my brothers family. Our entire extended family. My grandparents have been dead a long time.  We don't have a set day, but we often just happen to say lets meet at a restaurant, my dh calls my brother, who calls my uncle and we all show up. We have young children and my uncle has teenagers. The logistics are not difficult. 

I love my parents dearly. I live 10 miles from them.  I like my in laws, they live 5 miles from us, and my MIL teaches at my kids school.   I like my siblings and get along well with them.  You'd consider us close.  However, that's way too much family togetherness. 

[Deleted]

May 14, 2013 7:47:27 GMT -5 swamp said:

I'm having a few bad days, and this is just what hte doctor ordered, a doxie thread.  thank you!

I thought the "Jealous Over Other's Wealth" thread would have lured her like moth to flame. 

[Deleted]

May 14, 2013 7:48:52 GMT -5 swamp said:

May 13, 2013 19:08:09 GMT -5 doxieluvr said:

Why do you not spend more time with them? It sounds as though you rarely see them and living only 45 minutes away is not an excuse. 

I talk to both of my parents at least once a day. See them most days and we eat as a family together at least once a week. That includes my parents, my moms brother and his wife, three kids, my family and my brothers family. Our entire extended family. My grandparents have been dead a long time.  We don't have a set day, but we often just happen to say lets meet at a restaurant, my dh calls my brother, who calls my uncle and we all show up. We have young children and my uncle has teenagers. The logistics are not difficult. 

I love my parents dearly. I live 10 miles from them.  I like my in laws, they live 5 miles from us, and my MIL teaches at my kids school.   I like my siblings and get along well with them.  You'd consider us close.  However, that's way too much family togetherness. 

My parents have the type of relationship doxie describes with my Dad's family. Except they don't get together at restaurants, they eat at someone's house. It's not that big a deal if that is your lifestyle. And that is your main circle of people. It's not mine and would drive me nuts, but they seem to like it.

[Deleted]

May 13, 2013 12:23:13 GMT -5 swamp said:

DD make a book for me in class.  She said I was as pretty as a mermaid, which is flattering, but then said I was as wise as her cousin "D."  D is 19 years old and a meathead.    

I literally snorted!

[Deleted]

May 13, 2013 19:43:40 GMT -5 @southernsusana said:

Are your parents divorced, Doxie, meaning you have two sets of parents to visit of your own?  Do you visit your DH's parents this often?  Do you add a grandmother who lost her husband/son within six months of each other and is basically alone?  Do you spend most of Sunday at church?

My kids honestly do the best they can do to please multiple family groups.  I truly believe they do.  None of us are really telephone people, but we talk every week or two.

Your young children aren't as young as the young children involved here.  There are six grandchildren to date . . . a 9, two 7s, an almost 5, a 2, and a 1.  My SIL is a lawyer with those 60+ weeks you hear about.  My son is a CPA with a similar requirement.  My daughter is a part-time pharmacist who tries to work when she doesn't need child care since she has three kids (one of the 7s, the almost 5, and the 2).  Both my daughter and daughter-in-law are pregnant and due in late August/early Sept.

While I miss spending time with my kids and wish I didn't always come last, I really resent your comment.  The logistics are indeed difficult, and I understand that.

My daughter isn't you, Doxie.  She is a working professional who also tries to be a SAHM.  I wouldn't trade her for the world.

now now, Doxie isn't just sitting around loafing.  She's busy being a full time mom to her angelic toddler and tween girl while also working hard on her financial advise book.  When's the release date on that, again?

[swasat]

May 14, 2013 10:17:32 GMT -5 @moneyjenny82 said:

now, Doxie isn't just sitting around loafing.  She's busy being a full time mom to her angelic toddler and tween girl while also working hard on her financial advise book.  When's the release date on that, again?

Herbie's birthday.