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Post by swamp on May 13, 2013 11:15:38 GMT -5
I know I said mother's day is just another day. I was wrong. And I'm kind of hurt over the day.
DH had to work, left at 6. DS woke up at 6:30. DD got up at 7:30. Went to DS's lax tournament an hour away. Took the kids out for a late lunch/early dinner. Brought the kids home. DD was overtired and miserable. She has a food obsession and it was out in full force. When I put her to bed she told me she sometimes wants to tell me she hates me.
DH did ask if I wanted him to bring home dinner, but I was out to eat with the kids when he called.
Nobody wished me a happy mother's day. That's all I wanted.
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Post by Deleted on May 13, 2013 11:19:43 GMT -5
oh, swamp..... you are a great mom and they will definitely remember these times when they're older. Happy Mother's Day.
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Post by milee on May 13, 2013 11:19:52 GMT -5
Happy Mother's Day, Swamp. <img alt=" " src="http://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff155/JiminiChristmas/smileys/hug.gif" width="45" height="30" text=" ">
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Post by taz157 on May 13, 2013 11:22:18 GMT -5
oh, swamp..... you are a great mom and they will definitely remember these times when they're older. Happy Mother's Day.
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Post by lynnerself on May 13, 2013 11:28:16 GMT -5
DD , age 25, invited herself for dinner, asked to have some of the flowers she brought me back to give to her BF's mom and as she was leaving mentioned moving back home to go to back to school
But at least lots of people wished me happy Mothers' Day
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Post by thyme4change on May 13, 2013 11:35:59 GMT -5
Wow Swamp - what a bummer!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on May 13, 2013 11:37:15 GMT -5
My Mom basically had a parade of us coming and going all afternoon. We were the last ones and got there around 5pm because I'd been playing in the dirt. There's 5 kids, 4 of us married w/ kids (mostly 10+ years older than mine) and she's very good at being flexible. Father's Day is a similar parade of us. Some years we do try to coordinate times. Not this year. For us, the mandatory holiday has turned into Memorial Day. Dad grills. There's a water balloon fight if the weather's ok. And a horde of people. My MIL doesn't try to schedule anything for Memorial Day. In fact, some years she and FIL come to my parents house too. Last year MIL got involved in the water balloon fight. But everyone's family is different and everyone's levels of tolerance are different too. So you have to do what works for you. Hugs Swamp. Happy Mother's Day, slightly late.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 13, 2013 11:42:11 GMT -5
DH bought breakfast and brought it home. Then we went out to purchase a dresser for Gwen's room. Finished the day at the Children's Museum.
It was a ghost town yesterday which surprised us, it's usually packed. It was great because we weren't tripping over hundreds of kids. The ball room being empty was especially nice, Gwen got to grab as many as she wanted. No near fights to death as a ball rolled by.
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Post by thyme4change on May 13, 2013 11:46:23 GMT -5
My day was riddled with guilt. All I wanted to do was hang out with my kids, but I knew if we didn't call and honor our mothers that they would feel bad. I couldn't relax and enjoy "my day" because I was suppose to be working hard to appease someone else on "her day." It all worked out, but I felt like there was a list of obligations. - Call Mom - check - Call MIL - check - Pretend to enjoy the presents my kids made me - check - Help husband figure out what to do so he knows he did okay making me feel special - check - Figure out what activity I want to do on my day so I get time with my kids / plan that activity / execute that activity - check Oh, by the way, I wanted to watch a movie, which we didn't do.
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Post by Deleted on May 13, 2013 11:46:23 GMT -5
We gave up on celebrating holidays. My mom used to expect us to fly 2000 miles to visit at Christmas. Yes, Christmas in Chicago. I put a stop to that - her expecting it. In fact, now she knows we won't visit in the winter, ever. As she reminds me, Christmas just isn't the same. Of course it isn't. My grandparents and two uncles passed away in the last 6 years and the few grandkids there are all moved away. Mom also doesn't speak with her sister anymore. The family just plain fell apart.
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Post by imawino on May 13, 2013 11:47:19 GMT -5
swasat -- I can relate to Mother's day being very hard, and I lost my mom over 10 years ago. DH has bought the mother's day cards for his mom ever since and my new stepmom after my dad remarried, because I still can't handle reading/picking out mother's day cards.(and I even adore my stepmom and MIL) I get pretty teary-eyed reading the cards my kids get me as well, partly because I am just a sap, and partly because of that whole "circle of life" thing that pulls my heartstrings for my mom. Mother's day is probably the biggest emotional trigger for me when it comes to my mom being gone. And, our family never made a big deal of Mother's day, just a card and a call, usually. Anyway, for what it is worth, I'm sending good thoughts your way as you balance the joy in your own motherhood with the painful loss of your mom. I know how you feel. I thought I would do something nice for my sweetie because I knew he hadn't had time, and I went out on Saturday to get a card for him to give to his mom, and one for his kids to give to her as well. Holy shit, it was way harder than I thought. When you've lost your mother reading those sentimental mother's day cards is a nightmare. I ended up crying in the damn card aisle. Ugh. But I did get DSW gift cards, chocolate covered strawberries and a a flowering plant for Mother's day. I'm not even anyone's mother! I must just seem vaguely pathetic, but it gets me shoes and chocolate so whatever.
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Post by swasat on May 13, 2013 11:48:37 GMT -5
I know I said mother's day is just another day. I was wrong. And I'm kind of hurt over the day. DH had to work, left at 6. DS woke up at 6:30. DD got up at 7:30. Went to DS's lax tournament an hour away. Took the kids out for a late lunch/early dinner. Brought the kids home. DD was overtired and miserable. She has a food obsession and it was out in full force. When I put her to bed she told me she sometimes wants to tell me she hates me.
DH did ask if I wanted him to bring home dinner, but I was out to eat with the kids when he called. Nobody wished me a happy mother's day. That's all I wanted. If it helps any, my 5 year old tells me ALL THE TIME that she hates me. Even on Mother's Day Anytime she does not get her way, I get a "I hate you!!" card. I wouldn't give it too much thought. I have realized that for my DD those are just words. She does not realize the full extent of it. I get an almost equal numebers of "I love you!!" and "I hate you!!" from her in a week She gets her way = She loves me She doesn't get her way = She hates me. Simple as that in her world!!
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Post by swamp on May 13, 2013 11:48:52 GMT -5
My day was riddled with guilt. All I wanted to do was hang out with my kids, but I knew if we didn't call and honor our mothers that they would feel bad. I couldn't relax and enjoy "my day" because I was suppose to be working hard to appease someone else on "her day." It all worked out, but I felt like there was a list of obligations. - Call Mom - check - Call MIL - check - Pretend to enjoy the presents my kids made me - check - Help husband figure out what to do so he knows he did okay making me feel special - check - Figure out what activity I want to do on my day so I get time with my kids / plan that activity / execute that activity - check Oh, by the way, I wanted to watch a movie, which we didn't do. I hear you. I just wanted to take a bath, and that didn't happen. I wanted to go shopping at Old Navy and get a pedicure on Saturday, but my MIL "forgot" she said she would take the kids.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on May 13, 2013 11:55:52 GMT -5
Oh hugs Swamp and Thyme.
Thyme, are the kid gifts so awful? I've enjoyed the ones I've gotten so far. But mine are younger than yours.
I'm pretty sure I've gotten an "I hate you" from DD too. LIke swasat said, it doesn't mean anything yet other than she's not getting her way. Edited to add My response is "I'm sorry you feel that way. But I love you anyway."
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Post by midjd on May 13, 2013 11:57:39 GMT -5
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Post by swamp on May 13, 2013 11:59:14 GMT -5
DD can't write anything other than her name yet. I'm sure I'll get one next year.
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Post by Queen of Interesting Nuts on May 13, 2013 12:04:06 GMT -5
This was the first year that my kids arranged something for me themselves (19 and 21) They took me to Longhorn, we had a great time and no-one pulled their cell phones out . We had lots of laughs and DS paid (quite the shocker as he is known as a cheapskate) I got lovely flowers from DD and chocolates and a funny corgi card that told me to be a queen for the day from DS. I won't say what DS wrote as it may get taken the wrong way here but it was funny the little jokester. DD wrote a lovely message in her card that made me cry. It was a nice day.
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Post by Deleted on May 13, 2013 12:04:23 GMT -5
I got a really nice necklace from GW that has "swarovski elements" And she made me a cake. Towards the end of the day I got a "Happy Mother's Day" scribbled on my computer screen from LGW and then quickly erased. GW asked me not to comment on the necklace on Facebook so that her real mom wouldn't know about it. That was a fly in my ointment. I get it but it pisses me off to have to say "I'm not trying to replace your mother" so often. No, I just get to do all the work she should be doing but let's be extra sensitive about her feelings.
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Post by swasat on May 13, 2013 12:05:46 GMT -5
LOL Mid.... I have gotten about 2 from her. Thankfully none on Mother's Day Something like this: "Ven you are old i sed yo 2 baycmen" Transalation: When you are old I will send you to basement. (Basement Is where I send her for time outs.) "tmro I by a nu mom from Cosco " Translation: Tomorrow I am buying a new mom from Costco. But everytime she writes those she feels guilty an hour later and comes and showers me with cuddles and hugs and is profusely sorry. DH never gets any of those notes though. She worships the ground he walks on. I am beginning to understand she is still learning to control her emotions.
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Post by thyme4change on May 13, 2013 12:07:31 GMT -5
No - not awful, just kind of stupid. My son made one of those pens that has a flower attached to it. And my daughter made a drawing with a picture of herself in the middle. I say "Oh, how nice." And then I try to figure out where to keep them.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on May 13, 2013 12:19:36 GMT -5
Ahh, ok. I got the scroll of handprints from DS (3.5) which he promptly claimed back as a treasure map. It was tied up like a scroll, like he sees pirate maps on Disney shows. It also came with a framed "Best Mom" thing. So I snuck it away from him and added it to that. It's already hanging in the hallway. And DD, who just turned 5, her class made a book of kid recipes and the covers have a handprint flower. It's hysterical - one kid's recipe for chicken soup is "cut the veggies and chicken up into little pieces. Add water. Cook on stove for 20 hours." DD's was on how to make popcorn. And a lot of the kids have no idea of how long stuff goes in the over. Times ranged from 12 seconds to hours.
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Post by thyme4change on May 13, 2013 12:21:30 GMT -5
I thought all this stuff was much cuter when my kids were in preschool. Now that they are older, it just isn't the same.
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Post by swamp on May 13, 2013 12:23:13 GMT -5
DD make a book for me in class. She said I was as pretty as a mermaid, which is flattering, but then said I was as wise as her cousin "D." D is 19 years old and a meathead.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on May 13, 2013 12:23:58 GMT -5
Well, if you take the pen to work, no one will steal it.
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Post by Deleted on May 13, 2013 12:26:23 GMT -5
I have never heard of that site! I had a quite a few examples of DD's work I could have contributed.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 13, 2013 12:28:31 GMT -5
D is 19 years old and a meathead
Could be worse, first time I read that sentence I thought you wrote "methhead". I need toget my eyes checked.
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Post by midjd on May 13, 2013 12:35:41 GMT -5
I have never heard of that site! I had a quite a few examples of DD's work I could have contributed. It's never too late! I wish my mom or I had kept all the notes I wrote to her from age 6-10 or so... they usually went something like, "I'm running away because you [did something I didn't like][didn't do something I wanted] so don't try to find me, I love you, see you never." Then I'd go sit in the field behind our house until I got hungry.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on May 13, 2013 12:41:37 GMT -5
I don't remember leaving notes. I'd just go to the cat walk and hang out there. Our block is a double block and there's a sidewalk leading from one of the courts to the street. We've always called it the cat walk even though the people who live there have dogs...
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on May 13, 2013 12:47:45 GMT -5
Yup, my guys kind of blew me off yesterday, too. As I was getting ready to go to YDS's soccer game, I decided that if I wanted a nice Mother's Day moment, I was going to have to do it for myself. So, I pulled out the cooler and put together the ingredients for a little picnic for the mothers at the soccer game including a table, tablecloth, flowered-napkins, flowers in a vase, mimosas, flavored seltzers (blood orange, lemon, plain), nice plastic glasses, ice, a crystal ice bowl, silver ice tongs, hummus and crackers, fresh strawberries, grapes, garlic parmesan pita chips, and some dark chocolate. Mother's Day soccer games have never been more enjoyable -- for me -- and for the other mothers.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on May 13, 2013 12:53:30 GMT -5
I didn't leave notes that I know of. I also don't remember ever telling my mother that I hated her. I would remember because she would have slapped the lips right off my face. She was NOT a believer in freedom of expression.
Now I'm not saying I didn't think it once in awhile....
I do remember my brother asking my mom if he could run away. (He was anxiously awaiting Dad's return because he had been caught playing with matches AGAIN.) My mom asked him where he was going to go. He said just somewhere Dad couldn't find him. And I remember he asked how much food he should take. Mom told him he better take enough to last him until he was 20. He walked down to the corner with his little backpack. Mom watched him sit there for about a 1/2 before she yelled at him to come home and eat lunch. He came. I guess he figured a spanking was better than starving to death.
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