Fair Weather Friends

[Opti]

Jan 16, 2013 23:02:39 GMT -5 ZaireinHD said:

To My Fair Weather Friend
To My Best Friend
To My Closest Friend I've Ever Had In My Life

I can see how someone from the outside could say there could be another to top my love for you, as you are the top love of my life. I have to disagree because you are so unique and will hold a special place in my heart! I can never let anyone get as close to me as we once were.

When I say I Love You I mean it sincerely and as genuine love for you! I don't know if it's easy or difficult for you to keep pushing me out of your life? But despite your words of passion, and expressions of love for me, for us, and after we shared tears of sorrow of you expressing how wrong you were for pushing me away before; how I was such a good friend to you; I know this time it's for good.

I will miss you always and forever and a day. As time moves forward and my heart will eventually heal, my thoughts of you and us will not fade. I do wish the best for you and look forward to the day we may cross paths and smile towards each other once again.

Love Zaire
 

I hope the bolded is just your grief talking and you will change your mind sometime in the future. It is also sad because it implies you were closer to her overall than you
ever were to your girlfriend.

You really haven't shared any specifics of what has happened between you so I
have no idea whether I would judge her to be a fair weather friend or not. I have
had some deep friendships break up over what was a small deal to me but obviously
a big deal to them. I would not label any of them fair weather friends.

Reading your post reminded me of the first time I felt blind-sided by a friendship
ending. I had met my friend at church in college. She wanted to start a Christian
sorority and I agreed to be part of it. (One of these days I want to go to my alma
mater and see if they have their own house. I'd like to see my name listed as one
of the 10 founders.) I was only active for a year to possibly two years. I decided with
my engineering classes and things I'd rather do if I had to choose like volleyball that
I could not juggle it all. She implored me not to leave the sorority. I left anyway.
If I could redo it with the wisdom I possess now I would have stayed in and just been
a lame duck member participating rarely. Within three weeks of my decision she decided
she didn't want to be my friend anymore. She may have even avoided me at church.
IDK. It is a long time ago.

The number of male friends lives I have been cut out of or downgraded to aqquaintence
is pretty long. I think I could easily count to 10 without thinking all that hard. I can't think of a case where it didn't involve their wife/SO/GF or lifestyle stuff - having children. My guess is you are judging this situation with eyes that could use some
readjustment. I hope you choose to find peace whatever happens in the future.
Namaste.

[ZaireinHD]

Touching Opti! Surprised to hear coming from you - Thanks that helps.

WOW - just read what I posted - powerful shit
but I did post at a time v5 just started and thought by the time it's read all this would be over.

[ZaireinHD]

My fave person is my BFF for the past 25 years.

WOW!!
not her husband?

[ZaireinHD]

Fave person - Above mentioned best friend of 8 years+

nice!
to have a best friend as your favorite person!