Culture Clashes In Relationships

[midjd]

and why do you think all the women you've dated have these qualities?

Excellent question.

(Hint - the answer is NOT "because all women are like that.")

[Firebird]

I could fill up the servers of ProBoards with all the nonsense and juvenile stuff I've seen. Amazing that highly educated and seemingly intelligent and level-headed women carry on like they do.

Yeah, okay, and men are perfect all the time.

[imawino]

May 10, 2012 11:35:36 GMT -5 swamp said:

May 10, 2012 11:34:28 GMT -5 Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ said:

Funny how we split up. Last year on Father's Day, we are sitting watching a documentary on Paul Taylor, he is a ballet choreographer in NYC. After it was over we are laying there on the couch, and she asks me what I was thinking. So I told her. My answer did not suit her, so she starts screaming at me and asks me to leave. So I left.In recent months I have been at the dance studio in northern NJ to take private choreography lessons with an independent instructor, and this studio is where she started taking lessons again.

She walked by me numerous times, avoided eye contact and would not even say hello.

You have a very special talent for picking the crazies.

Depends. Based on some of the attitudes he has espoused about women, he may well have said something that made that a perfectly reasonable reaction.

[Sum Dum Gai]

Yes, and the big one is fear of being alone. The other biggie is not being able to take care of themselves even though they have sufficient income.

Dude, not this conversation again. I don't know what you think you're saying, but this is what the rest of us are hearing.
"I've dated lots of women, and I can say with certainty, that only the crazy ones are willing to go out with me."

[Deleted]

May 10, 2012 14:02:32 GMT -5 @tbird said:

May 10, 2012 14:00:11 GMT -5 Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ said:

like.... they're all crazy?

Yes, and the big one is fear of being alone. The other biggie is not being able to take care of themselves even though they have sufficient income.

let's call a spade a spade here. ONLY a woman who was desperate and afraid of being alone would bother dating you. No need to extrapolate to the rest of the feminine who are likely avoiding you like the plague.....

If SF comes off in real life like he does here........... SPADE

[midjd]

Thank you, Dark. For some reason, when women tell him that, it doesn't compute...

[Peace Of Mind]

May 10, 2012 12:56:12 GMT -5 Opti said:

May 10, 2012 12:12:49 GMT -5 Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ said:

I've dated women from all walks of life. There are many common threads. I've listed some of them.

Yes, and the only thing they have in common is they were willing to date you. You attract what you believe you will attract so evidence becomes self-fufilling. If you attract the wrong kind of people the problem is you not them.

If you were truly sane and wanted a healthy relationship it would be energistically impossible for you to attract crazy people in your life.
These women are your mirror. If you don't like what you see in these women you need to fix the man in the mirror as the saying goes.

Very well said. This is exactly what I keep telling my brothers. They keep dating the same exact personality types (just ages, hair color, and names change) and they can't figure out why their relationships keep failing. In the nicest way possible I tried to tell my youngest brother (getting his 4th divorce) that he needs to try to attract women that have his GOOD parts of his personality instead of attracting the ones that have the exact same mental and financial dysfunction he has. I'm pretty sure the phone I was talking on understood it better than he did.

SF - You keep going for insecure women because of something inside of you that doesn't feel worthy of a secure woman - or a secure woman wouldn't put up with whatever you exude. Or they are all just menopausal.

[Sum Dum Gai]

despite your mean FAT comments on the other thread!

What? There's nothing wrong with carrying a little extra fat after a pregnancy. You women need to get over the whole fat thing. Even Olympic athletes still have a body fat percentage. We're all carrying around some fat. It's natural.

[Peace Of Mind]

tbird - I'll get her! Pink I was still on page 1 and you both said what I was trying to say.

[Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ]

May 10, 2012 14:02:08 GMT -5 @moneyjenny82 said:

May 10, 2012 14:00:11 GMT -5 Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ said:

like.... they're all crazy?

Yes, and the big one is fear of being alone. The other biggie is not being able to take care of themselves even though they have sufficient income.

and why do you think all the women you've dated have these qualities?

These are pretty standard qualities in boomer women. Boomer women are sort of the sandwich generation. Many did but not all latched on to the burn your bra movement in the 60s, and women's liberation.

[Bob Ross]

Aww c'mon. Do you mean that you ladies aren't at least a bit interested as to what goes on at "the love nest"?

[Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ]

May 10, 2012 14:17:27 GMT -5 Sum Dum Gai said:

despite your mean FAT comments on the other thread!

What? There's nothing wrong with carrying a little extra fat after a pregnancy. You women need to get over the whole fat thing. Even Olympic athletes still have a body fat percentage. We're all carrying around some fat. It's natural.

Holy crap. My gf, who had the body of a 19 year old, and six pack abs, writes me this morning that she is fat... oy vey...

[swasat]

May 10, 2012 14:19:46 GMT -5 Bob Ross said:

Aww c'mon. Do you mean that you ladies aren't at least a bit interested as to what goes on at "the love nest"?

Not when it involves SF.

Now if you talk about YOUR love nest......

[quotequeen]

May 10, 2012 14:19:46 GMT -5 Bob Ross said:

Aww c'mon. Do you mean that you ladies aren't at least a bit interested as to what goes on at "the love nest"?

Apparently nothing since their fight was about the fact that he won't be taking her there.

[Peace Of Mind]

SF - I'm a late boomer and I can't relate to anything your women do or say. I'd be encouraging you to go to the shore house and to go swimming far, far out in the ocean. Then I'd get my locks changed when you leave. I'm just sayin'. In the nicest way, of course.

[imawino]

May 10, 2012 14:17:27 GMT -5 Sum Dum Gai said:

despite your mean FAT comments on the other thread!

What? There's nothing wrong with carrying a little extra fat after a pregnancy. You women need to get over the whole fat thing. Even Olympic athletes still have a body fat percentage. We're all carrying around some fat. It's natural.

Somehow I sense you have just called me fat! Ass.

[Bob Ross]

May 10, 2012 14:20:37 GMT -5 Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ said:

Holy crap. My gf, who had the body of a 19 year old, and six pack abs, writes me this morning that she is fat... oy vey...

I call shenanigans.

A 56 year old woman with the body of a 19 year old plus six pack abs simply does not happen in nature.

Not even in surgically enhanced nature.

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May 10, 2012 14:22:07 GMT -5 quotequeen said:

May 10, 2012 14:19:46 GMT -5 Bob Ross said:

Aww c'mon. Do you mean that you ladies aren't at least a bit interested as to what goes on at "the love nest"?

Apparently nothing since their fight was about the fact that he won't be taking her there.

snap!!

[Deleted]

May 10, 2012 14:23:03 GMT -5 Bob Ross said:

May 10, 2012 14:20:37 GMT -5 Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ said:

Holy crap. My gf, who had the body of a 19 year old, and six pack abs, writes me this morning that she is fat... oy vey...

I call shenanigans.

A 56 year old woman with the body of a 19 year old plus six pack abs simply does not happen in nature.

Not even in surgically enhanced nature.

plus, not all 19-year-olds are hot or have nice bodies.

[midjd]

These are pretty standard qualities in boomer women.

Based on WHAT? The boomer women you've dated?

Seriously, am I just screaming into the interwebs here?

[Bob Ross]

May 10, 2012 14:21:37 GMT -5 swasat said:

Now if you talk about YOUR love nest......

My love nest is the back of a '93 Buick Roadmaster.

I call it "the shaggin' wagon".

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May 10, 2012 14:24:31 GMT -5 midjd said:

These are pretty standard qualities in boomer women.

Based on WHAT? The boomer women you've dated?

Seriously, am I just screaming into the interwebs here?

yes. Hush up.

[midjd]

Well, I can now definitively say that it IS SF who makes women crazy. I'm not even dating him and he's driven me over the edge

[Sum Dum Gai]

Somehow I sense you have just called me fat! Ass.

It's all good, I likes my women curvy!

[Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ]

May 10, 2012 14:19:46 GMT -5 Bob Ross said:

Aww c'mon. Do you mean that you ladies aren't at least a bit interested as to what goes on at "the love nest"?

I get snide, sarcastic remarks... they are all jealous though.

[Bob Ross]

May 10, 2012 14:32:58 GMT -5 midjd said:

Well, I can now definitively say that it IS SF who makes women crazy. I'm not even dating him and he's driven me over the edge

One could say that he's simply drawing out your inner crazy, like a healer sucking poison from a wound.

[Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ]

Somehow I sense you have just called me fat! Ass.

You could think of it as the cushion for the pushin'....

[Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ]

May 10, 2012 14:35:49 GMT -5 Bob Ross said:

May 10, 2012 14:32:58 GMT -5 midjd said:

Well, I can now definitively say that it IS SF who makes women crazy. I'm not even dating him and he's driven me over the edge

One could say that he's simply drawing out your inner crazy, like a healer sucking poison from a wound.

[Deleted]

May 10, 2012 14:32:58 GMT -5 midjd said:

Well, I can now definitively say that it IS SF who makes women crazy. I'm not even dating him and he's driven me over the edge

next you'll be buying floral wall sprays.

[midjd]

And hanging out getting mani-pedis all day and gossiping with my hairstylist...