Zaire All About Nothing Journal

[Green Eyed Lady]

Good. That's all I was trying to get across. I'm the last person who has a right to judge anyone and I want you know that isn't what I was doing.

[femmefatale]

Mar 18, 2012 21:28:02 GMT -5 Green Eyed Lady said:

Good. That's all I was trying to get across. I'm the last person who has a right to judge anyone and I want you know that isn't what I was doing.

Me too...God knows I'm not judging, just trying to give some advice.

[Opti]

Mar 18, 2012 20:29:28 GMT -5 ZaireinHD said:

Mood: Defensive
Subject: Archive Threads

Mar 18, 2012 19:58:02 GMT -5 Opti said:

Zaire you are looking in the wrong place. I can't ever remember a thread here or on MSN EE/YM where posters talked about having physical affairs with someone other than who they are married to.

In fact, there have been occasional threads which have become discussions of emotional cheating or married folk who intentionally avoid temptation. The people who post here are not the average masses and with probably a few exceptions believe in fidelity more than average.

I know of no boards that discuss what you are looking for if reading about

Here we go again with you....
I simply said I want to find the thread(s) in EE talking about cheating. and here you go putting words...taking a direction that I'm not going.
perfect example of how you take what I said and twist it around.

If you would write clearer perhaps I'd understand what you are trying to say instead of what you've written. I don't read minds and I don't try to.

I KNOW OF NO THREADS TALKING ABOUT CHEATING AS THE PRIMARY SUBJECT ON EE.

That's why I said you are looking in the wrong place.

[ZaireinHD]

Mood: Normal
Subject: male friends

Mar 18, 2012 21:02:29 GMT -5 Green Eyed Lady said:

You are looking at the wrong men for friendship, Zaire. Real men don't need you to "cover for them" because they don't do anything to need covering for. Not all men cheat. There are, in my experience, a very high percentage of men who believe in the one woman/one man philosophy. I'm not saying they don't look at other women. I'm sure they do.

I guess...just think about what you are doing and then consider how you would feel if it was done to you.

I go to the movies rarely with my brother - maybe 1 or 2 times in a year. my one friend is not interested in going to the movies. unless he takes his kids to see a movie and that is only 2 or 3 times in a year. same as my barber and he mostly downloads movies. I used to go with my female friends.

[ZaireinHD]

Femme - I thought you left?
I miss read - sorry!

[Green Eyed Lady]

Ok. I get that. You like to go to movies. I do, too. My friends don't enjoy it so much. So if I want to see a movie? I go. I don't need somebody to go with me. It's not like you can sit and have a conversation. You are watching a movie. Go do the things you want to do, Zaire. If your gf doesn't want to go, then go by yourself and enjoy your movie! Eat popcorn!

[ZaireinHD]

If I were to get out of my current relationship
I would be alone for good....this would be my last relationship

looking for friendships while with GF I feel is.... safe? for me.
if I were alone and trying to meet / create friendships I don't see how women will feel that I'm not looking to date.
having a GF and finding friends it will be known that this is just a friendship nothing more.

[Green Eyed Lady]

Be truthful to yourself, Zaire. Be truthful to yourself about what it is you want. And be considerate of others. The rest will be a piece of cake!

[Opti]

Mar 18, 2012 21:13:52 GMT -5 ZaireinHD said:

Mood: Normal
Subject: reply change

Mar 18, 2012 21:02:29 GMT -5 Green Eyed Lady said:

You are looking at the wrong men for friendship, Zaire. Real men don't need you to "cover for them" because they don't do anything to need covering for. Not all men cheat. There are, in my experience, a very high percentage of men who believe in the one woman/one man philosophy. I'm not saying they don't look at other women. I'm sure they do.

I guess...just think about what you are doing and then consider how you would feel if it was done to you.

cool - I treat others as I would like to be treated
or at least that's how I think of myself.
I've mentioned that how I put others before my own feeling
going out of my way to be helpful to others

but until recently MOB tactics - I've changed to I should be more concerned about my own well being - what makes me happy - only I can see what makes me happy and I should do what makes me happy and work on others secondary.

There are, in my experience, a very high percentage of men who cheat.

I treat others as I would like to be treated
or at least that's how I think of myself.

1) This is usually a mistake unless how the person wants to be treated is the same as what you want. The ideal smart way to treat someone is how THEY want to be treated. (This may be different and usually is in some ways from what you'd prefer for yourself.)

There are, in my experience, a very high percentage of men who cheat.

2) I believe this is definitely true in your part of reality. It can be much less true for other people including myself. While sadly a stereotype there's a reason the baby momma, down low, and other phrases came from the black community. For whatever reason in the less educated black community cheating and other behaviors seem to be tolerated more and more common there than any other ethnic group I can think of. Anyone can appear righteous hanging out with sinners. One can appear smart even with average intelligence if you hang with a dumb crowd. Doesn't change one's true righteousness or intelligence compared to the whole. Just looks better than it is.

Do you really want to compare or measure yourself up to cheaters and drinkers?

[ZaireinHD]

Mar 18, 2012 21:46:43 GMT -5 Green Eyed Lady said:

Ok. I get that. You like to go to movies. I do, too. My friends don't enjoy it so much. So if I want to see a movie? I go. I don't need somebody to go with me. It's not like you can sit and have a conversation. You are watching a movie. Go do the things you want to do, Zaire. If your gf doesn't want to go, then go by yourself and enjoy your movie! Eat popcorn!

yes I have done so
however movie experience is better with someone else (guy or gal)
when I travel for work (AT ANOTHER JOB I HAD IN THE PAST I USED TO TRAVEL OFTEN) or once maybe twice during work hours (AT CURRENT JOB WHEN MOVIE THEATER WAS ACROSS THE STREET - BUT STILL NOT RECENTLY) I've seen a movie alone.

[Opti]

Mar 18, 2012 21:47:14 GMT -5 ZaireinHD said:

If I were to get out of my current relationship
I would be alone for good....this would be my last relationship

looking for friendships while with GF I feel is.... safe? for me.
if I were alone and trying to meet / create friendships I don't see how women will feel that I'm not looking to date.
having a GF and finding friends it will be known that this is just a friendship nothing more.

This is a huge change from what I remember you posting. Before you wanted to leave your GF and find someone else. Later you did say you were sad about the loss of your female XBF but this is the first day I've seen you post you are looking for female friends not the next GF.

[ZaireinHD]

Mar 18, 2012 21:51:45 GMT -5 Green Eyed Lady said:

Be truthful to yourself, Zaire. Be truthful to yourself about what it is you want. And be considerate of others. The rest will be a piece of cake!

THANKS - Whoops Thanks
yes - other members have posted similar and I've thought about this.

I was going out of my way to be helpful to others - I am and stil am the first pick go to guy - others would not go out of their way to help me.
Then members jumped on my case - so hows that work'n out for you Zaire!

Then I thought I guess it's not working out for me. I should be more concerned about me and I've started telling people no.

[ZaireinHD]

Dec 14, 2011 5:02:16 GMT -5 @member7 said:

I'm going back to the idea that you're a troll. You almost have to be, because it should not be humanly possible for one person to be this dumb all my himself. How do you possibly manage to miss the point EVERY SINGLE TIME? Gotta be a troll.

[ZaireinHD]

Dec 15, 2011 22:57:09 GMT -5 mmhmm said:

Zaire, I'm going to spell something out for you very clearly. You do not tell others where they can post. You are the one who decided to air your personal laundry on these boards. Nobody twisted your arm to get you to do so. Now that it's here, people are going to comment on it, and voice their opinions. If you don't like that, I'd suggest you not choose this medium in which to air said personal laundry. I'd also suggest you stop calling other people names, and stop alluding to things you know absolutely nothing about. I hope that's clear. If it isn't, you might find yourself sitting it out for awhile on the outside, looking in.

mmhmm, P&M Moderator

yea I remember
Zaire no name calling and pointing out members as already done in this thread which had to be edited.

[Green Eyed Lady]

2) I believe this is definitely true in your part of reality. It can be much less true for other people including myself. While sadly a stereotype there's a reason the baby momma, down low, and other phrases came from the black community. For whatever reason in the less educated black community cheating and other behaviors seem to be tolerated more and more common there than any other ethnic group I can think of. Anyone can appear righteous hanging out with sinners. One can appear smart even with average intelligence if you hang with a dumb crowd. Doesn't change one's true righteousness or intelligence compared to the whole. Just looks better than it is.

Wow, Opti. I'm stunned. I'd say more, but I'd get banned.

[ZaireinHD]

Dec 14, 2011 0:01:24 GMT -5 @member20 said:

ZaireinHD,,I don't know your history on the boards,,but from what I've read of you so far,,,dude,,you need to man up,,me being a woman if I was looking for a man and met you I would slap you and make you cry,,,heck,,from the sounds of your woes all it would take is someone to say boo to you

actually you wouldn't get banned GEL
feel free to post what you want in any terms - members can say what they want - but I get the warnings and edits

[ZaireinHD]

Sept 30, 2011 13:46:06 GMT -5 @member12 said:

Any guy whose GF makes him get rid of his "stuff" is a pathetic wuss.

[weltschmerz]

This is a huge change from what I remember you posting. Before you wanted to leave your GF and find someone else.
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Yes, exactly. This is the first time I'm hearing about it as well, but I recall dozens and dozens of his posts looking to hook up with women, all while having a common-law wife at home. Maybe he doesn't remember. He forgot about charging something on another guy's card and he forgot he already posted the Saga of the Envelope on another thread. He forgot posting about going to Brazil, hoping to meet some Brazilian hotties, only to be be devasted when he found out they speak Portugese in Brazil, and not Spanish. He denied posting it, but I remember it like it was yesterday.
Then he backtracks, and does it badly. It pisses people off. It especially pisses women off when we've been reading all the threads on looking for a new girlfriend while he has a live-in lover firmly ensconsed at home.
Yes Zaire, you're going to deny, deny, deny. Evidently we're ALL wrong, and you're the one who is right.

[ZaireinHD]

Oct 3, 2011 15:43:49 GMT -5 @member31 said:

"Now if you're just a parasitic tool who is willing to use a woman so he can get half his bills paid and easy access to pu$$y, then by all means carry on."

Water all over the monitor!

[ZaireinHD]

Oct 3, 2011 18:07:20 GMT -5 @member10 said:

And stop PMing me. I'm not into the drama anymore. You don't need to justify your behavior to me or anyone else and guess what? It's unjustifiable anyway.

[ZaireinHD]

Mar 18, 2012 22:25:21 GMT -5 weltschmerz said:

This is a huge change from what I remember you posting. Before you wanted to leave your GF and find someone else.
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Yes, exactly. This is the first time I'm hearing about it as well, but I recall dozens and dozens of his posts looking to hook up with women, all while having a common-law wife at home. Maybe he doesn't remember. He forgot about charging something on another guy's card and he forgot he already posted the Saga of the Envelope on another thread. He forgot posting about going to Brazil, hoping to meet some Brazilian hotties, only to be be devasted when he found out they speak Portugese in Brazil, and not Spanish. He denied posting it, but I remember it like it was yesterday.
Then he backtracks, and does it badly. It pisses people off. It especially pisses women off when we've been reading all the threads on looking for a new girlfriend while he has a live-in lover firmly ensconsed at home.
Yes Zaire, you're going to deny, deny, deny. Evidently we're ALL wrong, and you're the one who is right.

you have such a great memory
post it! find the thread and post it!
let me see this trip and me actually saying I'm looking to hook up with women.
since it's posted all over and multiple times I would think it's not heard to find?

[ZaireinHD]

I'm accused of not taking advise
ok
show me when I've asked for help with my watch I ignored the help?
show me when I've asked for help with stains in plastic bowls I ignored the help?
show me when I've asked for help about leap year I ignored the help?
show me when I've asked for help about cleaning up dust around the apartment I ignored the help?

LOL - it's been a minute
guess you're out looking?
oh and find the cheating thread(s) a link will be fine
Thanks

[ZaireinHD]

Dec 17, 2011 15:19:47 GMT -5 @member5 said:

Seriously? You had a meeting with the higher ups to complain about the guy who empties the garbage? Because he doesn't say hello to you? Are you freaking kidding me?
On second thought Zaire, stay with the woman you have. There's nobody else on this planet who will put up with you.

[weltschmerz]

I'm accused of not taking advise
ok
show me when I've asked for help with my watch I ignored the help?
show me when I've asked for help with stains in plastic bowls I ignored the help?
show me when I've asked for help about leap year I ignored the help?
show me when I've asked for help about cleaning up dust around the apartment I ignored the help?

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I see. You take our advice for the really IMPORTANT stuff, like dust and stains on Tupperware.

[weltschmerz]

you have such a great memory
post it! find the thread and post it!
let me see this trip and me actually saying I'm looking to hook up with women.
since it's posted all over and multiple times I would think it's not heard to find?
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It was a long time ago, and I have better things to do, Zaire. How do I know you didn't delete it?
It was ONE post about your trip to Brazil. You were hoping to meet hot Brazilian babes, and you had no idea they spoke Portugese there. You were bemoaning the fact that it's impossible to meet women if you don't speak the language.
I remember thinking "What a dick! He has a live-in girlfriend at home".

[ZaireinHD]

Dec 17, 2011 16:55:22 GMT -5 @member7 said:

Well, I guess it is somehow comforting (in a VERY strange way) to know that he is not just a complete idiot in his dating life, but manages to carry it over into all other areas as well. There is something to be said for consistency. Then again, it does seem to be a foolish consistency.... ;D

[ZaireinHD]

Mar 18, 2012 22:58:03 GMT -5 weltschmerz said:

you have such a great memory
post it! find the thread and post it!
let me see this trip and me actually saying I'm looking to hook up with women.
since it's posted all over and multiple times I would think it's not heard to find?
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It was a long time ago, and I have better things to do, Zaire. How do I know you didn't delete it?
It was ONE post about your trip to Brazil. You were hoping to meet hot Brazilian babes, and you had no idea they spoke Portugese there. You were bemoaning the fact that it's impossible to meet women if you don't speak the language.
I remember thinking "What a dick! He has a live-in girlfriend at home".

Ha HA HAaa - gotcha!
no it wasn't me bemoaning - you're twisting it and fortunately I'm still here to correct. usually I've logged off and your popularity and you've posted several times the same thing about that trip.

that conversation you've stated so many times was a conversation I was having with a member no longer here - Moxie.
I was talking about my trip to Brazil and the experience I had going to a place that was outside of my norm.
I wasn't talking about hooking up with women and getting upset I didn't speak the language.

[weltschmerz]

I wasn't talking about hooking up with women and getting upset I didn't speak the language.
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You were talking about hoping to hook up, not that you did hook up.
This entire converstion is clearly pointless. We're all wrong. You're right.

[ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ]

Quit while you're ahead, Weltz. You're arguing with a brick wall. I'd hate to to see you accidently say something probably shouldn't. It's a losing battle.

[ZaireinHD]

Mar 18, 2012 22:53:13 GMT -5 weltschmerz said:

I'm accused of not taking advise
ok
show me when I've asked for help with my watch I ignored the help?
show me when I've asked for help with stains in plastic bowls I ignored the help?
show me when I've asked for help about leap year I ignored the help?
show me when I've asked for help about cleaning up dust around the apartment I ignored the help?

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I see. You take our advice for the really IMPORTANT stuff, like dust and stains on Tupperware.

here is a perfect example
when members appear to step over the line - I should be able to respond
However - I understand the cops...
I'm imagining things - there is nothing wrong with her comment