Thank you all.

[Wisconsin Beth]

Well, I made it through yesterday. Lots of tears. Lots of new to me cousins too.

Argument at the beginning of the funeral service between the widow and a nephew on how to pronounce the last name.

On the way home, I rode with my parents so dad showed off his old house to me. Then mom gets a phone call from my sister and brother. Really, really ,REALLY bad phone connection and it sounds like my brothers car broke down. We caught up with them and it turns out he rolled over a hoe that was lying in the road. And my sister made him pick up the body and stuff it is the trunk because a good hoe is important. At this point we are all hysterical, except my poor brother. And then the jokes started. I'm giggling just typing this so this funeral is going to live long in our famity.

[Wisconsin Beth]

THE FLOOR GUYS ARE HERE!

We can put the fridge and toilet back once they're done but everything else should stay out until tomorrow.

I'm going to work in the basement, laundry and cleaning. Dh is working on the office. I have my phone but no kindle to distract me. Lol.

[Works4me]

Congrats on the floor!

[Wisconsin Beth]

Thanks! Dh and I are both very happy with it.

There's a shit load of stuff to accomplish on Saturday. And it's almost 2am. Kids will probably get us up around 630-7am. Ugh.

And I told dh that I want to go somewhere on sat. May 21st. We'll take the kids and probably hit a waterpark. But a cabin/b&b works too. I am going to relax. All my commitmenta and most of my current stressors should be done too.

[seriousthistime]

Rolled over a hoe? Please explain.

[Wisconsin Beth]

Damn, I had a post explaning the hoe a couple of days ago. Where did it go?

[ners]

Wisconsin Beth  it is the anonymous note thread


Reply #24302 posted Apr 28, 2016 at 8:49am via mobile Sroo, taz157 and 5 more like this. QuotelikePost Options Post by Wisconsin Beth on Apr 28, 2016 at 8:49am

Well, it's not Steff level of family drama but I'll share anywsy.



My Dad's cousin's husband passed away last weekend. The funeral is 3 hours north of us in dad and cousin's hometown. My parents and older sister went up Thursday afternoon and spent the night. They got to use the pancake machine in theit hotel breakfast area. You push a button, wait and get two perfect pancakes. Unless you're the person who pushed the button nonstop because you didn't realize the pancakes had to cook before you got them... apparently he pushed the button like 25 times. The staff had to restart the pancake maker.



The service starts. And as the minister is reading off the relatives of the deceased, naming the immediate family and just listing nephews and cousins. At which point some guy speaks up to make sure his name is said and to insist the family name is pronounced differently than the widow and deceased have always used. Widow gets up and takes a couple of steps toward the nephew before returning to her seat. I'm not sure if she was going to take him down or welcome him to the funeral or what. For the revord, she probably could have taken him down. ..



Rest of service is smooth, but full of tesrs. Graveside is fine. We have no idea how to get out of the cemetery so we're just following the cars in front of is. They stop and one of our new-to-us cousins comes by our car to say they're stopping to visit other graves and we're more than welcome to join them but if we want out, turn left then right and we'll be back on the main road.



There's a luncheon, where the waitstaff pretty much ignored our end of the table for some reason. Eventually we're all fed and head for home.



I'd driven up with my younger sister and brother. His car is small and mom and dad have a minivan so I switched cars for the ride home. Dad offers to show off his hometown some. I say fine. He loves to do this. So he's driving past his old neighborhood talking. We head for home and my younger sister calls. Brother's car hit something, the connection is terrible and mom's not sure if he hit a hole and popped a tire or what. My older sister digs out her AAA card. We get to brother and discover what happened. He ran over a hoe on highway 45. Something caught on the underbody of the car and he's not sure if his car is safe to drive or not.



My younger sister insisted he put the hoe in trunk for proof. Also because you never know when you'll need a hoe. At this were all hysyetical. And the jokes are just writing themselves. After we decide his car isn't leaking anything and there are no punctures we can see, we all leave. And start texting jokes. Brother says younger sister is his wingman anytime he needs to pick up hoes.

[seriousthistime]

Oh, good story!

A hoe is just something that naturally leads to jokes, if you're the sort of person that has a childish sense of humor.  I definitely am that sort of person, and most of my friends are too.  That's why we hang around together. 

Why was the hoe in the middle of the road?  There are all sorts of answers to that one!

[Wisconsin Beth]

Well, I'm done with therapy for summer. Although after the last ten days, I'm thinking about setting up a session.

My son dropped a cinder block on his foot while dh and I were in Rhinelander. My Mom ran him to UC. The toenail is split down to the cuticle and one half is clearing about to fall off. No broken bones, no infection.

Dn#6 was found after running away for three weeks. She was raped and picked up a disease. The poor kid is still in the hospital, for pain and medical care.

DD picked up enough to figure out something was going on. So I got to try to give a simplistic explanation, which she promptly repeated on the last day of school.

DS got the runs on the playground at school and when I picked him, he didn't want to go back to school after I cleaned him up. Then he started puking AND still had the runs.

And I've got my period, just to cap things off.

[Wisconsin Beth]

And K just fell off the couch. She's broken one of her permanent front teeth. The bleeding is stopped but she's got a cut in her lip too.

I've got a page in to her dentist. I've called the nurse hotline.

X-rays tomorrow.

[taz157]

  When it rains, it pours.   I'm so sorry for all of it.  

With DN#6, have they caught the guy that did it.  I hope the disease she caught has a cure and it won't cause any future problems.  

[Tennesseer]

You do have your hands full, Wisconsin Beth.  

Hang in there.

[wvugurl26]

That sounds like a major handful Beth. Can you make an appointment if you need one?

[Jaguar]

My sincerest thoughts to you and yours Wisconsin Beth, << BIG HUGS >>


I hope that the prick that raped your niece gets caught and/ or worse.

[Wisconsin Beth]

When the dentist called me back, he said they'd make room in the schedule foe today (Wednesday)

My impression is that they will check her teeth out, x-ray them and start the rebuilding process. If she's in lots of pain, they will do the bare minimum of rebuilding.

[seriousthistime]

Wow, Beth.  You've got a lot going on.  

Take care of yourself. Everyone needs to rely on you, so you have to take care of you. 

[Wisconsin Beth]

I'm trying econ. I've got a major urge to run away again though. I think that's normal.

If things don't calm down, I'll go see my therapist again. We agreed for the summer, we'd not do appointments unless I needed them.

[Wisconsin Beth]

11am appt for dd. I forget if I said that already.


At least I've got the time off to deal with this. And understanding bosses.

About 5 years ago the shifted our vacation from a full balance on jan. 1st to an accrued balance. But they had to bank time for eciting employees. So between that and comptime, I've got just under 200 hours, in addition to the accruing balance, which is like damn near zero(we're allowed to go negative to a cretain point.) I was toying with seeing about cashing out those banked hours. The last two weeks have convinced me to continue to keep them as my "emergency kids need me" off time. Even though I'm not dipping into them right now.

[missk82]

Holy cow Beth!! I'm so sorry to hear about everything going on!! You have amazing strength. Hang in there!

[bean29]

Hugs Beth.

How old is K 8? I had friends back in the 80's that had permanent Dental work for their front teeth - I know that the repairs today are light years better than what they had then - your DD will be fine.

I agree that setting up an appointment is a good idea given everything you have going on. I wish I got 5 weeks of vacay, (I get 3 weeks + 6 personal days...although our vacay resets at the end of this month and I still have 2.5 days I could take.

[anciana]

I am so sorry, Beth, that is an awful lot to deal with  I hope you can take few minutes here and there to just breathe. And maybe make an appointment with Liz just in case. Often times I've seen that I can plow through difficult times only to fall apart as soon as everything is taken care of and the emergency has passed. Thinking of you. Hang in there!

[Wisconsin Beth]

At the risk of jinx in us, we're doing pretty good. The kids have colds or possibly allergies right now.

They are currently sharing a bedroom while I clear the rest of Keira's room so I can wash the walls and paint. Then we'll shove Caleb in with her and do his room. I talked briefly with dh about playing musical bedrooms but he's not willing to do that.

Dn#6 is home. I guess she's supposed to repay her parents the stolen money and is on probation or something for a year. So it's all going to be a juvie record so hopefully it won't follow her as an adult.

Her parents are fighting yet again. Not sure how bad. But I told dh that if he wants to bail on an upcoming weekend of events with my family to take his brother up to the land to camp and fish and give them some one on one time, I'll get him out of it. He's interested but I think more for getting out of some-boring-to-him stuff than a deep conversation with his brother. Lol.

[Wisconsin Beth]

D ran away again. She texted me Monday asking to come over but we were beat from camping so I said no, but how about Tuesday. She said fine. On Tuesday she went to state fair with her parents and forgot about us. Tuesday night she slept over at a friend's and never came home. After she bailed on Tuesday, I said Wednesday because dd really wanted to see her. No answer to my texts on wed. and when I pulled into their driveway, I got a response from L saying she wasn't home yet.

I texted D saying that K was sad and basically, let me know so I can manage my kids. No answer.

I'm tempted to text her asking if she's ok but I'm assuming she won't answer me. And L is probably blowing up her phone with texts anyway.

While this is going on, I'm just exhausted. Like falling asleep on the couch and to tired and itchy to get up exhausted. Laundry is really backed up. Dishwasher needs to be loaded and run. And there are toys all over the living room and camping gear all over the kitchen. We're heading back up to the land next weekend. There was a possibility that dh was gonna go this weekend but that fell through.

I'm seriously contemplating buying a 2ND set of camping gear and just leaving it in the storage box on the land so I don't have as much to load and unload every damn trip. Fabrics and food would come and go but tents, tarps, dishes, etc could remain there.

[Wisconsin Beth]

Aug 12, 2016 10:57:57 GMT -5 @sroo4 said:

Aug 12, 2016 10:49:08 GMT -5 Wisconsin Beth said:

I'm seriously contemplating buying a 2ND set of camping gear and just leaving it in the storage box on the land so I don't have as much to load and unload every damn trip. Fabrics and food would come and go but tents, tarps, dishes, etc could remain there.

I'd be contemplating storing a second wife/mother on the land so you can stay home and get some relaxing 'me' time!

dh is job hunting. I just learned I have 12 weeks to rebuild a major part of our staffing software, this includes all testing and possible help (or hinderance) from vendor. And I have no details on how admin wants to handle any of it.

There may be enough money to build my garage/shed next year after all....

[Wisconsin Beth]

I think I'm going to be contacting Liz next week. I want advice on navigating the relationship between K and DN#6.

I am hearing, through the family grapevine, that L is giving up on DN#6.

She's been gone for over 3 weeks again. She's a reported runaway, with a sort of recover and detain type warrant outstanding. In short, she's making some really bad decisions right now.

We were supposed to do stuff with her the week she ran away. K cried a lot that week. She loves her cousin and was upset when plans fell through.

Yesterday, a family friend who is somewhat in the loop asked about DN#6. K answered in a very quiet, serious, almost non caring tone.

I'm afraid what K may be learning and absorbing from this. I'm thinking about talking to my therapist about it. With dh present, because he had forced therapy as a kid and he has definite thoughts on it. I just want to do what's best for my kid.

And hopefully keep a door cracked open with DN#6.

And it probably is bad bu y I'm not as worried about C. He's younger and his relationship with DN#6 is more "watch me do x DN#6!" if that makes sense.

[wvugurl26]

Good luck with that. I'm sure it's very hard to watch and now it's having an impact on your child.

[Wisconsin Beth]

Sept 2, 2016 11:19:45 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

Good luck with that. I'm sure it's very hard to watch and now it's having an impact on your child.

it is.


I'm feeling kinda down tonight. Tired and frustrated. Annoyed with a bunch of family but I think that's more due to my mood than them doing anything different.

I did get paint on my dd's walls today. I need to touch up a couple of spots but it's looking ok. 1 wall is purple and the other three are coral.

[Wisconsin Beth]

The shit storm with dn#6 reached high tide today, well yesterday sonce itake afree midnight. Am definitely calling Liz to figure our what to tell kids.
DN #6 decided to use her birth last name after a fight via texting with sil; then it went to fb. Short version is she wants nothing to do with sil and bil anymore and wants to be with her bio family.

I messaged her saying we love her and that I know she's upset and stuff. I'm not expecting to hear back from her.

[wvugurl26]

So sorry Beth. Definitely hard to know what to tell the kids. I hope Liz has some good suggestions.

[taz157]

Sept 19, 2016 6:43:54 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

So sorry Beth. Definitely hard to know what to tell the kids. I hope Liz has some good suggestions.

Wisconsin Beth