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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 11, 2023 22:22:01 GMT -5
One day I will let mine grow out white, the beautician said it appears to be white at most of the roots now, but it takes a long time and looks bad. DD says I won't look good with white hair. I'm not sure, but there will come a day when I find out. True but I used the prolonged Covid lockdowns and WFH for that so very few people ever saw it - the exceptions being my sons and their family/SO on Zoom. My work was done by dialing in to my desktop so no camera available for any meetings there. I found my silver (or should I say white?) lining in all this. LOL
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 11, 2023 14:36:09 GMT -5
I very much disagree. I think the older a woman gets, she should feel more free to do whatever the hell she wants to, if she hasn’t felt that freedom before. I love to see ladies in their 70’s and 80’s ( and I’m pretty sure you are younger than that) still being sassy and vibrant and expressing themselves how they want. There’s a lady that use to work in a store near me, she’s probably in her late 60’s. When I first saw her, she had a jazzy short hair cut, and part of her hair was light blue. It looked great. Then it was pink. Do it! Totally agree! I can't do fun stuff with my hair because it is still seen as unprofessional and I have to work. I have said for years that as soon a I don't have to work in going to be one of the old ladies in the Walgreens commercial dying their hair cool colors just because they can. I used to say that too but due to premature graying I dyed my hair for over 40 years and now I am done with that. So white it is...
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 10, 2023 18:13:16 GMT -5
Getting off topic for a moment here Opti but have you been able to figure out what, if anything, AAA will be paying toward the damage of your car? I remember distinctly that you quoted a part of the terms of service where it states that any damage to a car due to towing is NOT paid for by AAA but needs to be addressed with the towing company's insurance. You need to get this sorted out asap as you are spending money insuring a car which never may be driveable again at all. And your health does not seem to be such that you can keep this up long term. You need to get some type of wheels to get you around
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 10, 2023 13:38:18 GMT -5
Off to pride we go ! I slayed the makeup. Just in case anyone is wondering. I did not wonder for a second. I knew you had this. Never a doubt!
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 10, 2023 12:51:05 GMT -5
Less than 30 minutes until the car picks us up and we'll be off to the airport. It's going to be a long day. By for a while - I'll check in when I can. Everyone be safe. Have a wonderful time
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 9, 2023 19:44:41 GMT -5
So I read MPL's post where she mentions not having started packing yet for a trip that starts next Thursday. I have seen similar posts before and now I am curious: how long in advance do you all pack for a vacation (sorry mich your world cruise does not count here since a trip that long does take some serious planning). I will fess up to thinking I feel very well prepared, and probably overdoing it, if I start packing more than 24 hours before leaving. I also do not use a packing list. I just throw everything in my suitcase, stand in front of it and mentally dress myself to make sure it is all in there. Takes about 5 minutes after packing. And then wondering aloud if I remembered anything, and DH reminds me we are not going to a remote wilderness. There will probably be a store close by. That is exactly it! And, possibly because I don't stress over it I never seem to forget anything. Of course it could also be because I have travelled quite a bit over the years but either way: if needed I can always go buy what I need - or do without. I would be good at that too if needed
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 9, 2023 19:29:38 GMT -5
That was already a thing for young couples in the early 70s in the Netherlands. One of the many plans I had in life that did not work out - in the mid 70s there were too many people who held this against children born from these relationships and we wanted kids, so we married. No big difference to us but potentially a big difference for the (at the time hypothetical) child and the child had no choice so we chose to make life easier for it.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 9, 2023 19:15:00 GMT -5
So I read MPL's post where she mentions not having started packing yet for a trip that starts next Thursday. I have seen similar posts before and now I am curious: how long in advance do you all pack for a vacation (sorry mich your world cruise does not count here since a trip that long does take some serious planning).
I will fess up to thinking I feel very well prepared, and probably overdoing it, if I start packing more than 24 hours before leaving. I also do not use a packing list. I just throw everything in my suitcase, stand in front of it and mentally dress myself to make sure it is all in there. Takes about 5 minutes after packing.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 9, 2023 18:06:14 GMT -5
I guess they could, Mister and his brother are her closest blood relatives now. I will talk to Mister about it. But even then, what happens if she just up and leaves the hospital again? Apparently Mister misunderstood the neighbor and they actually called the fired department last night. She was taken to a hospital last night. Brother is trying to find out which hospital she is in to go see about her. They still don’t know exactly what was wrong with her, if she’d fallen again or what. At least Brother is finally doing something to help, instead of leaving everything to Mister. He’s been looking after Dad at Dad’s house since he came back home, except for the weekend he was here, to give Brother a break. And fortunately, he went to see about Aunt today, since Mister is at work. I am so sorry for this ongoing train wreck in your lives. I hate to sound harsh but she seems to be a piece of work. She's not as overtly manipulative as Dad, but she's getting close I think. Her friend needs to quit answering those "pick me up and bring me home calls" and so does everyone else in the family. Well the peeing in the car and Mister and his brother refusing to pick up the tab for cleaning might go a long way toward that. I know this is a very practical response and it doesn't mean that I don't feel sorry for aunt but in the long run this was probably a good thing to happen.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 9, 2023 15:28:51 GMT -5
Divorced after 31 years of marriage. Two sons who are old enough to fit in with the majority of our "village" here. Not interested in ever re-marrying. I realized early on during the last 18 years that I really like having to deal with others only on my terms - I'm not a hermit by a long shot but I love my periods of solitude.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 8, 2023 22:15:04 GMT -5
Trump is already fundraising off the indictment. Please send 10 to 250 dollars to save America. 😟 Grifters will grift!
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 8, 2023 21:04:03 GMT -5
I had to go dig in my closet for my fan, and I found a box of old photographs. Hundreds and hundreds of them, the kind that came with negatives. I went right down the rabbit hole. It made me sad. So many people now dead. My youth is dead. I used to be so very slim and beautiful. Now I'm an od crone with grey hair, walking with a cane. Pictures of my very handsome husband. Now I don't even know if he's dead or alive. Lots of people I don't recognise. Lots of pictures of me posing in bathing suits, with some guy's arm thrown around me, and I don't even know what country I was in. Ahh, memories. Makes me want to belt out the song. I get it. It is one of the many reasons I have such a hard time purging things before my move to Europe and why I have given myself a three year window to get it done. So many memories, so many places, things, but most importantly of all so many people loved (or not) never to be seen again. Never to say I love you to again, or even to get mad at again. Names and faces that are just faint memories... I keep going by telling myself I may not be that far from the end of the road (though I am planning my 100th birthday . ) there is still a lot to be done, seen, loved.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 7, 2023 17:10:47 GMT -5
I apologize for not already knowing this and being too lazy at the moment to google it, but what started these fires?
We've had no rain and lightning starts most of them. Then there's human stupidity, like campfires when it's bone dry. I am sorry you have to deal with. We have had this here in CA for several years in a row and it sucks big time. At least with all the rain and snow we have had it looks like our fire season (and it will come!) is postponed for a few months this year.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 6, 2023 17:12:45 GMT -5
Wowza, that makes my head hurt. Must have been some bill for all those buoys. Hah! What else do you think could have happened to Malaysian Airlines flight 370. They went past a buoy! I must say that the explanation was a little weak by not throwing in that mystery as "proof" of the flat earth theory. If you do something it is worth doing it well
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 6, 2023 15:55:02 GMT -5
LOL soupandstewIn WTF news: it has just stopped raining here. It is June and it is raining. The weather gods sure have their wires crossed this year. Rain is supposed to stop sometime in April. Then there may or may not be a (single!) summer shower in July. But this is ridiculous. It is also a bit on the chilly side and my biking buddy and I have plans to swim tomorrow as her back is messing too much with her for walking.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 5, 2023 21:00:42 GMT -5
i think the most nasty and deceitful thing they ever did was take down ACORN. for those of you that don't remember, i would be happy to read you in. i spent a lot of time looking into it. it literally put Veritas on the map, and it was a act of pure hate, imo. incidentally, i would not have known about this, but i got an email from this asshole this morning. here is, in part, what it said: My friends with the non-profit, Liberty Guard, have set up the fund to pay attorney costs that will quickly pile up.
As I mentioned, this isn’t my first rodeo so I know that the cost will exceed $500,000.
Good attorneys aren’t cheap, and my pockets are not deep.
No one gets wealthy doing the work that I do. Trust me.the very thing that he is in trouble for is getting wealthy off the work he does. so, yeah, my inclination would be to say that "jury is out" on that one. The OP says that O'Keefe used donated funds for inappropriate activities. There is no indication that he is accused of embezzling and pocketing money. Sounds to me that he was living as if he was wealthy but it was off donated funds and not him gaining personal wealth. And what else is using money that is NOT yours to live of large if not "embezzling and pocketing money"? Does the fact tbat he did not even save some of the stolen money mean it was any less stolen/embezzled?
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 5, 2023 18:44:43 GMT -5
What in the world is a passport card and why would you need one in addition to a passport?
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 5, 2023 14:49:48 GMT -5
Well, I tend to avoid any far right nonsense but your post had me do a little looking into the group. I agree with you -> it would be glorious if they go down in flames! The thing that gets me the most (aside from their vile lies) is that they have been hiding behind the first Amendment all while working to take down the press.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 5, 2023 0:59:09 GMT -5
I am watching an older (2019) documentary "Killing Patient Zero" about the AIDS epidemic. It is amazing how little we have been willing to learn How many politicians still deny the the danger of an inconvenient disease. How we still like to point the finger at "others" be they gay or Asian or whatever as the cause of whatever disease. I am also amazed at how (from a big picture POV -> NOT on an individual level) benign the HIV/ AIDS really was. For the first decade deaths were counted in the tens of thousands not in how soon will we reach 1,000,000 deaths. Somehow I have this dark feeling that even now, after Covid, nothing has really gotten better if anything we got worse. The lack of care for others displayed has gone from not caring for "deviants" as homosexuals were referred to, to whoever believed in anything they do not understand (that would be science). When the next disease comes along people will be in denial again, try to find a (preferably foreign) boogeyman and complain about being inconvenienced. I better stop writing now as my thoughts are getting too dark.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 4, 2023 23:37:33 GMT -5
Oh nuts! I just realized what I just said and the context in which I just said it.
I'll stand by the basic premise that realizing that a debt is uncollectible can be liberating for the person owed. I just wish that I hadn't said it in this particular context.
Actually it would not have been un-collectible. While be could have avoided paying while working the law does allow for partial garnishment of his social security payments. Assholes deserve to be treated as the assholes they are IMO. Would I spend any energy on that? Probably not. But I might have made sure he knew what I could do for at least starting at age 62 (so he could "enjoy" that idea for at least a decade - perhaps longer. ETA: efore you feel sorry for my ex, we never had .money related problems so I most certainly did not pull that stunt.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 4, 2023 20:18:50 GMT -5
Hash browns and tater tots are basically the same thing. Except tater tots are even better not even close : with hash browns you can brown every tiny sliver while tater tots are only brown on the outside. HAH!
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 4, 2023 16:47:50 GMT -5
Read the VERY FUNNY electric fence story from countrygirl One year Jerseyguy got tired of the deer eating out azaleas so put in an electric fence around them. EVERY SINGLE MALE HAD TO TEST IT!! Of course not as powerful as in the story Anyway read the story to my engineer Jerseyguy. Well he listened then explained very carefully the errors in the story YEESH !! LOLOLOL! That had me laughing even harder then the original story. But I must admit not unexpected after working with engineers for a couple of decades. It got so bad at one time that any contract change needed some creative "technical changes" from my side to get them to concentrate on the needed contract language changes. I never touched the technical descriptions yet they always proceeded to tell me the finer points of each change. In the end I decided that we should just pretend the change would be something like the satellite would be painted pink instead of baby blue - now let's focus on design changes/cost/time/late penalties (or not)/etc. and you can make the technical changes as needed. I swear there was the occasional smoke coming out of their ears when their brains tried to process what I said but ultimately it worked.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 4, 2023 13:34:52 GMT -5
I believe life insurance money is separate from the estate Pink Cashmere and can be used by the beneficiary upon receipt any way the wish to (any lawyer here like swamp please set me straight if I remember this incorrectly) so Mister's dad could use that money to hire a lawyer. Even if his mom's estate were in the red - more debts than assets - the insurance money would all be his. There may be exceptions for things like nursing home bills with Medicaid involved I don't know that but that is irrelevant here anyway
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 3, 2023 16:42:53 GMT -5
Sooooo, would it be wrong or a mistake to use the proceeds from Mister’s Mom’s life insurance policies to hire an attorney to handle her final affairs and whatever needs to be done legally IRT Mister’s Dad? Dad is the beneficiary. Did Mr's dad OK the use of the money? If Dad said OK, then it's OK. If Dad said no, then no, it's not ok to do that. Assuming Mr is has not been given permission to make such decisions by his Dad. But with all the lying that has been going on, keep proof of his concurrence
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 3, 2023 15:13:12 GMT -5
I have just broken a speed record: yesterday evening I found a "Christmas present that got away" aka a computer repair tool set. This morning I saw my old color graphing calculator for which I no longer have any use. I figured they would go together nicely on the buy nothing group. Boy was I ever right: 15 (yes that is fifteen) minutes after posting the items were picked up!
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 3, 2023 1:56:14 GMT -5
He could have sold it too - I wouldn't put that past him. He is an ugly little money grubber after all
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 2, 2023 22:09:14 GMT -5
Well, it was less than previous days but still mid-sized box was filled with crafts odds and ends and put on the FB buy nothing site. Within 10 minutes pickup for tomorrow morning was arranged I am not taking that post down until the pickup has actually taken place though just in case.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 2, 2023 20:15:50 GMT -5
Every once in a while you all make me feel like I am left out of a club I really don't want to be a member of to begin with. Like neither of my kids ever had head lice, or 4 years ago when I was freaked out about an eye infection -> it was the first time in my life I ever had to deal with pink eye. Neither siblings, nor kids, nor I had ever had it. And now - I can't really be the only 71yo female who has never had a UTI can I now? Really? I've only ever had one UTI and it wasn't cool. I also have never broken a bone or been stung by anything which people sometimes think it weird. T2 is 23 and she's never had an ear infection which is rare to make it through childhood without at least one. I DID say I did NOT want to be a member of that club LOL. As for broken bones - only once and I was in my 60s at the time so you have plenty of time to catch up.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 2, 2023 17:43:47 GMT -5
Yes I am debthaven but I am taking it slow. My plan is to do this over 2-3 years. However, I have so much stuff and an international move is so expensive that I just need to get working at it early. This is just a first round of purging so all low hanging fruit ETA: I am not quite planning to move hone but rather to Munich where DS2 and his family live. Should they decide to move from there after I moved I will just move north to either the Netherlands, Belgium just across the border or stay in Germany just across the border again, to live close to my siblings and their families (I am originally from that tail-area of the Netherlands so all three option would be ~ 50km from each other. Taxation might be the determining factor if it comes to that
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 2, 2023 14:35:46 GMT -5
I didn't get the house at the senior living community that I wanted. There will be another, but it was very discouraging. Did you know that "discourage" means not having courage? That's me. I am so scared of this whole process that I have embarked on. Meanwhile I took a tumble down my 3 porch steps. I had donated the contents of 12 bins of Christmas decorations that were hiding in a basement closet so today I washed those bins. I lined them up along the edge of the driveway to dry. Penny took a dislike when she saw them and darted sideways as fast as she could, landing me on my knee and left wrist. I broke a wrist not too many years ago with a fall less hard than this one. But I'm fine now. Nothing even hurts, and there is no swelling, etc. (When I broke my wrist the other time, I had no pain and was able to drive myself home. But the swelling is probably what stopped the pain then.) Still, it reinforced my determination to leave this house before it kills me. The Salvation Army is coming Thursday to get the furniture out of the basement. I couldn't even give it away to poor people who are on NextDoor and Facebook begging for free furniture even though it is clean, comfortable, and has no damage. It is forest green so not the latest color. Whatever. Some people aren't fans of the Salvation Army, but they are the only thrift group in the area that will come in to get it. I am sorry you did not get the house you wanted and hope another, even better one, will come up for sale soon. In the mean time no more tumbles downs steps please.
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