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Post by blue on Jun 9, 2023 11:26:30 GMT -5
What is your relationship status?
Happily married? Happily single? Twice divorced?
I am 55, never married, no kids, heterosexual. I never had the urge for marriage or kids. I have fun but it would be nice to have somebody. Lately there is something I don't like about every man interested in me (low ambition, smoker, age difference, etc.) I wonder if I had too many bad experiences and I am not going to settle. I like to think I have my shit together so my partner should too.
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weltschmerz
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Post by weltschmerz on Jun 9, 2023 11:35:16 GMT -5
Twice divorced and now happily single. Not looking for a man. I love living alone. I will never live with a man again. Even if I meet somebody interesting, he'll have to live in his own place.
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Post by gs11rmb on Jun 9, 2023 12:30:15 GMT -5
Married for 18 years with two daughters. Like all couples we've had ups and downs but overall I'd say we have a happy marriage.
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Post by daisylu on Jun 9, 2023 12:54:23 GMT -5
Happily married, but if something happens to DH, I would never do it again. Backstory is that I was raising 2 kids on my own with no input from their fathers. I would have been fine never getting married but I fell in love with the greatest man for me. Which has spoiled me, so I will never.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Jun 9, 2023 12:59:32 GMT -5
54, twice divorced. Occasionally miss having "another half" to sit around the fire with and plan adventures, but not enough to do anything about it. My kids keep me awful busy yet.
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Post by giramomma on Jun 9, 2023 13:30:37 GMT -5
Married, over 20 years. Getting close to being together for 30. We're 47/48. It's complicated. If we ever separate, or something happens to DH. I want the exact opposite of complicated.
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Post by swamp on Jun 9, 2023 13:39:55 GMT -5
I'm polyamorous.
Just kidding. I'm boring. Married 20 years this summer with 2 kids, a dog, an SUV, and a picket fence.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 9, 2023 13:50:15 GMT -5
I'm polyamorous. Just kidding. I'm boring. Married 20 years this summer with 2 kids, a dog, an SUV, and a picket fence. I reconsidered my entire life there for just a second 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Post by Deleted on Jun 9, 2023 14:41:44 GMT -5
I'm polyamorous. Just kidding. I'm boring. Married 20 years this summer with 2 kids, a dog, an SUV, and a picket fence. And, thanks to the TV series 90 Day Fiance, Love in Paradise, I actually now what that is I am 75, heterosexual, married almost 50 years, and not always sure how I feel about the marriage. If I find myself alone, I'll probably stay that way
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 9, 2023 15:28:51 GMT -5
Divorced after 31 years of marriage. Two sons who are old enough to fit in with the majority of our "village" here. Not interested in ever re-marrying. I realized early on during the last 18 years that I really like having to deal with others only on my terms - I'm not a hermit by a long shot but I love my periods of solitude.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jun 9, 2023 15:40:13 GMT -5
Twice divorced and now happily single. Not looking for a man. I love living alone. I will never live with a man again. Even if I meet somebody interesting, he'll have to live in his own place. This is where I'm at now, too. I've been here for about 35 years. I had a BF for 14 1/2 years during this period, then he killed himself (in 2005, I think it was). I enjoyed having him in my life. We were always together at either my place or his, which I liked, but I never wanted to live together or get married. Being married twice was enough for me.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 9, 2023 15:48:43 GMT -5
Married at 19yo, separated at 23yo, divorce was final at 25yo. Decided to stay single while I raised my children, and not even consider a serious relationship. Happily single even after my children became young adults, and I figured I would be for the rest of my life, because I still wasn’t interested in a serious relationship.
Then I met somebody and after a year or so just playing with each other (which I was fine with), he started talking about he wanted a real relationship with me. We have lived together for 4 years now. Last year we started planning to get married last month, then a lot of stuff started happening with his parents and we got off track with our plans. We’ll still get married eventually, but some things have to get sorted out first.
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Post by happyhoix on Jun 9, 2023 15:49:03 GMT -5
Twice divorced and now happily single. Not looking for a man. I love living alone. I will never live with a man again. Even if I meet somebody interesting, he'll have to live in his own place. This is where I'm at now, too. I've been here for about 35 years. I had a BF for 14 1/2 years during this period, then he killed himself (in 2005, I think it was). I enjoyed having him in my life. We were always together at either my place or his, which I liked, but I never wanted to live together or get married. Being married twice was enough for me. How sad, TMR. Sorry you had to deal with the suicide.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jun 9, 2023 16:05:25 GMT -5
This is where I'm at now, too. I've been here for about 35 years. I had a BF for 14 1/2 years during this period, then he killed himself (in 2005, I think it was). I enjoyed having him in my life. We were always together at either my place or his, which I liked, but I never wanted to live together or get married. Being married twice was enough for me. How sad, TMR. Sorry you had to deal with the suicide. Thanks. Me too. 2 of my friends committed suicide, a few years before my BF did. One of them had been my roommate for 5-6 years, before he did it. I've been with a lot of people, when they died. Death has been a big part in my life. I don't know why, just that it has. The first was when I was 6yrs old and my best friend (also 6yrs old) was hit by a car, as we were crossing the street together. It never gets easier.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Jun 9, 2023 16:16:38 GMT -5
How sad, TMR. Sorry you had to deal with the suicide. Thanks. Me too. 2 of my friends committed suicide, a few years before my BF did. One of them had been my roommate for 5-6 years, before he did it. I've been with a lot of people, when they died. Death has been a big part in my life. I don't know why, just that it has. The first was when I was 6yrs old and my best friend (also 6yrs old) was hit by a car, as we were crossing the street together. It never gets easier. This makes me wish I could give you a hug.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 9, 2023 16:23:29 GMT -5
Happily single and probably too isolated
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Post by daisylu on Jun 9, 2023 17:13:04 GMT -5
Thanks. Me too. 2 of my friends committed suicide, a few years before my BF did. One of them had been my roommate for 5-6 years, before he did it. I've been with a lot of people, when they died. Death has been a big part in my life. I don't know why, just that it has. The first was when I was 6yrs old and my best friend (also 6yrs old) was hit by a car, as we were crossing the street together. It never gets easier. This makes me wish I could give you a hug. Me too, and I'm not a hugger IRL.
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Post by weltschmerz on Jun 9, 2023 17:23:31 GMT -5
Twice divorced and now happily single. Not looking for a man. I love living alone. I will never live with a man again. Even if I meet somebody interesting, he'll have to live in his own place. This is where I'm at now, too. I've been here for about 35 years. I had a BF for 14 1/2 years during this period, then he killed himself (in 2005, I think it was). I enjoyed having him in my life. We were always together at either my place or his, which I liked, but I never wanted to live together or get married. Being married twice was enough for me. I'm sorry. That must have been so tough. I just CAN'T see myself living with someone ever again. I had a lover not too long ago, and even if he stayed at my place, or I stayed at his, sometimes I just wanted to punch him in the throat. I'm a night owl, and have been all my life. Even after the sex, he'd whine "Come to bed! Come to bed!" I didn't WANT to come to bed. I wanted to watch a movie or surf the net or read a book. He wanted to cuddle. I didn't want to. It was problematic.
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Post by weltschmerz on Jun 9, 2023 18:03:16 GMT -5
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Post by Opti on Jun 9, 2023 18:19:56 GMT -5
Divorced. Would like to find a second husband but I am picky. I think if there is enough physical space in our home it would work out. I learned from almost financee that it might bot be that unusual to hate your SO for a short period. If you can resolve your differences and find away to work together I think partners together is better for me that this single with pets thing I've been doing for far too long.
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 9, 2023 19:29:38 GMT -5
That was already a thing for young couples in the early 70s in the Netherlands. One of the many plans I had in life that did not work out - in the mid 70s there were too many people who held this against children born from these relationships and we wanted kids, so we married. No big difference to us but potentially a big difference for the (at the time hypothetical) child and the child had no choice so we chose to make life easier for it.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jun 9, 2023 19:41:03 GMT -5
Thanks. Me too. 2 of my friends committed suicide, a few years before my BF did. One of them had been my roommate for 5-6 years, before he did it. I've been with a lot of people, when they died. Death has been a big part in my life. I don't know why, just that it has. The first was when I was 6yrs old and my best friend (also 6yrs old) was hit by a car, as we were crossing the street together. It never gets easier. This makes me wish I could give you a hug. Thank you. 💕 You're so sweet. With all you and Mister are going through, I wish I could give you a hug! Both of you. ❤ It's funny/odd. Because I never saw, or heard my parents argue as a kid, I thought that when you grew up, everyone acted decent and there weren't problems. Boy, was I in for a surprise! And not a good surprise.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Jun 9, 2023 19:46:44 GMT -5
Twice divorced and now happily married. We’ve been together for 16 years and married for 6. After my last divorce I never expected to get married again but somehow ended up with DH after a friend introduced us. He makes me laugh and now I can’t imagine my life without him.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jun 9, 2023 19:48:08 GMT -5
This is where I'm at now, too. I've been here for about 35 years. I had a BF for 14 1/2 years during this period, then he killed himself (in 2005, I think it was). I enjoyed having him in my life. We were always together at either my place or his, which I liked, but I never wanted to live together or get married. Being married twice was enough for me. I'm sorry. That must have been so tough. I just CAN'T see myself living with someone ever again. I had a lover not too long ago, and even if he stayed at my place, or I stayed at his, sometimes I just wanted to punch him in the throat. I'm a night owl, and have been all my life. Even after the sex, he'd whine "Come to bed! Come to bed!" I didn't WANT to come to bed. I wanted to watch a movie or surf the net or read a book. He wanted to cuddle. I didn't want to. It was problematic. Same! And because I've always been a night owl, I've never been a morning person. My husbands and BF always went to bed early (10pm-ish) and they got up early (6am-ish). Ugh.
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Post by toomuchreality on Jun 9, 2023 19:50:33 GMT -5
This makes me wish I could give you a hug. Me too, and I'm not a hugger IRL. Thanks. I appreciate it. ♡
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Post by weltschmerz on Jun 9, 2023 20:31:27 GMT -5
I'm sorry. That must have been so tough. I just CAN'T see myself living with someone ever again. I had a lover not too long ago, and even if he stayed at my place, or I stayed at his, sometimes I just wanted to punch him in the throat. I'm a night owl, and have been all my life. Even after the sex, he'd whine "Come to bed! Come to bed!" I didn't WANT to come to bed. I wanted to watch a movie or surf the net or read a book. He wanted to cuddle. I didn't want to. It was problematic. Same! And because I've always been a night owl, I've never been a morning person. My husbands and BF always went to bed early (10pm-ish) and they got up early (6am-ish). Ugh. Can't do mornings. Nope, nope nope.
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Post by Opti on Jun 9, 2023 21:07:04 GMT -5
I'm sorry. That must have been so tough. I just CAN'T see myself living with someone ever again. I had a lover not too long ago, and even if he stayed at my place, or I stayed at his, sometimes I just wanted to punch him in the throat. I'm a night owl, and have been all my life. Even after the sex, he'd whine "Come to bed! Come to bed!" I didn't WANT to come to bed. I wanted to watch a movie or surf the net or read a book. He wanted to cuddle. I didn't want to. It was problematic. Same! And because I've always been a night owl, I've never been a morning person. My husbands and BF always went to bed early (10pm-ish) and they got up early (6am-ish). Ugh. They do come in late versions. My almost fiancee stayed up later than I did. He loved cafes when cafes were bigger than they are now. The bad thing is sometimes he got up much later than I did as well. We traveled best together when we had two rooms in total or a big room plus good public areas on site or nearby. We both love to wander a bit and both did so at an early age.
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Post by steph08 on Jun 9, 2023 21:54:20 GMT -5
Married 13.5 years, together 18.
Sometimes it's great, sometimes it sucks.
If we weren't together, I would probably date once the kids were older. I'd only get married again if I found someone who did laundry and dishes and cooking and cleaning.
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Post by tallguy on Jun 10, 2023 6:08:23 GMT -5
Poly want a cracker? Oh, probably not, right? Never mind.
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Post by scgal on Jun 10, 2023 6:33:52 GMT -5
I'm 56 married 35 to my sould mate. 2 daughters 4 grands 2+2. If anything ever happened to my husband I would have a special friend or friends bud I don't think I would marry again. I am spoiled. My girls are amazed how spoiled I am
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