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Post by Firebird on May 17, 2011 14:33:09 GMT -5
To get back to the original subject for a moment, I checked with DF last night to make sure he was cool with our first son's middle name being my maiden name. He seemed surprised at the question. "I thought that was tradition, of course I want to do that."
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 17, 2011 14:34:40 GMT -5
DD has the shortened version of my dad's first name as her middle name. I think that's cool t hat your son would have your maiden name as his middle name.
What about a girl?
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Post by moneymaven on May 17, 2011 14:36:54 GMT -5
DS has DH's first name as his middle name. This is a cultural tradition that I have that I am glad we carried on.
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Post by Firebird on May 17, 2011 14:37:47 GMT -5
What about a girl?
I don't know. My last name is an obviously male name like Richard, so it wouldn't work for a girl even as her middle name. My mom's maiden name (the other obvious option) is German, hard to spell, and not very pretty but I suppose it's an option.
Ooh, but maybe she could have DF's mom's maiden name (what I originally wanted for my own last name)! That could be cool. Oh, I like that idea! Yay! She'll have the same middle/last name combo as her dad then.
Okay, that's what we'll do. DF's mom's maiden name as middle name for our first girl baby, my maiden name as middle name for our first boy baby. Hopefully we have both.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 17, 2011 14:39:18 GMT -5
DF's mom's maiden name as middle name for our first girl baby, my maiden name as middle name for our first boy baby. Hopefully we have both
Well my unsolicited advice is if you don't then keep trying till you have one of the opposite sex.
Then I will ask you why you think it is appropriate to have had so many kids and how can you afford them.
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Post by moneymaven on May 17, 2011 14:39:25 GMT -5
Firebird, when you're ready, it won't matter if you get a boy or girl. Just healthy. ![;)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wink.png)
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Post by Firebird on May 17, 2011 14:40:58 GMT -5
Yeah but I really, REALLY want a boy. I always have. Don't ask me why, it's a weird thing in my brain. I'll be a little bummed if we only have girls. Well my unsolicited advice is if you don't then keep trying till you have one of the opposite sex.But I won't do that, haha. What if I wound up with 5 girls?! ![:o](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/shocked.png)
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 17, 2011 14:44:33 GMT -5
But I won't do that, haha. What if I wound up with 5 girls?! But number 6 might be a boy! Eventually you'd have enough kids to getyour own show on TLC. ![:P](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/tongue.png)
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Post by Firebird on May 17, 2011 14:46:05 GMT -5
But number 6 might be a boy!
Oh Jesus, five older sisters? I don't think it would be worth having a boy that hated my guts, haha.
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Post by Loopdilou on May 17, 2011 14:47:25 GMT -5
I don't care if women keep their maiden names. Kids with hyphens sort of bother me, only because it seems like it would be annoying for the kid and kids get made fun of for the most random things, the hypen stuff could be one of them. It's fairly painfully obvious that there isn't a single latino posting on this thread. perez.cs.vt.edu/twolastnamesGo edumacate yourselves. Even in non-latino cultures it is actually traditional for the children to take on a middle name that is their mother's maiden name. It isn't necessarily hyphenated, but that's not really a requirement in any "tradition".
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Post by Frugal Nurse on May 17, 2011 14:47:49 GMT -5
To get back to the original subject for a moment, I checked with DF last night to make sure he was cool with our first son's middle name being my maiden name. He seemed surprised at the question. "I thought that was tradition, of course I want to do that." Oh my, I guess I'm going to break with tradition then! My maiden name is Glasscock- no way am I going to burden my future kid with a middle name that horrible!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 17, 2011 14:49:02 GMT -5
Oh Jesus, six older sisters. I don't think it would be worth having a boy that hated my guts, haha. My brother thinks one older sister is too much. So I doubt 5 more would make him more miserable. Even in non-latino cultures it is actually traditional for the children to take on a middle name that is their mother's maiden name.When I say her name out loud with my maiden as her middle, it sounds terrible. Glad we stuck with using my dad's name instead. Sounds much better. ;D
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Post by Firebird on May 17, 2011 14:49:06 GMT -5
Oh my, I guess I'm going to break with tradition then! My maiden name is Glasscock- no way am I going to burden my future kid with a middle name that horrible!
Frugalnurse, you owe me a new keyboard. I just spit tea all over mine at that comment.
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Post by Firebird on May 17, 2011 14:50:26 GMT -5
Even in non-latino cultures it is actually traditional for the children to take on a middle name that is their mother's maiden name. It isn't necessarily hyphenated, but that's not really a requirement in any "tradition".
Never done in my family, but I always liked that DF had his mom's maiden name as a middle name so I'm happy he wants to carry on the tradition.
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Post by swamp on May 17, 2011 14:52:36 GMT -5
But number 6 might be a boy!Oh Jesus, five older sisters? I don't think it would be worth having a boy that hated my guts, haha. One of the EE regulars is one of 6 kids with, 5 girls and then a boy. As far as I know, her brother is no worse for the wear, and relates really well to girls. And I have a boy and a girl. The boy is definitely easier. ![;)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wink.png)
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Post by Firebird on May 17, 2011 14:55:22 GMT -5
And I have a boy and a girl. The boy is definitely easier. A boy and a girl would be my preference (me and the rest of the world), but whatever. I'm probably stopping after two regardless. If they're one gender, I'd prefer boys but as insmoneymaven said, as long as they're healthy I'll be grateful. And I was joking about five older sisters being bad. I would've been delighted with any siblings growing up. If we can afford it and everything is going well, I'm definitely open to the idea of having more than two children. But I'm having at least two no matter what.
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Post by Loopdilou on May 17, 2011 15:33:21 GMT -5
The way I figure it, we should all have our mother's name anyway - it's way more accurate for tracing genealogy.
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on May 17, 2011 15:51:00 GMT -5
Mommy's baby. Daddy's, maybe?
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Post by swamp on May 17, 2011 15:57:51 GMT -5
Mommy's baby. Daddy's, maybe? When my kids were born, they were given my last name by the hospital because the kids are tracked through the mom. We had to sign a form with the information for the birth certificate to have the certificate issued with DH's name as the kids' last name.
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Post by Firebird on May 17, 2011 16:00:52 GMT -5
The way I figure it, we should all have our mother's name anyway - it's way more accurate for tracing genealogy.
How's that?
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on May 17, 2011 16:39:09 GMT -5
The way I figure it, we should all have our mother's name anyway - it's way more accurate for tracing genealogy.
How's that? If a kid pops out of a woman you can be pretty damn sure she's the mother. You have to take her word on who knocked her up 9 months previously though.
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Post by Firebird on May 17, 2011 16:42:41 GMT -5
If a kid pops out of a woman you can be pretty damn sure she's the mother. You have to take her word on who knocked her up 9 months previously though.
I know that, haha, but most women have their father's name and it's been that way for an awfully long time. Seems like it would be kind of pointless to start naming kids after their mothers just to make genealogy easier - it would take hundreds of years for that to become meaningful.
Maybe I'm missing something though.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on May 17, 2011 16:44:27 GMT -5
Right, but just because a couple is married the kids get the fathers last name doesn't mean they're actually his. Some of the people in your (and my) family tree probably shouldn't even be there. It's not like adultery is a new thing. If we only traced our families through our mothers at least we'd know they're accurate.
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Post by Firebird on May 17, 2011 16:47:08 GMT -5
I agree it would be more accurate if people had been doing it all along (or at least for a fairly long time). I'm just wondering how long it would take to become more accurate if large numbers of people started doing it today.
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Post by Loopdilou on May 17, 2011 16:53:05 GMT -5
It would instantly be more accurate, but only one generation back until you hit the next generation. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/smiley.png)
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Post by Firebird on May 17, 2011 17:17:46 GMT -5
True, but for genealogy to tell a meaningful story it usually needs to be a fairly long story.
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Post by Frugal Nurse on May 17, 2011 17:22:18 GMT -5
The way I figure it, we should all have our mother's name anyway - it's way more accurate for tracing genealogy.
How's that? If a kid pops out of a woman you can be pretty damn sure she's the mother. You have to take her word on who knocked her up 9 months previously though. Of course , then you run into issues with adoption. My older brother is adopted. He is listed on our family tree as a blood relative, just like me. His tree branches out with his wife and daughter. I wonder if I should tell my grandfather to include his birth mom and her family? And what about cases where the adoption was kept quiet? I'm just sayin', infidelity isn't the only reason genealogy wouldn't be 100% correct.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on May 17, 2011 17:27:48 GMT -5
And what about cases where the adoption was kept quiet? I'm just sayin', infidelity isn't the only reason genealogy wouldn't be 100% correct. Right. Back in the day it was somewhat common for daughters to "get sick" and go spend a while with an aunt or something in the country. They would come back feeling better and the aunt would have a new baby. I'd guess that there's probably almost nobody in this country who could accurately trace their family tree back more than a handful of generations. I can't even trace mine to my grandparents on my dad's side, but that's a whole other story.
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Post by msgumby on May 17, 2011 18:04:46 GMT -5
There is also the racist component of geneology errors. My husband did some research on his family tree for a project in high school. He found that if you go back a few generations, one of his direct relatives was an american indian. When some of his (racist) relatives discovered this, they tried to correct his findings to match "their version" of the family tree that magically did not include this woman.
My father traced his geneology back to before the mayflower (apparently one of my relatives got drunk, feel off the boat, and had to be rescued). Fortunately I wasn't a direct descendant of the polygamist who married 2 out of 3 triplets and one of their daughters (not his biological daughter, but still EWWWW).
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Post by Mardi Gras Audrey on May 17, 2011 18:05:58 GMT -5
Here's a good name for anyone with a girl...
Miranda Veracruz de la Jolla Cardenal
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