what are you doing right now?

[cooper88]

TFW is just a total piece of shit. There, I said it and I feel better.

Also, I'm so happy for BT and glad you are there for her azucena. She's going to go far in life and I'm proud of her for standing up for herself.

[azucena]

Just checked on Teen before heading to bed. She hugged me and said I truly didn't think I'd be coming home to sleep in my bed tonight. Guess we both attempted to put on a brave front for each other bc I didn't know she was that worried.

I sure do love this kid!

Checked on DD16 and she called me out on if mtg was about custody bc even though I've been trying to help her avoid the messy adult parts of Teen's life, she's no dummy. Talked her thru at high level that DH and I think this was "final" decision point but we can't be 100% sure. Dd16 hugged me and said thanks for taking care of her sister-friend.

Love that kid too!

DH got home and proceeded to watch the Simpsons with DD12 as his way to wind down. Could hear them both laughing. Pretty sure we managed to get thru last week and this week without hitting her radar bc she's been busy with school, clubs and bball practices. Will pour some love on her tomorrow.

[azucena]

Nov 19, 2024 22:00:24 GMT -5 cooper88 said:

TFW is just a total piece of shit. There, I said it and I feel better.

Also, I'm so happy for BT and glad you are there for her azucena. She's going to go far in life and I'm proud of her for standing up for herself.

I couldn't be prouder of her.

A couple hours before the mtg, she texted me from school and asked if it was bad that she was thinking about wanting to be with her siblings, whatever placement that meant, bc she didn't want them to be alone.

I said no and not surprising bc she'd been putting their needs above her own for years. I also said it was okay to keep trying to save herself for once bc that would show them that there are ways to break the cycle. And I admitted to her that if she backed down, I wasn't sure she'd be able to continue on her path to overcome.

[NastyWoman]

Nov 19, 2024 21:46:37 GMT -5 azucena said:

Thanks Pink.

It was a lot for dad to catch up on after being completely out of the loop since Jan other than 5 mins phone calls every 3 to 4 weeks.

He probably still thinks there is a slim chance Teen will change her mind about living with him once he's settled.

Forgot to mention that he started off his intro in the mtg by outlining his recent criminal charges briefly and saying that meant he was responsible for not doing right by his children. That kind of owning up to it goes a long way in my book. But I don't have the history with him, Teen does. And that's her relationship to own.

I actually think it is a good thing bio dad both clearly stated that he wanted her to live with him AND, most importantly, ultimately listened to BT. Asking all these questions does send the message that BT is important to him. It may give BTs sense of self a bit of a boost once she has time to digest what was said. 
Personally I think BT is best off where she is right now but the feeling that she matters to at least one bio parent will be priceless. All that said - this is contingent.on bio dad not f-ing this up of course  

[mollyc]

Weltz, that is such a wonderful thing your friend has done.

Hopefully this will also help if you and Sushi need assistance after your surgery. Best wishes to you and your friend

[mollyc]

Azucena, that is good news.

I hope BT can get her tooth dealt with quickly now