what are you doing right now?

[andi9899]

I'm so pissed off! T2 took her dog to get shots yesterday and he was injured. She came back and said he had a wound. I asked what she meant and he has a puncture wound and a pretty good gash and his dew claw is cracked. WTF?!

She said the tech took him back to another room to give the shot and he came back on one of those leash on a pole things that the dog catcher uses. She said blood was dripping on the floor. They told her he bit himself and she didn't know what to do so she left and took him to a dog wash to clean him up and assess the damage. She's very non-confidential and was scared to call them. The office was closed by the time they got back so I said I'd call this morning.

I left a message as soon as they opened with a receptionist. She said they were busy this morning and now everyone is at lunch. They will be back at 1:30. So everyone takes lunch at the same time for an hour and a half? Yeah right. I told her if I don't hear from someone soon they'll be hearing from my lawyer.

[chiver78]

that's not okay, andi. give them hell! 


re: FDA, I pushed back on the call request. obv being deliberately vague here. there was a question about a filing of mine that referenced something in the CMO's system. well, the thing I referenced is still open on our side (pending a closed report) and their record doesn't quite match what I'd said, which was based on information they had given me (and I have the paper trail). so IMHO, this is their question, not mine. 

[snapdragon]

Aug 4, 2022 5:21:21 GMT -5 finnime said:

Good morning, you beautiful albeit invisible people of Y Ma'am. I hope your Thursday is unblemished by unsolvable problems, that you receive unexpected appreciation and that you enjoy dessert.

Today I'll be unloading the cargo van, trying to figure out where to put All.The.Stuff. and then returning said van. If you yourself ever need to rent a vehicle to move a larger load, I recommend a cargo van. They have a huge capacity and are much easier to drive than the box trucks otherwise available from Penske and UHaul. The vans are in short supply so if you know you'll need one, make arrangements asap.

Also today, my daily trip to the hardware store. This time for a short hose to connect to the dehumidifier in the basement, and a utility knife to cut tape on the multitude of boxes. I guess I'll put out on FB marketplace free boxes, come and get them, to get rid of as many as I can. I know I must have at least 150 boxes, many the tape-free banker's boxes.

At some point in the near future all the moving and unpacking will be done. I've got to find medical providers for DH, and at least a PCP for me. I've already found us a psych practice, well-staffed, near by that takes Medicare. Then I'll tend to the gardens which are withering in the current drought.

BTW, if you expect to need a bed in the near future, I can recommend an adjustable one. They really are good to have.

I had problems finding a rental car after the tranny in mine went out last month. So I ended up with a cargo van for 5 days and the vehicle drove me batty. It had less than 6K on the odometer. What really got to me is that every time the engine would be turned off every lock would release. DS, PS, Back and side entrance of the damn van would become open. Thank goodness I had nothing in the back because I would have been a complete mess on trying to remember to re-lock everything after getting out of the van. Because of course there was no automatic lock button.

[snapdragon]

Aug 4, 2022 10:05:02 GMT -5 swamp said:

I’m at the docs. Regular checkup. She’s goi Green to tell me I’m fat. I am well aware of it.

I exercise. I generally eat ok.

So she's going green too.

[andi9899]

Aug 4, 2022 12:08:27 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

that's not okay, andi. give them hell! 


re: FDA, I pushed back on the call request. obv being deliberately vague here. there was a question about a filing of mine that referenced something in the CMO's system. well, the thing I referenced is still open on our side (pending a closed report) and their record doesn't quite match what I'd said, which was based on information they had given me (and I have the paper trail). so IMHO, this is their question, not mine. 

They close at 6 pm. I get off work at 4. If I don't hear what I want to hear by 4, I'm going up there. T2 may not like confrontation, but it's my middle name!

[raeoflyte]

I'm annoyed at dh. He planned a solo backpacking trip that starts and ends in different locations. I thought there was shuttle service between the 2 but apparently not. So he needs someone to drive him up there (2 hours), drop off his car at end location, drive 1.5 hours of mountain driving to start location and then home. Or he'll drive up and park at starting location and then need someone to pick him up on a Saturday - when he has no way of knowing when he'll even be down the mountain, make what will be a 2 hour drive to his car because of weekend traffic and then home. It's a 6 hour day trip of driving no matter what and likely a lot of down time waiting.

And I'm annoyed af because he is only now trying to figure out logistics and he leaves in less than a week. I think he hoped his sister would go with him - but she never committed, just said things like it sounds fun and she would love to do that "sometime". She backpacker with him once 10 years ago. There was no plan here. And his parents can't do that kind of drive which means he can ask me or my sister. If he had done anything even a month ago, my sister would have taken time off to do it. Hell - I would have taken time off. But he's just springing it on me, oh and I start my new fucking job next week. Which means I will lose my entire Saturday to picking him up and I can't be home in time for dog training wasting a decent chunk of money. And he's not coming up with plans for the kids on driving day.

So, so annoyed.

[finnime]

Aug 4, 2022 12:21:31 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

I'm annoyed at dh. He planned a solo backpacking trip that starts and ends in different locations. I thought there was shuttle service between the 2 but apparently not. So he needs someone to drive him up there (2 hours), drop off his car at end location, drive 1.5 hours of mountain driving to start location and then home. Or he'll drive up and park at starting location and then need someone to pick him up on a Saturday - when he has no way of knowing when he'll even be down the mountain, make what will be a 2 hour drive to his car because of weekend traffic and then home. It's a 6 hour day trip of driving no matter what and likely a lot of down time waiting.

And I'm annoyed af because he is only now trying to figure out logistics and he leaves in less than a week. I think he hoped his sister would go with him - but she never committed, just said things like it sounds fun and she would love to do that "sometime". She backpacker with him once 10 years ago. There was no plan here. And his parents can't do that kind of drive which means he can ask me or my sister. If he had done anything even a month ago, my sister would have taken time off to do it. Hell - I would have taken time off. But he's just springing it on me, oh and I start my new fucking job next week. Which means I will lose my entire Saturday to picking him up and I can't be home in time for dog training wasting a decent chunk of money. And he's not coming up with plans for the kids on driving day.

So, so annoyed.

It sounds to me like you can't do it, you are committed with other unchangeablel plans but hope he enjoys his hike.

[snapdragon]

raeoflyte  --

It sounds like he should reschedule for later on when someone can assist him. Surprised no buddies have tried to hook up on the backpacking trip. Is he out money like you would be if you missed the dog training lessons?

[toomuchreality]

OMG- There are so many things going on here, for so many members. No matter how big, or small, I feel for each and every one of you. I understand your pain, frustration and sorrow.
I wish I could help. I'm glad you're coming here to vent. I wish you all good outcomes.
ArchietheDragon, it's good to see you.

Take care of you, everyone.
Hugs ♡

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Aug 4, 2022 10:50:20 GMT -5 stillmovingforward said:

Last night in Germany. I fly out early tomorrow morning.

Eat more bread!  Strudel!

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Aug 4, 2022 11:47:40 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

The lady from DHS did go talk to DD and the kids this morning. Yesterday when DD spoke to her on the phone DD told her she had a good idea who contacted them because she’s been having an ongoing problem with somebody harassing her.

So this morning, the lady got out her notepad and asked DD to tell her about what she mentioned yesterday. DD told her about the girl coming over and kept punching the DGD2’s father in the face in DD’s front yard and showed her screen shots of what the girl has been saying and doing to harass DD ever since then.

DD thinks that since the lady was the one that brought it up, and took notes as DD was telling her what was going on and showing her screenshots and playing voicemails, that it was pertinent information.

The accusations were so vile, pretty much guaranteed to get them to investigate. That they have seen DD verbally and physically abuse the children, that the baby is often covered in bruises, that DD has a lot of men coming in and out of her home and the baby screams whenever her diaper gets changed, implying sexual abuse.

The lady wanted to get a good look at the baby to look for bruises and take pictures, DD ended up taking DGD2’s dress off so the lady could see her whole body, and of course there were no bruises, scars or marks anywhere on her. She met the other 2 children, and of course they had no visible bruises or anything either, I’m sure she looked at whatever their clothes didn’t cover.

Anyway, when she was leaving, she told DD the case will probably be closed. I sure hope so!

Well, that explains a lot.  If anyone is brought vile accusations like this, it would be reprehensible not to investigate it.  The fact that it’s all lies is probably going to piss them off that they had to investigate something that was clearly lies.  

I don’t understand people who do shit like this.  It infuriates me, because it diverts resources to children who ARE being abused.  

[andi9899]

Aug 4, 2022 12:21:31 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

I'm annoyed at dh. He planned a solo backpacking trip that starts and ends in different locations. I thought there was shuttle service between the 2 but apparently not. So he needs someone to drive him up there (2 hours), drop off his car at end location, drive 1.5 hours of mountain driving to start location and then home. Or he'll drive up and park at starting location and then need someone to pick him up on a Saturday - when he has no way of knowing when he'll even be down the mountain, make what will be a 2 hour drive to his car because of weekend traffic and then home. It's a 6 hour day trip of driving no matter what and likely a lot of down time waiting.

And I'm annoyed af because he is only now trying to figure out logistics and he leaves in less than a week. I think he hoped his sister would go with him - but she never committed, just said things like it sounds fun and she would love to do that "sometime". She backpacker with him once 10 years ago. There was no plan here. And his parents can't do that kind of drive which means he can ask me or my sister. If he had done anything even a month ago, my sister would have taken time off to do it. Hell - I would have taken time off. But he's just springing it on me, oh and I start my new fucking job next week. Which means I will lose my entire Saturday to picking him up and I can't be home in time for dog training wasting a decent chunk of money. And he's not coming up with plans for the kids on driving day.

So, so annoyed.

Can you drop him off and park his car close by and he can uber to it when he's done? That's about the most I'd be willing to do for him.

[andi9899]

Aug 4, 2022 12:45:43 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Aug 4, 2022 11:47:40 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

The lady from DHS did go talk to DD and the kids this morning. Yesterday when DD spoke to her on the phone DD told her she had a good idea who contacted them because she’s been having an ongoing problem with somebody harassing her.

So this morning, the lady got out her notepad and asked DD to tell her about what she mentioned yesterday. DD told her about the girl coming over and kept punching the DGD2’s father in the face in DD’s front yard and showed her screen shots of what the girl has been saying and doing to harass DD ever since then.

DD thinks that since the lady was the one that brought it up, and took notes as DD was telling her what was going on and showing her screenshots and playing voicemails, that it was pertinent information.

The accusations were so vile, pretty much guaranteed to get them to investigate. That they have seen DD verbally and physically abuse the children, that the baby is often covered in bruises, that DD has a lot of men coming in and out of her home and the baby screams whenever her diaper gets changed, implying sexual abuse.

The lady wanted to get a good look at the baby to look for bruises and take pictures, DD ended up taking DGD2’s dress off so the lady could see her whole body, and of course there were no bruises, scars or marks anywhere on her. She met the other 2 children, and of course they had no visible bruises or anything either, I’m sure she looked at whatever their clothes didn’t cover.

Anyway, when she was leaving, she told DD the case will probably be closed. I sure hope so!

Well, that explains a lot.  If anyone is brought vile accusations like this, it would be reprehensible not to investigate it.  The fact that it’s all lies is probably going to piss them off that they had to investigate something that was clearly lies.  

I don’t understand people who do shit like this.  It infuriates me, because it diverts resources to children who ARE being abused.  

I would think that this would earn her a probation violation as well. She has to be very unwell to be behaving this way.

[raeoflyte]

Aug 4, 2022 12:29:36 GMT -5 snapdragon said:

raeoflyte  --

It sounds like he should reschedule for later on when someone can assist him. Surprised no buddies have tried to hook up on the backpacking trip. Is he out money like you would be if you missed the dog training lessons?

Rescheduling is waiting until next year. Getting reservations is a battle. The "I don't have any friends" is a separate issue. When we were young I specifically chose my family over new friends. He didn't put in any effort to make or keep friends on his own and now he's incredibly lonely.

I want him to go. It's good for his mental health. But he sucks at planning, can't make a decision to save his life, and I don't think he even asked me for help. He just gets mired in the issue, wishes his life were different and to get something done I step in - which I know I shouldn't, but letting him suffer usually just delays when I end up getting asked to fix things. He needs to go to therapy but I can't make him do that.

[andi9899]

I just spoke to the vet. Apparently Astro is a savage beast that was on a rampage and all were worried for their safety. Give me a break! We're going there this afternoon to have it looked at free of charge and I will be having the vet send his records to my vet. Astro will not be leaving my sight.

We're not going back there.

[raeoflyte]

Aug 4, 2022 12:47:12 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Aug 4, 2022 12:21:31 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

I'm annoyed at dh. He planned a solo backpacking trip that starts and ends in different locations. I thought there was shuttle service between the 2 but apparently not. So he needs someone to drive him up there (2 hours), drop off his car at end location, drive 1.5 hours of mountain driving to start location and then home. Or he'll drive up and park at starting location and then need someone to pick him up on a Saturday - when he has no way of knowing when he'll even be down the mountain, make what will be a 2 hour drive to his car because of weekend traffic and then home. It's a 6 hour day trip of driving no matter what and likely a lot of down time waiting.

And I'm annoyed af because he is only now trying to figure out logistics and he leaves in less than a week. I think he hoped his sister would go with him - but she never committed, just said things like it sounds fun and she would love to do that "sometime". She backpacker with him once 10 years ago. There was no plan here. And his parents can't do that kind of drive which means he can ask me or my sister. If he had done anything even a month ago, my sister would have taken time off to do it. Hell - I would have taken time off. But he's just springing it on me, oh and I start my new fucking job next week. Which means I will lose my entire Saturday to picking him up and I can't be home in time for dog training wasting a decent chunk of money. And he's not coming up with plans for the kids on driving day.

So, so annoyed.

Can you drop him off and park his car close by and he can uber to it when he's done? That's about the most I'd be willing to do for him.

His car will be on one side of a national park and he'll either start or end on the other side. Cell service is amazing compared to the old days, but not enough to rely on for transportation up there. I doubt there is reliable Uber.

As much as I bitch about him here, I love him and want good things for him. I want to help him, help himself for the things that fill his cup and there isnt a lot that does. He's really struggling in every way. But it just leaves so much on my plate and today it's getting to me.

But it is my choice to stay with him. Which I do, and I really believe our life/his life will be easy once the kids are launched. I'm a high energy do-er. He does best when life is easy.

[stillmovingforward]

Aug 4, 2022 12:55:37 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Aug 4, 2022 12:29:36 GMT -5 snapdragon said:

raeoflyte  --

It sounds like he should reschedule for later on when someone can assist him. Surprised no buddies have tried to hook up on the backpacking trip. Is he out money like you would be if you missed the dog training lessons?

Rescheduling is waiting until next year. Getting reservations is a battle. The "I don't have any friends" is a separate issue. When we were young I specifically chose my family over new friends. He didn't put in any effort to make or keep friends on his own and now he's incredibly lonely.

I want him to go. It's good for his mental health. But he sucks at planning, can't make a decision to save his life, and I don't think he even asked me for help. He just gets mired in the issue, wishes his life were different and to get something done I step in - which I know I shouldn't, but letting him suffer usually just delays when I end up getting asked to fix things. He needs to go to therapy but I can't make him do that.

Executive disfunction. My DH and DS1 have it. DS1 got therapy (that's how I even know what it is!) and sis great now. His dad...... has dropped a lot of balls. He's started trying better the past few years. I just ignore it. I'm a bad wife 🤭

[raeoflyte]

Aug 4, 2022 13:10:03 GMT -5 stillmovingforward said:

Aug 4, 2022 12:55:37 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Rescheduling is waiting until next year. Getting reservations is a battle. The "I don't have any friends" is a separate issue. When we were young I specifically chose my family over new friends. He didn't put in any effort to make or keep friends on his own and now he's incredibly lonely.

I want him to go. It's good for his mental health. But he sucks at planning, can't make a decision to save his life, and I don't think he even asked me for help. He just gets mired in the issue, wishes his life were different and to get something done I step in - which I know I shouldn't, but letting him suffer usually just delays when I end up getting asked to fix things. He needs to go to therapy but I can't make him do that.

Executive disfunction. My DH and DS1 have it. DS1 got therapy (that's how I even know what it is!) and sis great now. His dad...... has dropped a lot of balls. He's started trying better the past few years. I just ignore it. I'm a bad wife 🤭

Not bad, probably sane.

[stillmovingforward]

Aug 4, 2022 13:11:46 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

Aug 4, 2022 13:10:03 GMT -5 stillmovingforward said:

Executive disfunction. My DH and DS1 have it. DS1 got therapy (that's how I even know what it is!) and sis great now. His dad...... has dropped a lot of balls. He's started trying better the past few years. I just ignore it. I'm a bad wife 🤭

Not bad, probably sane.

It worked! I am!
It was really hard when we had kids at home so I remember your pain.
He works part-time so he can socialize. And because he'll sit around the house all day thinking about what he should do but not actually do it 🙄. Drives me nuts but he's a good guy otherwise.

[chiver78]

Aug 4, 2022 13:06:05 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I just spoke to the vet. Apparently Astro is a savage beast that was on a rampage and all were worried for their safety. Give me a break! We're going there this afternoon to have it looked at free of charge and I will be having the vet send his records to my vet. Astro will not be leaving my sight.

We're not going back there.

sounds like my old vet.   we couldn't see one of the Drs because "he's afraid of pitbulls", which came to a head right before I moved at the start of COVID. I wish I'd started with my current vet (literally around the corner from the old one) when Punk was a puppy, but I trusted mooch who knew everyone here when I got here. even he loves the current vet - he had to go twice while I was away in May - and has apologized for the recommendation. 

speaking of, I plan on having these vicious beasts with me when I come pick you up. hope you're okay with getting drooled on  loved on in the car. 

[mamasita99]

Aug 4, 2022 8:44:51 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

Aug 4, 2022 6:55:10 GMT -5 mamasita99 said:

Today I had my medical exam for my permanent resident visa. $400 right there. I also had a podiatry appointment, $75. I’m not getting the boot off any time soon. Ultrasound showed another small partial tear, in addition to the original. Damn it. Plantar fascia problems are no joke.

Pink, that is some scary shit your DD is dealing with, through no fault of her own. I’m mad for her, it bothers me so much when people try to control others, they feel like they gotta run it all.

I miss popping in here more, I’m so sleepy after a full day at work I can barely stay awake.

Pickles! (That's my teacher bad word. )

Are you getting used to your new job?

Pickles, lol, I love that!
I’m getting used to the new job, but not really thrilled by it. Lots of paperwork, very little invested in implementation. But I did just get back from a conference in Sydney, so it was nice that the job paid for that weekend. And it was good to talk shop with others and learn more about the field in this country. It’s still pretty new here.

[stillmovingforward]

Aug 4, 2022 12:38:02 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Aug 4, 2022 10:50:20 GMT -5 stillmovingforward said:

Last night in Germany. I fly out early tomorrow morning.

Eat more bread!  Strudel!

All the strudel!

[countrygirl2]

Didn't sleep well last night, not sure why. And I'm very tired today and coughing off and on, feels like something in the right side of my throat. The throat spray helps it.

So today I've done nothing, still have my jams on and I've been asleep off and on in the recliner today.
Don't think it's anything, maybe I am just tired. Have been on the go a lot with little guy.

My linens are clean for the beds in our room, I need to make them up. Dd's are in the washer, will go start them. Maybe tomorrow will wash the ones on the downstairs beds.

The cats haven't come in to eat today, that's unusual. Need to check and see if they will now.

And I may just have my cup of coffee, I didn't fix this morning.

It was supposed to rain today and the sun is shining. I have a bucket of garbage to take out on the back porch and , that can wait till tomorrow too.

Thinking about fixing DD and I a tenderloin and salad for dinner, should be easy and good.

I really like the orange tomatoes, think they are called yellow but they are really orange. I have raised them before, they keep good and taste great. They are a bit more firm and don't get as soft as red tomatoes when ripe.

Hubs and I talked he was 300 miles from Washington, they stopped and slept for awhile. I can't, and won't do that to my body. He was so tired last night sounds like he couldn't sleep real long.  Little guy goes to sleep and was cheerful and happy . He said it takes 34 hours to drive it. I think it's dangerous to do that and also wears me out. Wehn DD and I go someplace it's leisurely, that's why I can't travel with him, it's just get there and get home. Overseas he ambled around and went sightseeing, but with us he just doesn't seem to know how.  DD and I may end up going on our own later.

[chiver78]

update on the PD detail inquiry - I spoke with a different Captain today, this guy is charged with followup on stuff like this. I explained my issue, that I'd been trying to have the trees taken down for some time, and that the day it finally happened was the third time a detail had been requested. I was so excited the trees were finally coming down, that I had taken progress pics all morning. I posted some to FB that day, too. he asked me to send over the timestamped pictures and was surprised to hear that both officers arrived in cruisers that day. he told me the cruisers all have GPS, so I think this is going to be pretty clear cut either way. the problem is, 4h is the breakpoint. 4h1min, they get 8h of pay. I think I'm there with my timestamps not containing officers or cruisers, but I'm not 10,000% sure. but the GPS will be. 

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Aug 4, 2022 12:45:43 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Aug 4, 2022 11:47:40 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

The lady from DHS did go talk to DD and the kids this morning. Yesterday when DD spoke to her on the phone DD told her she had a good idea who contacted them because she’s been having an ongoing problem with somebody harassing her.

So this morning, the lady got out her notepad and asked DD to tell her about what she mentioned yesterday. DD told her about the girl coming over and kept punching the DGD2’s father in the face in DD’s front yard and showed her screen shots of what the girl has been saying and doing to harass DD ever since then.

DD thinks that since the lady was the one that brought it up, and took notes as DD was telling her what was going on and showing her screenshots and playing voicemails, that it was pertinent information.

The accusations were so vile, pretty much guaranteed to get them to investigate. That they have seen DD verbally and physically abuse the children, that the baby is often covered in bruises, that DD has a lot of men coming in and out of her home and the baby screams whenever her diaper gets changed, implying sexual abuse.

The lady wanted to get a good look at the baby to look for bruises and take pictures, DD ended up taking DGD2’s dress off so the lady could see her whole body, and of course there were no bruises, scars or marks anywhere on her. She met the other 2 children, and of course they had no visible bruises or anything either, I’m sure she looked at whatever their clothes didn’t cover.

Anyway, when she was leaving, she told DD the case will probably be closed. I sure hope so!

Well, that explains a lot.  If anyone is brought vile accusations like this, it would be reprehensible not to investigate it.  The fact that it’s all lies is probably going to piss them off that they had to investigate something that was clearly lies.  

I don’t understand people who do shit like this.  It infuriates me, because it diverts resources to children who ARE being abused.  

Yes, that’s why I said that the accusations pretty much guaranteed an investigation. Neither DD or I had an issue with DHS doing what they were supposed to do when things like that are reported.


It was just very upsetting for anyone to even tell those kinds of lies. It’s horrible to falsely accuse a parent of that kind of stuff just to mess with them and try to cause them problems.

The NUT has a child herself that she doesn’t have custody of.

DD won’t even let him take the baby anymore, because she doesn’t want her baby around the crazy girl, for fear she might hurt her since something is clearly wrong with her. She let the baby go with him once, at the very beginning and the crazy girl used FB to make sure DD knew she was around the baby. DD called him and told him to bring her baby home NOW. That’s the last time the baby has gone anywhere with him.

[Deleted]

Aug 4, 2022 12:49:16 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Aug 4, 2022 12:45:43 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Well, that explains a lot.  If anyone is brought vile accusations like this, it would be reprehensible not to investigate it.  The fact that it’s all lies is probably going to piss them off that they had to investigate something that was clearly lies.  

I don’t understand people who do shit like this.  It infuriates me, because it diverts resources to children who ARE being abused.  

I would think that this would earn her a probation violation as well. She has to be very unwell to be behaving this way.

I don’t know if she’s on probation, or how probation works. I do know she has a record though, and that she has current warrants out for her arrest and one of them is for aggravated assault. The warrants are from before she became obsessed with DD. DD sent me her name and one of her mugshots months ago, just so I would know who she was and what she looks like, just in case. She’s a very pretty girl, not that that matters, since she’s so crazy and ugly on the inside.

[Deleted]

Aug 4, 2022 11:47:40 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

The lady from DHS did go talk to DD and the kids this morning. Yesterday when DD spoke to her on the phone DD told her she had a good idea who contacted them because she’s been having an ongoing problem with somebody harassing her.

So this morning, the lady got out her notepad and asked DD to tell her about what she mentioned yesterday. DD told her about the girl coming over and kept punching the DGD2’s father in the face in DD’s front yard and showed her screen shots of what the girl has been saying and doing to harass DD ever since then.

DD thinks that since the lady was the one that brought it up, and took notes as DD was telling her what was going on and showing her screenshots and playing voicemails, that it was pertinent information.

The accusations were so vile, pretty much guaranteed to get them to investigate. That they have seen DD verbally and physically abuse the children, that the baby is often covered in bruises, that DD has a lot of men coming in and out of her home and the baby screams whenever her diaper gets changed, implying sexual abuse.

The lady wanted to get a good look at the baby to look for bruises and take pictures, DD ended up taking DGD2’s dress off so the lady could see her whole body, and of course there were no bruises, scars or marks anywhere on her. She met the other 2 children, and of course they had no visible bruises or anything either, I’m sure she looked at whatever their clothes didn’t cover.

Anyway, when she was leaving, she told DD the case will probably be closed. I sure hope so!

I'm so glad the meeting went well and that the case will hopefully be closed soon.  Sadly, I suspect that the girlfriend is going to be mega pissed when she figures out her stunt did not work so she's likely to double down on her harassment.  Maybe she'll take out her anger on her boyfriend and get her ass in jail finally

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Aug 4, 2022 13:06:05 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

I just spoke to the vet. Apparently Astro is a savage beast that was on a rampage and all were worried for their safety. Give me a break! We're going there this afternoon to have it looked at free of charge and I will be having the vet send his records to my vet. Astro will not be leaving my sight.

We're not going back there.

Sounds like a load of BS to me.  Every vet I know who has the slightest concern about an animal's aggression will ask the owner's permission to place a muzzle on them prior to exam and treatment, or ask to administer a mild sedative if the animal is showing excessive agitation.  Sadly, whatever went down will leave poor Astro with bad memories so he might need additional care and reassurance at future vet visits  

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Aug 3, 2022 16:48:16 GMT -5 soupandstew said:

Aug 3, 2022 16:11:01 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I took care of mom's cremation. The restaurant isn't turning a profit and she hadn't gotten around to signing up for life insurance.

I picked out an urn with cardinals on it. I got two smaller plain ones for me and my brother. That way we can do what we wish with our share.

DH and I are coordinating to do a reception at the church. Funeral homes be fucking expensive so that was out.

Not something I think you're ever prepared to do.

Nope, no way to prep for this.  Cardinals are an amazing expression of beauty.  Thank you for sharing your journey with us here.  Your words will help so many who have yet to walk the path.  

Drama I am so very sorry for your loss!!  Hugs my friend!!  You are strong and will get through the details.  Take time for you, your physical and emotional health!  Ask for help!  It is NOT a sign of weakness but a sign of strength.

Hugs and prayers!!!

[empress of self-improvement]

Sweating my ass off and getting ready to go plunk it in the outdoor bathtub. I get to clean leaves and pine fucking needles out while I'm at it. Joy.