what are you doing right now?

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I enjoyed the class. It was a work out but much easier on my right knee.

I like the instructor and I liked being in the water.

I think I'm going to do this class regularly instead.

[Cookies Galore]

I went to the Pennsylvania Conference for Women today. I bought this holiday sweater from one of the vendors there. www.the-outrage.com/products/fa-la-la-la-la-f-ck-scotus-ugly-sweater

[toomuchreality]

Nov 7, 2024 20:54:27 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

Nov 7, 2024 11:34:28 GMT -5 seriousthistime said:

My Kitchen Aid stand mixer is broken at the moment.  I need my son to look at it and see if it can be fixed.  I'd like to avoid spending another $300+ on  a new one.  It's about 30 years old, but they built them to last way back then.  In contrast, DS and DDIL are on their third one.

So for Thanksgiving I'm going to use Ina Garten's trick for mashed potatoes. Buy Bob Evans mashed potatoes and doctor them up with Parmesan and sour cream. This even appeared in The NY Times and people say it's delicious. 

toomuchreality, I hear you on the proper place for political posts.  But most of the posts here are about how people are feeling and dealing with the aftermath.  They are not so much talking about the merits of this candidate vs. that candidate.  I think this thread is an appropriate place to talk about feelings.  JMHO. 

And it is the height of privilege to try to police how other people express their very real and valid feelings and lived experiences. Especially when they and their loved ones bear the most risk.

FWIW- I am not trying to police anyone. I'm just over this election and the outcome.
It has always been the rule, as far as I know, that this thread is not for politics.
I have no desire to control anyone, or their feelings. I am far from privileged.

[toomuchreality]

I will now exit.

[andi9899]

Nov 7, 2024 13:00:41 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Nov 7, 2024 11:47:37 GMT -5 swamp said:

your imaginary friend in NY who also has easy access to canada is always here for you. 

And while my home is just a 2bdr condo there is a place for you and DD if needed as long as I am here in California. We will make that work.

Same for me in KS.

[andi9899]

The sellers of the house had rat poison everywhere. I've been throwing it away as I find it. I just went to put my slip covers in the wash and there is a dead mouse at the bottom of the stairs. I bribed dad to come get it tomorrow. I also just put needle nose pliers in my Lowe's cart. Ew! I'm getting mouse traps. I'd rather it die in seconds vs however long it takes for the poison to work. It's that time of year.

[andi9899]

Nov 7, 2024 14:13:52 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Nov 7, 2024 13:45:50 GMT -5 gs11rmb said:

I wasn't thinking that it would make her change her mind just would it make her shut her mouth? 

I'm not in that situation but I think that if my kids or grandkids felt so strongly about something that I disagreed with I would rather just avoid the subject altogether to ensure that I got to maintain contact with them on a regular basis.

It's hard to explain, but it's not really about what is being said anymore. We've had a "no politics" rule at our holidays for years so it's not very often anything overtly comes up. When it does I will literally tell her, "Ok, we're leaving now", and we will, so she knows.  It's more subtle than that. It's just knowing that someone really doesn't accept who you are or what you believe. Even if they're not saying something outwardly about it, you don't feel comfortable with them, and frankly, he wants to spend time with his grandmas that ooze unconditional love.

Like I said, he respects my mother and treats her nicely, he just doesn't want to go out of his way to spend time with her. Her loss, because he's a pretty fun guy.

I feel that. It's part of why I don't talk to my dad's family. As the parent of a gay child I can't have a homophobe around us. I get that people have differences of opinions, but what you're not going to do is hurt my child. Then it's "well, I'm not talking about you." Yes you are. It's only "different" because she's in front of you. GTFOH.

[chiver78]

Nov 7, 2024 20:59:10 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

chiver78, this would totally have been me when the police were over there the other day.

www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8LjvTAa/

I'll have to watch that tomorrow from a laptop. my phone wants me to install the app, which isn't happening lol... I can just imagine though 🤣🤣

[andi9899]

Nov 7, 2024 16:16:32 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

Nov 7, 2024 13:56:47 GMT -5 giramomma said:

i'm done donating food.

i will only volunteer or do caring acts if my children directly benefit.

people can either starve or figure out how to work three jobs like i had to when we had a bad financial time. or they can ask family to support them. or they can live off what the feds provide.

i don't care. i doubt i'll care again for a long time.

i've spent 20 years making the community a better place. spoiler alert...it's not getting better.

we all know the definition of insanity. so i'm not doing thr
same thing anymore.

you are such a fighter and a good person, and I hate that good people like you are numb to it now. I hate what everything has become. But I completely understand your desire to just focus on your immediate family. I was spiraling a little yesterday morning, and DH reassured me that he comes from scrappy stock and that we will be just fine (several members of his family in Hungary are very wealthy businesspeople who did whatever they needed to do to succeed). I'm glad I have him every day.

Same. My friend brought brandy to the gym and we had a shit to drown our sorrows.

[andi9899]

Nov 7, 2024 18:37:07 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

well, I found what was creating a low-range odor in my kitchen this week. I cleaned up as best I could, but the shelf is airing out now overnight, after a healthy Clorox Clean-up bath. 🤢 I'll finish the rest tomorrow, including laying down contact paper.

I was poking around a lower cabinet to see if I had any black beans upstairs or not. I noticed a small puddle under a spaghetti squash I forgot I bought. so I put some gloves on to pick up/toss/wipe up the puddle. Im really effing glad I did, bc the thing imploded as soon as I lifted it off the shelf. 🤢🤢

I'm now hiding out downstairs for the night. that was exactly the cap on today that I really didn't need.

I'll clean it if you pick up the mouse.

The sucky thing about that is trash day is tomorrow so the carcass has to be in the trash until next Friday. I'd throw it somewhere else outside, but I don't want a stray animal eating a poisoned mouse and getting sick. At least it's not 100* because that would be bad.

[countrygirl2]

DIL and I are struggling. Thankfully we are all on the same page, if we were not with our intense feelings we would definitely be estranged.
We discussed the situation at length, we are both scared. I am very worried about healthcare and SS. Now with our houses not being sold and
not knowing what will happen, that is starting to worry me about future financials. All our lives we were super careful, talked everything over and
over, and I decided to do this. I sure hope I don't sink us. It's sickening.

Give us all a bit to get used to the new normal and we may cam down, its just to soon and too raw right now.

Went to grandsons parent conference today. I really like his teachers, wonderful ladies. She knows her students well. On reading grandson is in a 
class and reading on the 6th grade level. She said he can read 127 words a minute with 100% comprehension. His problems with sentence structure is
getting in a hurry and forgetting to add a period at the end of a sentence so losing a point for each!! She said when he gets involved in something he
learns everything about it. DIL said on their trip he knew what every plane was in the other countries and they would buy one each place they went.

They had to do a drawing of something they liked, he did the periodic table, he knows all the names, she said she had to look stuff up for him because
she didn't know. He wrote an essay about indigenous people and a dam they built that displaced them. He decided he was the engineer on the dam.
DIL and I read it and it was funny for some of the descriptions of things. She told his mom she enjoyed him in class, of course she probably says that
about every student. She said that on Friday afternoons he gets so excited because he gets to go to his grandmas. She said he likes his grandfather
but really loves his grandma. Well, I really love him too, but he doesn't realize how much hubs loves him too. I'm glad we are here even if it is somewhat
of a sacrifice.

They are going to her sisters this weekend, just she and little guy.  They are going swimming, roller skating, on Sunday with a friend who has a child his
age so that is good. I bet he is over here Sunday night. We are still painting

Hubs washed the kitchen ceiling down yesterday and painted it today. I think tomorrow washing the sidewalls. It will be clean but won't look great till
we refinish the cabinets next summer. I mopped the floor tonight in there and caught up the laundry again. It was a good day..

Hubs said don't get upset yet, that until the end of January we won't know what is going to happen. I said but yes, we do know and it is going to be
bad. I think he will throw the whole government into chaos. And I worry about our DD's future. 

Ok have the kitchen blind soaking in water, vinegar, ammonia, and some dawn power spray. I am going to go and try to clean the grease off. It was ok

so didn't buy a new one. Thinking maybe we should have.