what are you doing right now?

[MJ2.0]

Nov 12, 2024 14:10:36 GMT -5 swamp said:

So in the past week: 

Trump won
My siblings, who I promise are decent people, voted for Trump. 
It's the 2 year anniversary of my mom's death 
My dad has pneumonia and was in the hospital. 
DS isn't sure he wants to continue with college 
DH wrecked DS's car when he hit a deer.  The car it totalled.  We've found another but dealing with the insurance app is a nightmare.  Just email me the fucking papers. 
DD has the stomach flu. 

I haven't had a solid bowel movement since the election. 

ETA:  I'm doing my job and someone else's because of, stuff.  It's temporary, and I agreed to to it, but holy crap.  

I'm just done.   I want out.  

that's WAY too much....

[MJ2.0]

sitting and pretending to pay attention to a meeting where my boss talks for 30 mins straight with few breaks. Spoiler alert: my camera is off and I'm typing this out.   I work with a LOT of wordy people, and I don't love that.

Just ate half a jumbo chocolate chip cookie. I know I shouldn't eat them because they make my stomach hurt and my skin break out, but I need comfort and gummies are reserved for the weekend. Trying to distract myself with cute cat videos and planning the menu for our Friendsgiving brunch on Sunday.

[anciana]

Nov 12, 2024 15:39:32 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

I'm ready to throw my laptop, and I've already poured a glass of wine. today's absurd handover request was that I walk her through a product quality review. the kickoff for this one isn't happening til after I'm gone, and it's all internal SOPs and templates. I told her she could review the internal documents and check in with teammates when the thing needs to be taken care of. oh no, she wants me to walk her through it, when the documents I would need to do my stuff haven't even been provided yet. 

again, why am I teaching you shit to do my job? just, no. ask your boss. I've got shit I need to close out. perhaps you could have been more open to starting this handover when I first reached out? I reached out as soon as I got your name, because I know exactly how complicated this site is. 

I'm torn between hoping she crashes and burns and not, because someone that will end up as a reflection on me and my "lack of training" except that I made sure to inform everyone on the team that I've been trying to start this handover since the day I got her name as my replacement on this site. I'm pretty sure that my reputation of trying to help where I can will win out over anyone trying to throw me under the damn bus after I leave. the biggest culprit for that is walking out the door with me. 

Makes me wonder if they’re paying her less than you and are hoping she’ll be able to do your job just as good as you. I can’t think of another reason they would so effectively shoot themselves in the foot otherwise. So sorry you have to go through all this. You are right to point out that you have projects to complete and wrap up and can’t train her on things that are not available yet.

[Cookies Galore]

Nov 12, 2024 16:13:07 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

Nov 11, 2024 21:27:55 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

This post and whatever post I might make from now in tonight is just me rambling about random stuff, so I won’t be upset if everyone just keeps scrolling without commenting. I am indulging in adult beverages this evening, so that is my disclaimer for the rest of the night.

I just saw another reel on FB from a hair stylist, regarding Black women who choose to wear their hair in its natural state.

For a long time now, I’ve been trying to talk myself into going to a professional to help me tend to my natural hair, or at least cut it into some kind of style. When my hair was relaxed, even though I’d learned how to relax, apply bleach and color, and cut it, as a teenager, as an adult, when I could afford it, I preferred to have professionals do all of that. And I could afford it consistently, for many years. Things just went awry when I stopped relaxing my hair, and that wasn’t an issue of what I could afford to pay, it became an issue of hair stylists that worked with and knew how to take care of my kind of natural hair. 

And that is when I first learned that paying a professional to tend to my natural hair cost a whole lot more money than I’d pay for for a professional to deal with my hair when it was relaxed. And even if I paid someone all the money they charged to deal with my natural hair, that didn’t necessarily mean that they really knew what they were doing.

I just looked into a person I ran across on FB a couple of days ago, that specializes in natural hair like mine. And again, I was disappointed to see that just a hair cut costs over $200, even if I arrive at my appoint with freshly washed, detangled hair with no products in it. And I get hung up on the “no products” rule, because my hair is a totally different thing with no styling products in it, vs with styling products. So I’m not sure how a “curly cut” would even make sense if it’s done on my dry hair with no products to define my curls. 

And I am not willing to pay at least $200 to find out. 

I was so use to having color in my hair that I paid almost $300 just to have a professional colorist bleach and color my hair while it was a mix of natural and relaxed hair. The sides and back of my head had been cut so short by then, basically shaved  (by a “natural” stylist that did such a bad job that even I could see it), that I really only had hair on the top of my head, which was a mix of a few inches of new growth… natural hair…. and several inches of relaxed hair. So I paid almost $300 to just color the hair on the top of my head because I didn’t want to risk damaging the little natural hair I’d grown, and I felt like I did t even have $10 worth of hair at the time.

I understood then and even now, how bleach can damage naturally curly/coily hair like mine. And even though I bleached and colored my hair willy nilly while it was relaxed, myself or with a professional doing it, I am weird now about doing anything to my hair that might damage it and ruin my natural curls and coils, even though the tight curls and curls drive me nuts. And even though my hair is surely even healthier and stronger now, than when I was using all those chemicals to make it straight, and regularly using curling irons and whatever other kinds of high heat to maintain the look, and bleach and dye too.

My hair was healthy even when I was doing all of that, so I’m not sure why I feel like it is so much more fragile now, in its natural state. 

Anyway, I can’t wrap my mind around paying over $200 just for a hair cut just because my hair is its natural self now. That $200+ does not even include a shampoo or any additional services. It is just the going rate to cut hair like mine, and includes some rules about how my hair must be when I come to get it cut. The fuck?!

I feel you 1000%. My saving grace has been learning how to put my hair into flat twist protective styles after washing. That's literally all I do because I am lazy, my hair is a lot of work, and it doesn't hold a hair-out style longer than 24 hours, even if I put gel, hairspray, and 5000 bobby pins in it. I also feel you on trying to minimize hair damage. The aforementioned protective style keeps my hair out of my way and keeps it healthy. The "downside" is that I look like a 1960s Civil Rights Movement baddie most of the time, lol. I've gone to a professional once a year since going natural. I get a blowout and trim/cut, and it cost around $180-200ish, but I'm also in a higher COLA than you are (I think).

I have my loc "installation" next month and I'm looking forward to not picking up a comb or detangling brush ever again. Unfortunately, that process will be over $200. I'll go 1 or 2 more times for a re-twist (6 and then 12 weeks later), but I plan to learn how to do the re-twists myself.

I see no downside! Damn the man!

[MJ2.0]

Nov 12, 2024 16:31:02 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

Nov 12, 2024 16:13:07 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

I feel you 1000%. My saving grace has been learning how to put my hair into flat twist protective styles after washing. That's literally all I do because I am lazy, my hair is a lot of work, and it doesn't hold a hair-out style longer than 24 hours, even if I put gel, hairspray, and 5000 bobby pins in it. I also feel you on trying to minimize hair damage. The aforementioned protective style keeps my hair out of my way and keeps it healthy. The "downside" is that I look like a 1960s Civil Rights Movement baddie most of the time, lol. I've gone to a professional once a year since going natural. I get a blowout and trim/cut, and it cost around $180-200ish, but I'm also in a higher COLA than you are (I think).

I have my loc "installation" next month and I'm looking forward to not picking up a comb or detangling brush ever again. Unfortunately, that process will be over $200. I'll go 1 or 2 more times for a re-twist (6 and then 12 weeks later), but I plan to learn how to do the re-twists myself.

I see no downside! Damn the man!

LOL! it's similar to this:

[MJ2.0]

Nov 12, 2024 16:30:10 GMT -5 anciana said:

Nov 12, 2024 15:39:32 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

I'm ready to throw my laptop, and I've already poured a glass of wine. today's absurd handover request was that I walk her through a product quality review. the kickoff for this one isn't happening til after I'm gone, and it's all internal SOPs and templates. I told her she could review the internal documents and check in with teammates when the thing needs to be taken care of. oh no, she wants me to walk her through it, when the documents I would need to do my stuff haven't even been provided yet. 

again, why am I teaching you shit to do my job? just, no. ask your boss. I've got shit I need to close out. perhaps you could have been more open to starting this handover when I first reached out? I reached out as soon as I got your name, because I know exactly how complicated this site is. 

I'm torn between hoping she crashes and burns and not, because someone that will end up as a reflection on me and my "lack of training" except that I made sure to inform everyone on the team that I've been trying to start this handover since the day I got her name as my replacement on this site. I'm pretty sure that my reputation of trying to help where I can will win out over anyone trying to throw me under the damn bus after I leave. the biggest culprit for that is walking out the door with me. 

Makes me wonder if they’re paying her less than you and are hoping she’ll be able to do your job just as good as you. I can’t think of another reason they would so effectively shoot themselves in the foot otherwise. So sorry you have to go through all this. You are right to point out that you have projects to complete and wrap up and can’t train her on things that are not available yet.

that's the only possibility that makes sense. Or they're willing to take a dip in quality to save a few dollars. The same thing happened on my team. There was a woman who was with the company for 20+ years. She did a very specific function that was essential for goods to move between countries. I learned her job and was her OOO coverage. Well they decided since PART of what she did would be outsourced, they should let her go (without fully understanding everything she did). I and another colleague had to cover all her work while doing our own work. After a couple of weeks, my mgr was approved to get a contractor for her. Now they are looking to make that contractor full time.

So.... you axed a woman who was an expert at this... to then hire someone else to do this exact job.... 

[chiver78]

Nov 12, 2024 16:44:59 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

Nov 12, 2024 16:30:10 GMT -5 anciana said:

Makes me wonder if they’re paying her less than you and are hoping she’ll be able to do your job just as good as you. I can’t think of another reason they would so effectively shoot themselves in the foot otherwise. So sorry you have to go through all this. You are right to point out that you have projects to complete and wrap up and can’t train her on things that are not available yet.

that's the only possibility that makes sense. Or they're willing to take a dip in quality to save a few dollars. The same thing happened on my team. There was a woman who was with the company for 20+ years. She did a very specific function that was essential for goods to move between countries. I learned her job and was her OOO coverage. Well they decided since PART of what she did would be outsourced, they should let her go (without fully understanding everything she did). I and another colleague had to cover all her work while doing our own work. After a couple of weeks, my mgr was approved to get a contractor for her. Now they are looking to make that contractor full time.

So.... you axed a woman who was an expert at this... to then hire someone else to do this exact job.... 

thanks, ladies. not the case here. the result of the huge reorganization was that our group was basically cut in half - the remote/non-local employees that were rarely in the local office. add to that, I was the last one in for our group. it's fine, I've made peace with that. but my gripe here is that they merged two groups to handle two functions, and this person they assigned to replace me at this site has never held this role before. I was in the same boat when it was dumped on me, and I basically taught myself (with my boss readily available on Teams). but this woman expects me to spell every damn thing out on a silver platter? just, no. GFY. ask your boss, who thought this huge volume site was an appropriate assignment for you, when there were other members of the team on your half of the equation that had actually worked with this site. someone fucked up big time, and it's soon to no longer be my fucking problem. 

where's the kumbaya smiley? 

[Peace77]

Nov 11, 2024 23:15:05 GMT -5 busymom said:

Best wishes on your surgery weltz !   


It's concerning to me that our local food shelf actually ran out of food during their latest distribution.  The rumor is that they didn't get as much in donated food as in previous months.  Not sure why.  

The need is greater.  One local pantry posted that they served over 900 people at their last food giveaway.  This was an increase of over 100 people from the previous month.

[chiver78]

Nov 12, 2024 16:39:01 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

Nov 12, 2024 16:31:02 GMT -5 Cookies Galore said:

I see no downside! Damn the man!

LOL! it's similar to this:

I love that 'do! I may have read your response too fast, is that what you're rocking now? also, welcome back, lady! 

[weltz]

Nov 12, 2024 15:49:54 GMT -5 anciana said:

Nov 12, 2024 14:36:48 GMT -5 weltz said:

It was my birthday on the 5th.  I got nothing. One friend has covid and the other doesn't drive. I haven't seen my sister, either.
I spent $2,800 for Simon's birthday. He came over on my birthday with a meal from Burger King. That's OK. I like Burger King.
I never found my gold bracelet. Now I'm wearing a wide silver bangle on my wrist. I won't lose it.

Happy belated birthday, Weltz, sending you best wishes and gentle hugs! I’m sorry it wasn’t what you had hoped for!

It's fine.  My friend with the covid will take me out for dinner, and the friend who doesn't drive says she has someting for me.
I'm old. I no longer care for birthday parties, per se.

[jerseygirl]

Look forward to the little kitten weltz!

[andi9899]

Nov 12, 2024 14:10:36 GMT -5 swamp said:

So in the past week: 

Trump won
My siblings, who I promise are decent people, voted for Trump. 
It's the 2 year anniversary of my mom's death 
My dad has pneumonia and was in the hospital. 
DS isn't sure he wants to continue with college 
DH wrecked DS's car when he hit a deer.  The car it totalled.  We've found another but dealing with the insurance app is a nightmare.  Just email me the fucking papers. 
DD has the stomach flu. 

I haven't had a solid bowel movement since the election. 

ETA:  I'm doing my job and someone else's because of, stuff.  It's temporary, and I agreed to to it, but holy crap.  

I'm just done.   I want out.  

I'm sorry. That's rough. Sending you hugs.

[TheOtherMe]

I have to pay $20 a month to cancel Dish early  I just wasted over an hour to find that out.  The DVR no longer plays back.  To get a new receiver will extend the contract to another 2 years.  I'm unhooking Dish completely next week as I'm getting a new tv.  

I will have to survive with Peacock and ESPN + until Black Friday.  I will see then if any deals show up for You Tube TV.  

[MJ2.0]

Nov 12, 2024 17:02:30 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Nov 12, 2024 16:44:59 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

that's the only possibility that makes sense. Or they're willing to take a dip in quality to save a few dollars. The same thing happened on my team. There was a woman who was with the company for 20+ years. She did a very specific function that was essential for goods to move between countries. I learned her job and was her OOO coverage. Well they decided since PART of what she did would be outsourced, they should let her go (without fully understanding everything she did). I and another colleague had to cover all her work while doing our own work. After a couple of weeks, my mgr was approved to get a contractor for her. Now they are looking to make that contractor full time.

So.... you axed a woman who was an expert at this... to then hire someone else to do this exact job.... 

thanks, ladies. not the case here. the result of the huge reorganization was that our group was basically cut in half - the remote/non-local employees that were rarely in the local office. add to that, I was the last one in for our group. it's fine, I've made peace with that. but my gripe here is that they merged two groups to handle two functions, and this person they assigned to replace me at this site has never held this role before. I was in the same boat when it was dumped on me, and I basically taught myself (with my boss readily available on Teams). but this woman expects me to spell every damn thing out on a silver platter? just, no. GFY. ask your boss, who thought this huge volume site was an appropriate assignment for you, when there were other members of the team on your half of the equation that had actually worked with this site. someone fucked up big time, and it's soon to no longer be my fucking problem. 

where's the kumbaya smiley? 

ahhh okay. Yeah, that's just as annoying.

[MJ2.0]

Nov 12, 2024 17:04:36 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Nov 12, 2024 16:39:01 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

LOL! it's similar to this:

I love that 'do! I may have read your response too fast, is that what you're rocking now? also, welcome back, lady! 

yeah, this is pretty similar to what I do every week. I did have my hair out for the wedding (flat twist twist-out courtesy of anti-frizz lotion, curling gel, hairspray and setting it on Wednesday to take it out and style on Saturday. Yes, you read that right - I had to "set" it for 4 days for it to turn out right!) and the picnic after that (and my blowout last month), but other than that, it's something like this. It's neat and nice enough for the office, and it holds decently until the next wash day.

[chiver78]

Nov 12, 2024 17:27:32 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

Nov 12, 2024 17:04:36 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

I love that 'do! I may have read your response too fast, is that what you're rocking now? also, welcome back, lady! 

yeah, this is pretty similar to what I do every week. I did have my hair out for the wedding (flat twist twist-out courtesy of anti-frizz lotion, curling gel, hairspray and setting it on Wednesday to take it out and style on Saturday. Yes, you read that right - I had to "set" it for 4 days for it to turn out right!) and the picnic after that (and my blowout last month), but other than that, it's something like this. It's neat and nice enough for the office, and it holds decently until the next wash day.

4 days?? I will never complain about the hour it takes me to straighten my hair again. 

[MJ2.0]

Nov 12, 2024 17:34:33 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

Nov 12, 2024 17:27:32 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

yeah, this is pretty similar to what I do every week. I did have my hair out for the wedding (flat twist twist-out courtesy of anti-frizz lotion, curling gel, hairspray and setting it on Wednesday to take it out and style on Saturday. Yes, you read that right - I had to "set" it for 4 days for it to turn out right!) and the picnic after that (and my blowout last month), but other than that, it's something like this. It's neat and nice enough for the office, and it holds decently until the next wash day.

4 days?? I will never complain about the hour it takes me to straighten my hair again. 

eh, struggle is struggle. LOL

[weltz]

Nov 12, 2024 17:13:54 GMT -5 jerseygirl said:

Look forward to the little kitten weltz!

Can't wait!  I hope Sushi likes him. I asked Sushi what we should name him and he came up with "Meow"  Is that a good name for a cat?  Will all the other cats laugh at him?

[Pink Cashmere]

Nov 12, 2024 12:12:46 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

My aunt passed this morning. She's the last of my grandma's siblings. The others have been long gone. Ironically, my grandma is at least 10 years older than all her siblings. My grandma is a pretty tough broad.

I am sorry for your loss.

[Pink Cashmere]

Nov 12, 2024 14:10:36 GMT -5 swamp said:

So in the past week: 

Trump won
My siblings, who I promise are decent people, voted for Trump. 
It's the 2 year anniversary of my mom's death 
My dad has pneumonia and was in the hospital. 
DS isn't sure he wants to continue with college 
DH wrecked DS's car when he hit a deer.  The car it totalled.  We've found another but dealing with the insurance app is a nightmare.  Just email me the fucking papers. 
DD has the stomach flu. 

I haven't had a solid bowel movement since the election. 

ETA:  I'm doing my job and someone else's because of, stuff.  It's temporary, and I agreed to to it, but holy crap.  

I'm just done.   I want out.  

That’s a lot! I’m sorry you’ve had so much to deal with in such a short amount of time.

[Pink Cashmere]

Nov 12, 2024 16:13:07 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

Nov 11, 2024 21:27:55 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

This post and whatever post I might make from now in tonight is just me rambling about random stuff, so I won’t be upset if everyone just keeps scrolling without commenting. I am indulging in adult beverages this evening, so that is my disclaimer for the rest of the night.

I just saw another reel on FB from a hair stylist, regarding Black women who choose to wear their hair in its natural state.

For a long time now, I’ve been trying to talk myself into going to a professional to help me tend to my natural hair, or at least cut it into some kind of style. When my hair was relaxed, even though I’d learned how to relax, apply bleach and color, and cut it, as a teenager, as an adult, when I could afford it, I preferred to have professionals do all of that. And I could afford it consistently, for many years. Things just went awry when I stopped relaxing my hair, and that wasn’t an issue of what I could afford to pay, it became an issue of hair stylists that worked with and knew how to take care of my kind of natural hair. 

And that is when I first learned that paying a professional to tend to my natural hair cost a whole lot more money than I’d pay for for a professional to deal with my hair when it was relaxed. And even if I paid someone all the money they charged to deal with my natural hair, that didn’t necessarily mean that they really knew what they were doing.

I just looked into a person I ran across on FB a couple of days ago, that specializes in natural hair like mine. And again, I was disappointed to see that just a hair cut costs over $200, even if I arrive at my appoint with freshly washed, detangled hair with no products in it. And I get hung up on the “no products” rule, because my hair is a totally different thing with no styling products in it, vs with styling products. So I’m not sure how a “curly cut” would even make sense if it’s done on my dry hair with no products to define my curls. 

And I am not willing to pay at least $200 to find out. 

I was so use to having color in my hair that I paid almost $300 just to have a professional colorist bleach and color my hair while it was a mix of natural and relaxed hair. The sides and back of my head had been cut so short by then, basically shaved  (by a “natural” stylist that did such a bad job that even I could see it), that I really only had hair on the top of my head, which was a mix of a few inches of new growth… natural hair…. and several inches of relaxed hair. So I paid almost $300 to just color the hair on the top of my head because I didn’t want to risk damaging the little natural hair I’d grown, and I felt like I did t even have $10 worth of hair at the time.

I understood then and even now, how bleach can damage naturally curly/coily hair like mine. And even though I bleached and colored my hair willy nilly while it was relaxed, myself or with a professional doing it, I am weird now about doing anything to my hair that might damage it and ruin my natural curls and coils, even though the tight curls and curls drive me nuts. And even though my hair is surely even healthier and stronger now, than when I was using all those chemicals to make it straight, and regularly using curling irons and whatever other kinds of high heat to maintain the look, and bleach and dye too.

My hair was healthy even when I was doing all of that, so I’m not sure why I feel like it is so much more fragile now, in its natural state. 

Anyway, I can’t wrap my mind around paying over $200 just for a hair cut just because my hair is its natural self now. That $200+ does not even include a shampoo or any additional services. It is just the going rate to cut hair like mine, and includes some rules about how my hair must be when I come to get it cut. The fuck?!

I feel you 1000%. My saving grace has been learning how to put my hair into flat twist protective styles after washing. That's literally all I do because I am lazy, my hair is a lot of work, and it doesn't hold a hair-out style longer than 24 hours, even if I put gel, hairspray, and 5000 bobby pins in it. I also feel you on trying to minimize hair damage. The aforementioned protective style keeps my hair out of my way and keeps it healthy. The "downside" is that I look like a 1960s Civil Rights Movement baddie most of the time, lol. I've gone to a professional once a year since going natural. I get a blowout and trim/cut, and it cost around $180-200ish, but I'm also in a higher COLA than you are (I think).

I have my loc "installation" next month and I'm looking forward to not picking up a comb or detangling brush ever again. Unfortunately, that process will be over $200. I'll go 1 or 2 more times for a re-twist (6 and then 12 weeks later), but I plan to learn how to do the re-twists myself.

I learned how to braid hair before I was 8yo, and as an adult I could’ve made money doing it. When I braided DD’s hair when she was a child, people commented on how neat it was. But even though I knew how to do a lot of things regarding hair, I’d never gone to anybody’s school for it, because I wasn’t interested in fooling with random people and their hair.

I know how to also do flat twists. But now, I can’t even braid or twist my oldest granddaughter’s hair without taking a million breaks because my hands hurt when I try. So I definitely can’t braid or twist my own hair, because that requires awkward positioning of my arms and hands, and it is just too painful.

My hair will (mostly) stay however it’s styled after it dries. I say that it was kind of unruly even when it was relaxed, because even then, it still sometimes disagreed with which way I wanted it to go, and now that there is no relaxer to try to tame it, it really goes in whatever direction it wants to lol

I am pretty sure you live in a higher COLA than I do, but what I’m seeing now are prices over $200, just to cut my hair. Not shampoo it or do anything to care for it, just cut it. 

I think during this winter, I will blow dry and flat iron my hair, just because. I have worn my hair in its naturally curly/coily state since I did my big chop, because I was afraid to use heat on it. I’ve also never used any protective styles. So once i get it out of my system to see it flat ironed, where it’s not doing its magic trick of shrinking so much that you can still see my ears and neck even though my hair is actually long enough that it’s some inches past my shoulders, I’ll probably eventually cut most of it off again, and go back to a shorter, tapered style. And back to my barber that use to cut it before I let it grow out, for less than $20, including a tip.

I originally stopped relaxing my hair, because I decided out of the blue that I wanted locs. I changed my mind at some point after I started wearing my natural hair, for yet another unknown reason lol. But I do still admire other people’s locs. So good luck on your loc journey!

[anciana]

Nov 12, 2024 18:11:58 GMT -5 Pink Cashmere said:

Nov 12, 2024 14:10:36 GMT -5 swamp said:

So in the past week: 

Trump won
My siblings, who I promise are decent people, voted for Trump. 
It's the 2 year anniversary of my mom's death 
My dad has pneumonia and was in the hospital. 
DS isn't sure he wants to continue with college 
DH wrecked DS's car when he hit a deer.  The car it totalled.  We've found another but dealing with the insurance app is a nightmare.  Just email me the fucking papers. 
DD has the stomach flu. 

I haven't had a solid bowel movement since the election. 

ETA:  I'm doing my job and someone else's because of, stuff.  It's temporary, and I agreed to to it, but holy crap.  

I'm just done.   I want out.  

That’s a lot! I’m sorry you’ve had so much to deal with in such a short amount of time.

Yes, everything that Pink said and then some more hugs! Hang in there!

[anciana]

Nov 12, 2024 15:33:05 GMT -5 steph08 said:

Sorry, swamp. Sounds like my shitty week as well. 

To add to my troubles, yesterday I had an allergic reaction to my antibiotic. 

Thankfully just hives that went away with Benadryl, but that was fun home alone at 10pm with two kids and no DH or parents nearby in case I had trouble breathing! 

Also, PNEUMONIA IS EVERYWHERE THIS YEAR! If you can get the vaccine, do it. Of course, my kids still got it, but hey, every little bit of protection helps! 

All of that sounds brutal, Steph, I am so sorry you’re going through so much. *hugs*

[countrygirl2]

And I thought I had hair issues., Damn, $200 to get it done, I pay $127 for a touch up and cut and I thought that was a lot.

Thankfully DD has natural hair and a cut is all she needs. It's easy to care for and pretty. If I had to set her hair all the time that would be a nightmare.

The beautician recommended I let mine grow out and not color, yeah after I think she messed it up on the last dye job. Think she left it on too long and
it damaged my hair, so yes, I'm doing it to see how it will look. Likely will dye it again though, but will see. Yeah this is an old white ladies problem. Until being
here I had no idea your hair was so difficult and expensive to care for.


I too wondered if some of this stuff was for the last owners from Amazon, but all I know is they are in Arizona. I have no address or anything, we still get some of
their mail. I figure after reporting 3 items Amazon will pay attention, 1 might just be a mistake, 3 isn't.

Still don't know why the doorbell would have rang at 10. We do have outside lights and everybody else does out here too. It's well lit.

We got the kitchen painted!YES! I decided to wait on the countertops. We have to sand the cabinets and stain them likely next summer. And we need to get
the flooring in the 2 bedrooms, then quit for awhile. I went through our money and decided even adding back the money from this sale still leaves us way
down. If hubs had to buy a vehicle it would eat up most of the sale of this house. And with "the man" in who knows what we will have to face, so that expendture
can wait. What we have aren't damaged or anything, just ugly.

I painted around the window and like hubs said, looks like they left the blind up and just painted around it like they did the stove, LOL! I clean everything like the switches
on the light receptacles and plug ins too, and take off and wash all the covers when we paint. Nothing sloppier than seeing people paint over receptacle covers.

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It seems like if you have to do all the work for the stylist to just cut the hair, that they aren't really that good with natural hair. Unfortunately that seems to be common from the complaints I've heard. I wonder if just someone specializing in curly hair wouldn't be better.

I got my hair done yesterday. It was down to my waist and I have a bunch of hair. I got it colored, cut and styled for $180. I tipped extra because the stylist is my niece.

Sorry about your aunt andi.

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Sorry for your loss andi9899.

[Pink Cashmere]

Nov 12, 2024 20:02:51 GMT -5 wvugurl26 said:

It seems like if you have to do all the work for the stylist to just cut the hair, that they aren't really that good with natural hair. Unfortunately that seems to be common from the complaints I've heard. I wonder if just someone specializing in curly hair wouldn't be better.

I got my hair done yesterday. It was down to my waist and I have a bunch of hair. I got it colored, cut and styled for $180. I tipped extra because the stylist is my niece.

Sorry about your aunt andi.

I honestly think that, in least in my area, there aren’t many people that know what to do with black women’s natural hair because relaxing it has been the thing for so many decades, and that is what they are taught how to do when they go to cosmetology school, that it has become a thing for those that are willing to deal with natural hair, to charge outrageous prices, even if they just are willing to deal with it, and don’t necessarily know how to take care of it.

I had a conversation recently with a woman that does hair. She said she doesn’t like dealing with natural hair. But when she was losing money due to the pandemic, she started taking in more clients with natural hair. Once things started getting back to normal, she went back to her preference of not accepting new clients with natural hair. It was just an honest conversation between us, but it highlighted for me, the issues with finding professionals willing to deal with my kind of natural hair, and how much the ones that will, charge their clients. 

I get it, that it’s faster to deal with relaxed hair, and how it takes less time, so you can service more clients in a day vs spending more time with clients with natural hair. 

But there has to be a middle ground somewhere, between paying less than $100 for a relaxer, cut and color, and paying over $200 for just a hair cut on detangled natural hair. Especially when I’ve gone and could go back, to a barber with freshly washed, detangled and product free hair, and got my (shorter) hair cut for less than $30 including a generous tip, and that is accounting for inflation since the last time I went to my barber at the beginning of the pandemic. Because even with generous tips, back then I never paid him $30. Barbers cut men’s natural hair all day every day, whether their hair is super short or long enough to wear a big Afro. Why do I have to pay $200 more for someone that primarily deals with women’s hair, to do the same thing for me? That is what pisses me off. 

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Nov 12, 2024 17:27:32 GMT -5 MJ2.0 said:

Nov 12, 2024 17:04:36 GMT -5 chiver78 said:

I love that 'do! I may have read your response too fast, is that what you're rocking now? also, welcome back, lady! 

yeah, this is pretty similar to what I do every week. I did have my hair out for the wedding (flat twist twist-out courtesy of anti-frizz lotion, curling gel, hairspray and setting it on Wednesday to take it out and style on Saturday. Yes, you read that right - I had to "set" it for 4 days for it to turn out right!) and the picnic after that (and my blowout last month), but other than that, it's something like this. It's neat and nice enough for the office, and it holds decently until the next wash day.

Did you learn from a video? If so, I'd be interested in links pls. Not sure if you've been reading my bonus teen saga - she's my 17 yr old unofficial foster daughter.

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Trigger warning about domestic violence.....CHILD ABUSE













I went to a rare work happy hour and then stopped to get groceries. About 530 bonus teen got a call from the elementary school counselor. She took it on speaker and moved into home office so dh could overhear. You guys, that fucking woman (TFW, formerly known as bio nut) beat up teen's 9 yr old little sister this morning who then arrived at school with a black eye and bruises forming in multiple places. School nurse and counselor called CPS who didn't show up until 430 and somehow, somehow decide this poor defenseless child should still be sent home. Counselor called teen to see if she had a phone number for sister's dad (different dad from teen). Teen had same number they'd been calling with no response. Counselor couldn't tell teen what happened but teen got to talk to sis. Apparently, sis was minding her business and getting ready for school pickup at 630 am when TFW came at her out of nowhere with no apparent trigger from the kids and wailed on her.

Sis was part of original cps report back in March with Teen. Sis had bruises from a beating then that the school nurse hotlined. TFW must have inches of case file on her by now and she can't even behave when she knows the system is watching. Well I guess behavior doesn't matter anyway.

DH and I sit her absolutely broken-hearted for that little girl and also for Teen who has so much survivor's guilt already. Teen left to go have a late bday dinner with a friend's family. It's a long term friend/family that will be good for her to be around.

The only thing I can think to do is for teen and I to call legal services and our CPS case worker and attempt to raise a stink. Teen told school counselor our social worker's name and she said they had a different one visit today. System is so broken I'm not convinced these case files are correctly linked together then. The same case worker should work the case for the same family, right?

I just can't even process how much the system has let these poor children down when there is damning evidence against TFW.

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azucena. My heart is breaking to read this