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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 15, 2024 20:18:46 GMT -5
@pink Your mom's choices. Your mom's consequences. IMO. Easier said, than done. I know. Hugs. ♡
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 15, 2024 20:20:18 GMT -5
After breakfast and a shower we went to 2 dealerships so I could look at a new vehicle. This is my elimination round and then I'll drive the 2 finalists. The VW Tiquan was perfect but a bit more than I want to spend. The Honda CR-V was only $4K less, but very bare bones in both styling and accessories. We're going to look at the KIA SUV's Thursday. I'm going to run some online calculators to see what my payment might look like depending on what I put down. DH actually is want to go back to the VW dealer and test drive a GLI. If he likes it, we might make a salesperson very happy. I REALLY liked the sales guy at VW because he listened to what I said I wanted and talked to me, not to DH. No pressure, just gave me the facts all printed out including specs. Poor guy at Honda smokes and wears heavy cologne to try and hide it I have a CRV, and I adore it. I have the second-from-the-top-level model. My BIL loves his KIA Sorento Hybrid.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 15, 2024 20:21:11 GMT -5
Weather got chilly and windy here. 59° My wife turned on the gas logs and set up her winter puzzle table.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 15, 2024 20:21:59 GMT -5
Well crap. We got an EOB for DS back in March, but never received a bill. He is covered under two insurance companies, so after 6 months of no bill I just assumed the other company picked it up and spent the money. Well, guess what came in the mail today! It sucks not having access to any of the info from the other company. It's with his dad's insurance and they won't even let him see the EOBs for adult children...mine doesn't seem to care...and they're both Blue Cross Blue Shield so go figure, but one is TX and one is MN.
Ugh...I hate it when that happens.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 15, 2024 20:30:26 GMT -5
Made veggie lasagna for dinner. Touched up a sign that we put out for directions to see our Halloween display. While I watch MLB Post-Season, I am working on this year's Christmas card. (I love sending Christmas cards, so if you want to PM me your mailing address, I'd appreciate it. I expect absolutely nothing in return.)
It started to rain today, but I don't think it rained enough for me to skip watering. I should go turn on a sprinkler.
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Post by Pink Cashmere on Oct 15, 2024 20:42:31 GMT -5
Putting on my no holds barred hat for Pink’s benefit… What are your mother’s triggers? Does she hate the thought of being a charity case? What gets under her skin? Can you start insisting that she has dementia, since she can’t manage her money well enough to pay her bills, and probably needs a conservator? Someone to dole out her money bit by bit? I think calling APS and embarrassing her any way you can is a good start. She should be embarrassed and ashamed, she can’t manage her money well enough to keep the damn utilities on. Start picking away at any sore spots you can think of. She’s comfortable trying to sponge off you. Make it uncomfortable. She doesn’t have any moral problem exploiting your “weaknesses” (decency). Time to go for the jugular. It sucks about Misters grandmas house I hope they stall out on the sale for lack of dotted i’s and crossed t’s.l My Mom has no shame when it comes to asking people for money. There is no sore spot to pick at, because she feels like other people should cater to her with their time and money, so I don’t know of any triggers regarding that. When I say that she is good at what she does, that means that she is the person that you might meet one day and she seems like a good person (which she is in some ways, but she is also a con artist, which I hate to say but don’t know another term to describe her), and you might even fall for her shenanigans, I’m not kidding. When she moved into my house and started driving me crazy, even Mister thought I was exaggerating and didn’t believe me, because from what he’d seen, she appeared to be harmless, and was just a kind older lady. What she does has nothing to do with dementia, she’s always been like that. The problem is that my Grandmother always cleaned up her messes, literally and financially, and after my Grandmother died, my Mom expected me to do what my Grandmother did for her, but I’m not my Grandmother and as much as I love my Mom, I’m not willing to baby her like my Grandmother did. I probably would if she had enough sense to at least act right and play along to get what she wants, but she can’t even do that, so no ma’am.
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 15, 2024 20:46:55 GMT -5
Made veggie lasagna for dinner. Touched up a sign that we put out for directions to see our Halloween display. While I watch MLB Post-Season, I am working on this year's Christmas card. (I love sending Christmas cards, so if you want to PM me your mailing address, I'd appreciate it. I expect absolutely nothing in return.)
It started to rain today, but I don't think it rained enough for me to skip watering. I should go turn on a sprinkler. ♡ • ♡ • ♡
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 15, 2024 21:10:09 GMT -5
So apparently this account is worse than I thought. It's really bad. So bad that I feel like I have to call my boss and prepare her for kickback once I put my rules in place. These people have been running amock for years and it stops today. She'll likely get complaints about me. Ugh! Maybe they'll finally stop and take things seriously. I hope. Doubtful. The producer has been allowing it and now I have to retrain the insured and producer. It's going to be a fight. I told my CSR that it's going to be rough, but we're a team so we'll get it done. She actually was discouraged when she found out who the producer was because she hinders the way she works with other insureds. I told her that stops today on the accounts I control and if she got any flack from anyone to let me know and I'll straighten them out. If they don't comply they can work with someone else. I back my CSR 100%. Making her job harder makes my job harder and I don't put up with it.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Oct 15, 2024 21:25:45 GMT -5
Hotel suite booked for Thursday through Sunday. All I have to say is that boy better be planning on doing some serious packing tomorrow because the van still seems quite empty.
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Post by tallguy on Oct 15, 2024 21:30:32 GMT -5
Mister just said that he does feel some type of way about his Aunt selling the house and not asking him if he was interested in buying it from her before selling it to a stranger. He is in a mood, so I didn’t ask any questions. I do wonder how she was able to sell it when she and Mister’s Mom both inherited the house from their Mother, which in my uneducated mind means that Mister’s Mom also owned the house, and her estate has still not been settled. Idk how that works, since Aunt G was not the sole owner of the house. But that is just me being curious, and not me making it a problem I feel like I need to deal with or try to understand. Well, I would really like to understand, just to know how situations like that work in general, but not to try to do anything thing about this specific situation. If the house was inherited by Aunt G and Mister's mom, when Mister's mom died, her sons inherited half of the house. Don't ask me how it was titled and what actually happened, but, yes, the sons of Mister's mom owned half of the house unless they signed their rights away. Legally, she should not have been able to sell it. Here and in Colorado, everything would have fallen apart when the title work was done for closing and they would have to sign for the sale to proceed. Not necessarily. It absolutely depends on how the house was titled. If the two sisters were titled as Joint Tenants With Right Of Survivorship, then the decedent's ownership interest transfers to the surviving owner(s). You cannot bequeath an interest to your own heirs under that arrangement. I will add this: Yes, it was thoughtless to sell the house without asking other family members if they were interested in buying the property to keep it in the family. If the title was in fact JTWROS, then the surviving owner had the right to sell the property if they wished. They were legally the sole owner at that point. If the title was instead Tenants in Common, then the decedent's interest would have gone to their heirs. If that is the case, it may be possible for the sale to be legally stopped if the son wished to try that. The necessary part is to find how the house was titled.
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Post by Works4me on Oct 15, 2024 22:20:56 GMT -5
For those with house cleaners - how much are you paying with approximate square footage? I haven't had anyone since before covid. Trying to get an idea of cost before I start looking for quotes. $40/hour for one person who brings all of their own stuff--even garbage bags. I have them do 1800sf of floors that include hardwood, carpet, and linoleum; one full bathroom including the shower; one half bathroom; all kitchen counters including the stovetop; the kitchen sink. It takes typically takes 3.5 hours. I have more areas of the hosue they could clean, and sometimes I add other areas or trade out some of the regular stuff for other stuff I need done. How often does she come?
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Post by daisylu on Oct 16, 2024 0:59:33 GMT -5
good fucking lord. T-20 days til I don't have to hear a NH political ad. 🥳 I'd been super annoyed by this one blond woman the past month, but that ad has gone away in favor of a former cop that curses and gets censored. I'll leave the content out, but I live in SE Massachusetts. the state-level politics of New Hampshire aren't anywhere on my list of shit to worry about, and I hate that I have to listen to the ads all fucking day long as part of my background noise for LD. ETA- today I heard this new ad three times within the same commercial break. fucking enough! So sick of the ads! Mine are from Maryland, I live in Virginia but I live in the Panhandle so the "local" channels are MD. I will be so happy to get through this election.
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Post by daisylu on Oct 16, 2024 1:05:40 GMT -5
On another random note that doesn’t really mean anything, last night after Mister finished grilling, I fixed my plate and put it in the microwave, and went and took a shower. That’s something I regularly do, fix my plate and put it in the microwave to eat after I shower. YD came home as I was leaving the kitchen. When I went back in the kitchen my plate was gone. Mister was in bed when I got out of the shower, and had already eaten and was in the back of the house when I fixed my plate, so I knew he didn’t eat it. So I knocked on YD’s bedroom door, which was locked even though Mister has always been adamant that they don’t lock doors in his house. I had to keep knocking because there was no response. She finally opened the door and I asked if she’d got my plate out of the microwave. She said Mister told her that there was a plate for her in the microwave. I don’t really believe that. We have 2 microwaves, and if Mister really told her that, there would’ve been a plate in the other microwave, and there wasn’t. And while Mister does cook sometimes to make sure she has something to eat, I’ve NEVER known him to go so far as to fix her a plate and put it in the microwave for whenever she gets to it. I just went and fixed me another plate and haven’t mentioned it to Mister, because Idek if it’s worth mentioning, even though it did irritate me. I know you have a lot going on with you separate of Mister but I would say something. You have been biting your tongue for far too long, IMO.
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Post by NastyWoman on Oct 16, 2024 2:08:34 GMT -5
I have developed a really weird fascination with coats. Warm winter coats to be precise. And I am not talking about cute coats or coats that make me go "I look good in this. No I keep looking at, and occasionally buying, really nice soft, warm coats. I have such a hard time to passing them by. Today at Costco they had this really nice puffer coat. And it was on sake to boot. So I tried it on and it fit and it was so warm and so soooooooft! I really wanted to buy it. Bht I can only wear a coat like that like 6 or so weeks per year.! And I already have two coats for those weeks. But this coat was so warm, so cosy, so soft but still 6 weeks... I walked out without the coat but that was hard. I need to get myself under control or I will end up moving with half a container full of coats
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Post by toomuchreality on Oct 16, 2024 2:31:59 GMT -5
I have developed a really weird fascination with coats. Warm winter coats to be precise. And I am not talking about cute coats or coats that make me go "I look good in this. No I keep looking at, and occasionally buying, really nice soft, warm coats. I have such a hard time to passing them by. Today at Costco they had this really nice puffer coat. And it was on sake to boot. So I tried it on and it fit and it was so warm and so soooooooft! I really wanted to buy it. Bht I can only wear a coat like that like 6 or so weeks per year.! And I already have two coats for those weeks. But this coat was so warm, so cosy, so soft but still 6 weeks... I walked out without the coat but that was hard. I need to get myself under control or I will end up moving with half a container full of coats Bummer. I can't remember when the last time was, that I wore a coat. For years, I have only worn a white down vest. I find coats too warm and too restrictive anymore. I'm not out in freezing cold, for long periods of time any more.
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Post by countrygirl2 on Oct 16, 2024 2:38:26 GMT -5
Hubs on his report has low WBC, low RBC, low testosterone, and low abs lymphs. Several are minutely low and the lymph its says can be caused by radiation but also cancer. I'm worried but trying not to let him know I am.
Tomorrow DD t heart doc. Can't get into endo and that is the one she needs, she only has one month of ozempic left. I am very concerned about that. I know she will add on the weight if we can't keep her on it. The PA didn't think we could, I see it needs PA. I'm thinking of calling back home and seeing if I can get it 3 more months to tide her over.
I tried calling today but couldn't connect with the right option, will try the My Chart approach..
Have to get her fasting lab tests, likely do that Friday and get that done.
Also made optometrists appointments for us, can't get in till Nov 21st. I have got to make a dentist appt, a couple of teeth are getting touchy, using Sensydine for now.
Past bedtime, its 12:30 so need to go.
My hands are killing me tonight, need to check barometric pressure, we are supposed to get cold and rain, so likely why.
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Post by finnime on Oct 16, 2024 4:58:11 GMT -5
Good morning, illustrious invisipeeps intently pursuing full lives with forethought. Welcome to Wednesday. I hope your day rewards your efforts and is capped by a delectable dessert. I hope you manage to tiptoe past any piles that happen to be in your path. Today I need to buy a pair of headlight bulbs and get them installed. The RestoWipe worked quite well but I have one light that is noticeably dimmer than the other and neither works very brightly. Yesterday was a fine day in Boston. DH came along and while DD worked we sipped lattes at a coffee shop, did some sightseeing and shopping and generally hung out. The traffic was a predictable mess but not as godawful as it usually is in the DC beltway area, so there's that. Without traffic I live about an hour from the core of Boston. With traffic, 2 1/2 hours is typical. Franklin the Dog is watching every move I make. Since I took him very early for his walk yesterday he wants to be sure not to miss anything today. I got this pic a couple of days ago. Quahog shells embedded in the sand in the wake of the tide:
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Post by ners on Oct 16, 2024 5:43:33 GMT -5
Morning all. Need to get moving for the day. Going to be a long day as i slept poorly last night. Only good thing is I am off the next 2 days.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Oct 16, 2024 6:46:34 GMT -5
Good morning, illustrious invisipeeps intently pursuing full lives with forethought. Welcome to Wednesday. I hope your day rewards your efforts and is capped by a delectable dessert. I hope you manage to tiptoe past any piles that happen to be in your path. Today I need to buy a pair of headlight bulbs and get them installed. The RestoWipe worked quite well but I have one light that is noticeably dimmer than the other and neither works very brightly. Yesterday was a fine day in Boston. DH came along and while DD worked we sipped lattes at a coffee shop, did some sightseeing and shopping and generally hung out. The traffic was a predictable mess but not as godawful as it usually is in the DC beltway area, so there's that. Without traffic I live about an hour from the core of Boston. With traffic, 2 1/2 hours is typical. Franklin the Dog is watching every move I make. Since I took him very early for his walk yesterday he wants to be sure not to miss anything today. I got this pic a couple of days ago. Quahog shells embedded in the sand in the wake of the tide: Had to google. QuaHog shells my learn something new for today. Thanks
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Post by lurkyloo on Oct 16, 2024 7:16:49 GMT -5
Putting on my no holds barred hat for Pink’s benefit… What are your mother’s triggers? Does she hate the thought of being a charity case? What gets under her skin? Can you start insisting that she has dementia, since she can’t manage her money well enough to pay her bills, and probably needs a conservator? Someone to dole out her money bit by bit? I think calling APS and embarrassing her any way you can is a good start. She should be embarrassed and ashamed, she can’t manage her money well enough to keep the damn utilities on. Start picking away at any sore spots you can think of. She’s comfortable trying to sponge off you. Make it uncomfortable. She doesn’t have any moral problem exploiting your “weaknesses” (decency). Time to go for the jugular. It sucks about Misters grandmas house I hope they stall out on the sale for lack of dotted i’s and crossed t’s.l My Mom has no shame when it comes to asking people for money. There is no sore spot to pick at, because she feels like other people should cater to her with their time and money, so I don’t know of any triggers regarding that. When I say that she is good at what she does, that means that she is the person that you might meet one day and she seems like a good person (which she is in some ways, but she is also a con artist, which I hate to say but don’t know another term to describe her), and you might even fall for her shenanigans, I’m not kidding. When she moved into my house and started driving me crazy, even Mister thought I was exaggerating and didn’t believe me, because from what he’d seen, she appeared to be harmless, and was just a kind older lady. What she does has nothing to do with dementia, she’s always been like that. The problem is that my Grandmother always cleaned up her messes, literally and financially, and after my Grandmother died, my Mom expected me to do what my Grandmother did for her, but I’m not my Grandmother and as much as I love my Mom, I’m not willing to baby her like my Grandmother did. I probably would if she had enough sense to at least act right and play along to get what she wants, but she can’t even do that, so no ma’am. What does rile her up? I’m not suggesting that she does have dementia, just that you start pestering her about she must have dementia to be this non-functional, if that would make her mad. She’s not the least bothered by you being upset, and she’s taking advantage of you to a pretty shocking degree. I don’t know that she’s even bothered by you yelling at her. But it’s been years and she’s treated you like crap in this ongoing game of emotional chicken-which you always lose bc you’re a decent person and she knows it. Just saying, psychological warfare might be an appropriate thing to consider. How can you make her situation less comfortable here, taking advantage of you? Can you plant some self-doubt there somewhere? Boundaries are hard and it might be less palatable than just continuing to suck it up. Certainly you’re not obligated to do it or even explain why you’re not doing it, just because some random invisible person in your computer suggested it. This sort of don’t get mad get even is just another route to consider.
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Post by jerseygirl on Oct 16, 2024 7:40:27 GMT -5
Since she didn’t pay electric bill maybe cut electric off except for cold months so pipes don’t freeze Let her face up to no electricity
Maybe then cut off gas for cooking?
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 16, 2024 8:04:43 GMT -5
My Mom has no shame when it comes to asking people for money. There is no sore spot to pick at, because she feels like other people should cater to her with their time and money, so I don’t know of any triggers regarding that. When I say that she is good at what she does, that means that she is the person that you might meet one day and she seems like a good person (which she is in some ways, but she is also a con artist, which I hate to say but don’t know another term to describe her), and you might even fall for her shenanigans, I’m not kidding. When she moved into my house and started driving me crazy, even Mister thought I was exaggerating and didn’t believe me, because from what he’d seen, she appeared to be harmless, and was just a kind older lady. What she does has nothing to do with dementia, she’s always been like that. The problem is that my Grandmother always cleaned up her messes, literally and financially, and after my Grandmother died, my Mom expected me to do what my Grandmother did for her, but I’m not my Grandmother and as much as I love my Mom, I’m not willing to baby her like my Grandmother did. I probably would if she had enough sense to at least act right and play along to get what she wants, but she can’t even do that, so no ma’am. What does rile her up? I’m not suggesting that she does have dementia, just that you start pestering her about she must have dementia to be this non-functional, if that would make her mad. She’s not the least bothered by you being upset, and she’s taking advantage of you to a pretty shocking degree. I don’t know that she’s even bothered by you yelling at her. But it’s been years and she’s treated you like crap in this ongoing game of emotional chicken-which you always lose bc you’re a decent person and she knows it. Just saying, psychological warfare might be an appropriate thing to consider. How can you make her situation less comfortable here, taking advantage of you? Can you plant some self-doubt there somewhere? Boundaries are hard and it might be less palatable than just continuing to suck it up. Certainly you’re not obligated to do it or even explain why you’re not doing it, just because some random invisible person in your computer suggested it. This sort of don’t get mad get even is just another route to consider. Call her bluff and send the EMTs/APS out for wellness checks every time she calls about not having food or not having heat/lights. That shut my grandma up pretty fast. She wanted attention from my dad and her games were punishment for him/us not giving up our lives to cater to her. He told her this was the new normal every time she called about being stuck on the couch he was sending out the EMTs because he couldn't get to Treynor in time. The absolute worst thing in the world to her is not having control and having "strangers" in her business. I was proud of my dad for finally weaponizing that to HIS advantage. Let the EMTs and APS be the bad guys. She will have a lot harder time arguing with them and justifying herself to them. They get called enough they will take over and handle things for her. She REALLY won't like that because you get what you get and you don't throw a fit with elder services.
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Post by azucena on Oct 16, 2024 8:10:15 GMT -5
Pink - sorry your mom is being an azhat.
Another night of multiple seizures as teen may have to face nut today assuming she shows up at psych appt. Trying to put my game face on and game plan what I might say if nut comes at me. "Bless your heart" or 100% ignore seem like plausible choices.
Teen had a rough day yesterday but ended it with her grandma calling and I got to overhear her describing college trip in great happy detail and grandma building her up. Honestly it seems like teen changes rooms and comes to find me when she has phone calls on speaker. I keep my mouth shut unless she asks about something after the call ends and I'm realizing that teen is sometimes looking for my reaction to gauge what's normal and what's dysfunctional from the call. Grandma got an A+ last night.
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Post by giramomma on Oct 16, 2024 9:08:37 GMT -5
Well, it looks like my current choices are a 2020 crosstrek with under 40K that's used certified. Worst case, we're looking at 24K which I'm not thrilled about. Other option is a 2017 cross trek with 65K. That should come at 17K. Is the extra 7K worth it? I'm trying to like an outback and I just cannot do it. I'm also going to get a loan until our finances settle down a little bit and we figure out what, if any, needs-based aid DD1 might get.
Especially now, I want the cash on hand to deal with my medical stuff.
What say you all?
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Post by finnime on Oct 16, 2024 9:15:46 GMT -5
The Outback would cost more for maintenance and parts in the long run.
I think you're best off with the younger, lower mileage vehicle for $7000. MNSHO. You're getting another 3 years which matters.
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Post by resolution on Oct 16, 2024 9:22:33 GMT -5
Well, it looks like my current choices are a 2020 crosstrek with under 40K that's used certified. Worst case, we're looking at 24K which I'm not thrilled about. Other option is a 2017 cross trek with 65K. That should come at 17K. Is the extra 7K worth it? I'm trying to like an outback and I just cannot do it. I'm also going to get a loan until our finances settle down a little bit and we figure out what, if any, needs-based aid DD1 might get.
Especially now, I want the cash on hand to deal with my medical stuff.
What say you all?
Do they both have the Eyesight safety features and the same size of screen? I think in 2017 only some trim levels had Eyesight, where they added it to all trim levels by 2020. I think the base engine would be the same, but I would pay the extra to get the added safety features or if the screen is bigger (depends on trim level). It makes driving new places so much easier to have a big screen for the android auto navigation display. As my confession, I paid a couple thousand extra to get a higher trim level with the bigger screen on my Forester, and I really like having a big gps screen. The adaptive cruise control that comes with Eyesight also makes long drives so much more pleasant.
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Post by giramomma on Oct 16, 2024 9:23:36 GMT -5
Ignoring my mom worked. Her toddler-like behavior eventually extinguished when she wasn't getting the attention/results she thought she should. And., now it's like it never happened. (Though, I do reframe it more as the honeymoon period in the abuse cycle).
I also want to say: Regarding capabilities (I know that discussion got stopped/posts were deleted). In the past few months, my mom has been capable about making decisions about fixing her vehicle, taking care of her health in a way that she sees fit, and she's taking classes. So. She can figure stuff out. When she wants to, and when there's not much other choice. She still sees repairing her house as a choice. I was thinking about my experience. My mom has been interested in updating their kitchen and bathroom for about the past almost 40 years now. We made several trips to stores looking at remodeling possibilities. Mom and dad would have been late 30s/early 40s. One child. Mom was not working, though she was capable of it. She did have elder care, but it wasn't 24/7. My parents were not flat out broke. We were not living in poverty. My parents had more money available to them than we have now.
My parents were 49 when I left for college. 49. Mom was working part time and doing fun things for almost 20 years until dad was diagnosed.
She was and is capable.
I don't know what it's like to have a life free of responsibility unless I determine it's needed. I don't know what it's like to have a life where everyone enables me to do what I want, when I want. I don't think my mom understands how lucky she is to have that kind of life, even if she doesn't see it that way. I also don't need to keep indulging her like my dad did. That was his choice.
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Post by giramomma on Oct 16, 2024 9:25:31 GMT -5
Well, it looks like my current choices are a 2020 crosstrek with under 40K that's used certified. Worst case, we're looking at 24K which I'm not thrilled about. Other option is a 2017 cross trek with 65K. That should come at 17K. Is the extra 7K worth it? I'm trying to like an outback and I just cannot do it. I'm also going to get a loan until our finances settle down a little bit and we figure out what, if any, needs-based aid DD1 might get.
Especially now, I want the cash on hand to deal with my medical stuff.
What say you all?
Do they both have the Eyesight safety features and the same size of screen? I think in 2017 only some trim levels had Eyesight, where they added it to all trim levels by 2020. I think the base engine would be the same, but I would pay the extra to get the added safety features or if the screen is bigger (depends on trim level). It makes driving new places so much easier to have a big screen for the android auto navigation display. As my confession, I paid a couple thousand extra to get a higher trim level with the bigger screen on my Forester, and I really like having a big gps screen. The adaptive cruise control that comes with Eyesight also makes long drives so much more pleasant. LOL. My current loaner has eyesight. I rubbed my nose and my car yelled at me to keep focus on the road. I think it was thinking that I was picking my nose or something.
I'll have to look more into it.
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Post by minnesotapaintlady on Oct 16, 2024 9:31:38 GMT -5
The adaptive cruise control that comes with Eyesight also makes long drives so much more pleasant. DS only had two things on his list. Good gas mileage and adaptive cruise. My 2013 Flex has it and now we're spoiled.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 16, 2024 10:20:54 GMT -5
Pink - sorry your mom is being an azhat. Another night of multiple seizures as teen may have to face nut today assuming she shows up at psych appt. Trying to put my game face on and game plan what I might say if nut comes at me. "Bless your heart" or 100% ignore seem like plausible choices. Teen had a rough day yesterday but ended it with her grandma calling and I got to overhear her describing college trip in great happy detail and grandma building her up. Honestly it seems like teen changes rooms and comes to find me when she has phone calls on speaker. I keep my mouth shut unless she asks about something after the call ends and I'm realizing that teen is sometimes looking for my reaction to gauge what's normal and what's dysfunctional from the call. Grandma got an A+ last night. I am glad that Teen looks to see your reaction to see if something is normal. I really glad grandma got an A+ She deserves so much better than she gets from her bio family. The generational trauma runs deep.
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