what are you doing right now?

[daisylu]

The only issue I had with the electronic card at Doubletree was that it does not open the outside doors from the parking garage. We picked up a card for DH, no need for him to go through the trouble of getting the app and adding him to my account.

[daisylu]

Made it through the grocery store in record time. Finished up laundry and stripped the bed. Waiting on comforter to dry to make the bed back up.

DH will get home from work about 8. I have some pre seasoned chicken breast from a large meat order a couple of months ago. Will doctor it up for pulled chicken sandwiches when he gets home. I will take remainder for lunch along salads this week.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

I was going to do burgers on the grill tonight because it’s still stinking hot here and don’t want to heat up the house.  The idea of trying to bite into one right now is not appealing, so not sure what to do about dinner and not heat up the house.  Stupid tooth!

[Opti]

O lovely, the child in the apartment below is throwing himself around and stomping. Its bad. I was trained by my mom. He'd stop this right quick under my discipline. Some people do not know how to control their kids. Glad to say nothing has fallen off the walls, but I would not reason with this behavior.

[chiver78]

Jul 31, 2022 13:52:40 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

OMFG. Now the damn pump isn't coming out till Tuesday. It may be past when we go to Colorado before she comes home.

I had a massive breakdown this morning. DH said we'd go to the Farmers Market and I was all excited. Then we didn't go because he slept so long he had to go to his NA meeting.

And I was needed back at the hospital where I currently am now.

So I had a tantrum. I'm getting real sick of DH lecturing ME about controlling myself.

I finally snapped at him too and said you didn't have to do anything for your mom because you had two siblings and an army of family that gave you an out.

It's just the four of us.

And FUCK OFF about working at the restaurant! I don't have the mental space to listen to you vent.

I had to taste test my mom's ice chips to prove they weren't poisoned to get her to hydrate. You have any idea what a mind fuck that is?!

Excuse ME that I feel less than sorry for you!

I also work and still take care of the house.

Gwen is really stepping up though I feel she shouldn't have to. I appreciate it none the less.

Dad said she's better today she at least doesn't think we're trying to kill her.

Hopefully the pump comes out she can sit up, eat and get more oriented. Dad said she should start moving to where we can leave her alone at night

I said I can't do tomorrow. I have to focus on work.

I Don't want to be here anymore. Now I'm wondering if we did the right thing.

I spent last night getting called by my full name, accused of conspiring with the hospital and was met with demands to get my brother instead.

I cannot communicate how badly it's shaken me even though I know it's not personal.

I really need help and I have no idea where to turn.

I'm sorry. I wish any of us were closer to be your literal shoulder to lean on. Gwen's reading the room, you've raised a solid young woman there. 

did you post that you were reaching out to an EAP? I don't have any experience with that, but maybe that's a good outlet? 

[NastyWoman]

Jul 31, 2022 7:23:09 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Jul 31, 2022 7:18:24 GMT -5 taz157 said:

I did actually stay asleep for a bit after that post.

I’ve also taken a COVID test and it’s positive… 😔 I now have a low grade fever (in the 99s and body aches).

Oh Crap! I am sorry.

[finnime]

Riding shotgun while DH does his driving stint. I did mine, Mass. to NJ, halfway down the NJTPK.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I was planning to but work got so busy I didn't have time. I'm a day and a half behind thanks to issues with a plant and we got 63 samples and it was announced this may be a long term thing.

On top of opening a new plant that's another 30 samples last week.

On top of all our regular stuff.

Hope someone is doing damage control because it's just me grinding away and I can't move any faster. I was having trouble standing up Friday I'm so tired.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Jul 31, 2022 13:52:40 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

OMFG. Now the damn pump isn't coming out till Tuesday. It may be past when we go to Colorado before she comes home.

I had a massive breakdown this morning. DH said we'd go to the Farmers Market and I was all excited. Then we didn't go because he slept so long he had to go to his NA meeting.

And I was needed back at the hospital where I currently am now.

So I had a tantrum. I'm getting real sick of DH lecturing ME about controlling myself.

I finally snapped at him too and said you didn't have to do anything for your mom because you had two siblings and an army of family that gave you an out.

It's just the four of us.

And FUCK OFF about working at the restaurant! I don't have the mental space to listen to you vent.

I had to taste test my mom's ice chips to prove they weren't poisoned to get her to hydrate. You have any idea what a mind fuck that is?!

Excuse ME that I feel less than sorry for you!

I also work and still take care of the house.

Gwen is really stepping up though I feel she shouldn't have to. I appreciate it none the less.

Dad said she's better today she at least doesn't think we're trying to kill her.

Hopefully the pump comes out she can sit up, eat and get more oriented. Dad said she should start moving to where we can leave her alone at night

I said I can't do tomorrow. I have to focus on work.

I Don't want to be here anymore. Now I'm wondering if we did the right thing.

I spent last night getting called by my full name, accused of conspiring with the hospital and was met with demands to get my brother instead.

I cannot communicate how badly it's shaken me even though I know it's not personal.

I really need help and I have no idea where to turn.

I’m sorry, I wish I could help you out.  It sounds like Gwen is doing a phenomenal job of stepping up, so know you’ve done a good job there.  I agree, your husband is being an ass about this.  He got to tantrum all over the place with his mom, but he can’t step up to support you when your mom in a crisis?  THAT is his job, to try to take some of the stress off of you, not increase it.  

[andi9899]

Jul 31, 2022 14:25:28 GMT -5 Opti said:

O lovely, the child in the apartment below is throwing himself around and stomping. Its bad. I was trained by my mom. He'd stop this right quick under my discipline. Some people do not know how to control their kids. Glad to say nothing has fallen off the walls, but I would not reason with this behavior.

I believe that you don't have children. If you did you'd know that the only person you control is yourself. Being an adult you should know that anyway. Kids make noise. The house next door to me has a bunch of kids and they make noise. I don't really care for it but they're kids. One can also not know how they would parent unless they've actually been a parent. Judging someone else's parenting says a lot more about you than it does them.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I'm mad because he didn't have to do any of the heavy lifting with his mother and yet he fell apart.

Understanding it's his mom dying of course but I've dealt with so much between then and now with him.

I face my crisis and it is STILL turning into his being tired of working and how he'll do it but he just needs a place to vent. And his thoughts and opinions on my dad and getting mad at me because I'm not in the mood to psychoanalyst if it was appropriate to fire a nurse.

I can't be his life coach right now.

I got my dad sounding like he's going to cry because he couldn't find mom's wallet, a delusional mother, two kids and a full time job.

Part of being an adult is accepting sometimes you come last. I've been doing it my whole life he can do it for a few weeks.

[bookkeeper]

People in hospitals say some pretty f'ed up stuff.  Wonky sleep schedules, medications, fear, and all the drama that goes with being there can make a person into someone they are really not.

I learned long ago to let it roll off.  You don't have to be a doormat, but it is ok to laugh in their faces at wild crazy stupid stuff.  Laughing at the crazy has helped my parents see how silly they sound.  Your mileage may vary.

Drama, you sound so tired.  I wish I could prescribe you two days in bed.

[NastyWoman]

Jul 31, 2022 14:25:28 GMT -5 Opti said:

O lovely, the child in the apartment below is throwing himself around and stomping. Its bad. I was trained by my mom. He'd stop this right quick under my discipline. Some people do not know how to control their kids. Glad to say nothing has fallen off the walls, but I would not reason with this behavior.

Kids have temper tantrums - that is a fact of life. It is also the middle of the day not the middle of tbe night.  So just get over it, ignore it and be glad you don't have to deal it 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Jul 31, 2022 15:55:39 GMT -5 bookkeeper said:

People in hospitals say some pretty f'ed up stuff.  Wonky sleep schedules, medications, fear, and all the drama that goes with being there can make a person into someone they are really not.

I learned long ago to let it roll off.  You don't have to be a doormat, but it is ok to laugh in their faces at wild crazy stupid stuff.  Laughing at the crazy has helped my parents see how silly they sound.  Your mileage may vary.

Drama, you sound so tired.  I wish I could prescribe you two days in bed.

I laughed at the insistence we take Gwen to the Fox News rally.

No idea where that came from. I told dad great now I'm going to have to photoshop a picture of Gwen and Tucker Carlson.

He said take a picture of the TV and just don't give mom her glasses.

It's seeing her like this that is distressing. I know she'd be moritied if she remembers what she said.

But still you can't have your mom insisting you swallow first and not have it fuck with your head.

[Deleted]

Jul 31, 2022 8:16:09 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Jul 30, 2022 18:31:57 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

My workday today was “interesting”. A few months ago, a lady that worked on the evening shift got a job working in my area, on my shift. I’ve worked with lazy people, but I’ve never worked with someone that didn’t at least try to pretend they worked.

During our whole 8 hour shift, we only got done what should have taken maybe 3 hours, MAX. That wench that I had all the problems with a month or so ago, was in charge today. I didn’t want any shit from her, so I made it clear to her all day that I was it the problem. I told her that normally I would go help get things moving (and I do, even though I don’t have to), but I’d already been over there and she was lounging and scrolling on her phone, so while I don’t mind helping, I’m NOT going to do her work for her.

I load what I’ll call widgets into a machine, and they travel to the other part of my area, to be sorted into one of about 100 containers, according to what kind of widget it is. I pick up every single widget that gets processed, to send them to the other part of my area, and a lot of them are heavy. When I was hired, I was required to be able to lift and carry up to 70lbs. 

But where the widgets go to, where the lady was working today, there are robots that pick the widgets up and put them in the appropriate container. So, at most, she has to pick up maybe 1/4 of the widgets I do, and that’s only if the robots are being whiney bitches that day. So, hell no, I’m not going to pick up those same widgets I’d already picked up once to send them over, because she’s playing on her phone, or just literally sitting down chilling. 

Today was really unbelievable. A couple years ago, they had a contractor come in and replace all the lights on the workroom floor. If the lights don’t detect motion for about 20 minutes, they turn off. At one point today, the lights went off, which made it clear she wasn’t even over there. They stayed off for at least 20 minutes, until the wench supervisor walked through there. Most of us have enough sense to keep the overhead lights on, even if we aren’t actually working. You don’t have to be close to an area to see that it’s dark, which means nobody is in that area. This lady clearly just does not care.

The wench supervisor was just filling in this weekend so our real supervisor could have his days off. But she ended up calling him because the other lady just refused to work, so now our real supervisor is coming in tomorrow, on his day off. What we needed to get done today, was left over from what should have been done yesterday. We didn’t come anywhere close to finishing yesterday’s work (even though we could have if the other lady would’ve actually worked), so never got to today’s work. 

Idk what’s going to happen tomorrow, but as long as nobody says anything to ME about today, I’m good. Even though I don’t like the wench anymore, as hours went by, I went over several times and did stuff to get things moving, even though I’d kept saying I wouldn’t. I didn’t do it for her, I did it because I get paid to move widgets, and they weren’t moving….. even though it wasn’t my fault. But there was only so many times I would do her work for her while she played on her phone or just plain disappeared, so we still didn’t get much done.

I’ve moved a LOT more widgets many times, running the whole area by myself. In the ‘hood, people that play dominoes believe and say that  “ALL money ain’t good money”. At work I say “all help ain’t good help”. It’s true. I’d rather do it all myself, which is really the work of 2 people at minimum, and at least 4 if you really want shit to happen, than work with someone that’s playing crazy and not working. Besides the fact that even though I’m lazy……I’m not a thief, and I prefer to do the work I get paid to do……….. being busy also seems to make the workday go by faster.

My job is basically to follow instructions. I make as much or even more in some instances, than a lot of people that have more responsibility than I do. My base salary is also more than a lot of people who have college degrees. I am very grateful for that. I am grateful for my job and income, period, even though I’ve never really liked the work I do. I’m not ambitious enough at this point in my life, to try to increase my income, because I know that will come with more responsibility. If I really wanted to increase my income, I could just work some OT and make 6 figures, and I would still have no responsibilities beyond just doing MY job.

I’m done rambling now lol.

We just got rid of a CSR like that. She was working remotely and when my boss called her (during work hours) to fire her, she was asleep. She was completely worthless.

She called in sick today lol. The wench supervisor was probably relieved. All day yesterday I wanted to ask her why she didn’t have that same messed up energy with lazy ass that she had with me when she was harassing me even though I was actually working.

Lazy ass is eligible to retire, and several people have said that she says she’s done working. Well freaking retire then!

[Deleted]

taz157 I hope you feel better soon!

NomoreDramaQ1015, would you like for me to come pinch your husband and tell him to be your supportive partner and stop being an ass? I won’t pinch him too hard, unless you want me to.

[Deleted]

Newbie and I are sitting in the garage with the door up, watching the rain. Driving home from work was kind of sketchy. Most of the way it was raining so hard I could barely see. But I made it home safely. Mister is gone to YD’s Trunk Party.  Today is my “Friday”. Yayyyy!

[Deleted]

Jul 31, 2022 14:25:28 GMT -5 Opti said:

O lovely, the child in the apartment below is throwing himself around and stomping. Its bad. I was trained by my mom. He'd stop this right quick under my discipline. Some people do not know how to control their kids. Glad to say nothing has fallen off the walls, but I would not reason with this behavior.

Wow.  We rented half of a duplex when I was a kid- we'd relocated from another state and parents were having a new house built.  Neighbors on the other side were very nice- a doctor and his wife and two small children.  Mom and Dad made it VERY clear that there was to be no noise that would disturb the neighbors and all 5 of us knew we better comply.

I'm slowly knocking things off my To Do list- got the Garden Club financials out, put up reviews of the hotel where I stayed (owner had a very bad review on Google that in no way reflected the hotel and when I mentioned reviews he asked that I post on Google- also posted on TripAdvisor.  Veggie supply replenished, a few church items taken care of.  I do NOT want to face the weeds in the garden but if I don't they'll take over.

[Deleted]

Mr. T just came in the side yard to ask me to give him a few minutes to get his dogs situated, he was moving them around. That meant secure Newbie so she wouldn’t run over there. I readily agreed and put her in the house. When he was done, he told me thank you, but I was like “No, thank YOU for the heads up”. 

Newbie has gotten better about listening to me when something has her attention and she really wants to get to it, but she likes Mr. T, so him AND his dogs together might have been too much temptation for her to listen to me. We aren’t ready for that and I do NOT want her messing with his dogs and end up getting hurt or worse. So I greatly appreciated Mr. T for noticing we were outside and caring enough to ask me to give him a few minutes to get his dogs moved.

[toomuchreality]

Jul 31, 2022 14:40:02 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Jul 31, 2022 7:23:09 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Oh Crap! I am sorry.

Yeah, yeah, that!

How are you doing now? Better? Worse? Same?
How are things going with your girls?

[Opti]

Jul 31, 2022 16:00:06 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Jul 31, 2022 14:25:28 GMT -5 Opti said:

O lovely, the child in the apartment below is throwing himself around and stomping. Its bad. I was trained by my mom. He'd stop this right quick under my discipline. Some people do not know how to control their kids. Glad to say nothing has fallen off the walls, but I would not reason with this behavior.

Kids have temper tantrums - that is a fact of life. It is also the middle of the day not the middle of tbe night.  So just get over it, ignore it and be glad you don't have to deal it 

I don't remember throwing myself into walls as hard as I can to make my mom upset. Maybe I'm weird that way? Yes, it's good its daytime but it's still annoying and scares my critters.

When I originally rented, my building was supposed to have no children. A few years ago, they decided to make an exception for her. Probably because she was a young single mom with a very young child after a divorce. 

[raeoflyte]

We always had a house, but hotel stays were always so stressful. I said I spent the whole time yelling at the kids, not because they were "bad" just because I wanted them to exist silently.

Anytime I hear about disciplining kids though it just reads as abuse. Even if you turned out "fine". Threatening and punishing kids for age appropriate actions is abuse. Even if it works at the time, the Long term consequences aren't in line with what we are trying for well adjusted adults.

[daisylu]

Sounds illegal to not rent to people with kids, unless it's a retirement community? Maybe people with kids just didn't want to live there before?

[taz157]

Jul 31, 2022 16:57:56 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Jul 31, 2022 14:40:02 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Yeah, yeah, that!

How are you doing now? Better? Worse? Same?
How are things going with your girls?

About the same. Fortunately, I haven’t vomited again. I’ve been drinking some Gatorade but need to eat a little. Getting to warm up some chicken noodle soup.

DD1 has vomited twice already. I gave her a Covid test but it was negative. She has some of the same symptoms as me though…

DD2 chilled with DH earlier today. She’s napping now but need to get her up soon, and she just woke up. She’ll be hungry most likely.

DH appears ok. 🤞🤞

[Deleted]

When Mister lived in an apartment, the people above him had a young child. Sometimes it sounded like he was going to come through the ceiling with all the noise he was making. Problem was, I had to get up at 4:30am and Mister got up around 5am, and all the noise would often wake us up well after midnight. Idk if they worked evenings and just got home late at night or what, because sometimes they would vacuum late at night, and that would wake us up too. But when it was the child doing whatever, once it woke us up, it was hard to go back to sleep (which I struggle with anyway), because the noise continued.

As far as I know, Mister never said anything to them, but we were less than thrilled about regularly having our sleep interrupted like that. 

That apartment really sucked as far as being able to hear your neighbors. I could be in the bathroom in the bedroom and be able to hear conversation next door. When Mister’s apartment flooded, his next door neighbor heard Mister talking to the apartment management and came over to tell Mister his apartment was flooded too. That’s ridiculous.

And the lack of privacy is one of the reasons I’ve never wanted to live in an apartment. I’ve only ever lived in one for a year, when I was 8yo. I’m grateful that I haven’t ever had to live in one as an adult, besides all the time I spent at Mister’s apartment. I know many people prefer apartments, and I’m not knocking that, it’s just always been my personal preference to live in a house.

[NastyWoman]

Jul 31, 2022 16:58:30 GMT -5 Opti said:

Jul 31, 2022 16:00:06 GMT -5 NastyWoman said:

Kids have temper tantrums - that is a fact of life. It is also the middle of the day not the middle of tbe night.  So just get over it, ignore it and be glad you don't have to deal it 

I don't remember throwing myself into walls as hard as I can to make my mom upset. Maybe I'm weird that way? Yes, it's good its daytime but it's still annoying and scares my critters.

When I originally rented, my building was supposed to have no children. A few years ago, they decided to make an exception for her. Probably because she was a young single mom with a very young child after a divorce. 

Not a comment on you but ithis triggered a question for the group at large: s it even legal to discriminate in renting against against families with children? I don't believe you can do that in CA, but I may be wrong.

[Deleted]

Jul 31, 2022 17:05:21 GMT -5 raeoflyte said:

We always had a house, but hotel stays were always so stressful. I said I spent the whole time yelling at the kids, not because they were "bad" just because I wanted them to exist silently.

Anytime I hear about disciplining kids though it just reads as abuse. Even if you turned out "fine". Threatening and punishing kids for age appropriate actions is abuse. Even if it works at the time, the Long term consequences aren't in line with what we are trying for well adjusted adults.

I agree. My parents did believe in spanking and I never resorted to it with DS. I just thought it was awful, period. Plenty of other ways to manage including withdrawing privileges and rewarding good behavior. My rule with DS and now with my grandchildren was "don't take them to places where they're expected to behave in ways that are impossible for them"- which is why DS will stay home with DGS3 when the rest of us go to the Nutcracker this year.

[Opti]

Jul 31, 2022 17:19:17 GMT -5 daisylu said:

Sounds illegal to not rent to people with kids, unless it's a retirement community? Maybe people with kids just didn't want to live there before?

No, they rent to people with kids, usually the two-bedroom townhomes. Like my former apartment community, often certain one-bedroom areas are designated non kid buildings. 

[Deleted]

Yesterday, I told one of the guys (I’ll call him B) that were singing that song to my newly retired coworker, H, how it touched my heart to witness it.

I’d already figured out what song it was, but I couldn’t figure out why they would sing that. The song was Statue of a Fool, by David Ruffin. David Ruffin is one of the old school artists whose music we call “pimpin’ music”. In that song, he’s saying build a statue for the world to see, of a man that foolishly let love slip through his hands, say the Statue is of the greatest fool ever, and name it after him.

So B told me that the song was the source of a running joke they’d had for years. He found a video to show me of David Ruffin singing the song. When David Ruffin would sing it, at certain times, he would strike a particular pose, the statue he was singing about. H’s natural stance sometimes, is similar to that pose. So sometimes when they were shooting the shit, they would tell H he looked like a fool. Or if they were joking around and one of them called another a fool, they would strike the pose. 

After B showed me the video and told me why that song had meaning, I said wow, that makes it even better! That song represented many years of friendship and memories. No wonder H got emotional. My own heart was happy all over again after B explained it to me.

Before my coworker and I got to the dock (we were literally at the other end of the building AND upstairs when we heard the page), the guys had already been talking, and evening shift guy had asked H what song he wanted to hear, and H said “Statue of a Fool”, and it was perfect, because of the running joke. At the end of the song, David Ruffin says “and name it after meeee”, and when the guys got to that part, they all pointed at H. NOW, I understand why. 

That was one of the best things ever that has happened while I was at work, and it’s even better now that I have the story behind what I witnessed. 

[TheOtherMe]

Kids have tantrums even with the best parenting.  I doubt the mother is enjoying it and neither is the kid.  

I don't have kids but I have had each of my two great nephews and great niece throw a tantrum on me.  The boys were easy to calm down.  The girl I could not get to calm down.  She fought her dad when he got home, too.  I did take a break from taking care of her.  

Talked to her mom about how to handle her tantrums.  When I went back, I knew the signs and she never escalated to a full blown tantrum.  That is not to see she did not get mad and make noise but she didn't kick and scream after throwing herself on the ground.  

When buildings are shared, one never knows what they will get.  I will take a kid throwing a tantrum over the drug dealer I had living above me any day.