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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Sept 21, 2024 15:50:02 GMT -5
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Sept 21, 2024 15:51:51 GMT -5
How much snot can a freaking head hold?! Good grief I am miserable. If this goes on much longer I'm going to have to suck it up and see a doctor. I got stuff I want to do but my body wants to stay on the couch and grow roots into it. I wondered that myself in the course of blowing my way through five large boxes of Kleenex during an ugly cold this past spring.
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Sept 21, 2024 16:28:04 GMT -5
I think our hummers are all gone. I could have sworn i saw some this morning. If so, this is way early. In previous years they weren’t all gone until October.
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Post by soupandstew on Sept 21, 2024 16:38:29 GMT -5
I made appointments for our flu shots Monday morning. Normally we don't have any significant reaction to them but, just in case, I'll plan something really easy to cook Monday night. I love CVS' online vaccine scheduler-so easy to use.
DH is still alive but he knows I'm seriously tired of his stuff about doctors and medical care. It's his issue and I can't fix it, so I officially don't give a damn and don't want to hear about it again. I told him flat out he can get whatever health coverage he wants and find whatever providers he wants-I am 100% done, stick a fork in me done. He is effing paranoid! If they ask you to participate in a study and you don't want to, just say no. There's no need to sit around thinking there's a huge diabolical plot, a gotcha. If you don't have a big enough pair to say no to something, don't whine to me about it either. I don't think he's taking his meds anymore and that's okay too. His body, his choice.
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Post by toomuchreality on Sept 21, 2024 16:51:25 GMT -5
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Post by Cheesy FL-Vol on Sept 21, 2024 17:16:16 GMT -5
So DD2 texted a little while ago. The grand-little asked her who the protonist and antonist is in The Lion King.
Obviously he is mispronouncing, but where is he getting this advanced concept from? He is in K, and I really hope he remains intellectually challenged during his education.
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Post by soupandstew on Sept 21, 2024 17:27:25 GMT -5
So DD2 texted a little while ago. The grand-little asked her who the protonist and antonist is in The Lion King. Obviously he is mispronouncing, but where is he getting this advanced concept from? He is in K, and I really hope he remains intellectually challenged during his education. That's so very cool! I hope he remains challenged as well.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Sept 21, 2024 17:33:11 GMT -5
I made appointments for our flu shots Monday morning. Normally we don't have any significant reaction to them but, just in case, I'll plan something really easy to cook Monday night. I love CVS' online vaccine scheduler-so easy to use. DH is still alive but he knows I'm seriously tired of his stuff about doctors and medical care. It's his issue and I can't fix it, so I officially don't give a damn and don't want to hear about it again. I told him flat out he can get whatever health coverage he wants and find whatever providers he wants-I am 100% done, stick a fork in me done. He is effing paranoid! If they ask you to participate in a study and you don't want to, just say no. There's no need to sit around thinking there's a huge diabolical plot, a gotcha. If you don't have a big enough pair to say no to something, don't whine to me about it either. I don't think he's taking his meds anymore and that's okay too. His body, his choice. to you. Going through the same thing with DH. He has to decide when enough is enough, not me. I hate the whining and complaining and why can't I do something to fix it. Nope, done going there. I am your wife, not your mother.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 21, 2024 17:34:47 GMT -5
Dolly Partons new cookbook is out at Walmart.
I got my copy.❤️
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Post by soupandstew on Sept 21, 2024 17:42:35 GMT -5
I made appointments for our flu shots Monday morning. Normally we don't have any significant reaction to them but, just in case, I'll plan something really easy to cook Monday night. I love CVS' online vaccine scheduler-so easy to use. DH is still alive but he knows I'm seriously tired of his stuff about doctors and medical care. It's his issue and I can't fix it, so I officially don't give a damn and don't want to hear about it again. I told him flat out he can get whatever health coverage he wants and find whatever providers he wants-I am 100% done, stick a fork in me done. He is effing paranoid! If they ask you to participate in a study and you don't want to, just say no. There's no need to sit around thinking there's a huge diabolical plot, a gotcha. If you don't have a big enough pair to say no to something, don't whine to me about it either. I don't think he's taking his meds anymore and that's okay too. His body, his choice. to you. Going through the same thing with DH. He has to decide when enough is enough, not me. I hate the whining and complaining and why can't I do something to fix it. Nope, done going there. I am your wife, not your mother. Thank you! I do try to understand and respect his issues, but I can't change whatever things in the past have made him who he is today. I get more than a little angry because I've spent far too many years neglecting my own physical health to make him happy. Whether he takes meds or sees a doc is on him now, not on me. He's currently whining that he has to use his table to access his portal b/c they are doing the two-factor authentication now and he has to get the code on his phone blah, blah, blah. Welcome to the world, dude!
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Post by tallguy on Sept 21, 2024 18:15:52 GMT -5
I made appointments for our flu shots Monday morning. Normally we don't have any significant reaction to them but, just in case, I'll plan something really easy to cook Monday night. I love CVS' online vaccine scheduler-so easy to use. DH is still alive but he knows I'm seriously tired of his stuff about doctors and medical care. It's his issue and I can't fix it, so I officially don't give a damn and don't want to hear about it again. I told him flat out he can get whatever health coverage he wants and find whatever providers he wants-I am 100% done, stick a fork in me done. He is effing paranoid! If they ask you to participate in a study and you don't want to, just say no. There's no need to sit around thinking there's a huge diabolical plot, a gotcha. If you don't have a big enough pair to say no to something, don't whine to me about it either. I don't think he's taking his meds anymore and that's okay too. His body, his choice. to you. Going through the same thing with DH. He has to decide when enough is enough, not me. I hate the whining and complaining and why can't I do something to fix it. Nope, done going there. I am your wife, not your mother. I just don't get the kind of thinking that you two are dealing with. If one is not going to go to doctors or not take a lot of interest in their medical care, fine, but don't whine about it and drive people crazy. Just own it. I very rarely ever went to doctors, and very rarely even carried medical insurance, so don't really feel the need. I have insurance now, so my GF was wanting me to go. She has a lot of experience with medical care and doctors, so she found me a PCP and made appointments. She even insisted on going to the appointment with me because she didn't trust me to say anything was wrong. She also wanted me to see a dermatologist. I said, "Why? There's nothing wrong." "Have them look at this and this...." "That's not a problem. There's nothing wrong." "Just go and do it." "Fine, make an appointment." So I went. Nothing wrong, of course. Now, it's not a bad thing to go to doctors, as long as insurance is paying and not me paying. But if I choose not to, as I did for a number of years, I sure the hell was not complaining to my partner about it. My choice, my responsibility.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Sept 21, 2024 18:32:44 GMT -5
to you. Going through the same thing with DH. He has to decide when enough is enough, not me. I hate the whining and complaining and why can't I do something to fix it. Nope, done going there. I am your wife, not your mother. I just don't get the kind of thinking that you two are dealing with. If one is not going to go to doctors or not take a lot of interest in their medical care, fine, but don't whine about it and drive people crazy. Just own it. I very rarely ever went to doctors, and very rarely even carried medical insurance, so don't really feel the need. I have insurance now, so my GF was wanting me to go. She has a lot of experience with medical care and doctors, so she found me a PCP and made appointments. She even insisted on going to the appointment with me because she didn't trust me to say anything was wrong. She also wanted me to see a dermatologist. I said, "Why? There's nothing wrong." "Have them look at this and this...." "That's not a problem. There's nothing wrong." "Just go and do it." "Fine, make an appointment." So I went. Nothing wrong, of course. Now, it's not a bad thing to go to doctors, as long as insurance is paying and not me paying. But if I choose not to, as I did for a number of years, I sure the hell was not complaining to my partner about it. My choice, my responsibility. You are a responsible man. Asking for a friend: do you have brothers?
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 21, 2024 18:36:21 GMT -5
I just don't get the kind of thinking that you two are dealing with. If one is not going to go to doctors or not take a lot of interest in their medical care, fine, but don't whine about it and drive people crazy. Just own it. I very rarely ever went to doctors, and very rarely even carried medical insurance, so don't really feel the need. I have insurance now, so my GF was wanting me to go. She has a lot of experience with medical care and doctors, so she found me a PCP and made appointments. She even insisted on going to the appointment with me because she didn't trust me to say anything was wrong. She also wanted me to see a dermatologist. I said, "Why? There's nothing wrong." "Have them look at this and this...." "That's not a problem. There's nothing wrong." "Just go and do it." "Fine, make an appointment." So I went. Nothing wrong, of course. Now, it's not a bad thing to go to doctors, as long as insurance is paying and not me paying. But if I choose not to, as I did for a number of years, I sure the hell was not complaining to my partner about it. My choice, my responsibility. You are a responsible man. Asking for a friend: do you have brothers? I'm that friend, right?
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Post by resolution on Sept 21, 2024 18:43:56 GMT -5
to you. Going through the same thing with DH. He has to decide when enough is enough, not me. I hate the whining and complaining and why can't I do something to fix it. Nope, done going there. I am your wife, not your mother. I just don't get the kind of thinking that you two are dealing with. If one is not going to go to doctors or not take a lot of interest in their medical care, fine, but don't whine about it and drive people crazy. Just own it. I very rarely ever went to doctors, and very rarely even carried medical insurance, so don't really feel the need. I have insurance now, so my GF was wanting me to go. She has a lot of experience with medical care and doctors, so she found me a PCP and made appointments. She even insisted on going to the appointment with me because she didn't trust me to say anything was wrong. She also wanted me to see a dermatologist. I said, "Why? There's nothing wrong." "Have them look at this and this...." "That's not a problem. There's nothing wrong." "Just go and do it." "Fine, make an appointment." So I went. Nothing wrong, of course. Now, it's not a bad thing to go to doctors, as long as insurance is paying and not me paying. But if I choose not to, as I did for a number of years, I sure the hell was not complaining to my partner about it. My choice, my responsibility. My husband doesn't complain about things either. But after I found out that our doctor drops patients if they don't come in for three years, I remind my husband to make an appointment for himself at least once every three years. The last thing I want is for him to get sick and not have anyplace to go.
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Post by tallguy on Sept 21, 2024 18:46:57 GMT -5
I just don't get the kind of thinking that you two are dealing with. If one is not going to go to doctors or not take a lot of interest in their medical care, fine, but don't whine about it and drive people crazy. Just own it. I very rarely ever went to doctors, and very rarely even carried medical insurance, so don't really feel the need. I have insurance now, so my GF was wanting me to go. She has a lot of experience with medical care and doctors, so she found me a PCP and made appointments. She even insisted on going to the appointment with me because she didn't trust me to say anything was wrong. She also wanted me to see a dermatologist. I said, "Why? There's nothing wrong." "Have them look at this and this...." "That's not a problem. There's nothing wrong." "Just go and do it." "Fine, make an appointment." So I went. Nothing wrong, of course. Now, it's not a bad thing to go to doctors, as long as insurance is paying and not me paying. But if I choose not to, as I did for a number of years, I sure the hell was not complaining to my partner about it. My choice, my responsibility. You are a responsible man. Asking for a friend: do you have brothers? No, sorry, I don't. Well, play your cards right, you never know....
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Sept 21, 2024 18:46:58 GMT -5
In the above photo, those are the crew boats for the local crew club.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Sept 21, 2024 18:48:57 GMT -5
Water level is at 6%.
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 21, 2024 18:49:17 GMT -5
I just don't get the kind of thinking that you two are dealing with. If one is not going to go to doctors or not take a lot of interest in their medical care, fine, but don't whine about it and drive people crazy. Just own it. I very rarely ever went to doctors, and very rarely even carried medical insurance, so don't really feel the need. I have insurance now, so my GF was wanting me to go. She has a lot of experience with medical care and doctors, so she found me a PCP and made appointments. She even insisted on going to the appointment with me because she didn't trust me to say anything was wrong. She also wanted me to see a dermatologist. I said, "Why? There's nothing wrong." "Have them look at this and this...." "That's not a problem. There's nothing wrong." "Just go and do it." "Fine, make an appointment." So I went. Nothing wrong, of course. Now, it's not a bad thing to go to doctors, as long as insurance is paying and not me paying. But if I choose not to, as I did for a number of years, I sure the hell was not complaining to my partner about it. My choice, my responsibility. My husband doesn't complain about things either. But after I found out that our doctor drops patients if they don't come in for three years, I remind my husband to make an appointment for himself at least once every three years. The last thing I want is for him to get sick and not have anyplace to go. this is where I'm at these days. since moving south 9y ago, I kept my primary care Dr back up near my old place. dentist, too. but dentist schedules appointments while you're still there, and I've been regularly going back. the Dr? well, I went to Urgent Care down here a few times for various minor stuff, and never went back to the primary. I decided to look her up to see if my records had been archived or anything, she's not even at the practice anymore. so idk whether my records stayed with the practice or left with her, or if I'm even still active at this point. I should probably get off my butt and find a Dr down here. there's a lot of chronic illness in my fam, on both sides, as people get older.
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Post by azucena on Sept 21, 2024 18:50:52 GMT -5
My nerves are shot. We got to therapy appt 15 mins early and I scout that there is a secondary waiting room so we go sit in it in part so teen could listen to music and in part to avoid nut. Teen says I would really rather not see my mom. I say ok we can try to keep avoiding and text therapist that and where we are. She finishes prior appt and then comes to us and says is mom here. Teen says she doesn't think so, no text from her yet. First lobby is empty. Therapist says we got this and puts teen in appt room and moves dh and I to a third area that is prob used for group therapy. Nut is 20 mins late and texts teen so we all go on high alert. 10 mins pass and I can hear voices get heated a couple rooms away. I go sit with teen and she shows me tik too videos. A full 45 mins later therapist comes back and says I got consent for everything, everything, everything AND convinced her to leave. She says I'll talk to teen for about 20 mins bc she's been stressed enough. A few mins later, dh and I can hear teen and therapist laughing. Teen got almost an hour appt and came out saying I like it here. Therapist stayed almost two hours past her typical work day. Therapist is checking with her legal team on Monday to see if she's allowed to talk to me bc of course nut specifically told her not to. She said teen made it clear how much of a team the two of you are and no one can stop her from telling you whatever she wants from session incl when next appt is which means she got nut to sign for indefinite sessions instead of one at a time. So one huge mission accomplished but not a word about oral surgeon.
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Post by soupandstew on Sept 21, 2024 18:52:46 GMT -5
to you. Going through the same thing with DH. He has to decide when enough is enough, not me. I hate the whining and complaining and why can't I do something to fix it. Nope, done going there. I am your wife, not your mother. I just don't get the kind of thinking that you two are dealing with. If one is not going to go to doctors or not take a lot of interest in their medical care, fine, but don't whine about it and drive people crazy. Just own it. I very rarely ever went to doctors, and very rarely even carried medical insurance, so don't really feel the need. I have insurance now, so my GF was wanting me to go. She has a lot of experience with medical care and doctors, so she found me a PCP and made appointments. She even insisted on going to the appointment with me because she didn't trust me to say anything was wrong. She also wanted me to see a dermatologist. I said, "Why? There's nothing wrong." "Have them look at this and this...." "That's not a problem. There's nothing wrong." "Just go and do it." "Fine, make an appointment." So I went. Nothing wrong, of course. Now, it's not a bad thing to go to doctors, as long as insurance is paying and not me paying. But if I choose not to, as I did for a number of years, I sure the hell was not complaining to my partner about it. My choice, my responsibility. DH has very serious cardiac issues, has had multiple skin cancers including malignant melanoma, and has survived aggressive prostate cancer. I have had to be there for all of that misery, taking him to appointments, living with the fear, providing nursing care and more. I take two pills, a statin for cholesterol and one for high blood pressure, plus Allegra for allergies, melatonin for sleep, and I just started OTC glucosamine/chondroitin for my knees. He takes about 8-9 different prescriptions for his cardiac issues, plus countless supplements he thinks will accomplish a miracle. I truly don't care what he does or does not, but I have to live with the outfall from those decisions. I'm tired of bandage changes, cleaning up body fluids, picking up prescriptions and sitting in waiting rooms. He insists I go to the appointments and I've started refusing for many reasons. He's 84 and he's not going to change but I can distance myself from his issues for my mental health
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Post by resolution on Sept 21, 2024 18:54:30 GMT -5
My husband doesn't complain about things either. But after I found out that our doctor drops patients if they don't come in for three years, I remind my husband to make an appointment for himself at least once every three years. The last thing I want is for him to get sick and not have anyplace to go. this is where I'm at these days. since moving south 9y ago, I kept my primary care Dr back up near my old place. dentist, too. but dentist schedules appointments while you're still there, and I've been regularly going back. the Dr? well, I went to Urgent Care down here a few times for various minor stuff, and never went back to the primary. I decided to look her up to see if my records had been archived or anything, she's not even at the practice anymore. so idk whether my records stayed with the practice or left with her, or if I'm even still active at this point. I should probably get off my butt and find a Dr down here. there's a lot of chronic illness in my fam, on both sides, as people get older. Out here they make new patients wait for a couple of months to get in for a new patient visit. If it is anything like that in your area, it's better to wait while you are healthy than to wait while you are sick.
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Post by chiver78 on Sept 21, 2024 18:59:46 GMT -5
in my head, I know this. I also have a pretty extreme case of White Coat Syndrome, which is why I still drive an hour each way to go to the dentist. I told myself I'm gonna crack down and find a dr when I get myself settled with new health insurance once I find a new job. I'll have COBRA til late April, but I'd like to be employed again by that point.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Sept 21, 2024 19:07:47 GMT -5
My nerves are shot. We got to therapy appt 15 mins early and I scout that there is a secondary waiting room so we go sit in it in part so teen could listen to music and in part to avoid nut. Teen says I would really rather not see my mom. I say ok we can try to keep avoiding and text therapist that and where we are. She finishes prior appt and then comes to us and says is mom here. Teen says she doesn't think so, no text from her yet. First lobby is empty. Therapist says we got this and puts teen in appt room and moves dh and I to a third area that is prob used for group therapy. Nut is 20 mins late and texts teen so we all go on high alert. 10 mins pass and I can hear voices get heated a couple rooms away. I go sit with teen and she shows me tik too videos. A full 45 mins later therapist comes back and says I got consent for everything, everything, everything AND convinced her to leave. She says I'll talk to teen for about 20 mins bc she's been stressed enough. A few mins later, dh and I can hear teen and therapist laughing. Teen got almost an hour appt and came out saying I like it here. Therapist stayed almost two hours past her typical work day. Therapist is checking with her legal team on Monday to see if she's allowed to talk to me bc of course nut specifically told her not to. She said teen made it clear how much of a team the two of you are and no one can stop her from telling you whatever she wants from session incl when next appt is which means she got nut to sign for indefinite sessions instead of one at a time. So one huge mission accomplished but not a word about oral surgeon. I think it's one battle at a time, sadly. I know she needs the tooth pulled but apparently therapist go ther to sign consent, etc. for therapy and got her to leave. That's a win in my book. One big win.
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